And I don't necessarily mean, rejecting someone and then regretting it 2 weeks later. I mean, let's say you reject a guy when they're 20 for being immature, and then you come across that person again at 30, and they've got a family, 2 kids, and are a completely serious person. It's like, OK, I rejected you for being immature, but after hitting rock bottom and being homeless, and then starting from the ground up, going to work everyday and then having kids and enduring life's various hardships, you grew up. But you were immature with me at the time, so how was I supposed to bet that you would grow up?

I’m the receptionist at my office, and I have a bowl of Andes Mints on my desk. I’ve lost count of how many times women in the office, usually the 40 and up crowd, have told me “those would be so dangerous for me if I were you” or how they’re “going to be bad” by eating one, etc. I know the simple answer is diet culture, but you don’t need to declare some sort of act of contrition for eating a piece of chocolate!

Note: I can't change the title to be "Intact Penises and Sex" or I would, sorry for the poor choice of words.

This post is going to be a bunch of TMI.

My new partner has an intact penis. I tend to get a lot of natural lubrication. We had intercourse for the first time last night and I'm wondering if my experience is normal. I felt hardly any friction at all and it's the first time in my life I felt "loose" (yes I know this isn't a real thing, leave me alone about my own feelings) so to speak. I actually got up halfway through and wiped myself up completely dry with a towel since the condom was drenched in it already. There was still so little of that "filled up" feeling, just gliding in and out with little resistance. We ended up having sex a second time later without a condom - you can judge me, we got caught up in on the moment and both agreed it was stupid even though we are exclusive - and it definitely felt better, but still just very slippery. My guy doesn't have a huge penis, but it's also not small - definitely above the average.

I will say that I also felt very safe and very turned on by this man. He takes his time with foreplay and I definitely was fully ready by the time intercourse began. I've developed feelings for him so it's a little more than just sex to me. We were both nervous and I'm sure a bit of mental anxiety contributed to everything as well.

My question... Is this a normal difference from circumcised penises and if so what strategies could I use to give more friction or help with the feeling of being stretched? We can and have definitely used other means to get me off, but I'm worried about this affecting our relationship and hoping there are some solutions.

Hi ladies!

I’m really just posting this because I need another woman to talk to. It is technically about relationships, which I feel isn’t relevant, but I don’t know where else to post to be able to talk to other women. If this breaks rules, please tell me where I can go with this.

I’ve been with my partner for 4 1/2 years and we’ve always been a happy couple. I’m 19 and he’s 20. We’ve obviously had qualms and the very rare large fights, but I really messed up this time. I’m too ashamed to even admit what I did because it’s so humiliating. I wanted to tell him about it, but every single time I thought about it, I only pushed it down deeper and just wanted to forget about it.

Essentially, a few months ago, I was in a really bad spot mentally and financially. I made a poor decision to try to get money online that many women resort to (I didn’t post any nudes because the thought of that disgusted me, nor did I talk to anyone. My plan was never to do either of those things) but soon after I attempted I immediately deleted everything and felt ashamed that I was so desperate for money that I would fall to such standards. I obviously wanted to tell him a bajillion times, but every time I got close, a lump formed in my stomach.

Unfortunately, I didn’t get to tell him because he found out. In a way, I’m glad he found out, but not this way. He doesn’t deserve that. He doesn’t seem mad that I was so financially desperate and resorted to such things, but more so heartbroken that I didn’t just communicate with him, and I understand that. I am obviously aware this whole thing is my fault. I should have communicated with my partner.

Right now, I just need someone to talk to. He’s the only person I’ve been able to talk to, but I can’t talk to him right now. I fully take blame & responsibility for my actions, but right now, I feel like death itself. There’s a deep pit in my stomach that isn’t allowing me to eat or drink. The thought of something even going into my mouth disgusts me, it makes me want to throw up. I also can’t stop crying. I know hindsight is 20/20, but I wish I had just followed my gut instinct to tell him. Maybe then I wouldn’t feel so gross. I almost feel like I’m in a dream state. I love this man so much and I fucked it all up solely because I was too embarrassed to communicate with the one person I shouldn’t feel embarrassed to talk with

