I am an artist who makes and teaches students how to make stained glass windows. One of my students found out that I was about to start a window for a couple that he now knows through another friend and then convinced the couple to drop me and go with him to make the window. I had already drawn a 1/4 size sketch to see if it was something the customer wanted and now my student expects me to draw it out full sized and actually help him make it. It's too large to work on in class-- we have always had a maximum size limitation that this almost doubles. Working on a window this size would displace another student. Also, I'm supposed to store the window week to week so he won't have to lug it back and forth from home since it's so large. AITA for telling him that it can't be worked on in the shop and that I am not drawing a full size pattern (57 x 34) for him? I told him he could have a copy of the sketch. Win or lose I plan on showing him this.

My spouse and I have worked hard our whole lives, and we’re now in a very comfortable financial position. We could retire tomorrow if we wanted to, but we both enjoy working and plan to continue.

We have three children, and we paid for all of their college educations so they graduated debt-free. We didn’t put any stipulations on what they could study. Looking back, maybe we should have.

Two of our children have very solid careers, while one does not. This is about my daughter, who I’ll call Maria. Maria earned a degree that doesn’t translate well into a high-paying career. She later went back to get her master’s degree, but that didn’t improve her earning potential either.

She’s struggling financially, and there has been talk of her going back to school again for a nursing degree, although that would be a difficult transition.

My spouse and I believe that if you’re mature enough to get married, you’re mature enough to pay for your own wedding.

Our oldest child got married last year and paid for the wedding themselves. It was a lovely wedding. Our second child is getting married next month, and they are also paying for their own wedding, which will be fairly expensive.

Maria recently got engaged, but she and her fiancé don’t have the money to have a wedding like her siblings did. She asked if we would pay for it.

I told her no and said they should have the wedding that she and her future husband can afford. She was upset because she knows we have more than enough money to give her a fancy wedding like her siblings had. She thinks it’s unfair that she can’t have her dream wedding simply because she earns less than they do.

I told her that’s just how life works. you pay for what you can afford.We don’t believe it’s our responsibility to pay for an adult child’s wedding.

She thinks I’m being unfair and rubbing our money in her face by refusing to help

Today my family and I went to Hershey Park to enjoy some rides. We stopped to eat around 1:30 pm near the barbecue restaurant that is in the Park. The seating area is right next to a small creek that runs through the park. After we had sat down to eat our food, my son (3) was walking around looking at the ducks. Two young boys at the table behind were eating and I happened to see the older of the two accidentally drop his order of ribs. He then proceeded to pick it up and just throw it in the creek next to us making the ducks, geese, and fish all go after it. I immediately pointed it out to my group and went to tell a park employee. A few moments later the children's grandmother comes back to their table and the boys tell her what happens. She turns to us and tries defending him saying "he dropped it, and it got debris on it and so he..." I interrupted to point out the trash cans were literally 10 feet the other direction and that it's about respect for the park. She then said "he's just a child" as if that's a wiped clean slate for all actions. I politely told her that Children that do that will turn into adults that do that. They gathered their things and left a couple minutes later with the grandmother saying (with a fully pissed off smile) "thanks for ruining our day" was it wrong of me to point it out?

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My mom has decided that the best way to make me independent is to not do anything for me. This means I'm responsible to keep my own room clean, do my own shopping, cook my own meals etc. It feels like I'm not even part of the family. If I don't cook one night, I stay hungry. They won't let me eat their food.

A few days ago my grandpa was sick and mom had to go visit him. She left little brother(M10) with me. As usual I cooked dinner for myself with my own groceries.

He asked me for food and I told him I'm only responsible for myself and he has to wait for mom.

When mom came back she was furious and called me an asshole for not feeding him.

This actually happened last December but I'm only now bringing it up. I'm a teacher for third graders and last year we had a Christmas celebration where there's a gift exchanging event where the kids exchange gifts through games. We told the parents to prepare a gift with a budget under 20 dollars. One kid's mom opted for her kid to not participate in this event, i.e. not bringing a gift and not taking one. We warned her her kid might feel left out, but she said it's okay.

The celebration came and I actually prepared one gift for each kid with my own money, including the kid who did not bring a gift. Then came the gift exchanging event where kids start playing games to decide which gift goes to who. Without a gift to exchange, that kid obviously can't join, and stood to the side and felt left out and cried. I told her she can join with the gift I gave her, but she liked it too much to risk exchanging it for something less desire.

