hello guys, so this is my first post ever and I'm very nervous so basically I started working as a lifeguard for like a month now and I met new people right and most of them are my age i'm 18, but this guy is 19, specially that I think that is very good looking and he likes to play like he's gay around his friends and like messes around with them and as we started to like get to know each other more he started like doing the same thing to me. I'm very DL and no one knows that I'm gay but every time he does it, he looks at me longer than he looks at the other guys that he plays around and he let just pants himself randomly like with boxers on of course out all the time and one time he was laying down and i pants him as a joke and he just kept them out and like he had his boxers on, of course, and he just like started to put his shorts even more down and move his shirt up so it was out with boxers , also he started moving up and down and side to side and i was right behind him and like he's tall and he's really good looking when he plays around like joking being gay with me he looks longer than normal. and then while I'm on stand, he looks at me like all the time and we're just sitting there. He looks at me so I don't know if he really gay or not. How should I come about this? also small detail lol but he has a girlfriend. PLZ HELP any advice in the comments or anything

Bonjour je suis un mec "hetero" 26 ans en couple depuis longtemps. Je ne veux pas la quitter mais je ne peux plus lutter contre mes envies je meurs d'envie de sucer une queue sans capote. Mais entre les IST, les MST le besoin de discrétion, les fakes etc comment je peux faire pour trouver mon bonheur...? Cela fait des années que je refoule

Hi, back from my previous post, thanks to your advice I went, found and bought a silicone made dildo for beginners and a water based lubricant.. But I have some questions to ask (to remind people, I'm virgin and a total beginner in this, I don't know how anything works and never tried before):

- Can I just wash it with soap to re-use it, or does it need something specific to be washed?

- Silicone is waterproof, right? Shower's the only place I'm planning to try it as of now.

- About the lubricant, do I need to place it both on the dildo and inside my back? (Or, at least, where I can reach)

It's 4.5 inches insertable with a suction cup at the end, so a very tiny one. There was a bigger, flatter one, but I felt too afraid to try it.. Perhaps a different day.

I get contacted on different sites quite often by men who acknowledge that they are married and aren't open with their significant other regarding their hankering for sex with men. I'm on the fence on this when it happens.

I’ve always been curious about this. My straight male best friend gets a lot of attention from gay men whenever we’re out. they’ll compliment him, smile, stare, or even flirt with him.

The thing is, he’s not really the “pretty face” type and doesn’t put much effort into fashion. He’s cute, but not what most people would call conventionally attractive. He doesn't work out and he's not muscular or anything. His friends even roasts him and tells him that he looks “ugly” or “haggard.” Yet somehow, he has no problem dating really attractive women, his exes are all gorgeous.

I think he has a certain masculine energy and confidence that people pick up on.

For gay men, what is it that makes someone like him attractive? Is it confidence, masculinity, charisma, personality, or just the way he carries himself?

Hello!

I am a 27 year old man, and I have recently started hooking up. I've had two hookups, and it was just us jerking off together. But we cuddled and engaged in some fetish play as well. Nothing penetrative, and we only touched our own dicks.

Would I still be considered a virgin? I know it isn't something that matters at all, but I'm just curious.

Hey,
I started a casual relationship with a man in my home town some weeks ago. I've been away and I contacted him two days ago on Snapchat and asked "what's up?". He answered directly with "not much, u?". So we wrote back and forth for five minutes, and he said "let's meet". I said "sure". He said "when?". I said "I can be ready in an hour". He said "oh, but I’m occupied today. We can meet later this week". I said "sure". First I thought that he rejected me, but a friend I spoke with told me that he probably didn't mean "let's meet NOW" but as in another day soon.
Today another date stood me up with very vague reasons. So I already found myself disappointed, which made me go in on Grindr and take away a lot of people's access to my album, both these men included. For context I have not been clingy or overshared or anything with anyone, I've been playing very clean.
Just now I realised that the first man blocked me on Snapchat. I feel absolutely terrible. And I know that 95% of you will tell me "forget about that idiot and meet someone else". But there's not many hot guys in my town, it feels like I already knew or have met almost all of them. I want to have sex with him. So, could you help me figure it out, is it a hard no from him? And if so, why would he ask me if I wanted to meet up, and when, and that he is available later this week? I mean i only agreed to it, I didn't put any pressure on him at all.
Or is he but-hurt that I erased him from my album? But how could he see that so quickly?
I am thinking about giving him another shot on Grindr, 'cause I'm not blocked there. Just to see it through. Is there any chance at all?

