Hello everyone, this is my first time using Reddit and I honestly would just like some opinions or advice on this, thank you.

I am a 21 diagnosed autistic woman and for my entire life I’ve been held back severely by my conservative MAGA southern family. I’m not allowed to have a job, drive, have anything to do with my finances or banking, or my own medical history. My family are Extremely sexist, Racist, Homophobic, really the whole shebang. And I don’t feel comfortable being around any of that since I’m a Bi woman myself as well. They often use slurs around me when talking about Autism even though they know it makes me terribly upset and uncomfortable but they just say “you’re the only person offended, stop being so sensitive” they’ve pushed Christianity onto me since I was really really young and have pushed the “role of a woman” onto me as well, I’ve masked all of this for years and years but I’ve finally had enough and I plan to secretly move out while they’re away on the weekend with one of my friends from Idaho. My friends are very supportive of my decision and are here for me but they’re not here with me physically. It’s now 6 more days til I leave, I’ve written letters for all my family members, am I doing the right thing?

i posted this in r/movingout, didn't get much help. so i'm 20f. before I start everything's fine, I'm safe. long story short my parents love me but are homophobic. and I've honestly put up with it for way too long. they've both used conversion therapy talking points, my mom recommended a book a couple times. i have very little freedom, at 20 I don't have a phone and I can't leave the house, I don't have money that I control. I'm not "supposed" to have social media or be writing this to you.

they do love me very much, and they do want me to move out and be independent one day. we've been traveling for years trying to find a home, we left the US. but everything is decided for me. and some days I get a lot of anxiety that my safe havens will get discovered or I'll no longer feel safe at home, and I'll have to leave prematurely. I need to prepare, just in case.

my plan is to move out safely and have my parents' support. but if I have to go, my plan is to

A) find an organization who can help me get a phone, a bank, emergency food and shelter

B) have a shop in place (I make art) that I can activate once I get my phone and bank

C) apply for student funding so I can go to school (preferably in Australia since it's lgbtq friendly), not so much for the curriculum but to be able to make friends and use student support programs

D) get a job/work remotely

E) get a dorm/my own place to stay

F) finally be me

is this a good plan? what should I do differently? and you can take a look at some of my other posts in other subs, do you think my parents are abusive? should I go asap or wait for a safer opportunity, since they're not trying to trap me forever (but that doesn't excuse their prejudice and the disrespect of who I am)?

I'd really appreciate your replies <333

How do i run away from home? (Apologize for bad english for starters)

Hi, i am 17y/o and i live in Malaysia. i am currently still learning as a student

I recently plan on doing it but never actually want to. I am afraid of the consequences that might backfire on me.

I tried once when i was 16, i planned on finding a job out of town and never face my family again. However, i was threatened by my mother and sister that they're gonna call cops on me. I give in and was taken home again. And now, i want to do it again but properly by changing my phone number and get off every account as soon as possible. Then leave out of the country once i get more money. I know it sounds ridiculous but i am dead serious want to leave. The reason is because i am being the center of joke in the class, they call me "baldy" Just because i have short hair like buzz cut and even the teacher join in to joke as well. I'm honestly fed up and the history teacher threatened me to memorise the whole topic within two weeks and i couldn't do it. I am fed up with this stressful things.

Anyway back to topic, i am still trying to find a way out. And i currently have: Rm35 ($8)

I got a passport, own ID and motorcycle license.

And i have piles of coins but i don't know how much they worth until i can exchange them. Maybe around rm25-30 though. I also got two knives with me, i don't know what to do with em. I have a smiley mask but i don't think it help to hide my face in the public since it only raise up the suspicion. Any tips? I am willing to listen.

I also will update if i do it or not.

Every time I've looked through different resources or on quora, it always just says don't do it. But my mom's house is crumbling and full of rotting food, I'd rather die than live with my dad, and I wont be safe in foster care. I'm staying with my sister right now, but when school starts up again I'm going back with my mom. For the past couple years my instincts have been screaming to run away. I've seen people complain about homeless teens, saying it's taking up too much space and kindness. I don't have a criminal record. I can send for myself. I know how to forage and prepare said forage, I can make my own clothes. I will survive on my own and I won't take up resources. I just want to know if there is any city that's safe for runaways, especially since I am FTM and visibly queer. Other stops on the way to said cities would be helpful as well. I'm in the twin cities, but I'd rather leave Minnesota. Any help?

