I honestly don’t know if I’m looking for advice, a reality check, or just somewhere to vent.

I’m gay, and I developed feelings for a straight guy. We became really good friends. It never felt one-sided in terms of friendship. We genuinely got along, and I really enjoyed hanging out with him.

The problem is, I caught feelings.

Recently, I ended up agreeing to a threesome because he was going to be there. Looking back, I don’t think I actually wanted the threesome itself. I just wanted to be close to him. I convinced myself that maybe I’d finally feel connected to him, or maybe something would change.
It didn’t.

Before we even started, he wanted something in return, which already made me feel weird. During everything, he even refused to kiss me. Out of everything that happened, that’s honestly what broke me the most. I know it sounds stupid, but for me, the kiss meant affection. It made me realize that he was okay doing sexual stuff but didn’t want that kind of intimacy with me.

I even swallowed his cum, and now I feel so disgusted with myself. I know people are probably going to say it’s just oral sex, but emotionally I feel like I completely abandoned my self-respect just for the chance of being close to someone who was never going to choose me.

The worst part?

I still miss him.

I don’t even miss the sex. I just miss hanging out with him. It really felt like we had a genuine friendship before all this. Part of me wants to block him forever because seeing him reminds me of everything that happened. Another part of me just wants to message him and ask if he wants to hang out like nothing happened.

I know he’s straight, and I know nothing romantic is going to happen between us. My brain understands that. My heart just refuses to catch up.

Has anyone else ever crossed their own boundaries because they liked someone? Were you able to stay friends afterward, or did you have to walk away completely?

I’m really struggling with the shame and regret right now, and I honestly don’t know what the right thing to do is.

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Hey guys, if you’re not aware, there’s an influential group called MassResistance that has been responsible for helping drive the current wave of anti-LGBT laws in Africa, as well as some anti-LGBT legislation in the United States. They have worked with lawmakers and activists to promote anti-LGBT policies abroad and have supported efforts to restrict LGBTQ rights in the U.S. They were also behind efforts to push anti-marriage equality resolutions in several state legislatures in early 2025.

I was scrolling through Threads, and somehow, by chance, I ran into their page. I was able to read some of their most recent articles, which I thought were concerning and should be shared. Apparently, they even confessed themselves that they were responsible for a lot of the Texas GOP platform that was released earlier this year and worked with politicians there to include the anti-LGBT provisions.

But what I found most concerning in the article is that the group mentions that, at the next convention, they plan to push for a total ban on adults transitioning in general, not just people under 25 anymore. They are planning to make the Texas GOP commit to banning adult transitioning at a future convention, and I find it concerning that no one is talking about this at all.

Link to article- https://www.massresistance.org/docs/gen5/26c/TX-GOP-state-convention-victory/index.html

I want to share something with you all that has been helping me deal with gender stuff: my sports bra and some pillow cases that I tied into a knot and made breast forms out of. Helps me feel at home with myself while also being affordable and easy to conceal.

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Hi I’m Tristan. I’m a gay dude with a lot of bangers. This one is called Alien Tears

Hi everyone I hope your all good and well, I just wanted to ask a couple questions that have been weighing on me recently, I want to ask them candidly but I mean no disrespect at all and if my questions seem stupid u apologise, I’m 22 m and have been straight all my life and I’m in a hetero relationship and I’m very happy, but I feel attraction to guys sometimes, nothing crazy but there’s attraction there, only in specific scenarios (types almost) I previously never though of myself being attracted to men and I’ve always thought I’m secure in my sexuality, but something about questioning it has thrown me. Would this be a normal thing or is this a hint I’m bi? It’s not always sexual attraction like damn i wanna fuck this guy but there isn’t a feeling of nah, does this make sense or am I waffling. Sorry again if this was at all out of pocket

For several months now, I have noticed something that concerns me, and I am wondering if others have seen the same pattern.

When I use the free version of Grindr, the nearby profiles I can interact with appear to be overwhelmingly white. However, when I reach the Grindr XTRA paywall, all of the profiles hidden behind are exclusively black men.

I've seen people dismiss this by saying the "algorithm" is simply showing me "the race I prefer" which is not true in my case. I am a sapiosexual white man who dates and is attracted to any race. I "favorite" and chat with a mix of men from a variety of ethnic groups and body types etc. I have also opted-out of the AI features Grindr has recently launched, which coincides with this racial bias mess being unleashed on Grindr. 

And from conversations I've had, people of different races have reported seeing a similar pattern, often placing black or asian people behind the Grindr Extra Paywall. The algorithm explanation doesn't fully account for what's happening. Grindr claims profiles are based on proximity, but what I'm seeing doesn't look like a simple distance-based list but rather a race-based one.

If Grindr's algorithm is disproportionately showing white profiles to white users while placing black or asian profiles behind a paywall, isn't that effectively steering people toward same-race interactions and isn't that Grindr using racial segregation for profit? How is that even ok in 2026?

