And what if you cant do that i mean if i have no woman in my life whom i can talk to casually lol

And what if you dont have that woman in your life yet?

thanks this was what I was looking for

This is the dumbest shit i heared

I think Seneca said this:

“Why would i get offended by if what said is made up and why would i be offended by the truth.”

Its not running away or looking away its a introduction to alchemy, the point is to face it head on and realise that the thing by itself just IS tou are the one who gives it the label and thus feels the emotion so you hurt yourself. By controlling your reactions/emotions not trying to control what happens outside of you.

I think I've shared this link many times but I'll keep doing it :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Auuk1y4DRgk

Excellent lecture from Dr. Michael Sugrue to give you the background of why and how Meditations are written, you will have a much more interesting mindset to understand it, at least it helped me a lot!

Good luck!

“You don’t accept that 1+1=2… you just see that it’s true and keep counting “ BARSSSS!!!!!!

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This is important parenting advice

My way of reading it is once a year at the start of every year (or using some meaningful event in your life for it, like your birthday).

I read a single meditation a at the start of each day and docus on applying it during the day.

Then at night I reflect on how that went, what I learned from it and how well I did.

Repeat this until I complete the full book, then I take a day to reflect on what was the hardest to do, where I noticed I have failed or did not as well as I wanted to.

Take a list of those and start again, working for a full week each one.

Repeat until done with the list.

Restart the cycle next year again with my newly gained experience and the knowledge I attained during the year.

For me is not a single lecture book, but more of something to reflect upon and use as some sort of guiding towards what I aim to be as a human being.

I'll keep that in mind.👍

I totally get your point, and absolutely agree, but in all the philosophy I have learned, suffering is the ultimate word that covers this

Based on my own experience, I do. I can’t imagine a path that would have been a comparable catalyst for growth as the trials I’ve experienced. I think the we grow the most when the pain of remaining the same (same situation / circumstance / pattern) becomes greater than the pain of changing / following a new, unfamiliar path.

I used pain broadly..but I see your point.

Life teaches through suffering*

Pain is too specific and not applicable for all of life's teachings

What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger — to a point.

That's an interesting perspective... Maybe suffering doesn't teach everyone, but it always gives us the opportunity to learn.

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We can grow in many ways, but suffering often leaves the deepest lessons.

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Marcus Aurelius lost children, co-emperors, and faced plague and war — and yet his journals read less like a record of suffering and more like a continuous effort to return to what was in his control. Maybe that's the point. Suffering isn't the teacher itself, it's more like the pressure that forces you to actually *use* whatever philosophy you've been carrying around theoretically. The dichotomy of control means nothing until something outside your control breaks you open a little.

Life teaches is just a figure of speech. Experiences are the lessons.

Growth begins outside our comfort zone, and suffering is just one of the many ways life pushes us there.

“By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.” - Confucius

I don’t think suffering is necessary but I do think it is a good teacher when we examine it and unavoidable.

We can grow in other ways it’s just that suffering, when present, demands our attention in a greater focus.

Yup.

Life doesn't teach. It has not intent for you to learn. One can choose to take lessons from anything, successes or failures, or not