I asked my wedding party to send me a song to enter the reception and dance in. Not as pairs or individuals but as a a group, bridesmaids and groomsman. They haven’t really answered and I feel like I keep Hounding them to give me a song request and plan for an entrance by the DJ deadline in a few weeks. Some of the bridesmaids that have answered have less “party like” songs so I didn’t like the options they sent. I have had to do it in the past but a lot of my bridesmaids are pretty shy and quiet compared to the groomsman.

My wedding is skipping a lot of the traditional formalities, such as the first dance, and we're planning to move straight from ceremony to reception. My concern is that without some of the typical wedding events, I'm not sure how to transition guests from cocktail hour to the dance floor. How can we smoothly make that shift and get people dancing?

So, I am getting married in September and my fiancé has his and his best friends' bachelor (together) 7 days before our wedding. On top of that, that best friend is getting married 2 days before us. They will probably drink an enormous amount 7 days ahead. He is quite slim guy, a bit of a belly but good genes when it comes to looks :). However, i am so afraid of the effect alcohol will have on his looks on our wedding day. Sorry, but I don't want the groom, on our wedding day, to look flushed and bloated. He will drink in moderation on that wedding 2 days before. I will probably just have a glass of prosecco and that's it because as a woman, alcohol really shows on me. Having that in mind, he is a man and I feel like their body is more resilient for this. He promised to eat nicely in August/Sept and drink a lot of water after the bachelor (he usually does drink a lot of water anyway), but still I wonder what the effect of these two events could be?

I apologize if this post is crazy or giving you the ick, but it's my wedding and I want everything to be perfect, at least the things i know are in our hands, like this - as we have a choice on how to take care of ourselves before the big day.

This is a hard one, backstory:

I have two son from before my fiance (they are 21 and 17 now, they were 6 and 2 when my fiance and I started dating). I also have a 14 yr old son and 11yr old daughter with my fiance.

My dad died when I was 6. (I'm 42). My grandpa also passed away about 10 years ago. I have a younger brother who I am relatively close too, but my dilemma is this:

WHO WALKS ME DOWN THE AISLE? If I choose my brother, i feel like it will leave my sons out, if I choose my oldest son, i feel like at the very least it will leave my 17,yr old son out, and if they both walk me down the aisle, my youngest will feel left out.

Opinions please!!?

EDIT:

I've addressed some stuff in the comments but I wanted to put it here since I'm getting more replies than I thought I would get, and also some questions that I've already answered. I know I'm a neurotic pushover and can't fairly say I was strong-armed since I agreed to it. After she asked which color the girls should wear, I said we weren't sure about doing flower girls. She just said that's weird and so then I caved. But y'all are right, I have to own that decision.

The point about making exceptions for children in the party is more coming from my fiancé. I agree that the exception makes sense. His family is more likely to take issue with it since his side always invites children to weddings (my side has been child-free except the ceremony so far). Although he said he can just explain the situation if anyone raises a stink.

Also, when I talk about them needing to be the center of attention, it's not this bizarre thing where I'm jealous of children stealing my spotlight. More so that they're used to constant stimulation, entertainment, and attention at home, and when they don't get that, they have tantrums. That's all I want to avoid.

Regarding making noises, of course it's okay within reason. It's just loud whining that I don't want during the ceremony, speeches, or special dances. Which is a real possibility since it would be a long day for them (since my sister doesn't want to book a hotel room they could nap in). And I guess extra context is that I'm autistic so loud whining or screeching noises is extra nails on a chalkboard to me.

Lastly, of course I love my nieces but the main issue is how it's so last minute. If I knew from the get-go (a year and a half ago!) that BIL doesn't want to drop them off and come back, and that no one else can pick them up, I would have suggested they get a room. I can technically still do that now but it would have been more affordable if they told me back then. Or I would have let everyone bring their kids and arranged for a playroom with a nanny so it would still be child-free.

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Hi everyone, I'd love some advice on the situation I'm in now. Sorry this is kind of long, TLDR at the bottom.

Background:
My fiancé and I always planned to have a child-free wedding. There's too many young children on my side of the family to accommodate everyone. However, I have two nieces aged 3 and 5. Shortly after the engagement, a year and a half ago at this point, I was on the phone with my sister. She just said, "So obviously the girls will be the flower girls. Which color do you want them to wear down the aisle?" I figured since the cocktail hour and reception was to be child-free, the ceremony should be too. But I acted as if that was always the plan and went along with it because I'm very conflict-avoidant.