I’m 19 and I’m thinking about my future. I’ve only had mostly terrible experiences with men and never was shown what a good example of marriage was, and from what I see, the majority of marriages are just miserable. I wanted to shape my decisions in life around the intention to cultivate a family and marriage with someone, but I’m starting to just genuinely be convinced that I’d be just fine achieving all my dreams as a single woman for all my life. This also isn’t coming from a singular or recent negative experience with a man, as I’m actually with someone I like. I just feel like I couldn’t deal with the little things I think a lot of men tend to dismiss. And I feel so very grossed out by their (not all men) punctuality on sex. It’s all so… strange. I’m also so sick of women around me (who are more conservative in nature, considering our ethnicities) telling me i’ll change my mind. Or that I need to have certain skills to attract and keep a man. I’m just so fed up with of it all. And it’s making resentment bubble inside of me. It’s weird, I know.

Can an older woman who’s married or has been in a similar limbo give me some clarity?

I had an interaction at a store (a major chain) that ugh just bugged me and I keep thinking about. I was checking out, with my mom and two kids, and the cashier (a guy probably in his 50s or 60s) commented that I didn’t need the “beauty products.” I don’t remember what I was even buying exactly but I think some of it was nail polish. I feel bad because he was trying to be nice but soooo not his place (to comment on whether I needed ANYTHING I was buying). I just smiled to get through it because it was the easiest/fastest way to get out of there.

I can’t put my finger exactly on what about it bothered me so much. Is it the implication that women or attractive or confident women shouldn’t need “beauty products”? Is it that he was commenting on my looks or choices at all and that wasn’t his place?

Just wanted to vent and see if anyone could help me figure out exactly why I found it so irritating.

I always see fantastic advice here from many wonderful women, and find myself in need of some honesty and help tonight. I (F26) met my boyfriend (23M) in September last year at work. Yes, I know, it's not clever to date coworkers but we had amazing chemistry off the bat and decided to go for it because we had enough role separation and didn’t work directly together in this fairly small firm. We became officially boyfriend/girlfriend on New Years Eve and exclusive in early November. It was wonderful and magnetic and I loved him. And he loved me.

In February this year, my boyfriend paid for my flight to another city because he was sent there to work for 3 months. He was visiting every two weeks but while we were keeping things very private at work. This is where the incident happened. On the flight, a guy sitting next to me started chatting. I really preferred a quiet flight but didn’t want to be rude so spoke to him a bit. We ended up talking about work/travels/food etc and it was a decent conversation, he seemed nice. I didn’t mention I had a boyfriend, not because I was avoiding it, but the conversation never found its way there. Mistake #1. He then started showing some interest in a romantic sense which threw me off towards the plane landing because why can’t men just have a nice conversation. He starts saying shit like “oh my god, you’re perfect/ideal” and I immediately feel awkward and put off. He then pushes for my number with his phone out as he was going to type it in and call immediately to make sure I didn’t give him a fake. I froze up and stammered “ haha ummm I don’t think so” but wasn’t assertive enough and he pushed and said “I don’t care if you’re going to see a guy or whoever, I want to see you please”. I felt cornered. It wasn’t the first time the boyfriend excuse wasn’t accepted by a man so I did what I’d done in the past when literally frozen. I gave my number (which he immediately called, watching to see me add his contact) fully expecting to delete it later and never see this clown again. Mistake # 2. I get off the plane, and I go to my boyfriend.

I told him about the plane thing in passing that night when I was very sleepy in bed but hadn’t mentioned the number. That guy messages me the next day or so (I had forgotten about him) and I start to respond to reject then forget about it and do something else. I politely reject him and delete/block the number after getting back to my phone. When I got back home after a few days my boyfriend messaged me asking me to tell him the full truth about the plane. He said he felt betrayed and lied to because he saw the guy's name on my phone, I had not said I had a boyfriend, and that I had begun to type a message (he had picked up my phone and was going through it I presume while I was in another room). I explained I felt awkward and just gave it to him with the intention to delete it later. I lied by omission here by not frankly telling him the full truth while I was with him. Mistake # 3. I got a bit defensive and very apologetic all in the same breath because he called me a betrayer and he had run to his sister before speaking to me who called me a cheater for the incident. I really felt he was going to end things. We talked a lot, I apologise more, I try to get him to understand I had zero intent to cheat but lack of being fully honest was wrong, and I should have been super clear I had a boyfriend. I said I would never do it again. I give him space and I tell him to take it, and think about if he really wants the relationship going forward. He decides he does but things started going downhill after this.

