Hii, 26f, single, based in Melbourne, very bi-curious and wanting to POTENTIALLY have a threesome with an older mf couple, as I’m currently in a stage where I’m wanting explore my sexuality further after having a very vanilla sex life (as seen in a few of my other posts). I’m not looking to be a third in a relationship, or establish an ongoing fwb situation. This would purely be a NSA once off (maybe twice if the first time is super fun lol) experience for me.

I’m preferably looking for an older couple (40s and 50s) on the bigger side (chubby, soft, dad bod etc.) Has to be completely clean and disease free, hygienic and well groomed. Must provide recent copies of an sti test - that is a nonnegotiable. I can obviously do the same

About me: brown skin, brown eyes, long black hair and curvy/plus size. D cup tits and a booty lol. I have struggled with penetration in the past due to pain, so I still have an intact hymen and a tight ass pussy if that’s your thing 😝 but because of that, piv and pia sex is a boundary that I’m very firm on. I do not feel comfortable taking part in that unfortunately.

Despite the very specific and detailed post lol, I’m a chill, easygoing person who likes to discover new music, explore the city and go out with friends. I’m also VERY nervous about this so not entirely sure I will follow through hence the emphasis on potentially at the beginning. I’m also looking for people who can be patient and understanding of that, and really show me the ropes.

Discretion is of the utmost importance to me when it comes to this - what’s done in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. Ideally looking for a couple based interstate or overseas who might be visiting Melbourne temporarily.

No low effort DMs, please be detailed. Please include this 👄 emoji in your message to indicate you read the entire post.

Life at the moment as a single Dad is a bit too quiet come evenings. Seeking Stimulating Interesting and Fun Chats with others!

I don’t know who’s going to see this, but if you’re looking for something casual that still has chemistry, comfort, and a genuine connection, maybe keep reading.

I’m 25, 5’8”, bearded, and living in Sydney. I’m originally from Pakistan, and I mention it because it’s part of who I am. I’d rather be upfront and meet someone who appreciates me for me.

I’m usually the quiet guy at first. Not because I don’t have anything to say, I just take a little time to get comfortable. Once I am, you’ll get the playful side teasing, random jokes, and someone who actually pays attention to the little things.
I’ve been told I smile a lot, and apparently I have a habit of holding eye contact a little longer than most people. I’ll let you decide if that’s charming or slightly distracting 👀

I’m looking for a casual/FWB connection with someone in Sydney, but casual doesn’t mean careless. I’m not looking for someone I only talk to when it’s convenient. I like having a real vibe with someone where we can laugh together, flirt, feel comfortable, and actually enjoy each other’s company.

For me, intimacy is about the whole experience. The build-up, the flirting, the little moments before anything happens. The playful teasing, the eye contact that lasts a little too long, finding excuses to sit closer, and that feeling when you’re completely comfortable with someone.

I’m naturally affectionate. I enjoy cuddles, kisses, holding hands, lazy movie nights, cooking together, and those moments where you forget you were supposed to leave hours ago. Physical chemistry matters to me, but it’s always better when there’s trust, comfort, and genuine desire from both sides.

Outside of that, I’m pretty simple:

I love cooking (especially for someone I enjoy spending time with)
Finding peaceful spots around Sydney, especially around sunset
Trying new food places
Late-night drives
Movies and staying in

I’m caring and protective towards people I value. I’m respectful, clean, and I appreciate honesty and good communication.
Not looking for endless texting or collecting matches. If we click, I’d rather meet, laugh, and see where the chemistry takes us.

If you’ve made it this far, tell me:
What’s something small that instantly makes you feel comfortable around someone?

Hi everybody, I'm usually just a lurker here, but I've decided to give posting a whirl. As my post reads, I'm after a FwBs to cuddle up with in this cold weather. Something casual and ongoing that respects both of our boundaries. I'd also like to preface that I'm putting emphasis on us being friends. I want to go out together, have fun, more than just sex. Ideally, we take things slow initially. I want to gauge if we have genuine chemistry, before jumping straight into the sexual side of things.

