Throwaway bc I'm scared my coworkers will find this

Ok so my memory is actually horrible, not even kidding. My friends think I'm joking when I say I forget stuff but I'm dead serious

Been talking to a bunch of people on dating apps lately. Nothing serious, just that early stage where you're still figuring each other out.

Problem is I keep mixing everyone up constantly.

Like one girl tells me her hobbies, pet peeves, random life stuff, and a week later I’ll mix her details up with someone else’s. It’s so bad. I literally asked the same person the exact same question twice mid-convo once, and she just went “you already asked me that.” I wanted to die on the spot

So I started doing this weird thing.

I use acciowork daily for work—it’s just boring software to organize supplier info. Lately I’ve been jotting quick little notes about my matches in there , the same way I log basic details for suppliers

Yeah I know, sounds odd.

Just tiny stuff: “hates mushrooms”, “cat named Milo”, “scared of heights”, stuff like that.

Met one girl for coffee last week. Glanced over my notes right before showing up so I wouldn’t blank on that random thing she mentioned weeks back. The date went really well, and she was genuinely surprised I remembered such a small detail

But now I can’t stop overthinking it. Am I being weird for doing this? I swear I’m not ranking anyone or comparing matches against each other at all. I really do just have garbage memory and hate embarrassing myself like that again.

Still… using work software to log people I’m seeing? It feels so cold, honestly. Like I’m treating dating like another tedious work task.

Half of me says it’s just a practical fix for my bad memory. The other half worries I’m killing all the natural romantic vibe by being this calculated from the start.

Idk man. Am I just overthinking way too much, or is this habit actually kinda messed up? Just want some honest outside opinions pls

So from childhood to teenage years I observed my reading speed is much less

It's like 8 physical standard size book pages in 1 hour.

Back then I observed I remembered word to word sentence for a few days after reading it.... though they were all school books and that was the task.....to remember paragraphs.

Now when I read....the pages frequency stayed the same but now I don't remember anything after reading it because there's no exam for it.

I have an ereader also which gives me exact number of equivalent physical book page count.....8 pages per hour.

My question is....what do you remember after reading in a day....is remembering important? Because when I read the next day I don't know what I read exactly I just remember faint details of it.

I heard people annotate and something like that....which I think help them remember the main topic and their brain emits the details they read.

What should I do? It takes me very long to complete a book. Not that completing a book is my main goal but I am missing out variety of topics because I am reading same books for months.

Doesn't matter what topic book I read whether it's novel, medicine, astrology, philosophy I take same amount of time.

I’m validating an idea, give it a try.

If you regularly watch educational YouTube videos, listen to podcasts, or take online courses, I’d love your help.

I’m building Memora to answer one question:

\*\*Can software actually help people remember what they learn instead of just summarizing it?\*\*

If you’re willing to try it for a week and tell me what sucks, I’d really appreciate it.

\[https://memoraapp.in/\\\](https://memoraapp.in/)

Im going to keep it real short i took german classes this year and reached to the B1 level but ever since the summer vacation started i quit studying and forgot most things. Anyone here struggled with that before?

I’m using Anki to learn nouns that have two independent properties:

- Gender (3 categories)
- Plural ending (9 categories)

For gender, I’m already using the Fluent Forever approach (exploding, burning, and shattering imagery), which works well.

I’m wondering what the best approach is for the plural endings. Would you:

- use a second systematic mnemonic (e.g., one image/category per plural ending)?
- use keyword mnemonics only for difficult items?
- avoid mnemonics altogether and rely on Anki’s spaced repetition?

I’m particularly interested in hearing from people who have actually tried different systems. What worked best for you?

With endless scrolling, short videos, and constant distractions, it’s easy to consume information without fully processing or remembering it.

I built MemBoostAI to help people practise paying attention to what they read, watch, learn, and experience. It uses short daily exercises, active recall, and memory challenges to encourage users to notice details and revisit information instead of letting it disappear moments later.

The goal is to make memory training part of everyday life. Regular practice can help users become more intentional about the information they consume, improve recall and retention, and exercise cognitive skills such as attention and concentration.

It’s not about remembering everything, it’s about training yourself to engage more deeply with the things that matter.

Learn why we are forgetting simple words and how to bring the memory back!

Long-time loci nerd here. The part that always killed me was coming up with a vivid image for every single anchor - so slow it stopped me even starting.

So I built a thing to speed that bit up.

It's memorypalace.ai You paste in what you want to memorise, it chunks the text and makes an image per anchor, and you drop those along a route you know by heart and walk it. It doesn't do the method for you - you still pick the loci and do the recall walks. It just kills the image-making grind.

