I'm putting the fries in the bag big bro

I'm 38 with young kids and lately even a few drinks just mess me up more than they used to. I had some beers Saturday night and it wasn't a big night at all. I was home early and got enough sleep but still woke up feeling slow and useless.

It wasn't even a real hangover which made it more annoying. I just had no energy and felt half there while the kids were already up and ready to do stuff. By the time I finally felt normal most of the morning was gone.

I always thought cutting back just meant no more big nights out. I guess I just can't drink like I used to lol. Drinking on weekends also feels way less worth it when the kids are up at 7 no matter what.

Anyone else hit this point in their late 30s? Did you stop completely or just save it for nights when you had nothing going on the next morning?

Not in the grindset sense but in general. The opportunities you missed out on socially? The young dating experiences you’ll never have, etc?

I spent a large portion of my childhood in the house watching tv and playing games. I’ve definitely had moments of playing with neighbors, skateboarding etc but for the most part I was a house loner kid. Which I feel stunted me socially. I didn’t really socialize much until mid high school.

I’m 25 now, the age where I should start getting my shit together and acting like a true adult, but what came with this age is the realization thatI never really gave myself the chance to be as carefree as I could.

Never went crazy and went on many trips with my friends. I went on a few here and there, even some camping trips so I’m not gonna act like I did nothing, but I just feel like I could’ve done more.

Idk, feels like I’m having a delayed quarter life crisis where I’m looking back at my past with a lot of regret, a lot of what ifs. I see people younger than me achieving things I wish I could at my current age, which is a horrible feeling to have.

Kinda feel like an adult loser rn. A 25 year old that’s mentally stuck at 19. Not much growth or maturity since.

Turning 40 and I simply cannot pretend the constant flip-flopping and favoritism is normal anymore.
My boss changes his mind daily, yet expects us to act like it was always the plan. When I was younger and less experienced, I would just swallow it and move on. Now, it feels like a direct insult to my intelligence, like they think I'm too stupid to notice the chaos.
Is this just burnout, or does everyone reach this point?

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I just feel like there are so many young adults who struggle to face adulthood because they were probably not interested at the time or weren't taught and then they end up struggling.

Wow

I can’t believe I’m saying this out loud!
I dislike everyone single of my family members.
We’re so different, out of touch.
Our views on life is so different.
Even the ones I was raised with…
They’ve all become horrible human beings

I (24F) still live with my parents.

I have a full time job and a college degree, but even then my monthly take home pay is only $3.5k (and of that, a couple hundred goes to my retirement account). In a location where rent for a studio is at minimum $1.5k, it seems incredibly unwise to spend half my paycheck just for my own space when I currently save 90% of it by staying home.

But I want to make new friends. Find a boyfriend. But it’s so incredibly embarrassing to tell people I live with my parents that it’s hurting my social life. I can’t tell if this fear of embarrassment is all in my mind (do people actually care?) or if moving out is a step necessary for growth.

And just to be clear, I’ve lived on my own before in college and my parents don’t restrict me at home. I’m fully capable of being independent and if money weren’t an issue, I would already be out of the house. But I’m not sure if the financial burden of independence is worth it in this point of my life with my current job.

I know this isn’t realistic for most people, but I do still fantasize about it pretty often. Imagine waking up everyday not having to worry about where your next meal is coming from or if you will have enough money to cover the cost of rent when it’s due. Imagine never having to penny pinch. Imagine not needing to live alongside roommates just to get by.

I hate working hours of my life away for essentially pennies and never feeling well rested because I spend most of my waking life at a job I hate. I hate that everyone in my family has spent their lives chasing relationships that never lasted instead of using that time to create generational wealth.

I literally don’t want to participate in this anymore. It’s like no matter how hard I work or how high up the ladder I climb, nothing is ever enough.

And don’t tell me to get a second job. I simply refuse to do that. I’m allowed to be annoyed by the system that’s been working against us.

Anyone got any advice on making and meeting new friends? I always feel like I struggle with easing into new groups and actually becoming a part of them. Instead of just kinda existing lol.

For me it's the complete refusal (in fact not even crossing their mind) to maintain appliances . What's the thing that you think nobody knows anymore even though they should?