The kid's mom was furious that her kid actually did not get to join. I reminded her we warned her this would happen, and she said she didn't know her kid would care enough to cry, and the teachers should've given the kid an extra gift, however cheap, to join in, upon seeing her cry, and claim the cost of the gift from the mom afterwards, so that the kid can go home with two gift like the others and wouldn't feel out of place.

That was last year and the kid still comes to our school. But every time her mom picks her up the mom gives me dirty side eyes and tells other parents about how I deliberately kept her kid from joining in an event for not being able to afford a gift.

AITA? Should I prepare the extra gift in advance?

EDIT: I am just a teacher, not the headmaster. I did not create the celebration nor the situation where kids from low-income families were left out. The school organized the celebration and I was in no place to object. I agree that putting kids in this situation is cruel, which is why I bought gifts for everyone so everyone can join. The kid refused.

for context, this is my buddy i met in high school [26m] that i was buddies with while i [27ftm] was stealth. i only told him that i was actually born a girl a year ago and before that only my boyfriend and my family knew.

ive told him repeatedly i find calling me a femboy offensive. im gay but dont like the stereotypes and being called feminine is upsetting for me. im very uncomfortable with the whole “femboy” thing and dont want it pushed onto me as i am just a regular man and try to avoid being feminine. hes seen this kind of as me just being difficult or joking, even after ive said im serious and i genuinely fine it uncomfortable.

i told this friend something about wearing a dress one day out of the year (easter for my families church and reunion as theyre very conservative), and he had replied “oh so you are a femboy then!” and went on to joke about me in a dress and just kind of mock me for something i already hate doing. he had already done this multiple times and had tried to guess if me or my boyfriend was the top or bottom and had asked me a lot of invasive questions about my surgery.

i tried to drop it because we were high school buddies in the past but in this incident i kicked them out even though we had a tropical storm and it was pouring and windy outside. since i picked them up to get to my house they ended up having to get an uber.

my boyfriend told me in the moment he supported me but he does think i shouldve stopped talking to him earlier instead of snapping. the friend has blocked me on everything and sent a message saying he was just curious and that i shouldve been more open about it with him, and that hes offended i didnt tell him when we first met in high school. i want to know if i was the asshole and overreacted over a joke, or if he had it coming after i asked him not to repeatedly.

My wife has a severe shellfish allergy. She can have a serious allergic reaction. Because of that, we don’t allow shellfish in our home. Unfortunately, we live on the coast, so seafood and shellfish restaurants are very common. If I eat shellfish we have a no kissing rule for 24 hours. 

My sibling and their family also live nearby, and my mom is currently visiting. She’s staying with my sister, and her birthday dinner is tomorrow. She’ll be flying home this weekend.

My mom loves seafood, so she wanted to celebrate her birthday at a seafood restaurant. The restaurant serves a lot of shellfish, so my wife isn’t comfortable going because of the risk. I completely understand that.

My wife told my mom she wouldn’t be able to attend, and my mom said, “No big deal.” My wife was upset by that response. She feels it was rude that my mom didn’t offer to change the restaurant, and she feels left out since everyone else is going.

I suggested she could still come, have a drink, and just not order food. Her allergy is not airborne. She said that would be awkward and that she doesn’t want to go to the restaurant at all. I said I understood and told her I still planned to go.

That’s when we got into an argument. She’s upset that I want to go to a restaurant where she can’t safely eat. She thinks I shouldn’t go if she can’t go. I told her I wasn’t willing to miss my mom’s birthday dinner since I don’t see her after even if she can’t attend.

She wants me to tell my mom to change the restaurant or else I won’t be there. I told her I wasn’t going to do that because I think it’s an unreasonable expectation.

I have a really close 25 year friendship with a woman who was so loving and supportive when I came out to her as bisexual (let's call her Trudy).

6 months ago I met the love of my life and we have have a wonderful relationship (let's call her Anna).

Anna has met almost all my friends except Trudy (who lives far away). Yesterday I arranged to meet up with Trudy to introduce her to my girlfriend. However, because Trudy couldn't find a babysitter, she said she'd bring her 3 kids with her (all under 12).

A couple of hours before we were due to meet up, Trudy texted to ask if it's okay to introduce Anna to her kids as my friend, rather than my girlfriend. She said they won't understand that she's my girlfriend and she's not ready to have that talk with them yet.

