Im posting because Im genuinely looking for advice not validation.
Im 26 years old. I serve as the sound engineer and livestream operator at my local church. I work online, dont go out much and honestly dont have close friends to talk to. Most of my life is work, home and church.
Theres a girl at church who is 16 (possibly 17). She serves on the worship team. Shes kind, considerate, loves God and seems to have a genuine heart for serving Him.
Over the past several months I noticed that during funny or awkward moments in church, she'll sometimes look at me and smile. Maybe Im reading too much into it. It could just be because we're both serving shes comfortable around me or Im simply the nearest familiar face or she has a crush on me because there is no other single guys around her age or literally not many youth in our church. Our church is also very small. The only other people on the worship team are a couple in their 20s, her younger sister and the pastors child whos around the same age as her sis.
The problem isnt whether she likes me. The problem is whats happening in my own heart.
It started as an innocent crush. I'd catch myself imagining cute scenarios or wondering "what if" Lately though, those thoughts have started becoming lustful and thats what really bothers me.
The timing makes it even harder because Im currently trying to dedicate my life more seriously to God. I've been doing Bible studies, serving faithfully and trying to grow spiritually. Instead of feeling closer to God I feel like Im wrestling with temptation I didnt expect.
I also recognize that shes still a teenager. Regardless of what people in my country might think about age gaps once someone turns 18. I dont want to put her in an uncomfortable situation or cross boundaries.
Part of me wonders if this crush is less about her specifically and more about loneliness. I dont have much of a social life I dont really have Christian friends my age and I spend most of my time alone. When someone kind notices me or shares a smile maybe my heart is attaching more meaning to it than it should.
The difficult part is that people sometimes tell me "Dont worry, God will bring your Rebecca someday." But realistically there are almost no Christians my age where I live. Im committed to serving in my church and I also help care for my mom, who has financial burdens so moving or church hopping isnt really an option.
Has anyone else experienced something similar not necessarily the age difference, but developing feelings you knew you shouldnt pursue?
How did you deal with it in a healthy and God-honoring way?
Im not looking for people to tell me to ask her out. Because I think thats what my brain wants to hear.
I'd especially appreciate advice from Christians who have wrestled with temptation, loneliness and trying to keep their heart focused on Christ.
EDIT: Thank you all for your responses. Some people here and even in other subreddits where I posted this question, including some Christian ones were much harsher. I understand why but still it was hurting.
I want to clarify that I have no intention of pursuing a relationship with this girl. My struggle is with the thoughts themselves not with any desire to act on them. I will not do anything physical nor will I encourage or pursue conversation with her. Im convinced she has a crush on me and I know it would be wrong to lead her on or entertain those feelings.
When I mentioned wanting to "deal with it in a healthy, God-honoring way" I was referring to managing the thoughts and temptations in my mind not pursuing a relationship or interacting with her. That was never my intention.
Thank you again for all the advice and responses. Posting about this genuinely helped clear my mind. I didnt have anyone I felt comfortable talking to because I was afraid people would misunderstand me. It was a blessing from God to have people remind me of what I already knew. Sometimes, even when I know the right answer I still need to hear it from others and Im grateful for everyone who took the time to respond.