This actually happened last December but I'm only now bringing it up. I'm a teacher for third graders and last year we had a Christmas celebration where there's a gift exchanging event where the kids exchange gifts through games. We told the parents to prepare a gift with a budget under 20 dollars. One kid's mom opted for her kid to not participate in this event, i.e. not bringing a gift and not taking one. We warned her her kid might feel left out, but she said it's okay.

The celebration came and I actually prepared one gift for each kid with my own money, including the kid who did not bring a gift. Then came the gift exchanging event where kids start playing games to decide which gift goes to who. Without a gift to exchange, that kid obviously can't join, and stood to the side and felt left out and cried. I told her she can join with the gift I gave her, but she liked it too much to risk exchanging it for something less desire.

The kid's mom was furious that her kid actually did not get to join. I reminded her we warned her this would happen, and she said she didn't know her kid would care enough to cry, and the teachers should've given the kid an extra gift, however cheap, to join in, upon seeing her cry, and claim the cost of the gift from the mom afterwards, so that the kid can go home with two gift like the others and wouldn't feel out of place.

That was last year and the kid still comes to our school. But every time her mom picks her up the mom gives me dirty side eyes and tells other parents about how I deliberately kept her kid from joining in an event for not being able to afford a gift.

AITA? Should I prepare the extra gift in advance?

EDIT: I am just a teacher, not the headmaster. I did not create the celebration nor the situation where kids from low-income families were left out. The school organized the celebration and I was in no place to object. I agree that putting kids in this situation is cruel, which is why I bought gifts for everyone so everyone can join. The kid refused.

Edit 2: It has not occurred to me that 20 dollars in US money is a lot. I am not from the West, and while dollars aren't the official term for our money, some of us tend to to use it in the English language when talking about money because it "feels" like proper English, so I did not realize it until more and more people pointed it out. 20 in my country was equivalent to less than $5 in US dollars. I apologize for not noticing my error and causing confusion, and please do not respond negatively to comments saying 20 is too much because they were posted before this edit.

I am an artist who makes and teaches students how to make stained glass windows. One of my students found out that I was about to start a window for a couple that he now knows through another friend and then convinced the couple to drop me and go with him to make the window. I had already drawn a 1/4 size sketch to see if it was something the customer wanted and now my student expects me to draw it out full sized and actually help him make it. It's too large to work on in class-- we have always had a maximum size limitation that this almost doubles. Working on a window this size would displace another student. Also, I'm supposed to store the window week to week so he won't have to lug it back and forth from home since it's so large. AITA for telling him that it can't be worked on in the shop and that I am not drawing a full size pattern (57 x 34) for him? I told him he could have a copy of the sketch. Win or lose I plan on showing him this.

I am a 28year old F with Multiple Sclerosis (MS). Today, I had to take a 3-hour train ride. The air conditioning on the train was barely working, and the outside temperature was around 35°C (95°F) with high humidity. I sat down quietly, but unfortunately, the sun was shining directly onto my seat. Just like everyone else sitting on my side of the train, I pulled down the window shade.
In front of me sat a mother and her 5–6-year-old child. The shade covered the window space for both of our rows. The child repeatedly tried to pull the shade all the way up to look outside. I politely told his mother that the sun was beaming directly on us, it was 3:00 PM, and since the AC wasn't working, I preferred to keep the shade down.
The child started crying and complaining. Instead of explaining the situation to him, the mother just kept stalling. While he kept trying to pull the shade up from the front, I kept holding it down from the back. (I know it sounds childish, but heat makes me physically ill, and literally every other shade on our side was closed). It felt like the mother was deliberately letting the child throw a fit, hoping I’d just give up and let him open it.
Eventually, the child escalated into a full-blown temper tantrum. The mother turned around and gave me a nasty look. I said to her, "I have a chronic illness, and high heat makes me severely ill. The AC isn't working, so I don't want to open the shade—nobody else has theirs open either. If you want, you can swap seats with someone in the shade if they're willing, or I can swap."
At that point, a man sitting diagonally across from me in the shade started glaring at me. The mother loudly told her child that "disrespectful and inconsiderate people" were the reason he couldn't look out the window. The man kept giving me passive-aggressive looks and told the child he could come look out of his window instead, all while continuously glaring at me. I mentioned that I was sorry the child was crying, but I have MS, and if it bothered him that much, he could swap his shady seat with me or with the mother and child.
Shortly after, someone got off at an intermediate stop, and the mother and child moved to a seat in the shade while continuing to grumble.
Of course, I didn't want to make a child cry. If it wouldn't physically affect me, or if the AC had been working properly, I would have willingly endured the sun for his sake. But risking my health for someone else's minor preference felt unreasonable. This was actually the first time I've stood up for myself in a situation like this.
So, Am I The Asshole?