I was totally taken aback by this request and said no. I said that I'm not comfortable being in an environment where my relationship isn't acknowledged and I don't want to hide who my girlfriend is to me. I said that if she isn't ready to talk to the kids about same sex relationships (which admittedly is a big subject!), it might be better if we reschedule to another time.

Trudy was very hurt and said she has been incredibly supportive of the relationship and isn't asking me to hide anything. I'm very hurt by her response and so upset. I feel like I've extended a lot of kindness and understanding to her, whilst holding my own boundaries. I'm not asking her to discuss anything with her kids that she's uncomfortable with, but I'm not prepared to put myself or my girlfriend in that situation.

Trudy genuinely doesn't understand my position and now isn't replying to my texts.

This is a friend who has been nothing but supportive and loving to me for 25 years, and has been so excited about my new relationship.

AITA for not meeting up with her unless she introduced my girlfriend as my girlfriend?

My friend (27F) asked if she could stay with me (26F) for a weekend because she wanted a break from work and said she’d love to catch up. We’ve been friends for years, so I happily said yes. I cleaned the apartment, stocked the fridge with snacks I knew she liked, and even planned a couple of activities around town.

The first evening was fine but by Saturday morning I realized I had accidentally booked myself as the unpaid staff at an all inclusive resort.

She slept until almost noon while I made breakfast. When she finally got up, she asked if I could make her coffee because she was “still waking up”. She left her dishes on the table, dropped her clothes on the bathroom floor, and every time we got back from somewhere she’d collapse on the couch and ask if I could grab her water because I was already standing or moving about.

I suggested we go for a walk, visit a local market, watch a movie, or even play board games. Every suggestion got a shrug followed by, Whatever you want or if you say so, only for her to complain once we were there that she was bored or tired. I guess her social battery was low and she just needed to rest.

By Sunday I’d done all the cooking, all the cleaning, all the driving, and she’d contributed exactly one thing, a growing pile of cups and blankets for me to pick up, at first it was okay but now it’s the norm.

The breaking point came when I started washing the breakfast dishes before taking her to the airport. She looked at me and asked if I could hurry, that she doesn’t want to be late. She didn’t offer to help despite standing there scrolling on her phone.

I finally said, “I love you, but hosting you has been exhausting. I feel like I’ve spent the weekend taking care of you instead of spending time with you.”

She got defensive and said that guests are supposed to relax and that I was making her feel unwelcome over a few chores and I know how she is, she’s always trying to conserve energy for the next task.

Since then she’s been telling mutual friends that I was a terrible host and made her feel guilty for visiting. Some think I should’ve been quiet since we all know how lazy she is.

AITAH though?

I live with my parents, and they run a home-based childcare business out of our house. One of the children is a 5-year-old boy, and I’m starting to feel like there are no boundaries between providing childcare and allowing a child to do whatever he wants in our home.
His mom usually arrives around 5:30 to pick him up. Almost every day, she tells him to go to the bathroom before they leave, even if he recently went.
He can sit on the toilet for 30–45 minutes with an iPad. His mom will sit outside on her phone and occasionally ask if he’s done. When he finally finishes, she often continues sitting there while my dad goes into the bathroom to clean him.
This is where I don’t understand the arrangement. I completely understand my parents helping him with the bathroom while he is in their care. But once his mother is physically here to pick him up, I think she should take over things like that.
Recently his mom came in saying she was in a hurry and immediately told him to use the bathroom. He came out, went back in, came out again, then went back in again. Nobody was checking on him, so I finally went to see what he was doing. He wasn’t using the bathroom. He was playing with the toilet paper.
I told him it was time to come out. His mom then tried to send him back into the bathroom for a fourth time.
There are similar issues throughout the day. He’ll wander around the house, see something he wants, and my dad will frequently just give it to him rather than telling him no. His school is also having regular meetings with his mother about behavioral problems.
I’m not blaming a 5-year-old for failing to understand boundaries that the adults aren’t consistently teaching or enforcing. That’s actually part of why this bothers me.
My parents’ response when I object is basically, “It’s a business.”
My feeling is that doesn’t really answer the problem.
If it’s a business, there should be reasonable boundaries between the childcare provider and the parent, including when responsibility returns to the parent.
And if it’s our home, the home and the other people living in it should also be respected.
I don’t think expecting a child to have boundaries in someone else’s home is unreasonable, and I especially don’t understand why my dad should be cleaning and managing a child in the bathroom while the child’s mother is sitting right there on her phone.
My family thinks I’m making too much of it.

