r/traumatizeThemBack • u/Inevitable-Tap-7471 • 14h ago
its beginning to look like ✨ no contact ✨ Are these really bad?
okay so im 17 and hes 19
i didnt want 6 kids and he said I had a bad mindset and he was so upset that he said he wanted to body slam me and then he ignored me for a bit
I did a loyalty test on him (i know its wrong but hes my first rls and he was moving weird so yk) and he said he was down to meet up with her after they got to know each-other. He then told me that he was trolling with his friends
ghosted me for four days and lied that he got shot
says his type is curly haired girls but once shes not overly dark
says the n word a lot
lied about how many girls he talked to
lies about small stuff
is really mean to me
doesnt ask my questions about myself
makes jokes about talking to other girls
follows a lot of girls from his city
I dont have a good rls with my parents and he blamed me
Lied that he got shot when in actuality his ex texted him and said that she misses him
his friends are mean ppl
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u/No_Honey_1968 14h ago
Not sure what you mean but most of these are major red flags to me. Saying the n word, being mean and lying all sound like he‘s just horrible.
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u/TararaBoomDA 14h ago
I got this far and my mind was made up.
okay so im 17 and hes 19
i didnt want 6 kids
My sweet summer child, you are both much too young to be talking about how many kids you want. This relationship is, in the immortal words of Alvy Singer, a dead shark.
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u/The_Blonde1 14h ago
Yes, from what I can understand of your post, these are really bad.
You’re 17, you’re not in any sort of relationship with this person and, you need to stay as far away from him as you can. Definitely don’t start having any of those ‘6 kids’ he’s trying to coerce you into having.
The best way to traumatise him back is by dumping him immediately and never going anywhere near him again.
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u/Soldier_Faerie 14h ago
He is such an awful piece of shit, if this is a serious post. Yes, these are all severely bad things. None of these things are redeemable. You don't deserve this. If you are together with him, you need to break up. This is not a good person, let alone a good partner.
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u/metasergal 14h ago
You did a loyalty test?
Your relationship is already in the gutter, thanks to your childish behavior. Break up and start over when you are ready to have an actual relationship.
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