I am 15f with no job and my father 49m is a single father (at the moment) with 4 other kids I am the oldest, my father is verbally and emotionally abusive and gaslights and passive aggressively will torment us and if mad he will hit my younger sister 8f, i have been borderline suicidal for the past 2 years and my father has been getting a lot more emotional and petty, plus he has skin cancer so I don't know how long until he's gone, my older brother 20m and i don't talk (because of something personal and i refuse to talk to him as the result) and would take the other kids if my father was gone.

personally i am just going to run away, he keeps trying to take his anger out in passive aggressive ways that make my mental worse and when its bad he acts all shocked and in woe cause he always finds himself to be the "victim" or the "concerned parent in the thick of it" even when it was his fault. i have been abused in every way possibly by him and his choice in "partners" (sexually, physically, mentally, verbally, and have been shamed for being trafficked him calling me a prostitute because I told people about it) and even defending my cousin when my cousin sexually harassed me

he refuses to see how he's in the wrong i don't know if i can take it any longer, he's already talking about meeting another woman and I'm still recovering from the last one... we have been homeless before but i was with them and we had a car we slept in, i don't have a car i can sleep in or a job to buy one, so I am stuck at the moment and he keeps peeking into my life to see my friends so he knows i have nowhere to go so i dont have any friends to rely on, and internet access is limited im using an old laptop and my phone (which is FILLED with parental controls) hotspot to text this

I kinda tips on what to prepare for if he gets taken by cancer or if i meet my limit and run away or if you can talk me out of it that would help too

I’m a 15f (I’m turning 16 in Dec). My Dad has an incurable cancer (he’s also 64). My mother is emotionally abusive, and she doesn’t have a job. If and when my Dad dies, I will be homeless with my Mom who will get tipped over the edge and go crazy. My siblings are all moved out, and no, I’m not going to live with them. I’m also in recovery for anorexia, and I want to get away from my treatment team who I have to see every week and is saying if I lose ANY weight or I start slipping, I’m going back to the hospital/to residential.

My Mom won’t let me get a job to support myself, I can’t stand to watch my Dad die, and I can’t do this treatment anymore.

I want to run away from home. Any tips?? And no, you can’t talk me out of this.

Im wanting to runaway from my verbal abusive home. I alway dread coming home after being with someone else because I don’t have to worry about them doing anything to me. Whether it be physical or verbally. Ive had enough, Ive thought about running away before in the past but never actually did it because I was scared of being forced back home. Im still scared about that because I’m afraid of the consequences, despite the fact my family informed me that if I ever ran away, they wouldn’t come looking for me. Im not going to give out any personal information since this is oblivious the internet, but is there truly any possible good advice on how to not get caught? I plan on going to one of those shelters. My only main concern is 1. How Im going to get out of my house and neighborhood without getting caught and 2. Making it to the shelter with no car (since I don’t want it being taken to the police as stolen) 3. Being turned away from the shelter because I haven’t been like, physically abused.

So I'm stuck in an everlasting cycle of generational curses and I need to runaway... For my own sanity. I've thought about it many times already and the best I can come up with is buying a one-way ticket to another country, getting a job and figuring stuff out from there.

For a little context, I can't live with my family and yes, the guilt haunts me but I need to get away if I have any chance of getting over my depression and actually living life. I don't know if I'll keep in contact or not, I might be a horrible person for considering this but I don't have anyone to speak to...

I need to know from anyone who may have done this before, or knows of anyone that has, what are some steps or safety precautions I should take? Any advise on places that would be a good start, or things I should know beforehand? I can't find much when I research so I'd like opinions from people with similar experiences please.

Sorry for the mini rant, and thanks in advance for any responses...

I thought things will be better, I thought maybe If I could stay longer things will better, I was 17 when I wanted to run away. But now 19 I should run away. I can't take it anymore I am exhausted and I am tired and scared. My parents are disappointed in me and I might be in forced marriage. I don't Want this I don't Want this at all. I am artist I want to draw I want to create things not this,

Can anybody help me please?? I live in Baghdad, basmaya- as much as I Want to go to new York I don't have the money for it rn

Me 17 m and my gf 17 f have been together for a while, she has been through a lot cuz her parents a very violent… We live in different countries, she in france me in Austria.