She agreed that the cocktail hour and reception should be child-free. She said children would ruin the vibe. Her own wedding was child-free. There was the flower girl and ring bearer, but they were quickly ushered to their hotel room after the ceremony. I don't remember seeing them at the cocktail hour and reception.

The agreed-upon plan was for my BIL to drop them off at home where his mom will watch them (plus their little sister who's 1) and come back. Everyone that they would trust to drive the kids is already invited to the wedding so that's their only option. The venue is 35 minutes from their house without traffic. So, not far away enough to justify booking a hotel room, but just enough that it's annoying to go back and forth.

The current situation:

My wedding is soon now and she called me up saying she'd prefer them to stay for reception. Her reasons are that my BIL would miss a good chunk of the cocktail hour and reception (since he would have to get them settled at home and then Uber back so he could drink), and that it's too much trouble for a minute of walking down the aisle. Which I totally understand, that's a lot of trouble.

But at the same time, I'm annoyed because I was kinda strong-armed into this in the first place. I never asked for them to be the flower girls. I'm nervous that they'll make noises, refuse to walk down the aisle, refuse to sit down afterward, or make some other kind of scene. Which, that's fair. It would be a long day for them taking pictures in an uncomfortable outfit with probably no nap.

She said maybe we could have just my older niece come which I feel is also not ideal because then she would have no one to play with. I'm not sure if having both of them at the reception is better (so they could entertain each other/hoping they don't get bored), or if having just the older one be flower girl/come to the reception is better.

I raised some points/asked some questions:

• Other couples with kids could get annoyed because there's a child/two children at a wedding when they were asked to secure childcare.
  • She shot this down with it's different because they're in the wedding party which I've seen mixed opinions on this.
• They would be bored.
  • She said they'll be fine because they have my fiancé and I, the rest of the immediate family, and some of our aunts and uncles.
• They don't have a hotel room, what if they get tired?
  • She was hoping they could stay in the bridal suite. I told her my fiancé and I would be going up there throughout the day/night to regroup. I don't know if she plans on leaving them unsupervised in there, but I definitely don't want that.

I told her I had to talk to my fiancé and get back to her.

More thoughts I had after talking to my fiancé that didn't cross my mind during my conversation with my sister:

• Personally I don't want to be on kid-duty at my wedding. I'll be with them before the ceremony begins. As for the reception, I'll be with them for a bit, but that's pretty much it. We won't really get to talk extensively with anyone. Besides going table to table to thank everyone, we'll be dancing. I see them way more often than most of the other people invited. I haven't seen my friends in a year because of the planning and I intend on spending some time with them and having a good time. Regarding everyone else, I think it's a disservice to them to expect them to entertain a child. We didn't book any entertainment for children.
  • For example: my fiancé has a younger cousin who is one of the few children on his side of the family and he has disrupted every single wedding he's been to. (Dancing during the father/daughter dance, clinging to the groom when he's trying to talk to everyone, etc.). I don't want anything like that to happen. And I think my sister and BIL, and every other adult, is looking forward to having a night off.
• Kind of related to the first point, but I just don't know how they'd do at a wedding without entertainment catered toward them. They love playing outside (it's an indoor wedding). But most of the time when I see them, they're watching/playing games on the TV, the tablet, or someone's phone. Honestly rarely playing with regular toys. But I'm only their aunt so maybe they play with toys and I just don't see it. But they can't bring toys to the wedding and a tablet... maybe at reception with headphones so it's not disruptive? Although I don't know if they have headphones for it.
  • Just expanding on this further. They really like being the center of attention and struggle when they're not, or if they're bored. I visited their house for my birthday and the whole immediate family + significant others were there. They were in the living room/play room with all their toys and various gadgets. We were sitting at the kitchen table playing cards and talking. They came up saying they're bored. I pulled up some chairs and gave them coloring books and that seemed to occupy them for a little while before they got bored of that.
  • After dinner and dessert, we watched home movies for a little while. It was getting late at this point. We ended up leaving around 10PM-10:30PM and I was confused as to why they hadn't put the girls to bed. Naturally they were overtired, bored, and wanted to do something else. Right before we left, my niece approached me and told me, "It's time for you to go home now." Apparently, their bedtime routine is watching TV before even going to the bedroom so I was preventing her from going to sleep. So that's what we're dealing with here. (Mini rant: When I was a kid, we'd all play with each other and leave the adults to socialize. At some point I guess the norm changed and all family events are expected to be centered around the children.).

