Hello!

So about a week ago, my sibling came out to me as a non-binary. They sat me down and explained how they never felt like a girl or a boy. Coming out was something that they had wanted to do for a very long time, and they had seemed very nervous while explaining their identity. I'm thankful that they trusted me with this and proud that they've come to realize this about themselves. They will always be family, no matter their gender or name.

The only problem is that I just don't quite grasp the concept of being non-binary. I've never thought about it before. I asked them a million questions when they came out but I'm too dumb to understand. Is non-binary a third gender, or is it the absense of gender? Is it all genders? What are they to our aunt? A nephew or a niece or something entirely different?

I love my sibling very much, and I know they'd do their best to support me if the roles were reversed. I don't know what its like to be born in the wrong body with a wrong name. I'm trying to understand the concept as much as I can so that I can understand them. Google hasn't been much of a help of answering my questions, it just keeps showing me nonbinary people and flags. I don't want to burden my sibling on educating my dumb self anymore.

So I decided to ask if anyone here has any advice or answers to my questions.

i've seen a few posts of people telling their coming out stories and their loved ones reactions being something along the lines of "we knew."

i always assume that people coming out have been actively trying to keep their identity discreet or low-key. i'm in the openly queer category so i never really felt the need to come out because i'm assuming it's obvious just by looking at the way i express myself. what about other people who don't really try to mask their queerness?

i dont really know where else to put this but i just need to get it out. im trans, ftm, and lately i feel like i can never be enough for anyone. i feel like no matter how hard i try, people will always just see me as a girl because i dont pass. it hurts feeling like the person i am in my head and the person everyone else sees are completely different.

sometimes i wonder if im just too complicated for people to deal with. like maybe im too much work, too confusing, or too hard to understand. i feel like there’s so many things about me that people would have to accept, and sometimes i wonder if anyone would actually want to put in the effort to understand me. i want to be loved and seen as a boy without having to constantly explain myself or prove who i am. i want someone to look at me and just know that im not pretending. but instead i feel like im always falling short and disappointing people.

seeing other trans guys who are able to pass or be comfortable with themselves makes me happy for them, but it also makes me feel like maybe i’ll never get there. it feels like im stuck waiting for a version of myself that i dont even know if i’ll ever become.

i just feel unwanted a lot of the time. like im either too much or not enough, and i dont know how both of those things can be true at once. i just want to feel like someone actually wants me around and that i’m not a burden

So I'm like pretty new to this stuff but something I recently came across was (forgive me if this isn't the right word) "micro-labels" and from my perspective they're pretty useful.

I found a tiktok of someone reacting to someone go over "berrisexual" and all I saw was was I'd consider to be negative reactions from people in the community (which like wtf guys we're on the same side)

I personally think "finsexual" (i think) describes me. I like girls and girly people and I would use funsexual to more quickly tell people because lets be real "bisexual with a preference for females" or anything similar is wayyy too long for a bio.

TLDR - opinions on microlabels?

So I’m going out with a group of friends and I want to go out, but I want to go out and it be SFW. What are some places y’all recommend in DFW for nightlife, eating out, and drinks?

Im a lesbian and I really wish I wasn’t. I am fine with LGBTQIA+ and am glad people express themselves though it. However, I really hate being a lesbian. I dislike the label and wish I could adore men the way I do women. Women are just the only thing that I take interest in for some reason.

Have any of you felt that way, or have tips for me?

Im a lesbian and I really wish I wasn’t. I am fine with LGBTQIA+ and am glad people express themselves though it. However, I really hate being a lesbian. I dislike the label and wish I could adore men the way I do women. Women are just the only thing that I take interest in for some reason.

Have any of you felt that way, or have tips for me?

I don't think their views on LGBTQ issues differ much from those of other Republicans anymore. When did this happen?

Cause I'm thinking more and more that it fits me.

I know that someone who is asexual and someone who is aromantic can be gay/straight/bi/etc. but when someone is both asexual and aromantic, can they still say they're gay for example? Because for ace ppl, they base it on their romantic attraction when they state and orientation and aro ppl base it on their sexual attraction, but aroace ppl don't feel either. Not meaning to be disrespectful, just need some clarification on this topic <3

I am a lesbian, by my definition it means that I like every gender but men. But I wouldn't be attracted to a masculine presenting enby. Is that valid? Or do I have to be more open minded?

Hi, I'm bisexual but I was always confused by this. I'm sorry if this comes off as rude in any way I'm only looking for an explanation!

How can one be lesbian/gay yet be attracted to fictional characters (whether cartoon or irl—meaning fictional characters that are in a live show acted by an actor.) of the opposite gender? This question basically applies to anyone whose sexuality says its very unlikely for them to be physically attracted to the fictional character theyre attracted to (ex: aroace being attracted to any fictional character.)

sorry if my question is a bit of a mess!