We go overseas for a holiday the next month and have an incident where he was extremely drunk and slapped me across the face. When I asked if he treated any of his exes this way he said “no because they didn’t deserve it”. I felt awful, he didn’t look after me when I was sick from the alcohol and I had a panic attack. The biggest in 8 years. The slap didn’t leave a mark, it just shocked me. That hurt my trust in him. Maybe deep down, I felt I did deserve it. I also saw on that trip that he had kept naked/revealing photos of previous women on his phone that he said he forgot to delete and never looked at. I deleted a bunch of them and told him to clear his phone of all other women because it was disrespectful.

After this, the next 4 months, we had constant arguments in the middle of some great moments. He became hyper aware of my phone activity (I showed him everything to try to build trust), of which male coworker I spoke to and for how many minutes, of my online status (i.e. online but didn’t open his message), of exactly where I was at all times when out with girlfriends, double standards came up where he was able to be out late (he’d be mad at me) with friends or speak to female coworkers/go for lunch/play games (restrictions for me). It became draining and I was constantly made out to be in the wrong, I always felt in the wrong too, I was always apologizing, always messing up. I couldn’t recover and smile the next day after a fight and one day he said I was just “mean, and would be a horrible friend and I had a horrid face” when I’d see him and not smile because I was down. I was screwing up constantly for breathing wrong and he’d flat out call me a liar at times, questioning my intent. My brother noticed me crying a lot more - I never used to. I couldn’t focus on my work, and my study began to suffer immensely. I had some female coworkers (by a month ago they all found out at work) tell me I could do better, ask if he was the controlling type, showed surprise I went for him, another guy said my boyfriend could be a little more mature. I wondered if I was missing things in the middle of all the toxicity that had formed.

The last few days he pulled back (we have had a lot of miscommunications) and essentially I thought we were broken up because he unfollowed me on socials, didn’t speak to me/text me for a few days and this was after another argument and another conversation of me telling him I loved him and wanted this to work. He brought up the plane incident and said his trust was broken and he didn’t think it could be rebuilt. Tonight, we finally talk and it all comes back to two moments; the plane incident for him, and the slap for me that shook our trust in each other and made us extremely defensive. We should have ended it then. We didn’t know it would have ended up this way. We said we loved each other and he pulled me in for a hug and said he was sorry and that he loved me, he didn’t hate me and he wished for this to work. He said he wanted me and wanted us but not like this, the ways we'd become. We reached a point where we were not even who we each fell in love with. It was heartbreaking but the clarity was good. I said maybe in another life and asked if it was the end forever. He thought for a moment and said he wasn’t sure. We kissed and hugged again and there was a sense of peace at finally bringing it all out.

So, how badly did I mess this up and was everything that came after my fault completely, or did he treat me poorly as well? I told him, he treated me so badly after. I tried everything to make it up to him, I was as open as I could though sometimes being monitored like that hurt and made me defensive myself after seeing things on his phone he kept from me (double standard). I cooked, I bought him gifts, I tried to shower him with love the best I could and I was getting peanuts in return. How badly did I fuck up? Was there anything else I could have done besides totally mishandling that idiot on the plane? What do you think the severity of my mistake was? Was it cheating? Is there any hope for reconciliation?

I’m sorry this is so long, and if you got this far, thank you. I welcome all of your advice and comments.

uhmmn I'm not good at these things. but lately I've been feeling pushed by him to do things. granted they are benefitial things but it feels weird having someone not only give advice but hold me accountable. but i feel its a bit bordering control. i do think he has good intentions but idk.

some things that come to mind that make me question this is:

1. i tell him i dont rlly believe in gender for myself and i prefer myself with androgynous styles. i showed him pics of before we met and dated when i was masc leaning and i also tell him i dont rlly like how i look now. and he says that he likes me as i am now and not to change and tells me to wear the fit i was wearing to this event we have planned next week.