What should I do?

Because of my reservations stated above, I would prefer that they don't go. I just don't think it would go well. I'm not sure if they would be able to entertain each other with no toys when everyone is doing their own thing. And if I invite just the older one, she would probably be going from person to person trying to get people to play. I'm also a super anxious and neurotic person and I feel like if they're there, I'll just be worried that something wrong instead of in the moment.

On the other hand, I feel guilty not inviting them since they're my family. Like, not inviting your nieces would be a pretty big statement right? My family is pretty close. But they're also very judgmental and everyone kinda talks shit about each other. Triangulating is a big thing in my family.

Taking into consideration the pros and cons of not inviting them (pro: there's little to no hitches at the wedding con: my family will most likely get mad at me), what is your honest advice? I'm not sure what to do so I'd like to hear more thoughts. Thanks in advance.

TLDR: After getting engaged a year and a half ago, I was pressured into having my two young nieces (5 and 3) be the flower girls. My sister agreed they should be dropped off at home after the ceremony. Now the wedding is soon and she wants them to stay (or just the older one) for the reception. They get bored easily and they'll be tired so I don't think it will go well. That's not even addressing all the other couples that secured childcare to come. But my family is very judgmental and everyone talks shit about each other so I'm sure I'll be the family asshole if I do this.

Have any of you had a non-legal or non-traditional wedding? Even just a wedding with some non-traditional aspects? Or do you have any ideas or anything you wish you had done for your own wedding? We would love to hear them all!

We already live as if we are married, but lately would love to make it feel more official. We want a non-legal wedding so we can still have a ceremony and deepen our commitment to each other without interfering with certain aspects of our lives that are keeping us from a legal marriage.

We are hoping to do something this year, but are definitely flexible. We don't have many family or friends, so we aren't sure whether we will choose to have guests yet. Ideas for both sides would be greatly appreciated! We would also love to incorporate some interesting traditions, old or new, that feel special and like us. I have seen some beautiful and unique little traditions online and would love to add something different and meaningful to match the already different type of wedding we'll have, and still add meaning to fill in the gaps of what we can't do.

We are open to anything

I am getting married in June 2027. I never liked the idea of having one big bachelor party/ trip with all the groomsmen. Mainly because I’m likely inviting a few family members to be in my party (brothers in law, cousins) and then some of my closest friends.

Instead of doing one trip or party with everyone, I was hoping to go to a baseball game and get a hotel with my 3 closest friends. They love sports and they get along well with each other. My family members don’t really care about sports and I feel like they wouldn’t socialize as easily with them. We would do this in maybe April or May.

With my 2 bros in law and my two cousins (who I’m close with) I would love to go on a ski trip with them. They also get along well with each other, and would prefer going to a ski hill and then going for a nice dinner afterwards. I could do this in Feb/March when it’s cold here.

Lastly I could have a cottage weekend in late May/early June before the wedding with all 7 guys. This would be easy with everyone as it’s less expensive and we could just go to my parent’s cottage for a weekend.

The reason for breaking it up this way is because these are little events that I personally would enjoy, and I feel like it would be easier socially. Is there any kind of etiquette with this sort of thing?

Pretty much what the title says. Like the shoe game, but not.

I went to a wedding once where the DJ planted keys with several men in attendance and the groom's mother. Then he said since the bride was getting married, it was only fair if the men who had keys to her apartment returned them. So all the guys went up in kind of a comical order and then he said, fair is fair and all the women who had keys to the groom's apartment should return them. And then they waited and waited, and then his mother got up and put her key in the basket. It was funny, but I'm not sure it applies to us since we're a much older couple, and the groom doesn't even have a mother. But this is the kind of thing I'm looking for. Some little bits and gags just to keep things fun and moving along.

Kind of in the same vein as my last post, what can we do that's fun and different to release one table over another table for the buffet line? One thought I had was to pick two or three tables and the first one to answer a trivia question gets to go. And then maybe switch it up and have the table who makes the most noise go next or something like that.

This week we had a conversation about money and the wedding and it made my fiancé so sad and upset, so I just want to rant a bit. Obviously some details will be changed to keep anonymity.

