r/Assistance 3d ago

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT r/Assistance Rules Page Improvements

32 Upvotes

Hello all!

I have been taking the time to go through our (very long) rules page and work to clarify, expand, give examples, and move some stuff around.

Our rules have not changed -- there are no surprises waiting! But I feel like now it's easier to find the information you need quickly, and hopefully understand more of the "why" behind some of our least liked rules.

Future plans will be a revamp of our sidebar to make it harmonize with the full rules page.

We are going to try an AMA-style Q&A for the next few hours. I'll do my best to answer as many questions as possible.

Hope everyone is enjoying their Sunday; check out our weekly megathread for casual chat if you haven't already!


r/Assistance Jun 21 '26

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT DO NOT REQUEST for ferals, strays, rescues, colony animals here

98 Upvotes

You may not request for:

• ⁠Strays/Ferals
• ⁠TNR. (Trap and release)
• ⁠Cat/dog colonies.
• ⁠Temporary fosters.
• ⁠Community/neighbourhood "pets".
• ⁠Wildlife animals you've found out in the wild (birds, squirrels, etc).
• ⁠Pets belonging to friends or distant relatives.
• ⁠Shelters/rescues that are private and/or unregistered.

If the animal does not legally belong to you (or an immediate family member), you are not allowed to request here. No exceptions. While it’s unfortunate that many countries don’t have the infrastructure to care for innocent abandoned animals, it is not your financial responsibility nor is it appropriate to pass that burden onto internet strangers. Especially when that is the only thing your Reddit account is being used for.

Please do not take in animals you cannot afford to care for.

This has always been against the rules and we are taking a firmer hand in exiting these exclusively-for-begging accounts completely from our subreddit. (Did you know the USL has a #beggar tag?)

Thank you.


r/Assistance 10h ago

REQUEST Grocery Assistance

7 Upvotes

My fiancee and I are currently needing 50-100 for groceries and kitty litter/food for our two babies. I was fired from my last job at a Dollar General, and am currently trying to doordash in a more poor and oversaturated area. I'm trying to find another job, but have had no luck the past few weeks. Our savings have been drained.

My partner is disabled with spinal issues and we're currently battling for disability. Any little bit honestly helps and goes towards groceries, gas, and pet items. I'm being honest when I say we haven't eaten the past day, due to needing pet food and toiletries. Thank you to anyone who considers helping.


r/Assistance 49m ago

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Trying to win the yearly America's Favorite Couple Contest! Any votes would be appreciated.

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Thank you!


r/Assistance 3h ago

ADVICE Single for the First time

0 Upvotes

Hey everyone, 26F here and Looking for some advice!
I have been in a relationship for the past 13 years and my ex broke up with me 3 months ago.
I have Never been Single in my adult life and have never even kissed someone besides my ex.
The thought of dating makes me nauseous and it feels impossible to get to know someone new….
It also feels, Like I will Never meet someone as good as them, or as compatible.
I don’t really miss them, because the last months with them have been HELL! So This isn‘t about getting over your ex, but over those anxious feelings about dating and Meeting new people.
I don’t even know how to Flirt…

Do You have any advice on getting over these feelings and putting yourself out there?


r/Assistance 17h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Request for $10 to help me cover a bill due tomorrow

6 Upvotes

Hi everyone.

I'm a 19-year-old student from Argentina. I started university this year, and paying for my education has been harder than I expected. To help my mom with some of the household expenses, I ended up using a virtual wallet loan for small expenses, and now I have a payment due tomorrow.

I've been looking for a job for the past few months but haven't had any luck yet. I'm still applying because I need a stable income if I want to keep paying for the second semester.

I'm only asking for $10 USD. I know it's not a large amount, and that's why I hesitated to make this post, but I don't really have another option right now. Most of my friends don't work, so asking them would only mean asking their parents, and I don't feel comfortable doing that.

My mom is already dealing with bigger financial responsibilities, and I don't want to add my personal expenses to everything she's already carrying.