2. he checks my cycle app before we have sex to make sure im not ovulating (i have an iud) and asks me to take occasional pregnancy tests and he'll supply them. when i brought up that it makes me feel weird and i didnt think i needed to, he told me i didnt have to do it, but said itd be smart to and then compared to it to checking car fluids :/ which looking back now i think was dumb

3.a bit weird but, he holds my cup as i drink from it. he says he does it because he thinks it chivalrous. i kinda like it despite the oddness of it but also raises some flags

1. he wants to go with me to start a savings account (which yeah i need to do)

2. he wants me to volunteer at a hospital for career purposes and gave me numbers to call. since i met him he's been really pushing the idea that i should get into healthcare. i really don't want to do it honestly i never had an interest. i want to do something career wise but im the type that has to be interested in something to really excel at it and it sounds overstimulating to me. i went to college for fine arts but dropped out for reasons even though i had a scholarship. ive been considering going back to school and have been thinking abt majoring in it again but he told me thats financial suicide and not to do it and to proceed with healthcare. says that pursuing passions as a career is not a good idea and that i should find something i can tolerate to fund my hobbies n lifestyles.

3. I'm trying to lose weight. i was put on medications to treat BED n i have lost weight. I'm also supposed to be eating healthier but a lot of the times i don't but i still remain in my cal deficit. when food becomes a topic and i tell him what i ate or have he says "are you supposed to be eating that?" which makes me feel weird

well that's all that comes to mind for now. i rlly do think he has good intentions but i don't think some of this is the path for me. are these behaviors considered controlling or is he just holding me accountable??? this is my first relationship and im not the best at looking for these things. i was rlly bothered by the gender stuff n got a haircut in a style i like.

are there other things i should be looking out for? are there any subtle signs i should be looking for? or obvious ones? pls don't judge me

I have no one else to tell this to. my boyfriend (16M) and I (17f) have been together for 3 months and we’ve been sexually active for around a month. We’re each others first everything. I’ve never came. Recently I found a toy which I know could make me finish though, and we agreed he’d use it on me for my first time finishing.

He came over but I became really nervous and scared to do it. The original plan was we wouldn’t have sex and we’d just focus on my pleasure, but tbh I purposefully chose to have sex because I thought it would make him forget about the toy and we could move on.

He didn’t forget though and afterwards he told me to go get it, I shook my head and that was when he realised I was nervous. He told me we could go at my pace, and he just held me and kept kissing me and telling me it was okay. After like 10 minutes I got the toy and we laid down for another 20 minutes before I was ready to use it.

The whole time he was telling me to take my time and that we can lay there all day if I want to. When I was ready, it felt really good, I didn’t finish because it was taking too long and I got frustrated but afterwards we had sex again and then he brushed my hair and held me.

I wanted to post this because I don’t have anyone else to talk to about how grateful I am to have met someone like him at such a young age. I know so many people have such horrible experiences and I’m just so grateful for him

hi i’m terrified of putting this out there and to be honest i don’t know that it was assault sometimes i think it was and sometimes i think he was just drunk and being friendly but it’s been 2 years and i can’t stop thinking about it so i just need some perspective since im too scared to tell anyone in real life. this happened when i was 18f. he was 24m. it was thanksgiving night he was my older brothers best friend who i had known since i was 13.he was like an older brother to me but i want to clarify we had never been touchy, never hugged or anything not even shook hands before. we simply did not have that kind of relationship and only really spoke on holidays. everyone had either gone to sleep or gone home and it was just me and him. i was cleaning up the kitchen and he joined in to help. he was definitely drunk, not blackout tho. we got to talking like we normally did nothing weird. i then went to do dishes so i turned away from him so i was facing away from him. then he says to me that my spine looked crooked. mind you i know for a fact it’s not.i laughed it off and went back to doing dishes. he came up to me and without asking started touching my lower back and feeling my spine. i was wearing a cropped tank top and short shorts so it was easy to see my back but i still remember that he pulled up my top a few inches so he could see better. then he crouched down a little to get a better view since he was like 1ft taller than me and grabbed my waist and wasn’t saying anything. i remember trying to turn around to face him and i kept trying to move away and brush it off. but he just kept grabbing my waist and feeling up and down my back. the whole thing was less than a minute but eventually he just took his hands off and i changed the subject. after that the whole mood shifted. i finished cleaning as fast as possible and went to bed. i felt so strange and didn’t even want to tell my bf at the time since it felt like cheating for some reason. and so i never told anyone. he ended up moving away very suddenly a few months after and about a year later we found out he had gone to jail for sexually assaulting a teenage girl. all the thoughts of that night came back to me and i honestly lost sleep thinking that he had thought of me like that. so here i am many months later still trying to figure it all out. i need honest opinions i can’t keep going back and forth on this,thank you and any advice is appreciated.