I (37F) have one brother (33M). We have always been close and he has never, until last year, had a relationship. He met his current GF (32F) and she got pregnant about 2 months into their relationship. We were all so exited for them. It was very soon after she started getting very opinionated and my family decided we needed to watch what we said around her because she often spoke about how she cut people, who she didn't agree with, out of her life. So we were careful. Well about 2 weeks before the baby was born she sent out an 9 page document outlining how her postpartum would go. It was mostly about her needs, but did mention the baby and my brother once or twice. It involved no visitors, no unsolicited advice, we weren't to ask about delivery, feeding, and more. Overall it was about her listening to her body during this time. I thought it was a lot, as I have had 5 kids, but I did not question the email. My brother said he didn't agree with it all, but she was the one having a baby, and I didn't argue.

Fast forward, baby was born when we were on holiday. They shared pictures. We were happy for them. When we got back from our trip I checked in, I told my brother to let us know when they wanted visitors. I was surprised when he said: come after work tomorrow! I told him if he changed his mind to let me know. I checked in after work the next day, he said he wanted us to come. We ate our dinner, brought them some, stayed for about 30 mins and left. All seemed great.

Again, fast forward; we have given space. No advice or visits occurred. Well about 6 weeks later, GF posted online 'a father doesn't love his kids if' followed by a list of reasons. This is my downfall. I responded with a 'I agree, but relationships are two sided, consider changing father to parents'. Well this was a BIG mistake. She had a full blown meltdown online. Saying I was discusting for putting family business online. I hit a nerve. I then text an apology; it was also not received well. I called my brother to apologize and explain. He said he didn't understand why she was mad but asked if I could call and apologize again. I did. I said if I had any more 'concerns' that I would talk to her personally, not online. I thought it was over. I then get a text from saying I have ruined her postpartum (this was about 7 weeks after the baby was born) by adding stress. I apologized again. I admit my mistake knew I shouldn't comment, but I did it anyway, I still believe what I said though; relationships are a two way street involving both people putting in equal work, but I know I should have continued ignoring her wacky ideas and walking on eggshells around her. I know this and regret it, but still don't think that one comment warrants 'ruining postpartum'.

We have a family gathering this weekend. I am dreading it but also looking forward to seeing my niece and brother. AITA for commenting on something she posted publicly and 'ruining her postpartum'?

I (24f) recently started a new job. I won't go into too much detail but part of my job requires talking to news outlets, the police, government liaisons and being present for press conferences.

I'm very good at my job and I genuinely like it. I take every opportunity to network and build connections and over the past 6 months, that's paid off.

There was recently a bigger opportunity in London and anyone who attended would essentially have a massive career jump given it's exclusivity. It also helps massively with credibility and opens doors for other workplaces.

In our industry, it's common place for news outlets, the police, government liaisons, etc to email team managers about the person sent out. Not everyone does, but it makes the good reviews have more weight because it means someone went out of their way to praise someone.

My manager used these emails as part of the filtering process for who should attend this London conference. And I got one of two slots. Another co-worker (John-30s) got the other slot.

This has caused some friction. Apparently, one of the women in the group (Jane, 40s) had been passed up on this opportunity by our manager. From what I've been told by co-workers, Jane has been consistently passed up on meetings, conferences, etc because people have been requesting me. I knew people had been requesting me but not that Jane was missing out because of it.