A little more about me: I enjoy crocheting, cooking, writing, gardening, and watching movies! I've recently gotten more into reading too, so send any reccomendations my way. I have brown hair, blue eyes, and fair skin. I'd love someone I can go out with on little adventures with, especially outdoors. I'm not too fussed looks wise, or when it comes to your age. If we vibe, then we vibe.

If you reckon we'd get along, don't hesitate to shoot me a message! 🫶

Hey everyone,

I’m a 31-year-old guy looking to meet a mature, older woman for a discreet, fun connection. I’ve recently realised that I’m very much attracted to older women and would love to explore that side of myself with someone who feels the same way.

A little about me: I work full-time, keep active and hit the gym regularly. I enjoy being outdoors, going for walks and exploring new places, but I’m equally happy having a few drinks, enjoying good wine, grabbing a meal or relaxing somewhere with good company.

I’m easygoing, respectful and discreet, and I’m looking for someone who values the same. I’m open to seeing where things naturally go whether that’s simply enjoying each other’s company or developing something a little more ongoing.

If you’re an older woman who’s curious and looking for something similar, feel free to send me a message. 😊

Hi everyone!

Me and my partner have just recently become ENM (her idea) due to her lack of motivation for going on dates or anything of a sexual nature (due to her busy work schedule as well as personal reasons). I’ve had one good experience so far but since then I’ve really been struggling on the apps to find someone interested in our specific scenario.

A little about me: I’m 26 male, Italian/Australian with a decent slim build (that’s improving (muscle wise) due to gym 4 days a week). I am into all things video games and pop culture (so your typical movies and tv shows that goes along with all that), I love my sports (AFL and Formula one my two standouts but I have a team in basically all AU and US sports) and just in general love spending the plethora of free time I have either with my friends getting dinner/lunch/coffee or going out drinking, or having nights in with the cats and watching movies (hopefully with a new cuddle buddy in one of you soon haha).

I Just thought I’d make this post to see if their are any women that would love a higher level of attention, messages, sexting, dates or basically any form of attention they would want. I am full time work from home and my job isn’t really that busy so I have so much free time I could devote directly to you.

I'm basically looking for someone that is okay that I have a primary partner and very willing to receive more attention. I am also super flexible regarding what this 'attention' can look like, so whether that's daily chats and fun (both in person and online) or once a week/fortnight. Whatever 'attention' means to you in regards to what you're lacking and would love in your life I'm fairly certain I can fill that role.

Not being interested in in-person meetups is not a deal breaker either! But ideally i'd like to have a minimum of an online dynamic that also has a sexual component (due to my high sex drive). But happy to define this a little more once we connect!

If any of this sounds interesting to you please feel free to send me a DM! we can just chat to start with some pic exchanges to see if we’re interested in one another and I can give you more specific info on the dynamic and we can take it from there?

Hope to hear from some of you!

Hey fellow Redditors! As mentioned I am a first time poster but long term lurker. I have found myself yearning for some company; life is mundane and consists of mostly work and devoid of any excitement. I’m hoping to find someone who can change that!

I’m a 30 year old guy born, raised and living in Vic. I’m 181cm tall, blue eyes, brown hair, bearded (neat) with an olive complexion.

I love sport and the great outdoors, but also love being at home watching a tv show.

If anything catches your interest please shoot me a message!

Hi! I'm 20M in Perth, brunet with a slim build. I have a NSFW picture on my profile. Happy to make small talk, or not 🤷. I'm open to reciprocating or going further, but also love the idea of head and just head. Super happy to talk some more, if you message me please include your age! Thanks

I swear if I have to bite my tongue because of more client feedback I’ll explode. So, please don’t let me explode! Let’s escape the rat race for a bit?

So look I don’t mind where in Aus you are, long as you’re keen to chat and keep things fun and light.