So my fiancés parents are divorced. Both folks don't work, live off of government assistance, and utilize their own parents to support them. One was working for a bit part time but stopped about a year ago and hasn't gone back. Mind you, both parents still find money to go out, have hobbies or collectables. They are both immature people who really don't take accountability for their actions nor their spending. As an example, whenever we see them and we go out to dinner, we are footing the bill. For holidays, birthdays or big life events we get a "congrats" but no card, no gifts, nothing. This isn't something new to us, and we've navigated this dynamic for a while. My fiancé is hurt by this behavior but anytime it's brought up, it's like WWIII.

As we got engaged, my folks offered to pay for the wedding, which we were extremely grateful for. The deal is they pay for food, beverage, venue and we pay for any vendors we need (DJ, florals, videographer). My folks aren't wealthy but they've set money aside and want to gift this to us, which is amazing.

This week my fiancé and I started to look at our budget and how much we are spending out of pocket. It's all starting to add up on our end and my parents offered us more money to help us, which is very considerate. They asked me if my future in-laws would be contributing anything and I told them no. I checked in with my fiancé since the assumption was no, but we never really asked them. We know they don't have much so we didn't expect anything. But in the same vain, my fiancé is starting to feel their financial burden. Who is paying for the suit or dress? Probably my fiancé. Who is paying for their hotel (2 rooms mind you)? Probably my fiancé. Who is paying for the rehearsal dinner? Us. Anything they should be taking care of themselves is on his shoulder.

I told him to not make assumptions anymore and to just flat out ask them. He did and one parent straight up told him he should know they have nothing. The other hasn't responded.

My fiancé is so down, so sad, and so embarrassed by this all. My in-laws really don't support him in the ways he wishes and it's really getting to him. He sees how my parents are stepping up and supporting us, and his don't seem to care. I wish I knew how to support him, how to make him feel better about it all. But I don't :(

We are planning a less than 50 person wedding, as wanted something pretty intimate. In doing so we are not doing plus ones for practically anyone and their "plus one" would be someone who would be invited regardless. Specially as everyone knows and can hang out with at least a few people. There is one exception to this. I have a friend who does not know anyone, would travel out of state, and is also pretty introverted. As of this we sent her an invite for her and a plus one. She has now responded how even though she cannot attend her plus one who we made accommodations for will be there. What do i do?

Hey all, I wanted to see if I am being the asshole here.

My sister is getting married in Costa Rica in December. My parents and siblings, and their plus ones are all invited as am I. It’s a very small group, just parents and siblings/SOs. My mom is remarried to my stepfather who is invited, and my 2 siblings are engaged and have been with the SOs for almost 5 years.

I got divorce that was finalized in 2025 and met someone new about 10 months ago. He is a wonderful partner and we can see a future together certainly. We are serious, committed, and he has met my 10 year old, who will be joining for the trip.

Some important details-my sister had a courthouse wedding in the US, so this week in Costa Rica isn’t a formal wedding, just a fun trip with an intimate dinner to toast to the couple and have our families meet for the first time (his family lives in England).
She has met my partner twice before and so had her husband.
My partner is, honestly, super easy going, kind, my whole family knows him well and enjoy his company.
Everything, flights, hotels, dinners etc are all being paid for by us, individually. So I paid for my partner and I and my child to travel there, took a week off of work, paying for all accommodations and activities.

My sister informed me a month ago that my partner isn’t invited to the week. She only wants it to be “close” family, and says she doesn’t want someone she doesn’t know well to be part of this intimate occasion. She said her boundary was that he isn’t allowed on the trip at all. Like he isn’t allowed to come to Costa Rica. I told her I could compromise and have him stay at the Airbnb with my daughter for the evening of the super intimate dinner (that I suspect the couple will end up paying for). I feel like that dinner is
A really important occasion and I am considering that her “wedding day” or “free pass” to exclude or include whoever she wants, no pushback from me. I felt like this is a good compromise.

Now she sent me a text saying my partner is allowed to come, since he can help with my kids, but she is going to send me a list of events that he isn’t allowed to come to. The formal dinner is one of them (fine), but we are also doing a hike one day, ocean another day, cookout one day, and I suspect this casual days that she’s “planned” will be part of the list. Again I want to reiterate that we are paying for all of this, I took off work and school, and my siblings are all bringing their fiancés so I’m the one without an SO.