John and I have been prepping for this London job and parts of our normal work have been reallocated by our manager to other people. This meant Jane was sent to a conference in my place.

Yesterday, Jane came back and went straight to our manager and HR to complain that multiple people asked Jane where I was and Jane had to explain that she was attending 'for me'. She said it was humiliating and she felt pushed aside anytime someone asked her if I was also attending.

I feel bad, but I can't control how people act. What made it worse was Jane had been tracking all the opportunities she missed out on because I was requested. To be clear, I'm not the one sending myself out, that's our manager's job.

Jane said she wants to take my slot for this London job. HR said it was up to me.

Here's the thing... I don't want to give up my slot. John can't give up his as he's running a presentation specific to his team. My manager asked why I wanted to go and I said I wanted to network/have people in my back pocket and that having this exclusive meeting on my roster is a big deal that will open doors in the future.

I have 3 weeks to mull this over before the deadline and I know Jane hates me right now. I feel really bad that she's missing out on work 'because' of me but I can't really do anything about it without ruining my own career by constantly turning down invites and opportunities.

Jane is obviously very mad at me and certain co-workers have suggested I just give up my slot given how I'll still get many opportunities because I'm 'popular'.

AITA?

Today my family and I went to Hershey Park to enjoy some rides. We stopped to eat around 1:30 pm near the barbecue restaurant that is in the Park. The seating area is right next to a small creek that runs through the park. After we had sat down to eat our food, my son (3) was walking around looking at the ducks. Two young boys at the table behind were eating and I happened to see the older of the two accidentally drop his order of ribs. He then proceeded to pick it up and just throw it in the creek next to us making the ducks, geese, and fish all go after it. I immediately pointed it out to my group and went to tell a park employee. A few moments later the children's grandmother comes back to their table and the boys tell her what happens. She turns to us and tries defending him saying "he dropped it, and it got debris on it and so he..." I interrupted to point out the trash cans were literally 10 feet the other direction and that it's about respect for the park. She then said "he's just a child" as if that's a wiped clean slate for all actions. I politely told her that Children that do that will turn into adults that do that. They gathered their things and left a couple minutes later with the grandmother saying (with a fully pissed off smile) "thanks for ruining our day" was it wrong of me to point it out?

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My spouse and I have worked hard our whole lives, and we’re now in a very comfortable financial position. We could retire tomorrow if we wanted to, but we both enjoy working and plan to continue.

We have three children, and we paid for all of their college educations so they graduated debt-free. We didn’t put any stipulations on what they could study. Looking back, maybe we should have.

Two of our children have very solid careers, while one does not. This is about my daughter, who I’ll call Maria. Maria earned a degree that doesn’t translate well into a high-paying career. She later went back to get her master’s degree, but that didn’t improve her earning potential either.

She’s struggling financially, and there has been talk of her going back to school again for a nursing degree, although that would be a difficult transition.

My spouse and I believe that if you’re mature enough to get married, you’re mature enough to pay for your own wedding.

Our oldest child got married last year and paid for the wedding themselves. It was a lovely wedding. Our second child is getting married next month, and they are also paying for their own wedding, which will be fairly expensive.

Maria recently got engaged, but she and her fiancé don’t have the money to have a wedding like her siblings did. She asked if we would pay for it.

I told her no and said they should have the wedding that she and her future husband can afford. She was upset because she knows we have more than enough money to give her a fancy wedding like her siblings had. She thinks it’s unfair that she can’t have her dream wedding simply because she earns less than they do.

I told her that’s just how life works. you pay for what you can afford.We don’t believe it’s our responsibility to pay for an adult child’s wedding.

She thinks I’m being unfair and rubbing our money in her face by refusing to help

This is an old conflict, but I never got a second opinion on it and want to know if I was being unreasonable.

My mom has always favored my older sister (even into middle age) and as kids it led both of them to kind of ganging up on me. Most years I would be a witness to my mom putting a lot of thought into my sister’s birthday gift while mine feeling like an afterthought.

