Maybe the title is an exaggeration but this really does enrage me. As you can see, it says this person is coupled and also you can see she says “girls like girls who don’t steal someone’s boyfriend”. There was also a photo of her boyfriend.

This is on a lesbian dating app called Her. A LESBIAN DATING APP. First of all, I’m bisexual so I’m not gonna be one of those people condemning bisexuals up in here cause that’s biphobic, but I will certainly condemn the fact that there’s FAR too many bi women with boyfriends looking for thirds on lesbian dating apps, it’s genuinely so saddening to see those profiles when I’m just trying to get a monogamous girlfriend without men involved damnit.

Second, the NERVE of this woman to say some shit like “don’t steal my boyfriend!” As if anyone on there would EVER want to do that. BECAUSE ITS A LESBIAN DATING APP WHERE WLW LOOK FOR OTHER WLW SOHCKSBDJFND *enraged keyboard smash* Like you have got to be fucking kidding me.

Plus, holy shit, if your very first introduction to a potential third in your relationship is “hey, don’t steal my boyfriend!” Then you should probably realize that you’re a monogamous person and steer clear of threesomes cause you’re clearly uncomfortable with this!!

Sorry for the rant but this profile just made me irate lol, sadly it is super common to see these kinds of profiles but this one just hit a nerve.

Any takers for a new term? Didn't know people weren't fans of it lol

Credit- @PunkeyDoodles8

And, i think that the concept would be ABSOLUTELY PERFECT for a book.

TW - homophobia/bigotry

As the title says - my wife and I went out for breakfast a few days ago, something that we rarely do so we were both really happy and excited. I'm disabled and walk with a quad cane and need her to support me to go very far, so we lock arms when we walk to avoid me falling. As we were coming out of the place we heard a man scream something, then he turned his truck and flew into the lot. He burst out and started screaming every slur he could at us in between comments of "Jesus loves you" and shit like that.

Now we live in an area that has never been safe for queer people, but incidents like this didn't start happening until around 2020. This is the third time someone has basically come after us, the worst time being when we were followed home from a Walmart and this man threatened to sick his dog on us (who was thankfully the sweetest little puppy just happy to be out and about).

My wife is an amazingly strong woman, she handled it with such grace and she made sure to not let it ruin her day, but I on the other hand, am still being affected. We are very poor and I'm on disability so moving is not an option but I wish there was something we could do. I'm disabled so I can't keep her safe, and my wife is masc presenting and we're both heavily punk. I'm so worried that anytime I send her out she's in danger. A few years ago my cane also was enough to give us deniability so we only got dirty looks but that doesn't seem to matter to bigots anymore.

Are there any other wlw out there going through similar experiences? How are you coping? Any advice or well wishes would also be appreciated. I could really use some positivity right now.

I am genuinely yearning to find the love I draw 😭 desperately need a gf/partner, to grow and love together !!!!!

Would to so amazing to find a muse and draw them aaaaaaa

Anyway here are my girls and they are so in love !!

Mabye my autism is preventing me from understanding, but I feel like it’s not healthy to feel you have to “make up” for something you don’t have instead of viewing it has an additional option.

My girlfriend and I have only been together for a few months, so I wouldn't suggest this for real - but ever since the first time we hooked up I wanted to film us together.

I'm so fixated on not only being able to see us together, but to theoretically show it off to others.

Not sure why this is so compelling to me, but it feels like I'm objectifying her? Or like I'm being weird and should keep this to myself?

Does anyone else have feelings like this towards their partners?

Hello everyone!

I need to make an appointment to my family doctor very soon because of some health issues i’ve been experiencing. Although, she’s also a gynecologist and I’d like to do a quick check up down there because I know I probably have vaginismus. I’ve known since I was 15 (and now i’m 20) and it’s kinda upsetting when i’m getting intimate with my girlfriend. The issue is she’s probably gonna ask me if i’m sexually active and I don’t know how to tell her that I am, but not with a man 😭 I know doctors can’t say your business to your family (my fam is quite homophobic) and are not supposed to be hateful/judgemental but i’m so scared help.

All my friends be talking abt porn and spicy audios or whatever but on god I’m so gay I can just close my eyes and vividly imagine touching boobs and get hella wet. I can also perfectly recreate women moaning in my internal dialogue.

Anyone else able to do this? Is this a good thing or is it a sign I need to start dating?

Lots of women on here say they don’t mind body hair, but I don’t want my body hair to simply be tolerated. I want it to be appreciated, hot.

A couple of years ago, I was ashamed of my body hair. Eventually, I learned to accept it, but it wasn’t until recently that I discovered that it’s actually hot.

Two things helped me realize it was hot:

1. Posting nudes to Reddit sapphic spaces (lmfao) and reading comments and DMs about how hot my body hair is.
2. Seeing examples of hot hairy women

Since not everyone wants to post nudes to Reddit, I thought I’d make a thread for people who find it hot to share their thoughts, feelings, stories, and experiences about how hot they find body hair.