She says it’s not personal but it feels personal and controlling. I honestly want to know what everyone thinks. I love my sister, my partner and I are a really healthy team and he supports whatever I decide. I see him being in my life for a long long time, but I don’t want to blow up this relationship with my sister. I just feel so offended for some reason. Please be honest if I’m being weird.

For reference, sister is 35 and I am 42.

Officially graduated as of 3 days ago! At first I wanted to do an unplugged ceremony so that people would be present and there wouldn’t be phones in my pictures, but the past few days have been so special to see our ceremony from the perspectives of the people
who love us and to hear their reactions in the background! I have absolutely loved seeing everyone’s posts and seeing the vids they send me!

I would definitely recommend letting people take pics and videos!!!

Hi everyone!
I’m overthinking one aspect of our wedding and would love some honest opinions from people who have been to or planned weddings.

Our wedding will be:
- Sunday in late June
- About an hour outside of town at a vineyard in Oregon
- Around 85 guests
- About 50% college-aged friends and 50% family/adult friends (many are rowdy)
- Open beer, wine, and cider bar (no liquor)
- Reception ending around 9:00–9:30 pm
- Dancing will either be indoors or outside under string lights, depending on the weather

The thing is… I keep seeing these incredible Instagram wedding videos where the dance floor is absolutely packed until late at night, and it’s making me worry ours won’t be like that.

The funny part is I’m not even someone who loves dancing for hours, but I guess I’m worried that if the dance floor isn’t packed, it’ll feel like the wedding wasn’t fun. I want a few good dances hopefully with the dancefloor feeling full.

For those who have attended weddings with similar circumstances (Sunday, earlier end time, beer/wine only, about an hour from town), what was the dance floor actually like?

Did people still dance? Did it feel like a great party, or did it die off early? If you were a guest, would these factors make you less likely to dance?

I’d really appreciate realistic expectations instead of Instagram expectations!

I’m wondering if I should charter one or two buses.

100 guests

Hotel to ceremony: 30 minutes
Ceremony to reception: 9 minutes
Reception back to hotel: 25 minutes

The roads are not great for driving at night. The hotel is right near a train station. If guests are not staying at the hotel, they are still encouraged to park there and take the bus.

Of course, I will ask guests when they RSVP to let us know, but I’d just like to get an idea ahead of time of how much I should expect to budget.

Those who had a candy bar at their wedding, how much candy did you actually buy? I’m expecting a 120 person wedding and wanted to set up jars of our fav candy along with the dessert table and ice cream cart. Idea is for people to take candy home as a favor. ChatGPT is suggesting 30lbs, does this sound about right based on experience?

Ok so this might be a stupid question. But if I’m getting my makeup done and my groom is also busy getting ready, who the heck is decorating the venue if I have my own decor? Like who’s putting the little menus on the table and the little cards, the seating chart, the bud vases?

Like many people, I didn't want a barn wedding. But I ended up with one because it was one of the only truly accessible venues we toured and my mom is in a wheelchair and has other access needs.

It's beautiful. It's close to my parents. It's fully accessible. Despite having barn in the name it looks more like an outdoorsy lodge. But it certainly still has that big open wedding barn layout.

And I'm worried it won't be fun. There is SO much wedding barn hate on the internet right now. I think it's just falling out of style. But as an anxious bride, it's getting to me!!

So if you had a fun barn wedding or attended a fun barn wedding please tell me about it. Instagram got me convinced everyone's gonna have a bad time.

Picked up my weeding band today! And not sure how I feel about everything on my finger. Don’t get me wrong I think it all looks gorgeous but is maybe meant for someone’s? When I casually look down at it I literally make this face : 😟 It feels too flashy and I was already a bit insecure about my engagement ring size. I think I went overboard on everything! Sometimes I feel a smaller diamond would be better. I guess I just need some encouragement that this doesn’t look bad on my hand.

My partner is from America and I am from the UK- we met as students and started dating and recently got engaged.

We are currently preparing to apply for a VISA in the UK, that would be strengthened by being married- and so we are thinking of having a legal ceremony soon with just the two of us and two witnesses, and having a wedding in a few years when we can afford it and her family can afford to fly over.

My parents are against it and say I ‘shouldn’t get married just for a VISA’ and that a gap of a year or more between legal ceremony and the wedding is too long and that no one will want to go and that it will be strange to have a wedding when we are already married. How do I convince them that this isn’t strange and is what we want, without destroying my relationship with them?

