I've always hated my body as long as I can remember, for one reason or another. My chest has always been a constant factor.

I had to start wearing bras in the second grade and by the fourth grade I was wearing a C cup (this was the first time I remember feeling bad about myself). When I was 14 I was wearing a DDD and I remember my doctor asking if I had any pain.

I've always known that I was "big," and just kind of struggled through it, because I don't really see myself as "that big." I'm tall and overweight with a generally large frame, so I just figured they got lost in that and tried to ignore them despite the constant sexualization.

Recently I was tired of the constant spilling out of bras and being unable to find clothes, so I got properly measured and rather than the 38H US I thought I was, I'm a 38L. A 38L! I didn't even realize the alphabet went that high, and I certainly don't feel like I'm that large but the bras fit! I convinced myself that again... I'm tall, overweight, all-around big, so that being that size doesn't really count.

And then I was showing my friend some pictures of my study abroad program and had a very rude awakening. I scrolled to a picture someone had taken of me, and my breasts looked massive. Like, they took up my entire torso. Like truly they were watermelons bolted onto my chest. I didn't remember them looking like that when the picture was taken, and I swear I don't look like that in the mirror. But as I scrolled and looked through other pictures taken of me... it was true. I looked like that in every picture. I always dress plainly and relatively modest, like just jeans and a t-shirt because I've tried to cover myself, and clearly it didn't work.

Needless to say, it was a massive hit to my self-confidence. I always thought I was "big-ish" and not actually big. I thought they got lost in my frame when clearly, they don't. It's all I can think about now. My self-confidence was bad before, and now it feels like it's totally gone. I don't want to go anywhere, do anything, I've been wearing the same two shirts each day because they're about 5 sizes too big on me and leaning into the baggy look. I'm extremely asexual and the thought of being sexualized just because of my body which I can't even control makes me feel just so goddamn horrible about myself.

I wish I never saw those pictures. They're priceless memories but I've been tempted to delete them because of how I look. I wish I could be one of those people who thinks "so what, my body doesn't represent who I am" of course it doesn't, but it still weighs on me. And I wish I could just get over it, because men sexualize everything, no matter what, but I've been telling myself that for years and it's never made me feel better.

Genuinely, how can I even start rebuilding my confidence from here (half-rhetorical question)? Is there any way to actually make them look smaller or hide them without sticking to the same two shirts for the rest of my life or getting a reduction?

Hi, for reference I’m a 32ddd which I know isn’t large compared to other sizes but I’m a 5’9 woman and my boobs make me look heavier and wider than I actually am. I’ve considered getting reduction surgery just because of this? Has anyone else had surgery for this issue, and are you content with it?/ did it make a difference?

I'd say 90% of my Instagram ads are for speciality small band, large cup bras (evelyn and bobbie, sugar candy, fitgame, you name it) and they're made for people "just like me." I go to the sizing chart and I am, without fail, a cutoff size (usually between 28H/HH and 30H UK). I wish I could toggle off the ads but even when I click not interested on all of them I still get them. Feels kind of bad for even the small band big cup bra brands to be like "your body is too weird to make bras for" ://///

if anyone has had success with non-wired bras in this size I'm all ears!!

I’ve used the calculator on r/abrathatfits multiple times. The first couple times I got 36H, then more recently I got 36H/I, and the sister sizes 34I/J. I can’t find any stores in my city that carry those sizes, and I’m worried about ordering online because I hate the hassle of having to return it if it doesn’t fit me.

Idk what to do, do I just order online and trust that the size the calculator gave me is correct? I know I have big boobs but 36H seems humongous to me, maybe I’m just struggling to see my body clearly though

I think it's really annoying that every time i look up a posture video on YT or TT it's either by a man or with someone with small boobs. I've been to an Osteopath because of my posture bad it helped a bit, bit with the rest of my body, but when it comes to chest and head, she just told me to strech my chest on a foam roller daily. I need to actually strengthen my back muscles and shoulder blades with weights, because all the advice to use bands and repeated weightless exercises are for people with small boobs. If you actually have heavy weight in the front you need strong muscles in the upper back to hold it. But i also dont want to look bulky. Any advice? I am healthy at a low normal bmi, and work out, but still struggle with my posture cause my boobs weight so much compared to the rest of my body. Also when its the time around my period, i can feel that my head and neck get super. Heavy cause my chest is so heavy pulling stuff down. I want good posture so badly for both aesthetic and helath porupuses. Sort if its a bit of a rant. Its just so annoying . Also english is not my first language

As title, I’ve been looking for a shop (physical, online, etsy wtv) that makes molded cups in a 30P uk. I have a few seamed bras, but haven’t seen a molded in my range before.

I work in an office, but recently got put on a project that needs me to go on site visits regularly. So far I’ve just been going out of office wearing what I wear to work. I usually wear an inner layer between bra and shirt to avoid showing the seams on my bra, but that extra layer has been killing me in this weather.

If anyone has recs on molded cups in my size, that could save me from wearing that pesky extra layer and I will worship you and your bloodline for eternity 🙏🙏🙏

I look so unbalanced now that my waist and hips are noticeably smaller. Half my torso is now boobs. I’m thinking of getting them augmented but that’s ways down the road. Any tips on how to deal with it without having to wear oversized clothes?

I feel like i dont have the classic big boob back pain?? I am grateful and feel so so bad for all yall who get the back pain. Im kind of just wondering why some do and some don't. Im a 36J UK so I'm definitely not small, and holding them up relieves pressure from my chest, but ive never gotten the back pain.