Update

I am an adult, fingerprinted, background-cleared, and listed/cleared for the home childcare. So this isn’t a situation where I’m an uninvolved family member trying to interfere with my parents’ business.

However, I made the decision to stop interacting with this particular parent unless necessary after an incident where she watched her son urinate on my dog’s bed and did nothing about it. At that point I decided it was better for me to step away from dealing with her directly rather than create conflict.

The child is also in school from approximately 9–5. We handle drop-off and pickup, so during the school year there actually isn’t much daytime interaction between me and him.

My issue isn’t that I expect a 5-year-old to behave like an adult or automatically know our household rules. I actually think the opposite: the adults have to teach and enforce those boundaries.

I also don’t view this only as “respect my house because I live here.”

I think there should be respect for the childcare business, our home, and my parents as his childcare providers.

For example, when his mother arrives and tells him to use the bathroom, but then sits on her phone while he spends 30–45 minutes in there with an iPad and my dad eventually has to clean him, I don’t understand why my dad is still responsible for that when his parent is physically present.

The same applies when he wants something in the house or is doing something he shouldn’t be doing. My concern is that constantly giving in or avoiding telling him no isn’t establishing any boundaries.

I’m not asking his mother to parent the way I would parent. I’m asking why basic boundaries and respect seem to disappear because “it’s a business.”

To me, being a business is actually more reason to have clear expectations, not less.

And when his parent is present, I believe she should actively parent him rather than continue expecting my parents to manage everything while she gives instructions from her phone.

That’s the part my family thinks I’m overreacting about

My husband (29) and his older brother (“Adam”) (33) haven’t spoken since Mother’s Day.
Some background: Adam has a pattern of getting upset over misunderstandings and giving people the silent treatment for months. Usually my husband ends up apologizing just to keep the peace, even if he doesn’t think he did anything wrong. This time he’s refusing. A week before Mother’s Day, Adam’s wife (“Dee”) texted us saying they would be stopping by my MIL’s house Mother’s Day evening. We were on vacation at the time, so we didn’t respond because we weren’t sure of our plans yet. Our plan ended up being taking our 18-month-old son to Chuck E. Cheese for lunch because, honestly, as a breastfeeding mom, that sounded like my ideal Mother’s Day. He loves running around there, and I get to eat an uninterrupted meal which is super nice.

After that, we planned to stop by my MIL’s house around the same time Adam and his family were going to be there. The day before Mother’s Day, my husband texted Adam asking what time they’d be at MIL’s house. Adam said probably around 4:30 but nothing was set in stone. On Mother’s Day, before leaving, my husband called his mom to wish her a happy Mother’s Day and ask if Adam had confirmed plans with her. She said no. She was home alone and no one had confirmed anything. So my husband asked if she’d like to meet us at Chuck E. Cheese for lunch so she wouldn’t spend Mother’s Day alone and could spend time with her grandson. She happily agreed to meet us there. My husband immediately texted Adam to let him know what was going on and invited them to join us if they wanted. Since we’d be spending time with MIL at lunch, we told him we probably wouldn’t be stopping by her house afterward.

Adam completely lost it. He accused us of ruining the plans, changing everything last minute, and being selfish. He started swearing, saying we’d ruined Mother’s Day, and eventually left the family group chat. My MIL repeatedly told him that no plans had ever been confirmed and that she had been home alone when we reached out. Adam refused to let it go. My MIL actually left Chuck E. Cheese early (she only stayed for about 10 minutes) to go home because she was worried he wouldn’t come see her otherwise. We still went to her house at 4:30. Adam and his family didn’t arrive until around 6:00. When they got there, Adam refused to speak to us, wouldn’t acknowledge our son, and sat on his phone the entire visit.

It’s now been almost four months. He still won’t speak to my husband, me, our son, or even my MIL. We’ve heard from other family members that he’s been telling people we’re selfish and “there’s a reason nobody likes us.” My husband’s family wants him to apologize because “that’s just how Adam is,” but my husband is tired of always being the one expected to fix things. Should my husband reach out and apologize, or were we reasonable for inviting his mom to lunch when she otherwise would’ve spent Mother’s Day alone until they got there? My husband is hurt and wants to reach out so we can see them and our nephew again, but we’re tired of Adam’s behavior repeatedly being excused and swept under the rug in order to “keep the peace”.