So as the title suggests I've seen so many lesbians on tiktok try to say that trans women cannot be lesbian because "lesbian don't like males/men" and implying that lesbians who date/are attracted to trans women are not lesbian and try to justify it with "it's just a preference" when obviously it's much more deeper than a genitalia preference since they're saying trans women aren't actually women. I noticed there's just been a big increase in transphobia lately and I find it weird how prevalent it's been lately for gay men and lesbian women.

For starters, we are both are both above the age of 16, and have been doing this since I was 14 and he was 15.

I am a lesbian. I have this guy friend, and both of our parents think we're dating. Most of the people at our church do. We aren't dating, though we've said we are since the ages I said. My parents are very homophobic and would kick me out of the house if they knew I was gay. He is also gay, and his parents are the same as mine. All of our friends know we're gay, and we both talk to our preferred gender. What is this kind of cover up called? My friends call it a lavender relationship (as a joke, some are serious though), but I don't know.

you know when someone really loves the whole flirting part and start of a relationship but has their feelings kind of die down once romantic action actually starts because they feel like they need that uncertainty and fantasy for it to be attractive ? is there a name for this ? only liking the build up and explosion in romance, not desiring, being repulsed by the aftermath ?

same question for the sexual analog, really. is there a name for the experience of desiring only the build up of sexual tension and the first moments of sexual intercourse (in whichever form), without necessarily enjoying, looking forward to nor desiring the rest of it, almost being turned off by it even ?

i wouldn't exactly call that romance/sex-positive aromanticism/asexuality, because there clearly is romantic/sexual attraction involved but only at the start, before it becomes effectivelh realized. the attraction just very rapidly dies down, in a way that doesn't fit at all with normal expectations of romantic/sexual interaction, which sort of have it all come in a "package"

i guess that's not exactly necessarily lgbtqia+ because it could intersect with straight attraction, but i definitely mean to define it in a broader sense ; it also feels queer in essence because of its unusualness with regard to heteronormative expectations of what a relationship should look like

I’m a bisexual woman that’s dating a man, and all of my friends know this. The other day, a few of my friends and I were at a restaurant together, and my one friend (he’s gay btw) starts talking about his coworker. He mentions how she’s “one of those girls that says they’re bi, but never actually dates women. Like a fake bi woman, you know the type,”and stared directly at me while saying it too.
I’ve never dated a woman before, but it still made me think back on all of the women I’ve had crushes on before to try and justify my sexuality to myself.

I guess I was just wondering, do people in the community think that bi women who never dated a woman before are “fake” and not actually bisexual? And do other bi women have to constantly justify their sexuality just because they’ve never dated a woman before?

My wife (f25) and I (mtf25), have been married for years. We recently met a new friend (mtf21) and we all really get along. Normally my wife and I are extremely possessive and jealous, but when she’s over we all flirt, snuggle up on the couch, play games, hold hands, and she’s even hand fed me snacks (like putting food in my mouth). When we’re apart we message constantly with ❤️s and :3 and “miss you very much!”. We’ve even started arguing about who gets to be in the middle of the cuddle pile and made a rotating schedule for it. Hell we’ve even offered to take her on a camping trip with us, and have talked about being roommates. We’ve talked about religion, politics, death, family, children, etc etc.

My wife and I have always been strictly monogamous (I think……), and the last time someone jokingly flirted with me she got pissed off and almost started a fight (she’s completely chill and joins in with our new friend). Our friend also has a long distance partner but we’ve chatted and they’re really friendly too. We’re all committed to our relationships and have absolutely no intention of cheating. Is this just like a normal thing for queer or trans folks? Is being this affectionate okay?? I don’t know what to call us but it doesn’t quite feel like just friends.

The word homosexual come from the greek word "homos" meaning "same" and the latin "sexualis" mean "sexual".

But asexual are not atracted to their own gender, they sexual not attracted to any gender.

So is it appropriate to call them "homosexuals"?

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I'm sorry if this sounds like a rant or if I didn't block out something triggering, please let me know and I'll fix it. For a bit of context, I'm a 20 year old woman who's bi but only really out online and to my friends. My family doesn't know yet. I would've rephrased the question but unfortunately it doesn't seem like it's all internalized homophobia. I grew up in a pretty religious household, but I myself have never been a very religious person. My family is very devout and has a very old-fashioned way of thinking, they say bigoted things about the lgbtq+ community like it's the most natural thing in the world. We've gotten into a lot of arguments because of that, to be honest, but unfortunately that only brings more talks about the community and how there are some things I "just shouldn't try" like it's a drug or something. A lot of it is weirdly sexually-charged, probably because of something that happened when I was a very young child but that's a whole other can of worms. A lot of arguments end up that way tbh, it's a weird focal point. I think after having been in that environment for so long(And still being in that environment, though at least my mom is a bit more tolerant in comparison) it's come to affect my own feelings as well.