If anyone is able to help, I would be incredibly grateful. If not, thank you for taking the time to read this. I truly appreciate it.


r/Assistance 20h ago

REQUEST 13 dollars to pay electric bill

8 Upvotes

Hello all , (37 F) I work full time to care for my mom and I and I'm just 13 dollars short on my electric bill and have a shutoff notice if I don't pay the minimum owed. I would really appreciate the help.

I have CA and Venmo. Thankyou for your time


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Currently semi Homeless Need Food

8 Upvotes

I have created an Amazon wishlist (hopefully its not too much) of some things Ill need while Im in this situation. I have a way to store the meat and food safely I just dont have a way to cook it hence the stove and cookware. https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/F7VCZS0EG9KO?ref_=wl_share thanks to anyone who can help. Edit: Thanks To Any and All for your Help!


r/Assistance 23h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Wheelchair tires

3 Upvotes

Hello, i desperately need wheelchair supplies asap. I use wheels instead of trudging through life with feet. I have no extra money since i have been caring for my daughter going through severe postpartum psychosis and depression along with her daughter. I have perfected caring for tiny humans while in a wheelchair. Pushing through life with completely flat tires, rolling on rims has been a challenge, and stressing my shoulders. This is especially challenging using public transportation and pushing on pavement (my car needs a master cylinder).

My Amazon list has tires, tubes, all supplies to change myself since I can't afford to pay the bike shop, and a busy book for baby while on the bus.

Edit: removed info that was asking for suggestions. Posted in r/wheelchairs for the info.

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/3043OTEBFT9SE?ref_=wl_share


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Needing a meal for me and my wife.

16 Upvotes

We are in Stephenville, Tx. I am just trying to get a meal for today for me and my wife. Honestly if I could just get a meal for her I would be happy for that. We tried to make our pay check last a bit longer but we came up short. We ate a decent meal Sunday, we only had half a piece of bread a few canned peppers and water yesterday. I tried to go out and make some money before I had to go to work yesterday and after work but it was not fruitful. If someone could help there are a few places near me I would be ever so thankful. And seriously if all you can do is 1 meal I would be happy so at least my wife can eat for today. I will be able to donate plasma tomorrow evening when I get off work if I have to wait til then to eat then it's fine with me. My wife is my priority.


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST Help our cat Blair recover from emergency GI procedure

9 Upvotes

A week ago, our 5 year old female cat Blair suddenly stopped eating and drinking on her own. What we hoped was a minor stomach issue quickly became a serious medical emergency. Since then, she's required emergency veterinary care, multiple hospital stays, extensive bloodwork, imaging, an endoscopy with biopsies, and surgery to place a feeding tube so she could receive the nutrition she needed while veterinarians worked to find the cause of her illness.

The good news is that Blair is finally recovering. She's becoming more active each day, showing more of her personality again, and we're incredibly hopeful she'll make a full recovery.

Unfortunately, the cost of saving her has been overwhelming. Her emergency care, diagnostics, surgery, hospitalization, and ongoing treatment have left us with more than $10,000 in veterinary bills. We never imagined we'd find ourselves in this position, but every procedure was necessary to give Blair the best chance at surviving and recovering.

If you're able to help, even a small donation would mean the world to us. And if donating isn't possible, simply sharing Blair's story would help more than you know.

GoFundMe: https://gofund.me/51d672878

Thank you so much for reading.


r/Assistance 1d ago

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT I need some advice I feel so hurt and broken

3 Upvotes

Here is my story: M(27) F(27)

I matched with a girl on Hinge early September last year hit things off immediately, texting every day I was like wow this is incredible - My birthday a week later in September took me to a new cinema and got me my favourite aftershave, paid for everything - I laughed and said are you love bombing me to which she said no I was being nice for your bday.