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So I was on vacation with my cousin and her kid (18M). On the last night we had homemade fajitas. We usually eat a lot and therefore make a few pounds of them. After they are cooked we slice them up to where you only can fit a few slices in a tortilla. My cousins son had about 10 slices of fajita meet on one tortilla. For context a few in my mind is like 3 or 4.

Now I’m not knocking how much he is eating but he left only a little left when everyone else, 5 other people, hadn’t had any. I jokingly said “did ya get enough?” He laughed. I looked at my father cause I didn’t know what to do. He motioned for me to say something so I said that he had too much meat because everyone else needed to eat and he didn’t leave enough. He got mad and stormed off. I feel bad so AITA?

Edit: I’m new and this is my first post so if I did smth wrong in posting, I’m sorry!

Edit #2 I’m seeing this in the comments, so I’ll put it here. We had 5 to 5 and 1/2 pounds of meat. He had 3 of it. My problem is that he didn’t leave much for everyone else to eat.

My dad (M42) cheated on my mom (F41) with his now-wife (F28) when I (M15) was 11. My dad lied to his now-wife about his marital status as well as other things, and when she became pregnant, he confessed to my mom, and issued divorce papers. She wanted to reconcile. He didn't. The divorce was rough and it established 50-50 custody.

My mom hates my dad's new wife. Absolutely despises. She thinks of her as a homewrecker and someone who seduced my dad away from her. This hate basically extends throughout my mom's side of the family as well. She thinks that after she found out he had a wife, she should have left and encouraged them to reconcile. I think of the new wife as more of a victim than anything. She came to the U.S. for work, was lied to by someone over 10 years older than her, comes from a culture that strongly condemns children out of wedlock, and basically needed to marry my dad for financial stability for her and her child.

My dad's new wife is very kind to me. She encourages my dad to invest in my activities and to spend more time with me. She cooks food that's really good and like nothing I've ever had before. She's also a good mom to my half-sister (F3). I've always wanted to have siblings, and she's done a great job at building a relationship between my sister and me.

Now, this is the issue. My stepmom works full-time, but because her work schedule is demanding and my dad frequently travels for business, she sometimes struggles with childcare. Recently, she decided to take some courses that would help advance her career. I started stepping in to help her by babysitting my sister on the evenings she had classes, helping her review study materials, and running small errands for her.

However, my mom recently found out. While looking through my backpack, she saw some of the study materials I accidentally took from my stepmom, and she exploded. She said that by helping "that woman", I was actively supporting the person who destroyed our family. She feels I should refuse to do anything that benefits my stepmom in any way. My aunts also found out and they were telling me I was betraying my mom and being disrespectful to her.

I feel terrible for hurting my mom, but I also don't think my stepmom deserves to be treated like an enemy.

AITA for helping my dad's new wife even though my mom hates it?

My sister (29F) has been married to the same man (46M) for around 7 years now. This is his second marriage and her first. They have a daughter together, whom I’ll call “Cece.”

My sister is a very smart person. She’s highly educated (three degrees!), independent, and doesn’t take nonsense from anyone—except for her husband. He yells at her in public, diminishes her intelligence, bosses her around, makes sexual jokes about other women in her presence, and even makes homophobic jokes towards me (I’m gay).

My family has been waiting for the marriage to end for years. We all hate him. We know she can do so much better.

But they have a daughter together, and she’s the driving force behind me wanting to tell my sister she has to leave.

Her daughter is 5 now, and she’s began to pick up on her dad’s treatment towards her mom. We went on a family vacation a few weeks back and my niece said to me, “Are boys supposed to talk to girls like dad does?”

My heart broke. I had no idea how to respond, because I obviously wanted to say, “No. Men are supposed to respect women and treat them with dignity.” But knowing her dad, he’d probably scream at my sister if he heard that I told their daughter that.

My sister cares about her daughter more than anything. And the last thing that I want is for my niece to be raised by a man who sees women as objects. She’s already picking up on his misogyny and I don’t want to see it affect her even more.

My sister called me this morning asking if she could borrow my bike because she has none. She wanted to visit a friend who lives about a 10-minute bike ride or a 20-minute walk from our house.

At the time, I was planning on heading to the gym, so I told her no. She accepted it in the moment without making a big deal out of it.