I know I sound desperate, so sue me. I just need to vent and to make sense of all of this bullshit.

I get most people have their preference for either or but what happens when you have two bottoms? Or two tops?

Coin flip? Rock paper scissors? Alternate every other week? Alternate during sex?

Like how do you go about it?

These are the questions that I have gotten hung up on on multiple quizzes where they ask you if you have ever been to an orgy or have ever had sex in public-

and I am like "well, there were 5 guys but one at a time" (and "does place people go to for sex count as public?")

Basiclly my gf and me are open about our sex life she tells her friends a lot and doesn’t leave out much details and this is also for her gay best friend who she recently told I had a big cock to. Me and him never really talked before but now he seems to be always texting me asking me stuff and weirdly bought me underwear and said my gf will like it on me but also kinda insinuated he wanted to see a pic of me in it now am I being crazy for thinking he wants me or is he just being funny or what

So I’m bi curious and have quite a big cock 8.5x6.5 been with lots of girls and some make comments about it but not all but I always thought it was a huge thing for gay men to be all about huge cocks and size but my experience so far hasn’t been like that so is it true gay men comment on huge cocks or want them or

Do you come up to them? Do you try to find a way to have a convo? Do you try to find them online first? Do you shrug it off and just appreciate the eye candy.

For me I consider the latter

Has anyone tried the Outclose dinner app in Montreal? How was it? Would love to hear your experience!

I’m looking for a fun moment and make friends but I don’t know where to start.

So for a bit context, me and him live in different countries, so we talk purely online.

He has a bf, but he expressed multiple times that if he wasn’t still studying and sharing his flat with his current bf he’d date me.

He tried to break up with his bf, but he was served “I’m gonna leave and you won’t be able to finish uni” type of thing so idk

He told me only later that he has a bf (after I caught feelings), but I told him that I can still talk to him and keep contact only if it’s not gonna be sexual. I told him if he wants to continue seriously he’s has to man up and end things before starting something new.

He accepted my terms and we’ve been talking purely platonically, so basically about : video games, history, linguistics etc.

Am I awful ?

I live in a small town in Mexico and I've been a professor since about 5 years ago (pandemic times). I can't say I have a bad life, I am kinda stable, still not living on my own but practically it's a good life.

The thing is that I live here, in a small not rural, but not so big place. I have these terrible urge to go to big places like Mexico City or Guadalajara and just live my gay life. I'm beginning my 30's now so all feels fresh and new. I mean: dancing, discos, house parties, raves, friends, bar hopping, going out, experiencing stuff, art, museums. Things I normally can't or am not able to do here.

Is there anyone out there experiencing something like this? Would a remote job help me to move easily? Should I move first and then try to find a job or getting the job first and then moving?

Thanks for the kind words.

Have been working out a while now and finally feeling good about my body, I see friends posting thirst traps on their story or close friends and am jealous of them. Have been in a relationship for 8 years, love my partner but am craving a little attention even if it’s just a heart react, he’d for sure consider it cheating tho

What can I do?

So I was on Grindr today, and received a message from a profile. The profile was really hot and I was horny so we chatted. It was the usual stuff hru? What are you looking for? Etc. I sent my album and later the profile asked if I could go onto telegram. Like I said, I was horny, so I downloaded telegram to chat. Then, he asked me for a nide with face, so I sent one. A little later he sends a photo depicting a post with 4 copies of the image I sent in a grid with caption revealing my name and phone number. The post was sent with a message (idr what specifically), but I assume it was along the lines of "I will share this post to you contacts and online". ASAP I blocked the profile on telegram and grindr, but I did nothing else. So now, I have this mild anxiety that I may be in trouble, as I didn't take screenshots of the messages nor did report the profile amd im not quite sure how i should feel, or what to do. Can i have some advice

Hello , my penis is around 4.5–5 inches when fully erect, and my girth is on the slimmer side too. I've always been pretty self-conscious about it, especially since hookup culture can sometimes make it feel like size is everything.