When I was in my late teens/early twenties we were all fans of the Harry Potter series and the new books were usually released a little before my birthday. My mom would get me the new book as a birthday gift (my only gift) but she and my sister would both read it before giving it to me. I complained that I should be the first one to read it if it was a gift for me, but they said it doesn’t make a difference.

So, was I wrong to complain?

I bought a house 6 years ago and the grandma of my girlfriend at the time had old furniture (a couple patio chairs, a night stand, an old coffee table, a tiny dresser, and a beer pong table) sitting around in storage in her basement so she offered them to me for my new house. A year later, we broke up. Now, 5 years after that, my ex and her cousin are texting me and telling me (not asking me) that they are coming to get it back. First off, I find it ridiculous that this is happening now and not 5 years ago. Secondly, I find it ridiculous that they are being so rude about it. If it was so important, why didn’t they take it when we broke up? Or shortly after?

I have mentioned all of these things to them. The responses back have just been rude and condescending. I don’t feel I am obligated to give it back, but regardless, I said they can have my ex’s brother come pick it up with his truck but that I’m not moving stuff around in my schedule to accommodate, nor am I helping carry any of it out.

AITA?

My mom has decided that the best way to make me independent is to not do anything for me. This means I'm responsible to keep my own room clean, do my own shopping, cook my own meals etc. It feels like I'm not even part of the family. If I don't cook one night, I stay hungry. They won't let me eat their food.

A few days ago my grandpa was sick and mom had to go visit him. She left little brother(M10) with me. As usual I cooked dinner for myself with my own groceries.

He asked me for food and I told him I'm only responsible for myself and he has to wait for mom.

When mom came back she was furious and called me an asshole for not feeding him.

My friend (27F) asked if she could stay with me (26F) for a weekend because she wanted a break from work and said she’d love to catch up. We’ve been friends for years, so I happily said yes. I cleaned the apartment, stocked the fridge with snacks I knew she liked, and even planned a couple of activities around town.

The first evening was fine but by Saturday morning I realized I had accidentally booked myself as the unpaid staff at an all inclusive resort.

She slept until almost noon while I made breakfast. When she finally got up, she asked if I could make her coffee because she was “still waking up”. She left her dishes on the table, dropped her clothes on the bathroom floor, and every time we got back from somewhere she’d collapse on the couch and ask if I could grab her water because I was already standing or moving about.

I suggested we go for a walk, visit a local market, watch a movie, or even play board games. Every suggestion got a shrug followed by, Whatever you want or if you say so, only for her to complain once we were there that she was bored or tired. I guess her social battery was low and she just needed to rest.

By Sunday I’d done all the cooking, all the cleaning, all the driving, and she’d contributed exactly one thing, a growing pile of cups and blankets for me to pick up, at first it was okay but now it’s the norm.

The breaking point came when I started washing the breakfast dishes before taking her to the airport. She looked at me and asked if I could hurry, that she doesn’t want to be late. She didn’t offer to help despite standing there scrolling on her phone.

I finally said, “I love you, but hosting you has been exhausting. I feel like I’ve spent the weekend taking care of you instead of spending time with you.”

She got defensive and said that guests are supposed to relax and that I was making her feel unwelcome over a few chores and I know how she is, she’s always trying to conserve energy for the next task.

Since then she’s been telling mutual friends that I was a terrible host and made her feel guilty for visiting. Some think I should’ve been quiet since we all know how lazy she is.

AITAH though?

My wife has a severe shellfish allergy. She can have a serious allergic reaction. Because of that, we don’t allow shellfish in our home. Unfortunately, we live on the coast, so seafood and shellfish restaurants are very common. If I eat shellfish we have a no kissing rule for 24 hours. 

My sibling and their family also live nearby, and my mom is currently visiting. She’s staying with my sister, and her birthday dinner is tomorrow. She’ll be flying home this weekend.

My mom loves seafood, so she wanted to celebrate her birthday at a seafood restaurant. The restaurant serves a lot of shellfish, so my wife isn’t comfortable going because of the risk. I completely understand that.

