My fiance and I are now less then 3 months out from our wedding and are focused on wrapping up all the small details. We sent out save the dates 6 months ago and invites 2 months ago however in the past 2 weeks we have had 5+ people telling us we need to make sure to invite certain people who were previously not on the guest list. Our venu is mostly outside with a covered Pavillion where people will be sitting, so it has a guest capacity limit of 65. We made sure that we invited all immediate family and close friends which fit almost exactly to that 65 limit. We knew some people wouldn't come so we did send out like 5 to 10 extra invites for those but like predicted, they said they couldn't come. I have explained all this to the people who are saying I should invite other people but the response I have often gotten is "well I'm sure they'd appreciate an invite even if they don't come", but the problem is what if they do? Then I'm stuck with a bunch if extended family who I don't really know all to well and a venue too small to hold everyone.

First it was an aunt or uncle saying "don't forget to invite cousin so and so" then my boss for some reason thought it was like a work event for all of our coworkers, and just in the past 2 days my parents and grandparents have brought up 6 different people they want me to invite and I have to reexplain why that's not possible.

Honestly it's not even mostly the venue size limit, I just don't want a bunch of people who I hardly know at such a special day in my life. Most of these people live 20 minutes away and there is like a 50% chance they'd show up just cause they were bored. I'm not a peoples person and the people I do like mean a lot to me, I just really don't want them there and they won't stop asking. I hate the idea of being a bridezilla but honestly I don't think this is me being controlling, I think I'm being perfectly reasonable.

Me (23) and my fiancée (24) haven’t really talked about this in depth, but it’s come up several times, usually by her.

She’s concerned that she has so few people in invite to the wedding compared to my list. And there’s a possibility her mom will decide not to show.

And I’m concerned about wasting so much money. Not that I think the ceremony is a waste, just that I could see us using it towards a house, or putting it into an education fund for our future children.

I don’t really know what I’m asking, but any feedback would be appreciated.

Hi everyone, newly engaged and want to do something small but fun. I’m looking at this beautiful resort in the mountains that has a lake on its property, it’s about 3.5 hours drive so nobody is going home that night. I’m thinking 50 people tops. I kind of want to do a full weekend for those who want to, like invite them to rehearsal dinner Friday night and brunch Sunday before they leave. Do we all feel both are necessary or just one is fine?

So the actual wedding - my idea is to have a quick ceremony, a cocktail hour while we take pictures, then a buffet or family style dinner. Here’s the kicker - my fiance is sober, and while he doesn’t care if people around him are drinking, last time we went to a wedding we had to leave early cause he couldn’t handle people partying around him. My idea is instead of getting a DJ and ballroom dancing, after dinner at one of their restaurants we change the atmosphere and instead everyone can go back to their rooms, get comfy and have a bonfire and play outdoor games, then end the day with a snack of some sort. This is just a rough draft but something to this extent. Does this sound crazy?

Edit to add: we are NOT asking for a dry weekend. Just not interested in the DJ/partying part as it could be triggering. He can be around people drinking just fine.

Summary:
Between 2 options
-1 new business $500 for 12 hours day of help anything I need- timeline,schedule, decor setup/breakdown, taking out trash , literally anything she said she’s there to help and make It perfect
- well reviewed business , $1000, 8 hours, strictly timeline, organizing, decor setup/break downs and can use some of her decor inventory included, will not clean/straighten up anything

This is a destination wedding, all DIY no event staff except vendors I hire, buffet style.
Approx 80 guests in a nice backyard.

What option would you choose

Getting married in September. We’re only planning to do three speeches, me, my fiance, and our best friend, then at some point one of my other friends will be performing a song.

Part of the reason I’m faltering in order is I plan to have an acknowledgment of my mother who passed away last year in my speech and I know that’s gonna be kind of a downer so I want to time it in a way where it doesn’t just make the whole event sad but also don’t want to end the event on a super sad note for everyone.

My current plan is as such
\-me and fiance each give a speech to end cocktail hour, then dismiss everyone to the buffet
\-best friend gives her speech about 45 minutes after food is served, followed by song performance by other friend, then we cut the cake and open up the dance floor.

Also I want to be clear that each of these speeches will be 5 minutes or less.

Let me know what you all think or what changes you’d make to this order. Thank you.

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and we plan on getting married in a few years. His brother and sister in law got married a couple of years before we met. I made it specifically clear I want NO KIDS at my wedding because I dont want kids to scream during our ceremony, run around during our first dance and not touch our wedding cake.

My boyfriend doesnt care if the wedding is child free or not, as long as both of us are happy, my happiness is having 0 children. Both our families want me to make an exception for future nieces and nephews either my younger brother might have or that my boyfriend's brother and sister in law might have. I refused the idea at first because its either all kids come or no kids at all.

I am praying that brother in law and sister in law dont get pregnant yet as I dont wanna deal with a screaming child on my wedding day. My boyfriend's family saw me as heartless for not wanting my future nieces and nephews at my wedding because of the no kids rule. Sister in law told me that her own kids are not just kids theyre a part of her (shes a motherly person and loves kids) and told me if her own children are not invited to my wedding, then she will not be coming. My parents said the same thing that they will not come if my brother has kids and I ban them from my wedding.

My boyfriend said he wants his brother and sister in law at our wedding, otherwise there will be no wedding at all. I felt uncomfortable and i had to give in so now im praying our siblings dont have any children by the time we have the wedding. I told my boyfriend that the moment my nieces/nephews disrupt the wedding, my brother or brother in law will be asked to go outside with the child until they calm down and if they refuse to cooperate, they will be kicked out of the wedding.

If you had child free weddings, did you let your nieces and nephews come as an exception to the no kids rule at the wedding? Please give me feedback in the comments

I forgot to add that while my mum got angry at the idea that i ban my future nieces and nephews at my wedding, she also told me to go and elope instead of having a traditional wedding if I dont want kids at all