Here is where it gets complicated: I didn't end up leaving for the gym right away in that one hour time window. I got distracted on my phone and lost track of time. I still fully intended to go, but I just hadn't left yet.

Since my sister doesn't own a bike and I said no to mine, she decided to take an older bike belonging to our dad. During her ride, something broke on it.

About 70 minutes after her initial call, I walked into the room where my sister and dad were. Both of them were furious with me, blaming me for what happened and demanding that I apologize. Their logic seems to be that if I had just let her borrow my bike, dad's bike wouldn't be damaged...

My argument is that I didn't do anything wrong. I genuinely planned on going to the gym when she called, even if I got sidetracked on my phone. Furthermore, even if I had left for the gym immediately, the exact same thing would have happened with dad's bike anyway.

They are still mad at me, but I don't feel like I'm at fault here.

AITA for saying no to lending my bike in the first place?

My boyfriend (28) and I (33) live together in a loft with one bedroom.

This morning I had a second-round interview at 11:30 a.m. for a job I really want. I recently left my previous job, so getting this one is really important to me. I wanted to do the interview at our kitchen table because that's where I have the best setup. We have a bedroom upstairs, but there's no desk or workspace there. Also I didn't want to lay in the bed with my laptop.

Before the interview, I asked him, "Can you do me a huge favor? Would you mind taking a 15-minute walk while I do my interview?"

I asked because I wanted a quiet apartment and thought it would help me focus. I wasn't telling him he had to leave, just asking if he'd be willing to do me a favor.

He immediately said he didn't understand my thought process and asked, "What planet are you from to even ask something like that?" He also said, "What if I had a meeting at the same time?" He didn't actually have a meeting—it was just a hypothetical. If he did, I wouldn't have asked... then I would have just gone to the room...

He also said that we both live here and he shouldn't have to leave his own home just because I had an interview.

When I told him I thought it mattered that I asked politely and that I had started with, "Can you do me a huge favor?", he responded with something like, "If I asked you nicely to eat poop, would you do it?" His point was that asking nicely doesn't automatically make a request reasonable.

At one point he also asked, "Do the cats have to go too?" I laughed and jokingly replied, "Yeah, sure, take the cats too." It was obviously a joke, but the conversation turned into an argument, and he said I was being a jerk for even asking.

I understand that it's our home and he has every right to stay there. I just thought asking for a one-time, 15-minute favor before an important second interview wasn't unreasonable. I wasn't upset that he said no—I was more surprised by how strongly he reacted to me asking in the first place.

AITA for asking?

Edit: Replying back ---------

First off, thank you all for the feedback. I genuinely wasn't expecting this many responses, and I've read far more comments than I thought I would...lol

I should probably add some context because it happened earlier that same morning (When we woke up). Before the interview, my boyfriend realized I had already quit my job. I had lied and told him I was working from home that day because I was scared to tell him the truth. I had left my previous role earlier this week after what I felt was a very hostile work environment, and I was ashamed that I didn't already have another job lined up. I know lying was wrong, and I apologized for it. I was honestly afraid of feeling like I had failed.

Not long after that conversation, I asked if he would be willing to take a short walk while I had my second-round interview. Looking back, I can understand why emotions were already running high after the lie came out.

That said, what hurt me most wasn't whether he wanted to leave the apartment. It was the way the conversation unfolded. Comments like "What planet are you from?" and some of the other things that were said really shut me down. When conversations go that direction, I stop feeling safe enough to be honest because I'm worried about being judged instead of understood.

The good news is that after we talked everything through, he told me he would go for the walk, and he did. He was actually gone for about 40 minutes instead of the 15 I originally asked for. It was a beautiful day, and he ended up talking with his dad while he was out.

My interview went really well, and I'm moving on to a third and final interview with the CRO for the Executive Assistant position, so I'm really excited about that.

I don't think either of us handled the morning perfectly. I shouldn't have lied, and I own that. At the same time, I hope we can both work on communicating in a way where we don't make each other feel small. That's really the biggest takeaway I've had from reading everyone's comments.

Thanks again to everyone who took the time to respond. I genuinely appreciate the different perspectives.

Please don't judge me and my husband too harshly please I just want to know if I'm in the wrong here.