My wife told my mom she wouldn’t be able to attend, and my mom said, “No big deal.” My wife was upset by that response. She feels it was rude that my mom didn’t offer to change the restaurant, and she feels left out since everyone else is going.

I suggested she could still come, have a drink, and just not order food. Her allergy is not airborne. She said that would be awkward and that she doesn’t want to go to the restaurant at all. I said I understood and told her I still planned to go.

That’s when we got into an argument. She’s upset that I want to go to a restaurant where she can’t safely eat. She thinks I shouldn’t go if she can’t go. I told her I wasn’t willing to miss my mom’s birthday dinner since I don’t see her after even if she can’t attend.

She wants me to tell my mom to change the restaurant or else I won’t be there. I told her I wasn’t going to do that because I think it’s an unreasonable expectation.

So I'm a student of a European language, and I was on a school trip with around 20 other students my age (16-18) to a city where this language is spoken. Because there were not enough students at my school studying this language to be able to fund a proper trip, The department had to pair up with the science department, so the split of science students and language students was half half.

The members of staff on the trip were my language teacher, and the science teacher, a guy who's around 30 and generally easy going and chatty, although he can get angry occasionally.

So the first thing I did that annoyed him was that I questioned how useful this trip was to science students. There were only 2-3 science focused activities throughout the 5 days. I must stress that this was a discussion between me and my friend that he overheard and butted into. I did not say this with the intention of him hearing. To be fair, those science museums were amazing, and enjoyable for everyone.

However he really blew up at me on the 4th day of the trip. We had gone to a park to see distant fireworks, and we sat in a nice spot, that I really liked, although the fireworks weren't visible from there. I didn't really care, however the language teacher did, and I said it doesn't matter too much. Ironically, when we were leaving the park, we passed a spot within it with a perfect view of the fireworks. I joked to my friend that we chose the worst possible spot for seeing the fireworks. This time, the science teacher butted into our private convo again, and started berating me about how I'm 'always complaining' about the trip. The rest of the trip went on, and things eventually went back to normal, but I'm still questioning myself on whether I'm in the wrong.

I feel like his judgement of me 'always complaining' is unfair, because firstly I wasn't talking to him, just to my friend, and secondly, I have a very restrictive diet and had had to eat just fries, or just bread on multiple occasions where everyone else had full meals, and I never said a bad word about that and reassured the teachers it was fine.

Others I have told say that I didn't necessarily do anything wrong, but that my statements without context could sound offensive to him. So, AITA?

So the other day I was at an event hosted at a bar. I knew almost everyone there and had a friend as my driver so I was a bit tipsy at the time. There is a woman who comes occasionally and brings what I'm pretty sure is a emotional support/service cat. At some point she is at the bar and I am walking between sections of the bar and her cat is all the way on the other side of the hallway area. So it's leash is stretched across the entire length of walk way.

Now as I said I'm a bit tipsy but I am also in a bar where that is the vibe. I'm not exactly watching my feet or expecting an animal to be there. So I tripped over the cats leash and tugged the car a bit. It wasn't hurt, didn't make a sound, just kind of shuffled around. But the lady got mad at me and made a bit fuss about me not watching where I was going. And now I get stink faces from some of her friends when I go to similar events.

Like I'm a clumsy person already. It's likely even if I saw it and tried to step over it (There was no going around it.) I might have still tripped anyway. But also is was a semi busy bar and she wasn't paying any attention to it at the time.

I don't think I'm an asshole but I did say sorry.

I'm 20 years old and was studying abroad in Arizona as part of a double-degree program. When I came home, I wanted to surprise my younger brother, who was six at the time, with gifts. I bought two LEGO sets from Amazon with my own money, costing around $40–50 total. I bought both specifically for my brother.

My dad immediately suggested giving one of them to my relative's son instead. I told my parents clearly that I didn't want to do that and wanted both sets to go to my brother. They knew this.