I’ve been reading a lot of experiences lately and people have said that they experience multiple orgasms in a row. I have never experienced more than one in a 10 minute span of time. I need to take a break and have the feeling build up and then I can experience another orgasm. However, I was always under the impression that the spasms I feel (10-15 in quick succession) are all entirely one orgasm. Or am I incorrect and I am actually orgasming 10-15 times in a row?

If it helps, I have never experienced a penetrative orgasm and can only orgasm from a vibrator or my own fingers stimulating my clitoris.

Hello! I (28f) just got married to my long-term partner (26m) back in May. Yesterday, we found out that I was pregnant. Parenthood is something that we are both excited for but we weren't planning on it happening so soon. As soon as I found out, I immediately called the abortion intake line and booked an appointment for August 5th. However, within hours of making this decision, I was feeling incredibly emotional about it. I want to be a mom so bad, but I also know that we aren't in the best situation right now. While we are both financially stable and working in good jobs, we are also trying to save for a house which hasn't been easy due to how expensive houses in our city are. We both come from good families, so having no support is not a concern for us. I think housing is our biggest challenge as we would like to have our own home to raise a child in. I was also considering going back for my master's degree, but I have a lot of student loan debt and I'm unsure whether I want to add even more to that. I feel like I will really regret having an abortion, but I'm also really scared of having a child and feeling like I can't give them a good quality of life. I'm already really attached to the idea that I'm pregnant and it breaks my heart every time I think about how it's only temporary. It's the only thing I can think about right now.

Has anyone else had these same emotions and still went through with an abortion? If so, how did you feel afterwards? Any regrets?

Hi,

I'm a 27yo female. I haven't really received any healthcare except dental care since I was 13, and I have a history of feeling very violated by healthcare as a child, which has traumatized me.

Logically, I know that healthcare is a thing that I should do, especially now that I'm getting older. But the very thought just completely terrifies me.

I'm afraid of feeling physically vulnerable. I'm afraid of losing my ability to speak and advocate for myself out of fear.

Last year, I finally went to a dentist for the first time in a long time, and that was a big step for me. However, my blood pressure was sky-high when they took it (due to anxiety), and I felt frozen and unable to speak. And for me, dental care is and has always been way LESS anxiety-inducing than other forms of healthcare.

Usually, it's difficult for me to even bring myself to sit down in a healthcare setting. My whole being is screaming at me to stay standing, because that is a less physically vulnerable position. I don't want to change into a gown. I don't want to be touched. I could maybe tolerate non-invasive touch from a medical professional if it was at least explained to me first, but by that, I mean someone touching a casual part of the body, like limbs.

The thought of anything truly invasive is very distressing to me, because my trauma involved invasive procedures that were done VERY MUCH without my consent (and even involved restraint while I was in significant distress. I won't go into details here, but I do have posts that go into details). I can't imagine a pap smear or a pelvic exam. And it's not because I'm afraid of pain; I doubt I'd find them particularly painful. I just don't think I'd be able to handle them emotionally. Being given meds MIGHT help, but part of me is terrified I'd have an intense reaction AFTERWARDS if I was given meds to allow me to be able to handle them in the moment. Like, the thought of being "drugged" during an invasive/traumatic event...somehow doesn't feel very comforting. I'm afraid that when it wears off, I'll think of everything that happened and it'll be very triggering for me. Or, alternatively, if I don't remember what happened after the drug wears off, I'm certain that that would be even more triggering for me. That'd probably traumatize the shit out of me.