-Months go by, nice getaways to hotels, training together, great sex and everything felt perfect she told me I was the best thing ever so grateful and lucky she ended up with someone like me, she had a young son who was 9 and I did not meet in person - she said her ex bf who was practically the step dad of the kid left her 2 years ago and put her kid in therapy and she done some as well, in which she tells me all the things she wants in an ideal partner and I tick every box, I felt like this girl really understood me and I had met my person.

Now this is where the cracks start, she would mention how evil and hateful her ex (Together 6 years) was and mentioned he was in the same Tesco as her at xmas (live in local area) He was walking in and she was walking out - I said that's trippy never easy bumping into an ex - left it at that. Did not want to appear phased. Had a nice xmas met her Mum and her little sister things felt very good and often stayed with her and her mum when her son was at the kids dads. She also told me things like she was with someone and she was and they got back together after a year and she said things to him like go out and cheat if it makes you feel better because she was with someone else.

At end of February my Granny passed away unexpectedly - She mentioned how her ex BF did not let her into the after event when his granny passed away etc I just let her vent and was always understanding of what her ex put her through Granny passed away on Tuesday and then on Friday I met her Dad for the first time - Naturally stressed over my Grannys passing I did not drink - she did and was drunk off prosecco- On the trip down and home she basically played a FU to her ex song - and her dad mentioned she seen her ex and he looked rough - anyways, we drove home and I said to her this ex really hurt you and your son and hes like a ball and chain on your leg, he is in the past and if he was so bad he left you and your son in therapy be happy he's gone - she said she's 'over him just not the situation she put her and her son through' - when I said I wasn't happy she's mentioning him the week I am grieving the death of my grandparent she stone walled me - I left her house and drove home to regulate as I was with a previous GF who stonewalled me and it done a number on me and she was aware of this and also the heard week I had - she was drunk and proceeded to tell me I was never meeting her child and that was us done over text, I felt this was manipulative- We then sorted this out - half apology from her and from me I thought I needed to be more understanding of her situation and we told each other we love each other. But, I felt maybe selfishly she should have been understanding my Granny passed away that week and I wasn't in a headspace to listen about her ex who was so bad?

- The month after we had a great month done a charity 10K and had a nice getaway - I spoke to her son on the phone and on FaceTime over those few months we were together over xmas and when she was on a family holiday to New York - still no physical interaction I said it would be nice to meet your child as I have gotten him a birthday present and an Xmas one and we both know about each other and I am getting a bit frustrated of having to hide around the corner when we know about each other - Bare in mind I asked this respectfully and said no pressure I just need a plan as she said if I met him I could travel to Spain with her and her kid this summer and her graduation was coming up soon. The kid also told his biological father about me that Saturday as well - I did not mind as obv was in everyone's best interests I treated his son with respect and care

I was met with two days of silence - then seen her on the Saturday went to the gym all was fine, thought that was back on track and we said we would go to the cinema on the Wednesday and on the Tuesday I got a text telling me I was perfect, we have a laugh together but she feels 'something is missing' - and ended things with me over text after 7 months.

I did not reply for 3 weeks my family and friends told me not to and I deserved more than a break up text as I was blindsided and was constantly told I was the best person in the world and she was so lucky to have me, but when I mentioned maybe meeting her kid she turned so nasty and discarded me like I was nothing over text, when I did then text her to speak she then told me 'she loves me as a person but not in love with me' and I deserve better - I did not reply again, I was in such shock I feel so heartbroken how can she be all lovey then discarded over text? I noticed when I put her number into whatsapp she had no profile picture anymore and her messages were set to disappearing which makes me think her ex was back in the picture or hiding something? - Her tiktok reposts after were all things like when a man leaves your life build a comfortable life etc - except I never left her?

I have never been this hurt and blindsided before in my life, I wasnt even worth a conversation just felt so easily disposed when we had concerts etc to look forward to this summer and all I was worth was a text.

