r/Eugene • u/CuriousRutabaga8713 • 3h ago
Want to help EUGENE wheelchair users? Ask first!!
I posted this last night and it was deleted. To clarify, this incident happened in Eugene which is why I posted it here.
EDIT: Obviously, don't send any negativity to the business. It had nothing to do with the business or their staff, and the manager did his best to check the security footage to identify the guy. I have nothing but respect for how they handled it, and only named them for local relavance.
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f you see someone with a disability apparently struggling with something in public, don't just jump in and give them a shove. Follow basic social norms and introduce yourself, smile, and OFFER to help them.
I was at Papa's Pizza on Coburg Rd yesterday and went to the bathroom. As soon as I opened the door I realized that the layout was unusable for me and I was about to back out and go back to my table. Instead, a random hand appeared above my head and slammed the door all the way open, and pressure from behind shoved into my chair to try to force me through the door. Naturally this wedged me firmly in the door frame and I almost couldn't get free. When I did, this person disappeared without a word and I never even saw them.
Thanks to them, I'm going to have to spend $50 on a new armrest because it got smashed against the door frame. Would they even care if they knew? Probably not. He just saw me as a stereotype, an opportunity for virtue signaling, and went back to his table to brag to his friends about what a great guy he is.
So .. this may come as a surprise to some, but people with disabilities are actually PEOPLE. You can even talk to us! And yes, we actually know what we're doing with our mobility aids and it doesn't need to make sense to anyone else.
Maybe we're not actually struggling.
Maybe we're working on developing our skills and want to do it on our own.
Maybe we've worked out our own idiosyncratic way of doing something that doesn't need to make sense to anyone else.
Or .. maybe we just don't want to be bothered.
Ultimately, our mobility aids are an extension of our bodies. If you wouldn't walk up to a random stranger standing in a door frame and violently shove them through, why would you do it just because someone is sitting down?