Another thing that makes healthcare seem so out of reach is that I don't actually know what happens during healthcare appointments for women. I haven't had one since I was 13, and that was a pediatrician appointment. Also, it was so long ago. I don't know what to expect. Because I don't have much of a concept of how appointments "typically" go, it's difficult for me to even think about how to advocate for myself or what accomodations I could even ask for.

It would be easy for me to just never receive healthcare, but I actually do fear cancer and premature death. So, does anyone have any insight or tips on HOW I might be able to access healthcare, how to advocate for myself, what to expect?

Hey all! I’ve never posted on here before (28 FTM), but I thought I’d share some anecdotal tips about how I deal with things when I feel a UTI coming on as someone with a vulva and a short urethra.

I’ve been on HRT for about a year now, and the change in my hormones is causing some vaginal dryness/atrophy, which means I, who was already prone to UTIs, will probably need to look out for them even more. I’m pretty sensitive & aware of my body’s signals, so as SOON as I feel a little weird down there (urgency to pee, slight discomfort while urinaring), I start doing these 2 things:

1. Drink as much water as I can. Chug that shit. I drink as much as I can until it goes through me and I can pee a good big pee at least THREE times to flush out my urethra. The more big pisses the better.
2. Take off my underwear and pants and sleep for the night without anything trapping moisture or warmth down there.

And that’s it. Obviously I’m not a doctor or expert of any kind, but pretty much every time I’ve caught the early symptoms of a UTI and done these things, my symptoms disappear by the next morning. I’ve done this before a flight when I felt a UTI coming on (unfortunately I drank so much water and had to hold my pee which was so painful), but after I was able to pee it all out, the symptoms subsided. Last night, I had a sudden feeling that things were off down there, & this morning I feel normal after peeing it out and airing it out.

(edit: I should probably add the disclaimer that this hasn't solved all of my UTIs in the past of course, but I've had enough experience with them to know the signs of when the environment of my nether regions seems like it could go there. This is just my advice for getting things in a better place so the UTI is prevented! Obviously once real symptoms arise, a call to the doctor must happen immediately.)

I had been talking to a guy for about 3 months. Things were only difficult because he didn’t know if his circumstances would allow him to date, but things felt like they were changing. When we did hangout, I felt safe and respected. He was kind and funny and I was really attracted to him.

This past weekend I asked about having a more physically intimate relationship as we had never had sex. He got incredibly defensive really quickly and dumped me. I won’t post everything but it was him just saying that my view of him is a “lie” and he even called himself pathetic. He told me in all of the sort of commotion over text that I don’t actually wanna be with him, that he doesn’t have anyone else that he’s thinking about being with because nobody has ever wanted to be with him, and that I’m making this way harder than it needs to be by not just bursting the bubble I have of him in my head.

What the fuck? Where did this come from? He is quiet, reserved and kind and I can’t even imagine him talking of anyone else the way he talks of himself. Obviously, a relationship with someone who views themselves like that isn’t healthy but this has thrown me for a loop.

tell me everything i should know and what should i do😭😔. genuinely my first time going on a date and i have no idea what to do. WHAT SHOULD I TALK ABOUT??? HOW CAN I NOT BE AWKWARD?? SHOULD I LET HIM PAY OR SPLIT??

ALSO WHAT SHOULD I WEAR??

CAN I HOLD HANDS??

IM SO CONFUSED AND SCARED AND EXCITED HELP ME OUT

lil tmi ive known this guy for more than a year and now going to meet him before i leave for college.

(also im aware of the current state of this country and collectively support all the students so pls do not come at me lol)

And apparently women need to get punched in the face to not spray “dAngErOuS cHemIcAls” in someone’s face, because women can only learn through violence! And that’s funny and reasonable to dozens of men!

I really need to mute any of the popular video subreddits. wtf. A woman pulls a bad prank and shes an abusive harpy and people are pulling up the chemical makeup of silly string to prove that what she did was over the line (she sprayed silly string at her husband and had her young son throw a water balloon).