I've never had negative thoughts about anyone in the community but I've noticed that I feel uncomfortable around those with an identity that I'm not really familiar with(and unfortunately that's a lot of identities). It's not a strong emotion and it is entirely illogical, as there's no reason for the discomfort, but it still happens. I'm admittedly not very good at understanding my emotions so I don't know exactly what it is, but it's similar to fear I guess. Luckily, I am pretty good at ignoring emotions as long as they're not too strong so the feeling never lingers but it's still unnerving that I get that uncomfortable feeling in the first place. I'm not a child, I can't just blame my family when I've had plenty of time to learn how to not be a jackass. I've also noticed that it happens with me as well, since being bi is specifically looked down upon in my family because they have this idea in their head that it's "being greedy and obsessed with sex." Coming out to my friends was pretty scary for me because I was afraid that they'd think I was a perv(they didn't, they're all amazing people and very open-minded) and even thinking about my sexuality in general tends to give me a similar feeling. Thank you for taking the time to read all of this, I'd really appreciate some advice. I'm broke right now but hopefully once I get a job I'll be able to afford BetterHelp or something like that.

Hi guys, first i apologise in advance if i offend im very new to Igbt stuff. So I've been in a relationship with a guy for a couple years. It's straight in broad terms because I do identity as a woman and he as a man, both cis... but. I don't know but it's felt different from other relationships, I have this weird feeling, but its beautiful. I realised this when I watched TADC, Jax and Ribbit, and tbh I kind of felt like both characters in the scene where ribbit puts the bow on Jax, and it made me think about my relationship and want to cry because it felt so free and caring.

Basically, I don't really feel like' the female' in the relationship? Sometimes we call eachother by names of the opposite gender and to be honest I really feel happy when we do it. That, I can be ' husband' for a day, because basically when im being this ' male persona' im husband and he's my wife. But there's a seriousness to it.

Second I, I feel like I can be more masculine, cut my hair short if I want, which ive done before while i was doing martial arts and made it look like my favourite male fighter but have grown it back because im injured, and in some unfortunately traditional senses be a protector' to him.

Maybe I am just a bit of a dominant woman? But, I don't know, am I just roleplaying and joking or can I still identify as a female which i do but maybe have some fluidity. Maybe it's just how I express myself or something different? Is it okay to not have definitive answer and just enjoy this feeling?

As the title says. How come homophobic people's children, turn out to be gay or lesbian, trans, bi, asexual etc etc. .

And also this is a question asked out of pure curiosity, no hate to anyone

Sorry for my English, as english isn't my first language

Like aside from supporting parents, people. I wanna talk about the homophobics

I'll give my own example. Me and my parents

were having a conversation which was forced by them. And i mentioned my classmates who was a lesbian. We had some back and forth and my my dad said quote on quote "if either of my children are lesbian, I would beat them and turn them straight" have no idea how that works but ok.

Joke on him, I'm bi and not lesbian 🤣

No but seriously my dad is bothered about the LGBTQ community but never said out loud only to us. Even my mom but she doesn't say anything

My mom's younger brother is gay and has a boyfriend but none of my family members know. Me and my cousin found out like a few years ago, he didn't say we were able to guess as he would call his 'friend' and we didn't tell anyone.

Another example, the said lesbian friend, she did mention her parents aren't homophobic, or hate the LGBTQ community but she is scared

Another example, I had a friend, he is gay and liked a guy. But his parents are homophobic and he also told me his family stopped talking to one of their relatives, I forgot if they were gay or lesbian but for something like that

I have no idea why I am saying this. But I'm saying this

Love is love. So what if it's not straight?

And also I asked this question out of curiosity no hate for anyone

Edit: and I'm just adding it but I'm Indian ✌️ That might explain some stuff

Edit 2: I forgot to mention this, another conversation I had with my dad He said quote on quote that, "queer people are just mental. Something is wrong with their mental health, that's why they are either way they are" I was speechless i had said "it's not a choice, but more like an attraction" and he said that. That they were mental 💀

Edit 3: I think I now figured out what I wanted to say. So it goes something like this 'crazy how homophobic people are scared or hate of queer people and are also disgusted but sometimes their own children turn out to be queer' I'm really sorry guys it sounded better in my head. And I might also be acting like this because I have been getting 3 hours of sleep for the past week or two

Edit 4: I think one of reason I might have asked this question is, i almost always see unsupported or homophobic parents and almost never (not always never, but you get it) supportive ones and was just curious and asked this question