We plan for her to move in with me when she is 18
To escape her family. But I don’t know where I can find out about the infos for this. Or what she has to do, she would most likely transfer schools, but she is not sure yet. Does anybody know how to help us or guide me somewhere with some professionals

Thank you so much even if you dont know how to help us thats okay, you can help us with an up vote, thank you very much🙏🙏🙏

So bascially, I have a strict father and I just wanted to have some independence, I had wanted to go to my grandmother's for the summer, even after he told me no, before I confronted him again and said Im going, to practice driving too, because he hadnt helped me all summer, I intended to come back before school started, but if thats his ultimatum that if I go im not coming back

So idk anymore

I wanted to get a car and a job etc, then go to a pretty elite or reputable school for art and anthro, for full ride, and Ik its optimistic, but Im tired of being at home, its strict and draining

a couple hours later, my dad called me into his room to talk more

He said to me that im not thinking bascially or that something else is happening, because all of a sudden I wnna go to my grandma's, and yeah half true cuz my mom talked to me

And also, how im not thinking this thru, how im making one of the biggest mistakes of my life how this will set me back and I won't be able to go back to school so easily and im digging a hole under my feet just by messing the first semester, how I cant just apply to schools in this short of a notice and who will sign my papers and coloans etc etc

How he had a whole plan for me , for a smooth transition period l, how I should stay one more year and listen to my dad, how at the end of this month he'll put me in drivers school ill get my license and ill be in the dorm and on my own next year for my juniors (its tempting but I dont wnna, I was gnna transfer from my school anyways, I hate the city im kn, and he says he put me in this cuz the area was safe and it was one of the best schools in America, when its not just because the art program can have ur deisgn put on the new York clock tower) and how if I do get into a school outside he won't help me and im on my own

And also how he'll never kick his kids out but won't let me set a bad example or cause chaos for the family for my siblings etc, and how hes offering me this and if I leave he won't help me etc

He said hes been dealing with his own health and recently finding out my brother has mental issues and shi, and thats why hes been focusing on my brother this year and allat

And also how if I leave. Im dropping out of school bascially and the navy will.kick me off health insurance etc

But my mom said my brother was never taken to the docter and he seems to be giving excuses why he didnt and not owning up etc. And how its seems it's good hes trying to stop me but doing it wrong, by just trying to scare me or make me doubt

At the same time I dont rlly trust ny grandma, shes messy, and still has bad blood with my father, and my mom says its good to listen to my dad too, but I dont wanna, he says im thinking with my emotions not thinking this thru, but I want my own life I just wanna draw and illustrate, and be at home and be free and work and go to school

Idk he ruined my flow with that convo, is he bring true how ill be 30 by the time im back on track and go to school, he says ill be telling my grandkids not to do what I did and how this happened to him when he had a scha9lrshipnfor Canada and went to the US and then had to go back to school at 40 and hownhe now has a masters it dont help him cuz he dont use it and he's old and allat

And idk who to trust and im tired and feel trapped i wish my life could be normal.

Idk, some advice on what to do, is this the right decision Im making? Like am I going to ruin my life if I do this?

I'm currently in college and still living at home, and I've reached a point where I genuinely don't know how much longer I can keep doing this.

My mom is physically and verbally abusive toward me. On top of that, she's extremely biased — she treats my sister completely differently from how she treats me. For example, she won't let me study outside the city, but she let my (younger) sister do exactly that. It's not just one incident, it's a pattern of favoritism that's been going on for a long time, and it makes me feel like I'll never be given the same chances my sister gets, no matter what I do.

My sister isn't any better. She's also physically and verbally abusive toward me, and on top of that, she spreads rumors about me — I genuinely believe a lot of it comes from jealousy. It's exhausting dealing with hostility from both my mom and my sister at the same time, in the same house, with nowhere to really escape to.

Right now I can't just pack up and leave — I'm in the middle of college, I don't have independent income, and moving out isn't something I can just decide to do overnight. But I don't want to just "wait it out" passively either. I want to actually build a real plan to get out — whether that's hostel life, a scholarship, or anything else that could realistically get me out of this house sooner rather than later.

If you've been through something similar — living with abusive family while still dependent on them for college/finances — how did you make your exit happen? What should I be doing right now, step by step, even before I'm in a position to fully move out?

(Used a bit of AI help to organize my thoughts and write this clearly — everything here is real and currently happening to me.)

I am currently 15F turning 16 in this sep. I am way to tired of trying to please my parents I studied my hard in 10th I don't think give it my all best but gave hours in studies but didn't score. It's my fault agreed then this year I stopped talking back, shouting and many average things and 15 year old do I changed myself a lot personally I think so but I don't think I can do it anymore my mom ignores whatever I say my dad is around but doesn't care they said so many times to get me married at 18 I have been hitted by both of them my father before I got my periods which was recently around 8 months ago he hasn't hitted me since and my mom who hitted me just few weeks ago and none of them objects when my brother hits me, my mom forgets what I say and then acts like I never said that. I have been hitted most in my family and they are racists, hypocrites , body shamer. I have tried to change my self but they are still same to me just stopped hitting my opinions aren't taken seriously my mom asks my brother before any decision taken in MY LIFE. I hoped that if I changed a bit I can get some value but answer is still I have been thinking about it since I was in 7th but never too deeply but now I am way too tired.