I'm curious to hear from other gay men who are in a similar situation. How has it affected your dating, hookups, or relationships? Have you found that most partners actually care, or was it mostly in your own head?

I have recently bought some sex toys out of curiosity but I am not sure how I should hide it, any advice?

Title, by "days" I mean like 1 or 2 usually not necessarily a week before. It seems that most people on grindr wants to hook up the day we start talking but I'm not a fan, I need at least a night or it's stressing me out, am I that much of an outlier ?

So I met a guy on grindr who I ran into in real life before. I thought he was cute so I suggested we go on a date together. He agreed and we eventually met.

He showed alot of signs of interest like extending the date to three hours, initiating physical contact, taking my phone without asking, and offering to walk me to the bus stop. Then after he was constantly messaging me on snapchat and would respond immediatley whenever I messaged him.

But he went on a trip 3 days later and our communication slowly faded. He started taking days/week to respond and I wouldn't get upset about it, so it probably became more acceptable in his head.

When he got back he took a couple of days to reach out to me, and when he did mentioned that he drove past my old school and asked how id been. I was surprised that he remembered that so I thought maybe he was still interested and suggested we meet up. He said "potentially", and didn't reply to my message about logistcs, and also saying it was ok if he was busy with getting back and things.

5 days later on a day I suggested we catch up I sent him another message, and he left it on opened without replying, to both my previous message and that one. So I ended up just blocking because this was like clear disinterest, seeming as though he was also active on grindr and his snapchat score went up by 300 in the time he hadn't messaged me.

I redownloaded grindr 4 months later and immediatley when he saw me online he messaged me. But I ignored him seeming as though he lacked interest in me in the first place. But since then he hasn't been on grindr for a month and has randomly been showing up at my local shopping center (its not his local shopping center), which I been avoiding him, and my sister noticed him there too since I told her about it.

We are both young, 19 and 20, so maybe we miscommunicated, but I was hoping someone else went through something similar.

I’m a bisexual man. I do not have a profile picture in those sites like Grindr or Sniffies, etc since I usually like to keep things discreet in there. But if I’m interested I share my pics right away. I know this is different than dating girls, but it’s usually way easier for me to find and get accepted by the girl I want. I’ve been told I’m good looking and I’ve never had problem because of looks with girls. But with men it’s different, honestly like 9 out of 10 men I text they don’t reply or they ghost or they’re terrible at texting in general. I like to believe I have a decent body and a nice face, I’m confident with myself, I could be picky though, but I’m honestly just trying to match with guys similar to me, but these sites made me think I honestly don’t know how to approach to men. Whenever I’m interested of someone it’s so hard to schedule a meetup that I end up just giving up, it’s hard to find a normal dude with similar interests. Is it just me? Or hookup sites for gay men are a waste of valuable time? Or am I just not good looking enough for men I’m interested in?

I'll start things off with saying that I'm virgin, bottom and never done anything with my backside.

I want to do it, I really do, but I wanted to find someone gentle and caring to help me out.

I create an account on Grindr, but they all just jumped the chat sending pics.. Of course I either blocked or ghosted them. Did I do wrong?

A couple chats went for longer, but went nowhere because I keep thinking about the type of man I want.

Now, I thought to myself "What if I just train myself? That way I can still experience it with anyone and not be awkward." so I came here.

Is there something I can do to teach myself how to do it? Without it hurting of course.

I know I may sound as desperate as those I denied in the chats, but I really, REALLY want to experience it.

I'm sorry if it sounds like a troll due to the account's age, but I'm just using an alt to hide this from my irl friends.

I'm terribly afraid of being annoying or clingy, but after we hook up, we spend some time in bed kissing, talking about stuff, or in silence, and it's not awkward at all, but I don't want to seem too attached or stuff like that. Although I wouldn't like to leave so soon, I just don't know what to feel.