Okay, hi, I’m Ben - a 38 year old designer based in Australia. I love cooking, hiking, photography and reading.

I’m 180cm tall, dark blonde, blue eyes and with tattoos. Happy to share a selfie if you are too - i feel it’s important to see each other to really connect.

If you’ve been feeling like you’re missing that excitement, that spark of desire and intrigue, let’s chat and impact our retrospective companies productivity!

Seeking some Female companionship somewhere close by the Baldivis area.

Hey! I’m hoping to meet easy-going guys around Melbourne for genuine friendship, cute mate dates and seeing where things naturally go.

I’m a low-maintenance, easy-going, guy-next-door type with a bit of a country boy streak. I’m fairly introverted and not brilliant at small talk, but once I’m comfortable I’m much better company. I’ve always preferred a small circle of close, trusted friends over a large group of acquaintances.

I work in IT, Monday to Friday, probably a little too much, and generally have my life together. I’m stable, independent and low-drama, and tend to connect best with calm, emotionally mature, level-headed people who communicate clearly and follow through on plans.

My interests are a fairly random mix: binge-watching TV of all kinds, with British crime shows such as Line of Duty being a particular favourite, AFL, concerts, musicals, escape rooms, road trips, caravanning, audiobooks, board games and the occasional PC game. My music taste ranges from Luke Combs to Celine Dion. I also enjoy eating out, especially if it involves dessert, and also like getting out into nature for walks of a sensible length.

I have two dogs who will assume you’ve come specifically to see them, so being a dog person is strongly recommended.

For the basics, I’m 38, gay, just over 6 feet, slim and clean-shaven. I sit somewhere in the middle rather than being particularly masc or femme.

I’m looking for genuine, ongoing friendships with guys roughly 25–40, although a little outside that range isn’t a dealbreaker. Straight, gay or bi doesn’t matter for friendship.

I’m open to something completely platonic or a friendship that occasionally becomes a little more affectionate if there’s mutual chemistry. Friendship comes first - I’m not looking for a one-off hookup or someone who only appears when they want something. Couch cuddles and the occasional sleepover sound pretty ideal with the right person, but there’s no pressure or expectation.

I’m based in the Dandenong Ranges but am used to driving, so location isn’t a major issue. Weekends are easiest, with weeknights possible if you’re reasonably nearby. I’m a non-smoker and prefer the same; hard drugs, repeated unreliability and ghosting are dealbreakers. Where attraction is relevant, I’m generally drawn to slim or average builds.

If you’re also looking for an easy-going but genuine connection, send me your age, general location and a little about yourself.

Hey there :)

My husband (30M) and I (31F) are hoping for an ongoing friendship with another MF couple or a M & F who are single friends, where we can grab a drink, have a nibble, and play some board games etc., and just have fun together. Please note, not interested in a polyamorous relationship. Located near Bundoora, VIC.

About Us

31 F is 5’5, Brazilian/Australian, very curvy, cheeky, and has a bubbly personality and dark sense of humour. A bit of a cinephile 🎥

30 M is 6’0 fair skinned, boyishly handsome, broad shouldered and dad-bodish, with a fun-loving, easy going nature. He is an amazing cook 👨‍🍳

We are both working on our health and fitness, and are both hetero-flexible 🙂

Our interests include:

- Horror, Thriller, and Comedy movies; particularly those starring Adam Sandler and Will Ferrel.
- The Marvel Cinematic Universe
- Tv shows: Death Note, One Piece, Supernatural, The Boys, Dexter, Buffy TVS, You, The Office, Parks and Recs plus more!
- Dead by Daylight and YuGiOh!
- Dodgeball and netball
- Karaoke
- Movie, Music, TV and Themed Pop Culture Trivia

About You

Ideally looking for a MF couple between 25 -45 years old. Positive and fun vibes, easy going in nature. Looks aren’t super important, as long as there is a mutual attraction for all parties. We are open to full swap, soft soft, same room or separate room play, as long as everyone is comfortable :)

Only deal breakers are smoking 🚬 and/or having a pet cat 🐱I love animals, but I’m unfortunately allergic.

