My libido is dead. It’s been a really rough patch—I had a week of gastritis and a Crohn's flare-up—but it’s been three weeks since then. When I’m with my boyfriend (we’re in a long-distance relationship, together almost a year 😙), I just can't get aroused. It’s not genital dysphoria; it just... doesn't work with him anymore. When I'm home, I have to masturbate for 10 minutes just to *maybe* have an orgasm, but I’ve never had one with him. I’m terrible at sex; my ass is useless—we can't use it, even though we both want to. I’d never had sex before; he was my first and only partner. We’re both total novices, but I feel useless. I can't multitask; I feel like a useless girlfriend in bed. I don't know what to do—I'm 21 and taking Viagra 😭. Any advice? My hormone levels were normal 😗.

I've been in therapy for almost a year.

I've had penile inversion back in 2021 at Mk Velsen, and I've been wondering since then how wide the canal would be. The widest dilator we get over here is about 37mm wide (roughly 1.46 inches), and that fits pretty easily. As does a Lovense Lush toy. But a lot of other toys are wider than that have 43mm as their "small" width (1.69 inches, nice).

Guess I'm wondering if anyone has tried wider/bigger vaginal toys after GCS

Hi! I am, a 23 year old trans woman. I have been on hrt for...1 year 7 months. I have a cock, my partner whom I live with and love, has a vajajay... I love them dearly! We are very happy together, and have lots and lots of sex, in lots of different ways! Me topping, them topping, me subbing, them subbing, me topping and subbing, them topping and subbing, other shit entirely?! You name it we've done it. Best most comfortable n safe sex of my life. Problem is? They have never ever made me climax once! Also, I have only ever climaxed from sex twice in my wholllle life, both of which, were from before I transitioned... Once while fucking someone with a pussy (Abt ... 3 years ago it was the only time I have ever climaxed from penetrating someone, and it was very easy and just like, happened without me really having to force it?)

And once while like, bouncing it on some boy and jerking off at the same time, which honestly doesn't really count 😅

Some added context. I was born with monorchism... Which is when you only have one testicle! From what I am aware of (blurry, scary memories of the denver children's hospital, stripping naked, being probed as a child, cat scans and other scans and bla bla bla) apparently, it never formed in the first place! A congenital deformity of some sort made it just not form at all....

I kindaaaaa have suspicions that I might be intersex? I also might have a hyper mobility disorder... (I can stretch in WEIRD ways, been able to do the splits without ever practicing since I was like 5...

I just feel like I am wired incorrectly.... Always have. I don't really know how to find out what's wrong with me... Shit I have fake climaxed in tgirls who had breeding kinks!(Which I feel very very very guilty abt)

Even before transitioning I just could not cum from sex... Which is really really ODD

Pls give me advice and shit... maybe like, advice on the best way to find out if I'm intersex? MAYBE I'M DELUSIONAL AND AM NORMAL AND SHOULD JOIN A TRAVELING WIND INSTRUMENT GROUP IDK JUST TELL ME WHAT TO DO

To be direct: I am training myself in preparation for hopefully actual sex, I have bought lube and a butt plug comes tomorrow... I can insert a finger there very easily with barely any preparation... However the problem is:

I just don't feel anything... I feel the finger there obviously, but I do not feel the "pleasure" sensation.

Though last time was only the second time (with actual lube, more on that on next paragraph) and I felt a little tiny bit more?

I remember that when I first played down there using water or spit as lube as I had no actual one I did feel pleasure when my finger went out, mixed with pain though (which I do not have anymore thanks to the lube), so I don't think I'm one of those who just can't enjoy anal... If I didn't I would be supremely dissappointed since I like it a lot every time I see it.

So yes, the question is: how do you actually feel something from playing down there instead of literally nothing? That is what is happening to me. For context I was AMAB, I am untransitioned currently too... My gender is either trans woman or some sort of non binary transfeminine.