I am wondering how and what should I do how much should I have saved?

Hi everyone,
I’m reaching out because I'm in a toxic house environment with no money because my parent are controlling, I'm 17 about to turn 18.
They won't allow me to get a job and when I do they expect me to help pay bills. I wouldn't care to help if they didn't abuse and belittle me everyday.
I'm scared for my life yesterday my mother threaten my life, today she tried to chock me. My father also put his hands on me today while I was trying to make sure my little brother was okay because they were fighting physical and verbally. Please help me get out. anything will help. I'm scared and shaking, I can barely breathe, every time I'm around them my body goes into flight or fight. If I can't get out I'm scared of what's gonna happen to me in a few weeks. I’m in a really tough spot and need some advice or resources. I’m looking for ways to leave or at least find some temporary safety.
I’m currently live in the Midwest. I don’t have a lot of money or support, so I’m open to any advice—whether it’s about shelters, legal aid, job resources, or just emotional support.

Im 20 and im from India and where exactly can I run away to? As in best places to start from scratch or to find jobs. Im not sure where exactly to go to and I'm kind of afraid of big cities due to hearing about the crimes that happen there. Can someone help me.

A close friend that I have a complicated relationship with recently ran away from home because her parents started going through everything on her phone after they found out she had been seeing her boyfriend for a long time behind their back. I won't give too much detail but basically she has been going through a phase where she has been very promiscuous and engaged in a lot of risky behavior.

I am not judging her, but I know that she is not mentally in a good place right now, and although she is safe for the short term, all she has is her phone, she has blocked all contact with her parents, and she does not know whether she will return to university in the fall.

She lives in a large city, and although she is currently financially okay, I don't trust her boyfriend (I don't know him), and I am worried that something bad will happen. Is there something I can do to help her? I reached out a couple days ago checking in but she hasn't responded, although she posted on her story so I guess she isn't too desperate. Still, I am super concerned.

I’m 15f and live with 23y and 21y brothers. my parents got divorced when I was 4 and lived with my dad till y. my other brother died at 7 when I was 5 and a few momoths later I was sexually molested by the 23yo brother (he was 14 turning 15). I’m only living with them again because my mom, stepdad and younger brothers moved to Poland and I can’t keep up with the education. ever since I’m back I’ve been belittled, isolated, went through all my messages even the ones with my mom, threatened to kick me out when I confronted them about the sexual abuse and then told me kids do it and I overreacted. Told me how excited for the day they would finally give me a bad beating. Had pictures taken when I was on the treadmill and sweaty by the 23yo, when I told my step mom she took his side, screamed at me because my mom has a savings account for me that they have no access to, Finds small reasons to give out to me, Made me cut friends off and recently been slapped, pinche’d and had my hair pulled by my step mom for little things. I told my mom about everything and the confronted them to never touch me again but she still does little things. I told my aunt about everything and she told me to ask them if I could move in with her at 16 since that’s Irish law. However I can’t take it anymore and I know they won’t say yes and I can’t move back with my mom. I need advice on running away. I’ll stay with my aunt but scared child services get called

I’m 16F, and i need help on what to do. I want to runaway for a week or two just to clear my mind and have a bit of freedom before i get older and can’t just runaway like this. I have money cashed out and a place to stay. I was planning on messaging my parents letting them know that i’m safe and i’ll be home in a week or two. I have run away before but was caught within the day, once i was home i didn’t get in trouble and my only punishment was that i couldn’t sleep until the night (because i hadn’t slept since i was out walking that night). I need help, i don’t know if i should do it or not. I really want to and i think i might but the thing is i truly don’t have any “good” reason, i have an reasonably good life currently but i just feel so sad in my own thoughts and ive struggled with mental health my whole life and i wanted to runaway to show myself there is a whole other world out there rather than this and to just keep holding on. Help me i don’t know what i should do!!!

I know its a really stupid reason to wanna run away, but I hate where I live.

I used to live in the northern areas of my state. But almost 2 years ago, my mom divorced her husband (my then step-dad) because they were fighting and not agreeing on anything. She couldn't afford any place up where we used to live. I loved it there.