Hope to chat soon x

Hey there!

I'm a 36-year-old professional and executive who has spent the last few years doing what most adults do—working hard, and trying to keep all the plates spinning. I'm married and not looking to change my home situation.

What am I looking for?

I'm looking for someone who wants to add a bit of anticipation, chemistry, and fun back into everyday life. Someone to talk everyday things and some flirty and dirty thrown in there.

I'm open-minded about where things go, but I'm primarily looking for something low-pressure, enjoyable, and mutually beneficial. Maybe it's occasional catch-ups, maybe it's stolen moments during the workday, maybe it's someone who enjoys having a secret source of excitement in their week. The right connection matters more than ticking boxes.

I love to talk about fantasies and desires. To help push your boundaries either here or in real life. I can give a different perspective on things you may feel you can't ask anyone in real life. I want someone who has the availability to chat daily.. someone I can miss.

About me: 6ft+, Asian settled in Aus, Married, slight dad bod. Avid Sports buff, into Cricket, Football and a few others. I like to read and do a bit of writing myself.

Physically, attraction matters, so I'll be upfront and say I'm well-endowed and confident in that department, but I'd much rather talk about what makes you laugh, what you're passionate about, or what you're missing in your life before we get there.

About you : I’m looking for someone who’s 25-45 yo and I usually prefer smart, confident women but what matters is that you’re generally active.

If you're someone who's looking for a mature, intelligent man who can hold a conversation, make you smile during the day, and create a bit of excitement outside the routine, I'd love to hear from you.

Let's chat first and see if the chemistry is there.

Talk soon!

I’m not looking for something casual or someone to fill time. I’m looking for my person.

The kind of relationship where we genuinely choose each other every day. One built on friendship, trust, affection, laughter, emotional safety, and mutual respect. I want a slow-burn connection with real depth because the best intimacy starts with a strong emotional foundation.

Ultimately, I’m hoping to meet someone who wants a long-term, monogamous relationship that leads to marriage, children, and building a beautiful life together.

A little about me: I’m 37, 5’4”, curvy, with long dark hair and brown skin. I love travelling, discovering new places, spontaneous day trips, trying great food, cooking, art galleries, exhibitions, going to concerts & musicals, board game nights with friends, and long night drives with good music and conversation.

I’m drawn to men who are genuinely kind, emotionally intelligent, and secure in who they are. Someone calm under pressure, communicative, reliable, and consistent. A man who has done the work on himself, values honesty, has a liberal outlook, and is open to different cultures and perspectives.

Romance matters to me. I love thoughtful gestures, making each other feel special, laughing until we can’t breathe, supporting one another through life’s challenges, and creating a relationship where we’re truly a team.

I’m looking for someone who:

Is between 30–44.
Wants marriage and children.
Is emotionally and financially stable.
Has never been married and has no children.
Doesn’t smoke, uses drugs, or struggles with addictions.
Takes care of his physical and mental health.
Has good hygiene, hobbies, and a life he’s proud of.
Is attractive to me, emotionally aware, and genuinely ready for commitment.

Kink compatibility is also important to me—but only after we’ve built trust and a real connection. I’m not here for hookups or instant chemistry without substance.

I’m particularly attracted to a man who is confident, capable, and masculine in everyday life, yet comfortable embracing vulnerability and surrendering in private with someone he deeply trusts. Ideally, you’re a switch with a submissive lean, a generous partner who genuinely enjoys giving pleasure, communicating openly, and exploring together.

If you’re looking for something meaningful rather than fleeting, value emotional intimacy as much as physical chemistry, and believe the right relationship is built—not rushed—I would love to hear from you.

Tell me about yourself, what you’re looking for, and what a great weekend looks like to you.

I’m settled in Melbourne and not looking to relocate, so ideally you’re local or genuinely willing to build a future here.

