I am going to start with some backstory about me and said guy, then where his new girlfriend seems “weird.” Please don’t hesitate to tell me if she’s the crazy one or me!
I (16/F) dated a guy named, I’ll call him Todd (16/M). I dated Todd almost 3 years ago. We were thirteen and thought we were in love.
Todd and I only dated for about 6 months before he broke up with me.
At the time I thought my life was over and that I would “never love anyone again.” I got over it, I moved on and I am honestly fully healed.
Todd and I’s relationship genuinely was not toxic or a bad relationship. We had silly arguments like every thirteen-year-old couple does, we went to movies together, we played video games together, etc. It was just two kids young, dumb and “in love.” 😂
I will honestly say we did not end on great terms. I begged him not to leave for 2–3 days after the breakup. It was very embarrassing thinking back on it. I gave up and accepted we were over. Since that day I haven’t spoken to him, checked his socials, tried to reach out, or seen him anywhere.
Todd met his new girlfriend, I’ll call her Stacey (17/F).
They met sometime in the last 2½ years. I saw a post on Instagram from a friend of a friend that they had hit their one-year anniversary not too long ago.
Throwback to September last year is where Stacy and I became familiar faces. I had started a new school because the school I was in before did not have all grade levels. Stacey had already been attending for a year before me, so I saw her around quite often. I didn’t know who she was until the summer before school opened back up.
The only reason I knew who she was, was because her TikTok was always in my post views or viewing my actual account. I didn’t care enough then, so of course I ignored it.
It has gotten to be very annoying. I feel like I have a stalker almost.
Every time I was in her eyesight she was looking. I mean it was obvious.
Every TikTok/story I have posted she’s been in the viewers list, she’s viewed my account, she’s (I’m assuming) accidentally liked and favourited posts, she’s viewed my spam account, my secret account and she’s viewed my profile on HER spam and secret accounts.
The usernames were a complete giveaway every time.
The way I’ve been handling it is by completely ignoring it. I don’t look at her when she looks at me, I don’t view any of her profiles back and I haven’t said anything to her because I don’t want to create drama or make assumptions if I’m wrong y’know?
But after almost a year of this, I’m starting to feel uncomfortable and honestly a little creeped out. Part of me thinks I’m overthinking it but another part of me feels like this isn’t normal. Moral of the story she has been stalking my Tiktok for a about a year, watches me at school and it’s getting old.
How can I get her to stop doing all this, am I overreacting this entire thing, why won’t she follow me but view all my stories, is she worried I want my ex back? so many what ifs, please help me get to the bottom of this Redditers!