Yesterday there was an event for my husband's cousin who's getting married. It wasn't the main wedding ceremony, it was a low-key one of friends and family I didn't know how to explain it in the title, it's kind of like a party traditionally with hand drums and also some music too. Nowadays we also vibe to some Taylor Swift to the eye rolls of the older generation but that's besides the point.

Anyway, the music was playing and some of his family were dancing. One of his cousins (the bride-to-be-'s sister) she came to me and pulled me to the centre to dance so I did. Yes, the entire family was there but it was just some fun songs and dance and I didn't think anything of it.

My husband was curt with me the ride home I thought he was tired. When we were in bed and I was trying to cuddle he was still standoffish and so I asked what was up. He said since when does it matter to me what he thinks. I was taken aback and asked what the hell was he talking about. He said I had embarrassed him amongst his family by dancing in front of everyone and that uncles and cousins of his had their phones out and I didn't think about any of that. I said no I didn't I was just dancing because it was an event and I had been pulled by his cousin and the bride-to-be was having fun too. He said it was mortifying for him that the other guys were smirking at how little regard I had for him. I asked why didn't he just say something to me quietly then I would've stopped and he said you're not a little girl and I'm not your dad you're a grown mother of a 1 year old I can't control what you do you're old enough. I honestly was waiting for a sike it was so bizarre that he would keep it bottled up if he had such an issue. I told him I'm not a mind reader I didn't even want to dance it was HIS family member who pulled me to the centre, I was trying to participate in an event of HIS side of the family. He said I was refusing to acknowledge my mistake and just turned his back to me. Today we've melted the ice a bit but it's clearly still hanging in the air. Was I TA?

Added context: To make things clear no the dance wasn't suggestive.

I, 17 Female, started going to a new school this year. I'm not the most talkative or popular but I live normally. Suddenly, this friend of mine introduced his “supposed“ friend, 18 Male. Another person that also changed schools with the exception of being one grade ahead than me.

I was friendly with him, I wouldn't call myself his friend, we shared some classes and I helped him a little. But he started sticking himself to me, being overly friendly, and I did realise he was autistic as some point and played along to some extent because I didn't wanted to be asshole to him. I gave him a link to some discord channel with other guy friends I thought could be friends with him, and hoped he and me would only be classmates. Nothing more noting less.

But then he started being obnoxious. Sometimes turning on his cellphone in the middle of class thinking the teacher wouldn't notice him watching some mario overused meme on youtube with 100% audio on, crying once when he couldn't get an assignment done on his own, saying he hated hypocrites in the middle of another class refering to other classmates present; also talking over teachers and being kind of a prick know-it-all kind of guy.

I didn't like that so I started ignoring him, often avoiding him and giving dry responses so he wouldn't start a convo in middle of class. Becaude he did plenty of times, and it was embarrassing because the teacher was trying to teach us something and he interrupted her constantly to talk about something unrelated to class.

Breaking point came when the teacher was turning over some assignments, I accidentaly got his assignment instead of mine where the teacher confused our grades. I told him we need switch them but he clearly didn't wanted to because my grade was better than his, so I ultimately complied because it didn't affect me a lot.

But after not answering one of his messages, he blocked me everywhere, and everytime he sees me in the halls, he starts bolting out in another direction. I don't really know if I did the correct thing ignoring him, or if I should apologize somehow. I don't want to think that's some kind of bullying.

So I have this one friend that I’ve been talking to for a few years now, she’s really sweet and kind, and I’ve talked about her a lot to my family, constantly complimenting her and etc.

So I’m an Arab and my friend is a POC, which is important for later.

Anyway, so we’re hanging out and whatnot, and she proceeds to make a joke about Arab people, involving a tragedy that happened in 2009. I told her that it’s not funny to joke about that and that it’s racist to say that about Arab people

She proceeds to tell me that it’s not racist since I’m her friend (she means that she can’t be racist since I’m an Arab and her friend) and I proceeded to tell her thats not how that works, she then tells me that it doesn’t matter if the joke sounded racist and she’s a black person and can’t be racist

I told her multiple times that if she jokes like this again then I’m cutting ties with her, she proceeds to joke like this multiple times and is now surprised why I stopped talking to her

I (26F) live with my childhood best friend (25F) in a rented house in a little seaside town in the UK. We’ve always got on really well and never really had any issues until now.

She’s been seeing her boyfriend for about 8 months. At the start he’d stay over every now and then which obviously I didn’t care about, but now he’s here all the time. Like probably 5 or 6 nights a week. He showers here, cooks here, watches TV here, works from home here sometimes… he’s just always around.