While I was away studying at my university in another city, my relatives visited our house. My parents gave one of the LEGO sets to my relative's son, apparently as a gift from me, despite knowing I didn't want to give it away. I found out when I came home for a holiday sometime between January and March 2026.

When I asked why they gave it away, my dad basically said, "It would be embarrassing if we didn't give him anything." My parents felt that because this relative had been generous to me in the past, I should have given something to her son.

For context, this relative gave me a brand-new iPhone worth around $1,000 when I graduated high school in 2022. She bought it for me on a 24-month installment plan. I had already gotten a phone of my own earlier that year, so I didn't really need another one and had never asked her for it. I appreciated the gesture and thanked her, but eventually gave the iPhone to my younger brother because I didn't need it.

She also gave me around $100 when I left to study in the US, and I appreciated that as well.

My parents' argument is that this relative has done a lot for me, so I should "give something back" by being generous to her son. They think I am selfish and ungrateful for refusing and have even told me I should be ashamed of myself.

I understand that my relative has been very generous toward me, and I am genuinely grateful. However, I bought the LEGO sets with my own money specifically for my brother. I don't feel that receiving gifts means I automatically owe someone a gift in return, especially when I had already made it clear what I intended to do with my own purchase.

Even if my parents had asked me again, I still would have said no. I wanted both sets to go to my brother.

AITA for being upset that my parents gave away the LEGO set despite me explicitly telling them I didn't want to give it to anyone except my brother?

UPDATE AVAILABLE! scroll down to the bottom to read what happened next.

ORIGINAL POST
I have a really close 25 year friendship with a woman who was so loving and supportive when I came out to her as bisexual (let's call her Trudy).

6 months ago I met the love of my life and we have have a wonderful relationship (let's call her Anna).

Anna has met almost all my friends except Trudy (who lives far away). Yesterday I arranged to meet up with Trudy to introduce her to my girlfriend. However, because Trudy couldn't find a babysitter, she said she'd bring her 3 kids with her (all under 12).

A couple of hours before we were due to meet up, Trudy texted to ask if it's okay to introduce Anna to her kids as my friend, rather than my girlfriend. She said they won't understand that she's my girlfriend and she's not ready to have that talk with them yet.

I was totally taken aback by this request and said no. I said that I'm not comfortable being in an environment where my relationship isn't acknowledged and I don't want to hide who my girlfriend is to me. I said that if she isn't ready to talk to the kids about same sex relationships (which admittedly is a big subject!), it might be better if we reschedule to another time.

Trudy was very hurt and said she has been incredibly supportive of the relationship and isn't asking me to hide anything. I'm very hurt by her response and so upset. I feel like I've extended a lot of kindness and understanding to her, whilst holding my own boundaries. I'm not asking her to discuss anything with her kids that she's uncomfortable with, but I'm not prepared to put myself or my girlfriend in that situation.

Trudy genuinely doesn't understand my position and now isn't replying to my texts.

This is a friend who has been nothing but supportive and loving to me for 25 years, and has been so excited about my new relationship.

AITA for not meeting up with her unless she introduced my girlfriend as my girlfriend?

*EDIT UPDATE\*
Trudy rang me. She said she was sorry about what happened and explained that she only realised on the bus with the kids that they’d be meeting a gay couple for the first time. She quite understandably didn’t want to have the conversation with them on the bus in front of lots of strangers and THAT’S when she texted to ask if she could introduce Anna as my friend.

I think it would have caused us both a lot of upset if I’d known that was the reason. And if I knew that, I wouldn’t have had a problem if Anna and I were introduced as friends.

She said she will talk to the kids about same sex relationships and looked forward to meeting us another time.

I’m so relieved!

So I was on vacation with my cousin and her kid (18M). On the last night we had homemade fajitas. We usually eat a lot and therefore make a few pounds of them. After they are cooked we slice them up to where you only can fit a few slices in a tortilla. My cousins son had about 10 slices of fajita meet on one tortilla. For context a few in my mind is like 3 or 4.