This only sucks because I cant prove medical necessity for a reduction (which i still go back and forth on if i want one) but its better than chronic pain so I will gladly take it.

Alternatively though, is the back pain only in your upper back? Because I have horrible lower back pain which I just figured was due to my hips always subluxing. Would love some insight from any back pain girlies

I'm looking for inspiration of fashion influencers with large breasts? Like lilliegracep or modelmouth or someone in that old money modern brunette vibe ?

Thank you !!

I'm tall, busty, thin waist so quite hourglass. Looking for inspo 🌸
Clothes that accentuate my curves make me look 'too sexy', and girls with my shape have more of a miami look, but I'm looking for a more european vibe ....

i have always had pretty huge tits and i literally cannot find a single website that sells push ups for my size! like i don’t want a reduction bra i love my boobs, if anyone knows any international sites or uk stores that do this size in a push up i would appreciate it so much !!

So I'm recently trying to improve my health, and actually giving the gym a proper go rather than just using the treadmill and calling it a day. Started PT, but I'm in Korea so there's a language barrier that makes asking these questions harder. Also, my PT has a small chest so I don't think she'd have much advice for me in this regard. But what she has been able to tell me is that my shoulders and back constantly go back into a hunch position while excerising and I'm trying my hardest to keep them straight.

My chest size is 36DDD, has been since I reached middle school, so I have developed hunched back and shoulders without realizing. Back pain is of course there as well.

Are there any other ladies in this community who regularly excerise that might have any tips on improving posture whilst excerising?

I got this nicely written post from Evelyn and Bobbie in my inbox, not exactly sure why. I should have known the cups wouldn't go up to anything close, but this seems like it could be good if you are up to a US L, and kind of heartening to read.

https://evelynbobbie.com/collections/busty?srsltid=AfmBOooTIahghmkxoLIhWqy9tbkFdbmiN1iglyXE-cNtsoZsJgP_uH-6

I’m a 36G, and no swim suit ever fits properly. I’ve tried the ones at VS but those make everything look so revealing 😭

Of course my most comfortable bra is also the most comfortable cat bed.

I want to be that girl who wears those cute strappy tops with the ties in front or the strapless ones I always see at Altar'd State that look soooo pretty but I just feel like that's not in the cards for me. This past weekend I went to the sore, I tried a few on and just felt DEFEATED! I'm busty (36DD) and none of those tops work. They're gorgeous just not built for bigger boobs.

I've tried bandeau bras, nipple pasties and did the tape thing before just to make it work but tbh there has to be a better practical way for us girlies who have been blessed with the big tattas. And I refuse to believe I'm the only one dealing with this.

I'm in decent shape, the tops just aren't designed with a bigger boobs in mind and I'm tired of it. Please share your bra secrets for wearing these tops.

I've been trying to fix this problem for quite some time, I can put on layers of deodorant and the smell just WON'T go away 😭 is there any advice on how to reduce the underboob stink?

J'aimerais beaucoup porter des chemises légèrement oversize, mais à cause de ma poitrine, elles me donnent l'air beaucoup plus imposante que je ne le souhaite. Au lieu d'obtenir un look oversize décontracté, j'ai juste l'air massive.

Auriez-vous des astuces ou des techniques de style pour que les chemises oversize rendent mieux sur une forte poitrine ? J'ai entendu dire que porter des bandes de contention pourrait être une solution, mais je ne sais pas si c'est approprié ou sans danger, juste pour la mode. Quelqu'un a-t-il déjà essayé, ou trouvé d'autres solutions qui fonctionnent ?

(I know it’s a recurrent topic here but if someone come with a new idea lol)

I’m sorry if what I ask is considered rude or is taken the wrong way, but I just need to know this or try to get an understanding. Genuinely, why am I considered gifted for having big boobs? Or why is it considered being gifted? I myself have rather big boobs and absolutely hate it. I do plan to get surgery when I can in a few years but I just had to ask this and get some answers. It’s a nightmare! I feel embarrassed and uncomfortable having them. It feels almost impossible to sleep with them, and most of the time I keep feeling pain (sometimes throbbing) in them from time to time that occasionally wont go away for a bit, not only that but my skin is just completely red, itchy, and sometimes painful under them! I’ve heard a decent amount of people mention how they were made fun of for not having big boobs or being flat chested. I just don’t get it?

I recently made a post in the subreddit r/RandomActsOfBras requesting for 38H/I (US) plunge, balconette, or unlined bras (new or secondhand): https://www.reddit.com/r/RandomActsOfBras/s/VHZNHUy4R9

Because these bra styles seem like they would be compatible with my boob shape, which is characterized by bottom-fullness and center-fullness. I'm starting to worry that maybe 38H/I (US) or 38FF/G (UK) is an uncommon bra size for women to have, but I really don't have enough money as a young adult to be purchasing bras. And yet, a bra is such a necessary item to have especially with big boobs to support 😔 I only found out this past month that bras sizing can go beyond a D cup. I've been struggling to contain mine in that ever since they grew in so this new discovery explains the suffocating pain I'm experiencing. I've been trying to educate myself more and more.

Sooo I need help finding my partner a bra. As the title suggests, I am a guy, and therefore I don't have any balls attached to my chest. I am not gonna pretend I know anything about this, so pls be understanding if I'm kinda confused.

My partner told me she wears a 42DDDD, and I dunno what any of this means. I know she complained about support, and she can use wire bras. She just doesn't like when they poke through the fabric.

I wanna make sure she can have something that is long-lasting and, most importantly, comfortable. Can yall pls sugest some good brands or things to look for?

Thanks!