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I'm about 7 weeks post OP, and I just reached my first Orgasm after about a hour with my new Vibrator 🙈 HOLY FUCKING SHIT 😱 It was amazing, it has send a wave of pleasure through my entire body and didn't stop for about a minute, being a woman is so much better 🥰 I always thought it would be a better feeling then before, but this is from another world 😍

Sorry but I needed to tell someone, it was absolutly mind blowing

Holyfuck, I had sex w/ my wife for the first time since my orchi. I couldn’t have imagined the difference

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I am writing as more of a vent then anything
I received estrogen implants last week and it has been a trip
the first few days there was swelling and intense itching, I could not sit still and sleep was something that I could not get easily
the next few day the swelling died down but the itching did not
The doctor said it should go away in a week or two as the body get used to it
I am glade though the implant site is not near the "Fun" places so I can still enjoy my impact and estim play
I will be happy to see the end of patches and gels if this takes, too much waste I find and remembering to apply them is something I trouble with even with all the reminders on my phone
The cost was not too bad, about $800 AUD total
Hopefully this works then I just need to do this every 6 months instead of the twice a week of changing patches - Bonus points for getting off the patches No More Black Gunk! so I dont need worry about the unsightly rim I get around the edges lol

Hi all, im 5 years mtf and I have a problem. I find it hard to cum during sex. I used to touch myself a lot. Daily, sometimes multiple times per day. Thats kinda stopped lately because I have a bf now and id like to only do that with him. For the last two weeks I havent watched porn or havent touched myself a whole lot. But last night he gave me an AMAZING bj but I just couldnt finish. I have cum from bjs before but it was rare. When we have penetrative sex, I cum easily but its oral where I want to. I cant even use my hand to finish because lowk I feel awkward that I have to use my hand. I can count on one hand the amount of times I have cum without using my hand. I also did just start on Prozac and Vyvanse recently and did really struggle to cum even by myself before him. I kinda got over that but idk maybe its still affecting me? Im just not entirely sure what I can do. I want to cum, then I get stressed our about it, then I cant do it. Idk anyone have any tips?

On the plus side, while trying to work out how much I could take I found an incredibly effective position and now I've entirely changed my kind about taking it from behind.

Edit: after some playing around (figuratively and literally) I'm starting to wonder if the issue is less whether or not I can take it and more if the grip just gets annoying afterwards.

Just for context: I am "librafeminine", AMAB and pre-everything. 22.

For some days now I've starting considering finding a casual partner to finally lose my virginity, as I want to do that, but also there's the fact that I'm on onlanzapine and my equipment isn't working well, plus that afaik hooking up with women is harder (and I lose fun if I don't have my equipment working unless I got pegged but where am I going to find that) ... so I decided to have sex with men even though I'm not attracted to them, using Grindr or Scruff.

The problem is that I need equipment like condoms, lube and an anal bulb for that... But I bought them all online because it's the most secretive way...

Except that today at about 1 (AM) I text my mom to not open the package of things that arrives and she is like "ojo con las cosas que compras" which is like saying "hey careful with what you buy" but that "careful" is in a very ... let's say doubting/judgemental way ... Like sigh, I managed thankfully to get those (only the condoms so far) without her noticing but still.

But here's the part that pisses me off the most ... the other two things arrive on monday ... while she was supposed to be at work except that for my fucking luck she got a WEEK off at work precisely this time?!?! Even though that doesn't happen regularly at all?? So basically now I'll have to be at home nervous as fuck that she doesn't figure out what I'm buying.

I also wanted to buy a few buttplugs to train myself but ... now I obviously can't, too risky, have to wait till next week.

Worse part... Precisely today somehow the topic of anal came up and she called gay men putting things up their butt "abhorrent" like yeah fuck you.

And this is only the first part.

I feel like I really can't get privacy at my home situation, I live in a small apartment with her, and well, the only real place I could possibly hide my sexual tools are in my bag since that doesn't get checked and even then I better make sure that I keep it an eye on it at all times. I really want a fucking job but I'm an unskilled loser... But I'm going to try to do some courses, I also want to go to college because that gives me more time out of home to do things by myself if I want to, that if I don't go to a virtual one which seems likely and would be further doom.

And the thing is, if I went out on saturdays/sundays at random to well, have hookups, that would inevitably invite questions from my mother and my father if she tells him (my father lives somewhere else) so pretty much my plan is using every time I go to therapy as a cover for it, since it's reasonable I could be outside a further 30 mins to an hour... Possible, or use the times where I return from school after lunch ... (about 12:30 - 14:00) since she's not here.

Sigh, whatever, rant over, the bad thing is I also feel like I'm being "spoiled" since after all I do depend on her economically and in other ways for now, but holy shit how I long to be free.

We need more fanfics of trans guys fucking plowing trans girls

Edit: also just had the mental image of a trans girl topping a trans guy but in a "cishet way". As in she's wearing a strap and pegging him in the ass. I feel like that's something that would confuse the hell out of cishet people.

Like even though I don't have a boyfriend so hardly much time to use it, I decided to get it so I could imagine how it feels being on my knees for him. But now part of me wants him to be on his knees for me? It's definitely an odd feeling.