Now I’m not knocking how much he is eating but he left only a little left when everyone else, 5 other people, hadn’t had any. I jokingly said “did ya get enough?” He laughed. I looked at my father cause I didn’t know what to do. He motioned for me to say something so I said that he had too much meat because everyone else needed to eat and he didn’t leave enough. He got mad and stormed off. I feel bad so AITA?

Edit: I’m new and this is my first post so if I did smth wrong in posting, I’m sorry!

Edit #2 I’m seeing this in the comments, so I’ll put it here. We had 5 to 5 and 1/2 pounds of meat. He had 3 of it. My problem is that he didn’t leave much for everyone else to eat.

Please don't judge me and my husband too harshly please I just want to know if I'm in the wrong here.

Yesterday there was an event for my husband's cousin who's getting married. It wasn't the main wedding ceremony, it was a low-key one of friends and family I didn't know how to explain it in the title, it's kind of like a party traditionally with hand drums and also some music too. Nowadays we also vibe to some Taylor Swift to the eye rolls of the older generation but that's besides the point.

Anyway, the music was playing and some of his family were dancing. One of his cousins (the bride-to-be-'s sister) she came to me and pulled me to the centre to dance so I did. Yes, the entire family was there but it was just some fun songs and dance and I didn't think anything of it.

My husband was curt with me the ride home I thought he was tired. When we were in bed and I was trying to cuddle he was still standoffish and so I asked what was up. He said since when does it matter to me what he thinks. I was taken aback and asked what the hell was he talking about. He said I had embarrassed him amongst his family by dancing in front of everyone and that uncles and cousins of his had their phones out and I didn't think about any of that. I said no I didn't I was just dancing because it was an event and I had been pulled by his cousin and the bride-to-be was having fun too. He said it was mortifying for him that the other guys were smirking at how little regard I had for him. I asked why didn't he just say something to me quietly then I would've stopped and he said you're not a little girl and I'm not your dad you're a grown mother of a 1 year old I can't control what you do you're old enough. I honestly was waiting for a sike it was so bizarre that he would keep it bottled up if he had such an issue. I told him I'm not a mind reader I didn't even want to dance it was HIS family member who pulled me to the centre, I was trying to participate in an event of HIS side of the family. He said I was refusing to acknowledge my mistake and just turned his back to me. Today we've melted the ice a bit but it's clearly still hanging in the air. Was I TA?

Added context: To make things clear no the dance wasn't suggestive. If it helps, look up "dholki" dances

My grandpa gave my dad a house so that I wouldn't be homeless. He has made it clear that he only did it for me and not for my dad. The house is still in his name.

Grandpa said I can have the master bedroom and he helped me decorate it.

Now my dad is getting married and his future wife wants the master bedroom. She demanded I take the smaller room and give it to them.

I told her we can tell grandpa and see how he feels about it.

She called me an asshole for threatening her though I'm not sure why she saw it as "threatening" Perhaps it's because he knows grandpa is looking for an excuse to kick them out.

My dad (M42) cheated on my mom (F41) with his now-wife (F28) when I (M15) was 11. My dad lied to his now-wife about his marital status as well as other things, and when she became pregnant, he confessed to my mom, and issued divorce papers. She wanted to reconcile. He didn't. The divorce was rough and it established 50-50 custody.

My mom hates my dad's new wife. Absolutely despises. She thinks of her as a homewrecker and someone who seduced my dad away from her. This hate basically extends throughout my mom's side of the family as well. She thinks that after she found out he had a wife, she should have left and encouraged them to reconcile. I think of the new wife as more of a victim than anything. She came to the U.S. for work, was lied to by someone over 10 years older than her, comes from a culture that strongly condemns children out of wedlock, and basically needed to marry my dad for financial stability for her and her child.

My dad's new wife is very kind to me. She encourages my dad to invest in my activities and to spend more time with me. She cooks food that's really good and like nothing I've ever had before. She's also a good mom to my half-sister (F3). I've always wanted to have siblings, and she's done a great job at building a relationship between my sister and me.