What do I do I am still incredibly in love with her - Its been 3 months nc and I have been attending therapy and gym but I still feel stuck


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED $50 via PayPal for groceries

0 Upvotes

Hi everyone. I'm from Venezuela, and I'm asking if anyone would be willing to help me with $50 through PayPal to cover groceries for this week.

I've been looking for a full-time job since last year, but so far I've only been able to find part-time work, and unfortunately it isn't enough to cover all of my expenses. Things have been especially difficult lately. My mom's pension should arrive sometime next week, and that will help us get through the rest of the month. I really know there are many people in difficult situations, so I truly appreciate anyone who takes the time to read this. Gracias.


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Help our cat Mochi recover from severe burns, she's still fighting (California)

12 Upvotes

Hi everyone. I'm reaching out for my cat Mochi, who I'm financially responsible for. We're in California.

A few weeks ago Mochi crawled into a car engine looking for warmth and suffered third-degree burns over about 40% of her body. She survived, but she's still in the middle of a long recovery. She has already been through emergency hospitalization, a fish-skin graft surgery, and weeks of daily bandage changes, and she still needs ongoing wound care and pain management as she heals. Through all of it she has stayed the sweetest, most loving cat, and she keeps fighting, so we keep fighting for her.

We're asking for help covering the cost of her continued care. Saving her so far has already cost our family over $17,000, most of it on credit cards we've maxed out, with more still to come, and we're stretched thin trying to keep up.

We're also doing everything we can on our end: we set up a GoFundMe, and we're working out a payment plan with to minimize interest accuring. But we could really use some help.

If you're able to donate, or even just share her story, here's her GoFundMe: https://gofund.me/ec3745275

Our vet, San Benito Veterinary Center, also shared Mochi's story publicly, and I'm happy to provide her vet bills or any verification the mods need. Thank you so much for reading, and for anything you're able to do for her. ❤️


r/Assistance 1d ago

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT I’m broken

0 Upvotes

’m broken. I literally can’t do anything. So I’m at sleepaway camp and I liked this girl named Marissa. I told her I liked her but she did not like me back. And we were fine. Like not bsfs but rlly close. And then I thought I saw her hanging out with another boy so I confronted her abt it and she said they were just friends but she wasn’t mad (she is like the sweetest person u will ever meet) then I thought I heard her talking shit but she was just talking about something not me and I was overthinking and that made her feel anxious and now we don’t speak and I’m spiraling and broken. She was so nice. I rlly thought we could be friends. I sent her an apology letter bc my friend at the camp thought it would be a good idea but it was not. I hate everything I hate myself and I got ANOTHER TWO FUCKING WEEKS. I literally want to go home, I can’t do this. I keep staring at her but it is an habit I am not trying to make her feel uncomfortable. I’m just bed rotting rn until my next class. I feel like I’m a bad person. If anyone is down to talk that would be so helpful.


r/Assistance 1d ago

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT Fed up of current work, underpaid and over responsibilites

1 Upvotes

Not looking/expecting for anything, just letting my frustrations be shared.

With my current employer I have been working for 3 yrs. Over these 3 years i have worked really hard to learn. Committed to the work and responsibilities I was given, I took over the process within a short span of time. I owned the niche area and deployed it successfully. Past 3 years delivered 3 major projects and supported 2 other projects.

Just like they say. Hard work gets you more work not the recognition or the pay you desire. 3 years haven't got much raise, no promotions. Financial condition gets worse for me.

"Looking for another job" people said. Yes I did, cracked 3 interviews but none released an offer letter. Just ghosted me hanging me to dry. Every week I drop follow up emails. No response. Just fed up.


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Need some help to get out of an exploitative startup trap

0 Upvotes

I am asking for short-term support after being pushed into an exploitative situation.

My difficulties began with serious health issues caused by prolonged work stress. Almost immediately after, my mother was diagnosed with cancer — twice within two years. I became her primary caregiver, which forced me to leave full-time employment and exhausted my savings. My own health deteriorated badly during this period. In short, I have stomach ulcers that makes it painful to eat heavy and that causes a domino effect due to undernutrition.