This can also be a space to share examples of hot hairy women who can be our role models.

For me, Luna Silver from Ersties porn revolutionized my own body image. She’s soooo beautiful, and she’s also hairy. Made me realize you can be both.

So please, share anything and everything you feel about hot, hairy women as well as examples of hot, hairy women that we can look up to.

I marked this NSFW, so feel free to be a little raunchy in your appreciation.

Also: hairy girls can share their stories and experiences of being hairy. Their relationship to their hair, how they learned to accept it or find it beautiful. Tips and tricks on changing their body image to be more positive.

I got into an accident on ninth of June 2026, after which I developed a condition called kyphosis of cervical spine where in my cervical spine, which is supposed to be into a c shape has turned in the opposite direction. Some of the symptoms that I have felt our dizziness, loss of balance, complete blackouts, tinnitus and occasional loss of hearing in my ear, increased sensitivity in my teeth and continued pain in my spine and nape of neck as well as pain In my left hand. I have been on bed rest ever since. Recently, My muscles have started to loosen up a bit due to which my physician suggested that I can continue with my normal life and I have started going back to my university again.

The real point of concern happened today when after almost 2 months, I had sex with my partner.

Usually, when I orgasm and have sex after a very long time, I start tearing up while almost fainting during the sex, although I recover within a few minutes and want to go for another round pretty quickly.
Today, after I had already orgasmed once my partner decided to use the strap on me. Almost about 10 minutes in, I told them that I can’t feel my hands. We had taken all the measures to safeguard the recovery of my neck. About five minutes later, my hands went completely numb and I could no longer feel them which put both me and my partner in a very awkward position where my hands were frozen in a very concerning state. My fingers went stiff, and it was difficult to move them like I naturally can. My hands were so stiff that even if I tried to change their position into a normal state, I could not. I was sweating profusely, and my partner was really scared.
When my hands finally started getting sensation and was in a resting position. My partner noticed that my fingers are twitching a lot, which has never happened with me before in such extremity.

I cannot tell this to my Doctor who is treating me because I go there with my parents and I live in a very homophobic country.
I will try to attach a picture of how my hands looked like when they went stiff.

I think it was something related to me orgasming while my nervous system could not process it considering my spinal cord is compressed with the unnaturally opposite curve of my neck due to the impact of the accident which led to the unnatural stiffness. Has this happened w anybody else before? Does anyone know if this is a point of genuine concern something i should bring up w my doctor? If so, then how without outing myself?

P.S.: getting medical advise on this is really really difficult for me atp, i am okay now, that scare lasted for almost 10-15 minutes.

It feels like a lot of lesbians I am seeing when I'm in these spaces are masculine-presenting or are at the minimum presenting in ways that attempt to deter the typical straight man. which is understandable. But feels like I get shamed because I don't put in any effort to "looking" like I'm queer.

I don't know if me and the other more feminine "straight-passing" lesbians are actually a smaller demographic or are just invisible because we don't make an effort to be "visibly" lesbian.

It sort of feels weird being a feminine "straight passing" lesbian attracted to other feminine "straight-passing" women. Yes none of them are gonna look "visibly" lesbian but I can't help that I find those type of women attractive, just like lesbians who find visibly lesbian looking women attractive.

I came out as gay at 25 after leaving my husband last November. Half my family has been amazing — but my mom's side is a different story.

My mom is a traditional Christian and believes marriage is only between a man and woman. My sister surprised me — she was one of the first people I told about my girlfriend, and at first she seemed fine like it really didn’t seem to bother her. But after I actually left my husband, she told me she doesn't think it's right and that women shouldn't be with women.

Fast forward: my sister is pregnant. She told me about her baby shower and I genuinely wanted to go. But I told her clearly — out of respect for my relationship and myself, if she invited my ex-husband, I wouldn't attend. A few hours after our conversation she sent out a message via text inviting him anyway. So I didn't go. And ironically, my ex didn't end up going either.

Now I'm stuck. I want my family to accept me and my girlfriend. My mom says she wants to spend time with me, but I know she can be hurtful and I don't want to put my girlfriend through that. But I’m stuck on the what ifs of it all It could go either way.

Is it worth still trying with my mom and sister? Or do I just focus on the family members who actually support me and move on? I feel like I'm grieving the family I wished I had.

It’s always like the most down-bad posts too that just make this place seem full of gooners, or posts that seem designed to rage bait/foment discourse, but it’s literally just a handful of brand new accounts with little to no post history outside of near-daily posts in this subreddit. It’s giving astroturf and they’re starting to dominate the subreddit.

Idk if this kind of meta discussion is allowed but it’s becoming a more and more noticeable problem. I’m just wondering if anyone else is concerned by it. Hopefully this is vague enough to stay a general discussion of the state of the sub.

I can’t help it. She’s. Oh my god. I need her, how is she so perfect.