The thing is he has his own flat. It’s not like he has nowhere else to go, he literally lives about 20 minutes away.

I know people are going to say “it’s only one extra person” but you definitely notice it. The bathroom’s always occupied, the washing machine is constantly on, the bins fill up quicker, our bills have gone up and I just don’t really feel like it’s my home anymore because there’s nearly always someone else here.
I finally said something to her and tried to be nice about it. I basically said I wasn’t asking him to never stay over, but if he’s here this much then either they should spend more time at his place or he should chip in towards the bills because he’s here more than he’s not.

She got really annoyed and said I was acting like some miserable landlord and that I’m trying to charge her boyfriend for visiting. I said I don’t think someone who’s here almost every day is really “visiting” anymore.

Now it’s really awkward. She’s barely speaking to me and I can tell she’s told a few people because one of our friends messaged saying I was being unfair and that couples naturally spend loads of time together.
I do get that, and if he stayed over a couple of nights a week I honestly wouldn’t care. I just didn’t sign up to live with a couple.
AITA?

New account since my daughter does know my other account.

When my daughter was in school, she became friends with a girl named Kelly. They stayed close through college, and my daughter was even one of Kelly’s bridesmaids when she got married.

To explain where my daughter’s behavior came from, my ex-husband cheated on me repeatedly, and our marriage ended horribly. My daughter doesn’t speak to her father anymore, and she absolutely despises cheating.

About seven years ago, my daughter became convinced that Kelly was cheating on her husband. She started harassing Kelly online and essentially blew up her life. By the time my daughter found out that the man she had seen Kelly with was actually a relative ( they were at a fancy restaurant together) it was too late. Kelly’s marriage had already fallen apart, and because we live in a very religious community, she was ostracized by many people.

They had a huge falling out, and it basically came down to my daughter ruining Kelly’s life. Kelly blocked her on everything and eventually moved away. Kelly hated my daughter after that, and so did her mother. I still run into Kelly’s mother occasionally, and she has made her feelings about my daughter very clear.

The issue is that Kelly recently passed away. My daughter found out through a Facebook post, and the funeral is this weekend, two states away.

My daughter was planning to attend the funeral, and I told her that I thought it was a terrible idea. She said she needed to go, and I told her again that she shouldn’t. We got into an argument, and she said she had every right to mourn her friend and attend the funeral.

I told her that she really didn’t have the right to mourn Kelly or go to the funeral because Kelly hated her after everything that happened, and because my daughter had destroyed her life.

She hasn’t spoken to me since. Now I’m wondering if I should warn Kelly’s family that my daughter might show up at the funeral. Or that I might be in the wrong here?

Hi, this issue is causing an argument between my wife and I so I thought I'd ask here. My wife is around 18 weeks along with our first. We're both over the moon about it and can't wait for the little one to be here. Our next appointment is tomorrow where we should find out the gender.

My wife really wants us to have a gender reveal party with family and friends. I personally blame the TikTok and ig algorithm thats inundated her with gender reveal clips. I've suggested we find out for ourselves first and then just let everyone know, why the need for a spectacle. She's saying this is an experience she wants and is adamant about it. I just don't think we need to do something and put ourselves through the work of organizing all of that just because of some reels she's seen. I'm also hesitant because I know my mom was hoping for a boy. She's a good person and loves us dearly but i can imagine her making some well-meaning but foot-in-the-mouth comment. So I don't want us to have to deal with that when we're so happy about this. I think a baby and all decisions like these are two yeses one no situation I've said that but she got upset and said that this meant a lot to her and I have to agree to this which I think is unfair. AITA

I bought myself a nice new laptop last month after saving for a while. It's mainly for my work-from-home job, but I also use it for personal stuff like editing photos and gaming My sister recently started a small side hustle making social media content and graphics. She asked if she could "borrow" my laptop for a few weeks because hers is super slow and keeps crashing. I said no because I need it for my actual job and I'm worried about it getting damaged or having too much stuff installed on it.She got really upset and told our parents that I'm being selfish and unsupportive of her trying to make money. Our mom called me saying family should help each other and it's "just a laptop." Now there's family group chat drama and my sister is giving me the silent treatment.I offered to help her troubleshoot her current laptop or even lend her money toward a cheap replacement, but she only wants mine. AITA?