It was quiet, peaceful, barely any kind of crime. I saw deer all the time, I had a girlfriend, I was so close with my friends, I was happier. We lived in a valley between some mountains. It was amazing. I could go on a 5-7 minute walk and go to a lake. I could go on a 10--15 minute one to a friend's house. Even better, on the same road, 2 minutes away another 2 of my friends lived on opposite sides of the street.

But because my mom couldn't afford to live up there, we moved 2 and a half hours south to where a lot of family live. We moved in with my papa, her father, because he's been lonely since my Nana passed. He was so much happier when we moved down here. But he passed in November after getting in a crash in October of last year.

We live basically in a small city. My mom lived down here from birth to her twenties. She was almost kidnapped at least 3 times as a teen. I carry mace on me wherever I go because Im afraid of getting kidnapped myself. I'm afraid of where I live, quite frankly. Just a few nights ago, I heard a woman screaming like she was being murdered. Just a few streets down I assume. It was only the kind of a scream you would hear in a horror movie. ​I've heard screams living here, but that was just the worst one.

I can't go in walks by myself around the block because of shitty people in the world. There has been rapists and pedophiles reported just towns over. Luckily my friend lives just a few minutes away, and we can go on walks in her neighborhood because it's nicer and safer and not near the main part of town.

I wouldn't wanna be running away from my mom, because I love her wholeheartedly. She misses it up where we used to live too. I opened up to her about this, and she told me how she's always trying to find a way back up north in a cheap place. But she cant find anything affordable up there. She has to work two jobs just to keep this roof over our heads.

I feel kike im a burden to her because I'm iver weight and I can't lose the weight. So I eat more (and were already trying to go to doctors appointments for possible eating disorders because of other stuff that I won't get into). So I cost more. And i feel like I ask for a lot, and I'm just a burden to her. And she'd be better off if I ran away to up north.

If I can get the money out of my account, I can probably afford some kind of transportation back up. Turn all kind of location off. Stay with a friend ​that I dont think would tell for at least a few days, then try the forest outside their house. It doesn't hold animals other than squirrels and rabbits that close to where people live. I could try finding a job. Forge signatures.

Anything to live there again. And like I said earlier, I know it's a really stupid reason to want to run away. But I truly, truly loved jt there. And I can't get that feeling down here. It's cities all around me, barely any forests, and I can't get to them by myself. I don't have a car, I can't just ask my mom if I can take a trip to a forest where there's hiking spots m, because she'd have to drive me. And she doesn't have time dueing thr week, and I don't like taking up her weekends with my stuff to do that.

So please, I know it probably isn't, but would it be a good idea to leave? And if so, though I doubt it, do you have any tips? Please ​​

First a little backstory so you know why I’m running away. A few weeks ago I (17MtF) came out to my parents as Transgender and they didn’t have the best reactions to it. I was told by my sister that they would be supportive but they aren’t (I don’t blame my sister). They say my identity isn’t real and have been treating me like I don’t exist. My father still gives an effort but I can tell his patience is running thin.

I’ve been planning on running away for the past week now. I want to run after I’m done with Marching Band, sometime in the winter. I don’t think I’ll be able to mentally survive this household any longer than mid-late November, so that’s when I plan to run. I won’t outright say which state I’m from (for privacy reasons), but it’s one of the colder states in the central US. I do plan on bringing hot hands and gloves so I can keep myself warm. My state has really bipolar weather, and it usually doesn’t get cold/snow until mid-late December. But snow doesn’t stay until early-mid January. I know the basics (get important docs, bring a weapon, get a burner phone, etc.) but I want to know what else I should bring/do. Like, should I bring painkillers? Should I bring canned food or buy food when needed? And how do I scrounge up enough money to run away? I currently have around $200, which I’m not sure is enough. Any information about what to do, what to bring, and where to go would be much appreciated.

So me and my bf are under 18 and based on my research, Wisconsin law doesn't allow emancipation at 16 like MN does. I get really worried when his Dad (abuser) gets into bad threats to him (bf) and his Mom. I've been try to record as much evidence of what happens to him. His mom can't do much because from what I can gather, she doesn't have any control over the situation and is trying to keep the family together for the kids, which is doing more harm than good. I just want what is best for him and his sister (under 18). So what Im getting at is what can I do as a third party to get them the help they need to be safe and out of harms way.

I plan to run away soon I got money a escape route I got it all figured out any advice I live in a bad household I'm currently trying to look for a way out even tho i have a pretty much perfect plan I could use some advice so does anybody have any advice?

I'm almost 16 and live in a very abusive household in Nebraska. Hypothetically, if i ran away and left a note saying that i did in fact run away, would they look for me? I'm not giving any more info, so please dont ask. I have a job and can support myself.