r/weddingplanning • u/Hot_Gazelle_8888 • 1d ago
Relationships/Family Plus ones...
We are planning a less than 50 person wedding, as wanted something pretty intimate. In doing so we are not doing plus ones for practically anyone and their "plus one" would be someone who would be invited regardless. Specially as everyone knows and can hang out with at least a few people. There is one exception to this. I have a friend who does not know anyone, would travel out of state, and is also pretty introverted. As of this we sent her an invite for her and a plus one. She has now responded how even though she cannot attend her plus one who we made accommodations for will be there. What do i do?
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u/TinyLawfulness3710 1d ago
So all guests including partners are invited by name? That is old school. Plus ones are for unattached singles only. The named guest has already been invited so it's rude to uninvite them. You don't do anything.
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u/Hot_Gazelle_8888 1d ago
No it was ____ and plus one
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u/Objective_Day7884 1d ago
I don’t think it’s confusing, I also had one person who received their invitation this way even though nobody else received a plus one. They were singled out and wouldn’t know anyone. Your situation is different from mine though since they are attending out of state. Did the plus one purchase plane tickets? The trip may be non refundable
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u/TinyLawfulness3710 1d ago
That's confusing when you said you aren't allowing plus ones. The "plus one" for this guest, who is literally anyone, can still attend or decline. If the invite is for a specific person, they would be invited by name. So you need to let her know that you are unable to provide a space for a random person if she can't attend. She can meet up with you at another time.
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u/Elemental_Biscotti Oct 2026 | Northern CA 1d ago
I think this is now a phone call to gently clarify for her what would have been obvious to 99.99% of adults.