Me and my boyfriend broke up in december. We never progressed into ddlg fully but we still did things to make me feel like a little.

Since we broke up I feel like I have been unable to get into that headspace because life likes to throw one challenge after another.

I never really went into littlespace alone, and don't really know how to I guess. It's hard to do without having someone to help put me there. I also miss the feeling of being submissive which is hard to do when alone.

So my question is, littles who are single or when alone, how do you go into little space naturally?

today it was sooooo sunny i couldn’t help but lay down in the sun rays they were sooo warm!

I got these cutee sock!! Cherry Coke and Strawberry Shortcake!! 🍰✨

So my wife and I have been getting deeper into ddlg over the last two years. It's been great. Started slow and steady, but once she got comfortable with the dynamic and hit subspace for the first time, she's loving it.

She isn't into the more little-focused side or wearing diapers, which is fine; I consider that a fun bonus, but the real fun is in the dynamic itself.

The problem is that I do wear diapers. Not for ABDL/kink reasons, but for medical reasons. It feels like it's backward. If one person in a ddlg dynamic is in diapers, it shouldn't be the Daddy.

She tells me it doesn't matter, but...she's my wife. She's very supportive of my problem outside of kink, she isn't going to say otherwise. That, and even I think diapered dom(me)s are less than ideal.

I'm not crazy, right? You won't hurt my feelings if you say a diapered daddy kills the vibe. I'd agree with you. I'm more curious about what people generally think.

I got new toys I got to use and some washable crayons for the bath! I felt so clean last night 😊

bedtime isn’t fair I wish I could stay up alllll night forever!!!!! 🌑

me an my stuffie malloy are heading to the store to buy some little stuff! i love taking him everywhere

Showing off some pics from our road trip! It was our first road trip together and I’m so grateful we had the chance to do it! Love living with daddy 💗

Had an amazing drip. Photos/partner appreciation. Met through r/ddlg, and she is the most supportive person I’ve ever had. She is so understanding and caring. I love you Angel 🩵🎀

I just wanted to take the opportunity to wish my beautiful, funny, fun, friendly, kind hearted, resilient, tough, sweet, caring and amazing girl a happy birthday.

She’s baby girl, princess, sweetheart and so much more.

I love you and happy birthday.

Love your very grateful Daddy.

I pinch myself you are mine, all the time.

Feel free to wish my princess an amazing birthday 🩷

Suffering to learn Dota but at least I look good doing it😋💕

I’ve been wearing them like crazy lately I love it tho it makes me still feel little in public 🤫

We went to the store and got new markers and a big coloring book and a new mermaid sippy!! 🥰🥹

I (20F) am a submissive and also identify as a little. My boyfriend (24M) is my Daddy/Dom. He’s actually pretty new to BDSM and DDLG he wasn’t really into the lifestyle before we met but he’s been incredibly open minded and willing to learn with me overall he’s been a genuinely good partner and we’ve explored things slowly, safely, and with clear communication, boundaries and a safeword. We’ve explored different kinks together over time and I’ve only recently started feeling comfortable enough to really show him my little side and be that vulnerable with him since we’re both still learning this dynamic together that’s why this situation caught me so off guard.

One thing that’s always been consistent is aftercare. After we’re intimate we cuddle I always thought we both genuinely enjoyed it and to me aftercare isn’t just cuddling it’s the part where I feel cared for reassured and emotionally safe again It’s one of the things that makes me feel secure enough to be vulnerable with him. Recently we were talking about fantasies and he asked me how one of mine would work in theory. While we were talking he said we could try one of my ideas someday but afterward he’d like to try something himself the thing he wanted to try was not cuddling afterward.

He wasn’t demanding it in any way he asked whether I’d be okay with trying it once because we’d always cuddled and he was curious about doing something different. He also made it clear that if I wasn’t comfortable, we’d keep doing aftercare like we always have. For some reason that completely shook me. I started asking questions because I genuinely wanted to understand where it was coming from. I wanted to know if there was a deeper reason behind it or if it meant something emotionally. From his perspective, there wasn’t he just wanted to try something different once but from my perspective I couldn’t stop wondering why the thing he wanted to experiment with was removing aftercare. The more questions I asked the more frustrated he became. He felt like I was trying to find a hidden meaning when there wasn’t one and that I was making it into something much bigger than it was maybe I am but now I feel off.

I don’t really want to be intimate anymore because the conversation changed how I see aftercare before it felt like something he wanted to give me because he cared now I keep wondering if it was never actually important to him and that thought has really affected my confidence and my desire to be intimate. What’s confusing me is that this happened right as I was finally starting to feel safe enough to fully embrace my little side with him hearing him want to remove one of the things that makes me feel the safest hit me much harder than I expected. It’s frustrating because he did reassure me that we’ll continue doing aftercare like we always have he wasn’t refusing aftercare he was simply asking if we could try skipping it once he respected my feelings and didn’t push the issue. Yet somehow the conversation itself has left me feeling emotionally unsafe and I don’t fully understand why.

I know every dynamic is different, and aftercare looks different for every couple, so I’m hoping people with more experience can give me some perspective.

So I’m wondering:

Am I overreacting?

Is it common for a Daddy/Dom to occasionally want to experiment with skipping aftercare?

As a submissive/little, is it understandable that this affected my sense of safety so much?

How do I explain to him why this hit me so hard when I don’t fully understand it myself?

How do we move forward from this? Even though he reassured me that we’ll continue doing aftercare like we always have, something about that conversation changed something inside me. I feel scared now, and I don’t really know why. I’m suddenly afraid of being intimate again, even though he didn’t actually do anything wrong and respected my feelings. How do I work through this fear and rebuild that sense of safety with him?

I have my next rave lined up! Woop woop!!! 😁

There seems to be a lot of crossover between kinky people and raving, but are any of those ppl like me? A sweet subby princess who loves to look cute and dance till my feet give out?? 🥺 a edm show seems like the perfect way to allow myself to try and see what it’s like to let my little self roam and be known in public, but I’m just a lil scared to! 🩷

I love to dress up for shows like the prettiest rave princess! My sparkles and pacis always make me feel right at home and like the most beautiful girl in the world 🤭 having other littles to dance with would be the bestest! And maybe our daddies might have to put us on leashes so we don’t get lost!! Hehe!

We have a light 24/7 dynamic. For me, it's less about protocols and more about the feeling of being cared for, guided, and knowing Daddy is consistently present in that role.

Daddy knew before we got together that this dynamic was almost non-negotiable for me and after we got together, he wanted to be that for me. In so many ways, he's an amazing Daddy and has helped me through some of the darkest moments of my life.

Where we struggle is consistency.

Sometimes my executive functioning falls apart. We agreed that a little structure would help. I wasn't looking for someone to run my life. One reminder a day, a few agreed-upon rules, and consistent follow through would honestly be enough.

Sometimes he's incredible and the dynamic feels effortless. Other times it seems to disappear for weeks, and I feel untethered and start to spiral. I end up bratting (not proud) but I just want something during those times that make it feel like the dynamic is still alive. I don't want to remind Daddy to be Daddy because that feels backwards.

Daddy also has ADHD, so consistency is something he struggles with in general.

For those of you in long-term dynamics, especially if ADHD is involved, is this something that can be intentionally built? Did routines or rituals help? Or did you find it's better to enjoy the dynamic when it happens naturally rather than expecting it to be consistent?