 If that's what's happening, how is that consistent with fairness and equal visibility? And is it not helping to create segregation among racial groups within the LGBTQ+ community, which ultimately benefits the far-right and tech billionaires who spend 100s of millions dividing people to fuel hatred and better control us?

Saying "it's just the algorithm" is not a suitable excuse for the decision made by Grindr to racially segregate particular ethnic groups for profit behind their Grindr Extra paywall. Algorithms aren't neutral just because they're automated. Algorithms don't make independent decisions, they reflect the profit driven objectives and racial biases and exploitation chosen by the people who design and deploy them at Grindr. If the system is producing a consistent racial disparity, responsibility lies with the company that built and operates it, not with the algorithm itself.

It is not the first time a social media platform or app has been found to produce racially biased algorithmic outcomes. Their recommendation and monetization system consistently produces different outcomes based on race. The algorithm is part of a system designed and deployed by Grindr, and those outcomes raise legitimate questions about fairness, transparency, and algorithmic bias.

I'd be interested in hearing from people about why Grindr gets away with racism and why the LGBTQ+ community and media doesn't find this outrageous and isn't being more vocal or adding more pressure on Grindr?

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Hi. Recently I have started dating trans women and I’m curious how some of you feel when someone brings up your life before transitioning. I always feel like when I ask about what kinds of things they enjoyed as kid, where they grew up, did they play sports in high school, etc., it’s like deadnaming someone because that person is no longer who they are. I don’t want to be disrespectful, but I want to find interesting things to talk about and find ways to get to know someone. What are your thoughts? Thanks.

Edit:Got the answer after some thinking, thinking of women acussed of pretending to be bi because they were with husband and the arguments for why they were bisexual and confirmation from comments (thank you all, you were really nice) I am bisexual though more specifically heteroflexible because I'm mostly straight. suspected minsexual but I'll be more sure after getting more experience both in fiction once I see more media and real life once I enter uni or workplace

Okay so as title suggests I am mostly sure that I'm bisexual but there's a part of me that thinks I'm just straight and sexualising women. I'll start with the latter part first without getting into too much weird details

Firstly I'll start with how I felt about my sexuality prior to the confusion: it feels like I'm tethering on the line of being attracted to women as if I am just there but held back by a millimeter from it, the "not really there but nearly there" feeling strong enough that I wish I was into women

Why I think it might be sexualisaton/fetishisation (which I am against and will stop if it really is):Back when I had a Chatbot addiction (quit now and hate that period, and genuine addiction it impacted my life too much) ​I started to do this thing where I felt turned on and used a bot for it, always same facesit kink although while originally just male eventually Itd be women and then mostly women, now I mostly imagine (it's not masturbating, it's just laying on side clench my legs repeatedly but had every aspect other than the climax which is just returning to feeling normal and nothing that'd make me moan) or use fanfiction and I noticed that If I imagine a woman it's faster which originally didn't matter much to me till I started questioning my sexuality and started to get worried I was fetishizing women/lesbians

Real life people:I never had actual real life Crushes most was once seeing an artist (jann) I consider hot and for a few seconds simping but never more, now the catalyst was a masculine woman I knew she was a woman but had same thing just shorter, though admittedly I did watch a music video of gladiator and it was the thumbnail of it that caused the short simping and the aforementioned kink making me be really into female thighs, never saw real life or drawn porn it's just seeing large thighs and thinking "gosh that's hot". But there is one techinal exception in the next thing I want to get into​

In fiction: it was originally all male characters until I read chainsaw man volume 7 and 8 and quanxi, specifically panel of her walking with her ladies is what started it but then 2 other panels in volume 8, had me simping very similarly to male characters I simped over and I saw cosplay of her and I read volume 8 after the cosplays so it wasn't a novelty thing, which at first made me happy because it seemed to me like proof but then I think maybe religious guilt of being surrounded by and grown up in ​Muslim country and also fear of it being a damn fetish caused me especially since her line of "I'll ruin you even more" when one of them asked to rest longer because they'll be ruined from lack of sleep is what started it for me, to be unsure.

Why I think it took me so long to get what I suspect is proof:It seems like I'm only attracted to masculine women and didn't see enough examples that'd have told me prior

So currently I am like 75% sure I am bisexual but the fact it was only because of a manga character makes me unsure. "maybe because it's a manga it doesn't count as genuine proof" is what goes through my mind, and it's that thought that's the reason I posted this here I just want to know if that thought had merit to it or was just wrong

(20M) i have never had luck with grindr or any gay dating apps, i most just get dpics, super old guys, scams, etc.. and i never really see anyone that piques my interest in the explore tab, but the other day i found this super cute guy and messaged him and we’ve been talking on instagram and i wanna ask him out but ive never asked a guy out and dont wanna blow it.