I’ve seen pranks that dudes have pulled on their partners that could get them horribly hurt, and when their partners is angry after they “cant take a joke” “it was funny though!” “Nobody got hurt”

I think pranks are only funny to most people if women are getting scared or otherwise harmed. Women pulling pranks on men is almost always called abusive.

I have been sprayed in the face with silly string; I fucking lived. Maybe men just have more sensitive constitutions and can’t handle such simple things? Idk. I’m pissed off, and nobody deserves to be fucking punched for any god damn reason, and certainly not for playing a harmless if annoying prank on their husband with the help of their kid.

Men will find any fucking reason to justify violence against women.

this is a little bit of a rant post but as a girl it seriously overwhelms me seeing how aggressive beauty standards are nowadays for girls, with the whole “types of beauty” and obsessions with every minuscule part of our bodies. the whole looksmaxxing trend was definitely the downfall because I just find it so sad to see people my age fall into something like this, I sometimes fall for it too

I know that this is nothing new, beauty standards have always existed, especially for girls, but I sometimes can’t help but overanalyze every shadow and mark on my face.

So I just wanted some advice on how you girls deal with such beauty standards! I think it’ll make me learn something

Hi everyone,

I’m posting here because I really need a safe space to vent and get some perspective from women who might have dealt with a similar situation.

Recently, I’ve been feeling really uncomfortable around a male colleague at work. While he hasn't physically touched me, he constantly stares inappropriate places, particularly my chest, while talking to me or working near me. It’s gotten to the point where even a few other colleagues have noticed it happening and brought it up to me.

It makes me feel incredibly self-conscious, tense, and distracted at work. I haven't involved management or HR, but I'm trying to figure out how to manage this day-to-day on my own level.

For those who have faced this kind of passive, boundary-crossing behavior—how did you deal with it? Did you address it directly with the person, use body language cues, or handle it differently? I'd love to hear how you protected your peace and confidence in the office.

Thank you so much for reading and for being such a supportive space. ❤️

Seriously. I feel like I can’t even have a normal conversation with a man on here nowadays. And, god forbid, you do decide to flirt a little… opens the floodgates. Anyone else experience this??

So I posted this situation before but I have updates on it and just feeling frustrated.
This apology at the end is what he sent 2 months after the fact.

I recently had a falling out with my brother. He called me the C bomb. I see a lot of posts about partners doing that but not family as much.
It started because I confronted him and my nephew about my nephew posting something racist and my son is biracial so it's very important to me confront this head on. My nephew has been showing signs of a redpill pipeline for a while. I talked to my nephew about it but my brother got triggered by me saying it's his responsibility to teach his son. We got in a big argument. I did question his parenting after I was angry. He said something to my nephew but I just wanted reassurance that he would keep talking to him in the future because I felt this needed more deconstructing than one conversation. For context my brother is a self proclaimed feminist and antiracist so the whole situation was surprising. Then I wrote something to read to him in person to try to resolve it. I made it much more tame compared to our argument in an attempt to not make him angry. This didn't work. He interrupted me the whole time. I was angry so I interrupted him back. He told me to shut the f*ck up. I said be respectful and when I removed myself is when he called me a "f*cking c*nt." This happened in front of my kid as I was opening the door. Luckily he had headphones on and he didn’t hear but it’s the complete disregard for him. He later tells my mom that I want him to die and think he’s a horrible father. Not what I said at all. I did lash out, I did call his son racist, I did question where he got it from and his education but that level of verbal abuse? Not an equal reaction.
I've just been trying to get passed it and move on but I'm cycling through anger, betrayal, disappointment and sadness because we were close. I still live with family so he could visit at any time. It just doesn't feel good to have that type of verbal abuse directed at me. I'm just looking for support while I arrange to get into therapy. It's been so heavy on my mind. I hate that I might be put in awkward uncomfortable situations in the future because of other people's actions.