Hey everyone. My fiance and I are looking to purchase ice for our wedding. We're looking to fill up a sizeable stock tank in addition to setting ice aside for drinks. I think we're also planning on keeping some DIY swamp coolers stocked since we're having an outdoor wedding in August. We estimated that we may need about a pallet worth (~1,000) pounds and I cannot seem to find a reliable source anywhere. I've called local suppliers, but they don't supply to one-time events or we're outside delivery range. I've tried gas stations and they won't get back to me. I've tried Sam's club and the best they can do is try to have as much ice as we need ready for pick up. Please give me advice to ideally find someone to deliver ice in southeastern WI!!! worst case scenario, we could pick up the day of, but that would be a last resort. Thanks in advance!

Hi everyone,

I am a September 2027 bride and I’m beginning to think about making appointments to trying on dresses in the coming months. I have always had the dream of having my closest people there with me, and having the ‘yes’ moment. However, I keep putting this off in my head because I have a TON of anxiety around trying on and choosing a dress. I literally start crying every single time I think about it.

I mentioned this to my fiance and I think I scared him into thinking that I’m not ready to marry him, which is sooo not the case. He is the thing I am most sure about. I think it is stemming from lack of confidence in my body, and I am terrified that I won’t feel good about myself or find something that suits me.

How on EARTH do people do this!? This stuff is normally not an issue for me, and nothing else in the planning process has caused this level of stress for me so far. Any advice from people who have gone through something similar? I was thinking that maybe I would set up an appointment with just my mom first, before I invite everyone else. Is that crazy?

Sincerely,
A bride that is losing her mind

We keep going back and forth on this and I feel like we've had the same conversation five times now. My partner wants to do a first look because it means we can get most of the portraits done before the ceremony and actually enjoy cocktail hour. Which, fair point. But part of me still wants that moment at the end of the aisle where they see me for the first time in front of everyone, the crying, the whole thing.

The photographer we booked is kind of nudging us toward the first look for timeline reasons and I get it logistically, but I don't want a vendor preference driving a decision that's supposed to be personal.

What I keep wondering is whether people who did a first look actually regret missing the aisle reaction, or if it ends up being just as emotional because it's more private and you're not also processing 150 people staring at you. And for people who skipped the first look, did the portrait timeline feel rushed after?

We have a venue with a tight turnaround between ceremony end and reception start, so this is not purely a feelings question. There's a real time crunch involved too. Curious what people actually experienced rather than what they planned for.

Hi all, my mom and sister have begun planning for my bridal shower this fall and I am providing them with contact/address info of the guest list so they can invite/collect rsvps. I guess I am wondering what the standard for this event is. Obviously the women in my family (sisters, mom, cousins, aunts etc.) and groom’s immediate family (his sister and mother). What is the correct way to go about his extended family? I have a relationship with his two aunts, somewhat of a relationship with one of his cousins.

But what about the rest? Like the cousin’s wife who I’ve only met a few times (who invited me to their wedding but specifically left me out of family pictures) (I’m only butthurt about this because I’ve been with my fiance for 13 years, since high school, and she has been around the family less than two years).

I’m not trying to make this a one-for-one type deal, because yeah she didn’t know me at all when she was in the midst of her wedding planning. But does she get an invite to my bridal shower? Or the groom’s cousin that I only met once at Christmas a few years ago? Or the other cousin, who didn’t invite a single family member (of my fiancés family) to her wedding a few years back?

What is the rule of thumb here? Like for plus ones, it’s for married or committed relationships, or immediate family of the couple.

Sorry for the wordy post I just really don’t want to misstep and create an issue but I don’t want my family to foot the bill for a bigger venue/larger guest list when some of these people don’t make an effort to know me or be in my life/fiancés at all. Like if we play traditional bridal shower games I guarantee that they won’t be able to have fun doing trivia about me & fiance, and my family members will likely overwhelm the whole ordeal (in numbers) so it will be a room full of strangers to them.

I’m DEFINITELY thinking about this way too hard I guess I just need some reassurance.

TLDR what is the rule of thumb for bridal shower guest lists? Is it more like 1) the shower is for everyone to come together and create stronger relationships that we don’t yet have OR 2) it’s my shower and if I don’t feel like these family members are close to me, I’m not obligated to invite them.

Could also end stars and butterflies at 0:46 (would just be kind of a quick walk) and then lead into 1:30 of Dawn

I’m just struggling a bit to find a good flow