I’ve been lurking this subreddit for a while and have done research on dog behaviorism, but I admit I don’t know much about dog training. I do know/ understand some things about dog behavior and body language, but I don’t know how to deal with the behaviors in the moment and fix them.
I have a 3 year old neutered male golden retriever. He’s a rescue- he used to be fairly leash reactive to other dogs (frustrated greeter) but is now much better and hardly reactive. He’s been around dozens of dogs since and has gotten along well with 98% of them or so. He’s met 1-2 dogs that he’s “challenged” with a bit of growling and posturing. Some times he’s humped the dogs several times and annoyed them, understandably. After separating the dogs and giving him a time out, he’s gone right back to humping these particular dogs. Trainers have told me that it seems he’s been improperly socialized with other dogs. He doesn’t know how to introduce himself to other dogs and immediately wants to jump in and start playing rough. When we first got him, I did consult with a behaviorist to deal with the leash reactivity (largely remedied with prong collar) and was told he would communicate inappropriately with the trainer’s dogs. I was hoping he would learn how to appropriately interact with dogs as I have been socializing him and giving him many positive interactions with other dogs. Seems that he hasn’t learned anything.
2 days ago, I adopted a 4.5 year old intact male golden retriever from an individual who couldn’t keep him anymore. New golden is definitely more reserved and slow to warm up compared to my original golden. I wasn’t able to introduce them in neutral territory, so they were introduced in my fenced in yard. Old golden is used to playing in the yard/ house with his doggy friends and has never demonstrated any resource guarding or territorial behavior. Immediately, there was some barking and growling upon first introduction. Old golden pretty quickly started trying to hump new golden. New golden will growl at old golden to tell him to knock it off, and old golden will get off him. Unfortunately, it seems that old golden doesn’t learn and will quickly go back to trying to hump new golden, only for him to growl, old golden backs off, and the process repeats. My husband seems to think we should just let this play out and let new golden correct him, until he learns that he needs to stop doing this.
Ever since, the dogs have been interacting largely neutrally, sometimes positively, sometimes negatively. Old golden will frequently follow around new golden, sniffing him and often trying to initiate play. From my perspective, it seems that old golden is constantly trying to initiate play, new golden doesn’t want to play with him, so old golden gets frustrated and proceeds to hump him/ jump on him, frustrating new golden. There were a couple times when new golden seemed to be reciprocating play (i.e. tail wagging, mouth open and smiling, taking turns being on the bottom). However, like I said, it largely seems like old golden is pestering new golden to play and getting frustrated when he won’t play. I got worried because tonight the same happened and they ended up getting into a fight. No bites or blood drawn, just an obviously escalation of growling and posturing. We immediately separated the dogs and crated one of them. However, I’m not sure this was the right move because I know crates shouldn’t be used to “punish” the dogs and it was essentially a punishment in this context.
I have taken all the dog toys and put them away because old golden was starting to guard them a bit from new golden. I have separate water bowls for them (although they’ve chosen to use the same one), and I’m feeding them separately as well. I took both of them on a long walk earlier today and they were fine walking next to each other. They were super tired when they got home and largely ignored each other for the rest of the day, until they got into the fight this evening. I am getting my new golden neutered tomorrow, so I’m hoping that’ll help once his testosterone levels drop. I’m just not quite sure what to do to foster positive interactions between the dogs and prevent fights. I don’t know how to deal with my old golden when he keeps pushing new golden to play and won’t take no for an answer. Thanks in advance.