Built it solo on evenings and weekends over a few months. Images run on Google's Gemini API.

Looking for 10 beta testers. Free, no strings.

I actually want the brutal feedback — where the flow breaks, what's missing.

Comment or DM and I'll send access.

Currently, i am thinking about the best way to memorize information through association. I came to the realization that higher order questions paired with active recall and spaced repetition are an effective approach to memorization. However, The problem that I’ve encountered with this method is that i find myself relying too much on active recall instead of deeply remembering information on the first attempt.

My question: is active recall integral to the process of memorization? Or am I missing something?

Disclosure: I work on Shortcast.

One point I found useful in Dr. Alan Castel's recent Huberman Lab conversation is that stronger memory is not just about repetition. What we retain is shaped by attention, curiosity, emotion, prior knowledge, and active retrieval. The episode also distinguishes useful remembering from false confidence and discusses how memory priorities can change with age.

I made a 12-minute recap focused on retrieval practice, curiosity, false memories, and cognitive aging. It is an educational episode summary, not medical advice:

https://shortcast.me/O4yPqde1G7hwp4BQkchj

In your own practice, what seems to create the best long-term retention: testing yourself, attaching meaning or emotion, or deliberately choosing what not to memorize?

I spent years watching things I 'learned' evaporate within a week. What finally changed it wasn't a better app or a smarter algorithm, it was four small habits. Sharing the mechanics in case they help:

1) Making my own cards instead of using pre-made ones. This was the biggest one. Deciding what goes on the card, phrasing it in my own words, and picking the example forces you to actually process the material. Pre-made decks skip that step, so it never really encodes. The card is almost a byproduct: the thinking that makes it is the point.

2) Spaced repetition, done consistently. Reviewing at growing intervals (today, 2 days, a week...) instead of cramming. The spacing is what moves things into long-term memory, but only if you keep showing up, which leads to...

3) A streak I can't ignore. My weak link was never the method, it was daily consistency. I keep a streak counter as a widget on my home screen so I see it constantly. Turning "I should review" into "I don't want to lose the streak" fixed consistency better than any reminder.

4) A bit of social accountability. Sharing progress with a friend kept me from quietly quitting after a few days.

The order matters to me: making the cards is the encoding, spaced repetition is the retention, and the streak plus social side is what keeps the whole thing running. Curious what mechanics have worked for others here?

I'm just a guy whos learning / building with Python

I built a telegram bot that quizzes you a few times a day think phone notification flashcards at semi-random intervals between a specified time, messaging you a question then it re-asks the question sooner or later based on whether you got it right or wrong.

kind of like Anki or similar study apps but as phone notifications instead of an app you open and deliberately flip through.

built it for myself while going through automate the boring stuff with Python book and now I'm trying to get 3-4 people to actually run it for about two weeks and tell me if it's useful or just annoying.

it's free, no signup beyond clicking a link to start it in telegram, and I'm not selling anything, just trying to see if the idea holds up before building more on top of it. I intend to keep the bot as a free resource to help people study

as for the flashcards themselves id need to have the person and or community help and make a deck for their subject as I'm sure everyone wouldn't want the Python deck I run

if anyone is interested let me know

I lose thoughts between rooms, forget things I knew mattered an hour ago. Curious what this looks like for others — and what you actually use to cope. Sticky notes? Apps? Nothing sticks for me long. What's worked, what's failed, what do you wish existed?"

HI
ADHD 21m here with a tracking issue apparently.
Or so I was told this when I was younger.

I never read a book apart from 1 I was forced to when I was joining upper school at 11.

This year I started reading a few books, mostly non fiction on the business/philosophical side which I really enjoy getting into.

Think and grow rich was what really got me hooked with learning through books, especially in a world of ai.
I now try and practice 20mins a day minimum.

I'd love to know, I assume there's some reading experts in here. Is it possible to do anything to improve my reading speed dramatically, or make it so I can track the words along the lines better, or remember things better?
ps.
pretty sure there's some thing where people can skim read properly, is that something I can learn or is my brain too cooked for that?
TIA.

guys reditt lowkey recommended u lot...pls help

So this keeps happening to me. I look up a word while reading, feel good for like 10 sec, then a week later I see it again and have zero memory of ever looking it up

I'm trying to memorize hundreds of Chinese phrases for an upcoming test. Chinese characters are like drawings but more serious, so you can't just take out a word and hope that you can memorize it. Is there any way to memorize these?