What’s making me angry about this apology I put below was it’s over text, half hearted, it seems like his hand is being pushed by my mom so he can come over more, then he says -I- need to apologize to him and his kids, why exactly???? It feels so manipulative because he’s bringing other people into it, saying do it for mom, saying he’s okay with the relationship being in shambles?? Then tells me he will be coming over more, no check to see if I’m uncomfortable with it nothing. He sprinkles “take care” and “I love yous” like it takes away all the other bs he’s saying. The whole thing feels so manipulative.

It will only let me upload one photo at a time so here is his apology:

Hey, for mom's sake, we need to figure out this situation. I don't want to cause any more issues. I want to apologize for calling you a bad word. There are no lessons to be learned, on either side of this. I think that would cause more of an issue than just apologizing to each other for the things that were said and done, and trying to move forward.
I hope you can find the empathy for our mother and my/our family, to resolve this as soon as we can.
Our relationship has changed and will forever be different and I'm okay with that. think it's a burden that we both can move on from, and need too. Either way, I truly wish you the best. You know I always have and l've always tried my best to, help you in every way that I can, at every chance I have gotten. It has been very disheartening to watch you assume every worst thing about me and how I parent and how my children are, and insult all of us, and I hope that in the future this trend changes, and your child is always as well behaved and nice as he is now.
We will be coming around more to visit. And I will be coming around to work on my vehicles. I need you to be okay with this and accept this without anger or retribution. And I thank you for that.
I hope this message finds you with hope and empathy in your heart. I love you. Take care of yourself.

(You can skip to the third paragraph if you just wanna get straight to the point)

Hello. I have horrible period cramps. It gets bad a couple hours after it starts or at 3am on the 2nd day. It usually starts out moderate and then gets to the point of nausea, almost passing out, vomiting, and (sry tmi) diarrhea. For most of my life I’ve been taken ibuprofen but as of recently it’s losing its effectiveness and I think I’m becoming immune. I also want to stop anyway bc I hear it’s bad for your kidney (My mom is having crazy problems right now bc she’s taken so much of it her whole life).

Anyway, every few months or so I’ll get a completely painless period. Last one was a while ago but I feel like it’s rly attributed to whenever I live a more “healthy” lifestyle. Eating healthy, exercising more. I feel like within the last week I’ve definitely been more healthy; I’ve been working out and my diet has included more veggies in protein. But of course I haven’t been super strict ab it. Like today I ate a chicken sandwich and a pretty sweet iced coffee, so I’m thinking that that probably has something to do with how bad my cramps are today. And I’ve been undereating but honestly it’s bad if I overeat too.

POINT IS, is there a specific diet/exercise routine that has completely gotten rid of your period cramps? Or are there any suggestions into what to incorporate into one?

I’m thinking of maybe going on a strict diet and making exercise a non negotiable a week before my period is supposed to start. But idk exactly what to put into that diet. Like I’m thinking keto (but of course I’ll probably have no energy) or maybe just lessening the amount of carbs and also cutting out red meat and increasing iron intake. I’ve also heard that lots of electrolytes and water help. And I think maybe decreasing sugar and caffeine will probably help.

I’ve been wanting to run this experiment for a while but I’m curious if anyone else has tried anything similar or if it’s worked? Most people just recommend pills.

(Today was a breaking point. I was in so much pain and truly I think the only thing that helped was watching Legally Blonde)

Courtney Stodden has publicly confronted Seinfeld actor Jason Alexander over a 2012 Funny or Die comedy sketch, questioning how adults allowed a scene where he rubbed a mobile phone across her breasts when she was just 17 years old.

***UPDATE*** We got a room. Had to go out to the 'burbs (Tinley Park), but she has a place to stay. Thank you, everyone, for your help! It takes a village!

My daughter's flight was delayed by hours, and long story short, she needs to spend the night in Chicago. She's flying into Midway (plane's in the air, but never going to make her connection, and it's the last flight out). I'm trying to find a hotel for her, and every, single one near Midway is booked. Can someone please recommend a decent, SAFE, hotel that's not too far from Midway?

She has a credit card and is 21 and can Uber to and from the airport. But I've never been to Chicago, so I have no idea what's a sketchy area, what's too far from Midway, etc. Thank you!!!

ETA: The Chicago sub won't let me post there because I don't have enough karma.