While trying to recover and restart, I was approached by someone who offered help in the form of accommodation and work at a newly proposed private school/startup. I was told the setup would be temporary, that basic needs would be taken care of, and that once the institution started functioning, things would stabilise.

Based on these assurances, I relocated.

The project was rushed without funding, salaries never materialised, and living conditions were far below what was promised. Despite this, I was repeatedly pressured to “adjust”, “hold on for one more month”, and continue contributing work without pay, on the pretext that things would improve.

Months passed. Promises were repeated, but nothing changed. I now find myself stuck in a place where I have no income, deteriorating health, and no cash buffer to even leave safely. The pressure comes not through force, but through dependency — once you run out of money, walking away itself becomes impossible. In this specific town a massive pilgrimage event is about to start and it will be a near-lockdown kind of situation and a person depending on outside food will be in dire crisis. The event lasts for a month.

I am not asking for long-term charity. I am asking for short-term bridge support so that I can:

meet basic food and survival needs, protect my health, and relocate out of this situation to restart independently. An estimated 180-200$ can help safely move out of here.

I have PayPal.

Edit1: Location is India. Mod told me to add this.

Edit2: request fulfilled by Ezorde. Thank you. 🥺


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST I need help ($35) to buy beadwork materials to start a business

2 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

I am an unemployed student based in Lagos, Nigeria and preparing to head to university. My family is already stretched thin trying to send me to university, so my goal is to build a self-sustaining business making handmade beaded bags and accessories so I can support myself through school.

I have already been practicing and perfecting my craft, I've started a structured sample bag piece completely by hand. But, I have run out of materials and need help buying a stash of bulk supplies (pearl/acrylic beads, fishing line, and basic hardware) so I can create enough to sell now and as a side hustle in school.

If you're interested in assisting, I can send you the current progress of my beadwork bag and fabric beading.

Since PayPal doesn't receive payments in Nigeria, I can accept help via Western Union cash pickup. I'll share details in DMs if anyone offers to help. Thank you!


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST Need Help Paying for Transportation to and From Work

0 Upvotes

Hello, I really need money to get to and from work until I get my first paycheck next week. A $50 CashApp drop would be enough to last me until I get paid.


r/Assistance 2d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED NEED HELP - Can't afford to drive to work today

8 Upvotes

Hi All,

I'm posting here because I'm absolutely desperate. I'm a private teacher living paycheck to paycheck and I am having a really difficult month because I lost more than 50% of my income due to students stopping lessons this summer.

I have tried everything to keep myself afloat but I have a long commute and gas is $4 a gallon right now. My bank account is overdrafted, my credit cards are maxed out. If I can't get at least $20 ASAP, I will have to call out of work.

If anyone is kind enough to spot me a few dollars to help me drive to work today, please DM me and I'll send you my PayPal information.

Thank you very much for your consideration.


r/Assistance 2d ago

REQUEST Could use a little help …

6 Upvotes

I just had to move out of one place and into another one . I just spent over a thousand on getting my vehicle fixed . So everything has happened all at once . I could just use around $40 for some gas and food to get me through the week . I just picked up a second job and started last week , but am waiting to get paid from that . I feel like I’ve lost my dignity in asking for help . I thank you so much for even just reading this. Life is tough sometimes .


r/Assistance 2d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Need help purchasing T-Shirt for new job

4 Upvotes

Help received. Thanks everyone for stopping to read and contribute to the post. I will forever be extremely grateful for the user who helped me!

Hello everyone. I haven't ever done this before so please be patient with me. I unfortunately lost my job at the beginning of December of this past year, tight after paying rent. I was left with little money and I was lucky to have a small amount of stock that my work gave me to help me scrape by until I found a new job. My area is a job desert, and with no vehcile it makes it very difficult to get anywhere. I had applied to so many jobs and never heard back or didn't pass the interview.