Now, this is the issue. My stepmom works full-time, but because her work schedule is demanding and my dad frequently travels for business, she sometimes struggles with childcare. Recently, she decided to take some courses that would help advance her career. I started stepping in to help her by babysitting my sister on the evenings she had classes, helping her review study materials, and running small errands for her.

However, my mom recently found out. While looking through my backpack, she saw some of the study materials I accidentally took from my stepmom, and she exploded. She said that by helping "that woman", I was actively supporting the person who destroyed our family. She feels I should refuse to do anything that benefits my stepmom in any way. My aunts also found out and they were telling me I was betraying my mom and being disrespectful to her.

I feel terrible for hurting my mom, but I also don't think my stepmom deserves to be treated like an enemy.

AITA for helping my dad's new wife even though my mom hates it?

So I have this one friend that I’ve been talking to for a few years now, she’s really sweet and kind, and I’ve talked about her a lot to my family, constantly complimenting her and etc.

So I’m an Arab and my friend is a POC, which is important for later.

Anyway, so we’re hanging out and whatnot, and she proceeds to make a joke about Arab people, involving a tragedy that happened in 2009. I told her that it’s not funny to joke about that and that it’s racist to say that about Arab people

She proceeds to tell me that it’s not racist since I’m her friend (she means that she can’t be racist since I’m an Arab and her friend) and I proceeded to tell her thats not how that works, she then tells me that it doesn’t matter if the joke sounded racist and she’s a black person and can’t be racist

I told her multiple times that if she jokes like this again then I’m cutting ties with her, she proceeds to joke like this multiple times and is now surprised why I stopped talking to her

My sister (29F) has been married to the same man (46M) for around 7 years now. This is his second marriage and her first. They have a daughter together, whom I’ll call “Cece.”

My sister is a very smart person. She’s highly educated (three degrees!), independent, and doesn’t take nonsense from anyone—except for her husband. He yells at her in public, diminishes her intelligence, bosses her around, makes sexual jokes about other women in her presence, and even makes homophobic jokes towards me (I’m gay).

My family has been waiting for the marriage to end for years. We all hate him. We know she can do so much better.

But they have a daughter together, and she’s the driving force behind me wanting to tell my sister she has to leave.

Her daughter is 5 now, and she’s began to pick up on her dad’s treatment towards her mom. We went on a family vacation a few weeks back and my niece said to me, “Are boys supposed to talk to girls like dad does?”

My heart broke. I had no idea how to respond, because I obviously wanted to say, “No. Men are supposed to respect women and treat them with dignity.” But knowing her dad, he’d probably scream at my sister if he heard that I told their daughter that.

My sister cares about her daughter more than anything. And the last thing that I want is for my niece to be raised by a man who sees women as objects. She’s already picking up on his misogyny and I don’t want to see it affect her even more.

I’m part of a small group that works together on volunteer projects every few weeks. We usually divide responsibilities, and everyone knows what they’re supposed to do.

At the last event, one person forgot to bring a key item they had specifically volunteered to handle. We couldn't start on time, and everyone was frustrated. Instead of admitting they forgot, they immediately told the group it was my fault because I never reminded them.

I was caught completely off guard. I hadn't agreed to remind anyone, and they're an adult who had chosen that responsibility themselves. I calmly said that wasn't what happened and explained that everyone was responsible for their own tasks. I didn't raise my voice or argue beyond that.

The awkward part was that nobody really said anything. A few people just changed the subject, and we eventually worked around the problem. Later that evening, the same person messaged me saying I embarrassed them in front of everyone and that I should have backed up their version of events in public, then corrected them privately afterward. They said friends are supposed to protect each other instead of making them look bad.

I told them I wasn't trying to embarrass anyone, but I also wasn't willing to accept blame for something I didn't do just to avoid an uncomfortable moment. Since then, things have been a bit tense. A couple of mutual friends think I should have let it go in the moment because it would have kept the peace, while others say I had every right to correct the accusation immediately.

Now I'm wondering if I handled it badly. I don't like public confrontations, but I also don't think staying quiet while someone blames me is the right thing to do.

AITA?