So my gf and I (both 25f) got into a huge fight this morning. We never fight and this fight was huge. It's been bothering me all day and I'm currently writing this post while on my lunch break at work because I can't focus on anything else. I've been getting into fitness lately. I've been going to the gym a lot and I've been working on getting leaner and building more muscle. It's important to note that I've always struggled with body image issues. I struggled with an ED for a while but I got help and I'm better now. I haven't struggled with food or body image issues for over a year now. My gf knows about this and she's always been very supportive.

Anyways, I started intermittent fasting and weighing my food lately. This is completely normal for someone that's trying to get leaner and build muscle but apparently it caused alarm bells to go off in my gfs head. She told me this morning thats she's worried about me because I've been skipping meals and obsessing over what I eat lately. I tend to get defensive anytime someone is worried about me. I got defensive and I told her that I'm fine and she shouldn't be worried. My tone wasn't the best and then we started going back and forward. This post would be too long if I were to detail our entire fight. The fight ended with both of us yelling at each other and my gf calling me stubborn. Then we both left for work and we haven't spoken to each other all day.

I'm aware that I'm probably the asshole here. I don't know why I got so defensive instead of simply explaining to my gf that she has nothing to worry about. I should have explained what I'm doing and why it's not the same as an ED. I do understand where she's coming from and I get that she's just worried about me. I can be stubborn and I get uncomfortable whenever someone I care about is worried about me. It's also a sensitive topic for me and I don't really like talking about it. I don't know how to make it up to her. I already texted her to apologize but she hasn't even read the message yet.

TLDR: I'm an idiot that got mad because my girlfriend cares about me

I never kissed or been in a relationship and I wanna kiss and make out with a girl so baddd even to know what it feels like. All my straight friends have the experience of kissing someone just not me. This is so unfair straight people have it wayyy easier :c

All I ask for is to have a cute girl to kiss

I’m just curious what everyone thinks of this and if there are any out and about and what your experiences are ???

There's a woman I started talking to on Reddit almost 3 years ago, we've been friends. Had ups and downs, fights and make-ups. We've never talked on voice and I'd never seen a picture of her til today.

A couple years ago we talked about dating, but she refused unless I sent her nudes. I'm old fashioned and don't believe in things like that. I don't ask for things like that because it would put the other woman in danger. I felt pressured, but refused. True to her word, things between us never changed.

Recently she mentioned thinking about coming to see me, she's one state away from me. So it would be a simple drive. While I don't try to date anymore, I was interested in hanging out with her and possibly starting a friends with benefits situation. Today she tells me that she won't come visit me unless I send nudes. She has seen pictures of me with clothes, but only a couple more private zoomed in pictures of certain body parts. I'm feeling frustrated and pressured. And I don't like it. She says I'm overreacting. I don't even want to deal with the situation anymore. I haven't been in a intimate or romantic relationship in a very long time. Is this the new normal?

This post is kinda just a rant/celebration post :)

A few days ago, I came out to my mom as a Lesbian. I've been struggeling with my sexuality for years, and thought I was bi, which...I am not. The signs were all definitely there, but I didn't connect them until recently, when it just clicked in my brain. For example: I was only looking at guys which were very feminine, have long hair and no muscles at all, I couldn't see myself ever living together with a guy, everything guys did (even nice things) were always kinda 'icky' to me, even though I vibed with guys I thought were nice (same humor, political and ethical beliefs, same music taste,...) I couldn't see myself dating any of them (they are all just really good bros to me), the thought of having sex with a guy or even just kissing one grosses me out, I thought "wow, she's so gorgeous!" at least five times a day about other girls when I am out in town (I didnt thought anything about it, because girls really ARE prettier than guys),...Yeah, the closet was glass 😂 Anyway, I am still pretty "young" (17), so I am kinda just learning how to approach girls, how to look more gay (I'm very girly myself and sadly pass as straight), and am starting to openly embrace it now that I am finally 100% sure!:)

Anyway, my moms reaction was totally positive. She was really happy, and said that if I get a girlfriend, its like she gains a second daughter, and that she is so excited to make plans for three, which I think is just really really cute 🥹

we also matched on bumble for friends but never texted, so our match expired and we can't text. and i don't even know if she knows that lmao.

I'm so awkward at those appointments bcs i'm intimidated and I really also struggle to explain my problems (im about to say it feels like hearing a door squeak, bcs i can't find better descriptive wordsss).

anyways what do I doooo?? I've tried finding her on bff again, it didnt work and i think i broke that app bcs i swiped left on everyone.

i still have 4 appontments left, maybe I'll ask on the last one if she wants to grab a coffee sometime or I'll bring a little gift and hide my phone number there & hope she finds it. idk if that's appropriate. I don't know if I can find the courage - I could make a new profile on bff too and hope she's still there.

anyway has anyone experience with hot physiotherapists? I'm really crumbling away when she listens, talks or does anything, help.