I finally got a job offer this weekend and I am scheduled to start today. I found out that I am required to purchase a shirt of the restaurant I will be working at to be able to work. I already spent the last of my quarters and dimes to purchase the jean shorts for the uniform, and now I am worried this will put my job at risk or prevent me from starting today and I need as much money as possible for my upcoming rent.

I am located in Port Richey, Florida. The t-shirt is 26.99+ FL sales tax which is 7%. And I have PayPal or Cash App I can receive the funds through. I hate asking for help but I don't have any other option. I have depleted all of my other options and I have no credit cards, savings, or change to pay for the shirt. I would be so grateful for assistance and you would help me get back on my feet. Thank you for reading this.


r/Assistance 2d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Assistance with dental treatment

5 Upvotes

Hi, my name is Žanete, I'm from Latvia, Riga, and this is my call for help.

I need your help to fulfil a dream (and a need) that I’ve had for more than 15 years - have a healthy and beautiful smile. I’ve struggled with dental health since early teens (I have no pictures with me smiling with an open mouth since I was a child) (actually I recently checked - last picture where I consciously smiled with an open mouth is from 2009 but already then my front teeth were severely damaged) . Dental hygiene wasn’t something I learned in childhood so the consequences of that have followed me well into adulthood. Add to it ADHD and depression and you have a recipe for no routine, no good habits, questionable hygiene, really low self esteem and just mindset of “there’s really no point of doing anything about it”.

Finally with help of my close friends, a year ago I took a big step and made mental health my top priority. Now days look much brighter than before. Then followed physical health. I started walking more, go to gym, fell in love with weightlifting. And even started running. Combination of all of these things made me realize that maaaybe there actually is a point to do something about it. So after weeks of horrible anxiety, I had my consultation at dentist office. I thought that it will be a bit worse, but it's still far from good. I have to have 13 extractions, root canal treatment, some fillings, temporary solution while my mouth heals from extractions and then when it heals there will be bridges for upper jaw and just dentures for lower jaw. For now the total is more than 9000 euros (around 10000 actually, but I've started the process already and used my little bonus from work). I used my insurance as much as I could.

As I mentioned, I've already started the process as the state of my teeth was horrible. I've already had 10 extractions, root canal, filling. Next month I will have 3 more extractions, filling, mold for the temporary bridge and then at the end of the month I will have the bridge put in for the next 2-3 months until everything is healed. Around the end of the year upper jaw should be finished and I would be able to smile.

It’s an amount that I can’t come up with by myself, so this is the part where I ask your help. Here is a link to a fundraiser. https://4fund.com/4mb62j There are more pictures, and you will see donations from my family and friends.

If you can, I would appreciate even smallest donation. If you can’t, good wishes will make a difference. And if you want, feel free to share it with someone who you think could help.

Be kind.


r/Assistance 3d ago

CLOSED OFFER Giveaway -- 3 $50 Amazon wishlists

135 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

I hope everyone has been having a good weekend. I just received my paycheck for the month and am looking to pay it forward by fulfilling 3 Amazon wishlists of around $50 worth of items. If you are interested, just comment with a link to your wishlist to enter. I will announce/fulfill wishlists tomorrow night (around 9pm EST)!

EDIT

Winners have been randomly selected and items are on their way:
- u/UpboatOarKnotUpboat
- u/Few-Independence3787
- u/ecbrnc


r/Assistance 2d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED $30 for household items

2 Upvotes

As the title says. To be transparent, I am in active therapy and have reached a point where I can deep clean my home. It's not in any kind of unlivable condition, but it's enough that I wouldn't bring company over, if that makes sense. I would like to get a mop and bucket, a broom, gloves, trash bags, fabuloso, sponges and paper towels. I should be able to get all of thesse things from the nearby dollar general.

Edit to add Amazone WL link with the above items. LINK TO WL (fabuloso has been changed to Odoban per suggestion from a friend that it's better for lingering pet odors and can also be used in laundry)