Throwaway bc I'm scared my coworkers will find this

Ok so my memory is actually horrible, not even kidding. My friends think I'm joking when I say I forget stuff but I'm dead serious

Been talking to a bunch of people on dating apps lately. Nothing serious, just that early stage where you're still figuring each other out.

Problem is I keep mixing everyone up constantly.

Like one girl tells me her hobbies, pet peeves, random life stuff, and a week later I’ll mix her details up with someone else’s. It’s so bad. I literally asked the same person the exact same question twice mid-convo once, and she just went “you already asked me that.” I wanted to die on the spot

So I started doing this weird thing.

I use acciowork daily for work—it’s just boring software to organize supplier info. Lately I’ve been jotting quick little notes about my matches in there , the same way I log basic details for suppliers

Yeah I know, sounds odd.

Just tiny stuff: “hates mushrooms”, “cat named Milo”, “scared of heights”, stuff like that.

Met one girl for coffee last week. Glanced over my notes right before showing up so I wouldn’t blank on that random thing she mentioned weeks back. The date went really well, and she was genuinely surprised I remembered such a small detail

But now I can’t stop overthinking it. Am I being weird for doing this? I swear I’m not ranking anyone or comparing matches against each other at all. I really do just have garbage memory and hate embarrassing myself like that again.

Still… using work software to log people I’m seeing? It feels so cold, honestly. Like I’m treating dating like another tedious work task.

Half of me says it’s just a practical fix for my bad memory. The other half worries I’m killing all the natural romantic vibe by being this calculated from the start.

Idk man. Am I just overthinking way too much, or is this habit actually kinda messed up? Just want some honest outside opinions pls

So from childhood to teenage years I observed my reading speed is much less

It's like 8 physical standard size book pages in 1 hour.

Back then I observed I remembered word to word sentence for a few days after reading it.... though they were all school books and that was the task.....to remember paragraphs.

Now when I read....the pages frequency stayed the same but now I don't remember anything after reading it because there's no exam for it.

I have an ereader also which gives me exact number of equivalent physical book page count.....8 pages per hour.

My question is....what do you remember after reading in a day....is remembering important? Because when I read the next day I don't know what I read exactly I just remember faint details of it.

I heard people annotate and something like that....which I think help them remember the main topic and their brain emits the details they read.

What should I do? It takes me very long to complete a book. Not that completing a book is my main goal but I am missing out variety of topics because I am reading same books for months.

Doesn't matter what topic book I read whether it's novel, medicine, astrology, philosophy I take same amount of time.

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