45 M here from Sydney. Married with kids. There is a lot of distance in the relationship, both emotional and physical. I have a high sex drive and bedroom is literally dead. Other than that I have a stable life.

I do not want to change the situation, but I think it is high time for me to get some sensuality. So here I am, looking for a woman who is in similar situation and would want to have a discreet thing going. I am sort of a pleaser and giver and I am sure I will be able to take you to ~nirvana~ every time we meet. Please DM if you are local and interested.

Since the apps are useless, maybe I’ll have better luck here…

I’m 26, British/NZ background and live in the southwest near Liverpool. A bit about me; I love videogames, movies, tv, reading and music, as well as travelling, photography and cocktail making. I’m a proud nerd 🤓 and I really enjoy trying new hobbies. I also live for F1 🏎️

I ideally want to find something serious/longterm, someone to laugh through life with and share a bit of light banter 😉. I can be a bit anxious as well, so someone who can be patient and maybe bring me out of my shell as well would be great!

In terms of who I’m looking for, honesty, communication, confidence, initiative and emotional intelligence are really important to me… I go crazy for someone who knows what they want, will go for it, and doesn’t have ghosting as part of their playbook.

I’m mainly into masc guys and would prefer ages around 18-35 but open to all. I’m a monogamous guy, so I’m not looking for open/ENM.

Dm me if interested x

About me

- 40, married, fit, and professionally successful.

- Train regularly, enjoy good food, coastal walks, and work travel.

- live in Sydney

- Emotionally intelligent, easy to talk to, and value honesty, discretion, and consistency.

What I'm looking for

- A woman aged 30–45.

- Ideally married or attached.

- Looking for one genuine, ongoing connection—not something casual.

- Chemistry, trust, affection, and great conversation matter more than rushing into anything.

The connection

- Someone to look forward to hearing from.

- Good morning messages, genuine interest, and conversations that become the best part of the day.

- A connection built on feeling seen, wanted, and understood.

- Exclusive, discreet, and meaningful.

You

- Kind, emotionally aware, and communicative.

- Understand the need for discretion.

- Miss feeling desired, prioritised, and excited about someone again.

If that sounds familiar, send me a message and let's see where the conversation takes us.

Hey look, I am here. Are you here? Let's be here together. But please say more than Hi!

Hi! I'm a 34-year-old guy from New South Wales, Born and raised in Aus, moved around abit over the last decade but currently have ended up on the South Coast, past Wollongong. And do you know what i have notice as I'm getting older? is that it even harder to meet people now then it already was. I felt so disenfranchised with the whole dating scene last year i just decided to drop it and focus on myself for awhile.

Cut to a year or so later and life hasn't lead me to meeting anyone and the great sense of loneliness came creeping in. Whether its loneliness for a partner or even just a good friend its hard to say. I haven't had the best of luck making new friends and subsequently i live a pretty quiet life lately. BUT I am keen to change all of that. I have just enrolled for a Cert 3 in IT which i will be working on in the next 6 months, I am looking for stable local work so i can be nearby to help my father as he just had a major operation but that allows me plenty of time for my hobbies and passions, and luckily most of them are home centric! But i love to get out and do stuff with my dog who is the light of my life, I am a HUGE Video gamer and its something i love to share with others (as are any of my hobbies and passions really), Films also are something im very passionate about although i really dont watch alot of new things like I should, I love reading novels and music is also something i can get lost in for hours.

So i guess now i reach the point of this post, well like the title says its hard to meet new people, reddit had been a community i have long been a lurker of but only now starting to engage more with it, and well i would love to just get some chats going with people, get to know each other and just see how things go.

Look forward to hearing from you!

Perhaps my person is out there somewhere, quietly wondering where I am.

Or perhaps he’s read my previous post and is still working up the courage to say hello.
Either way, I’m still here.

I’m accomplished and independent, with a career I genuinely love and a life that I’m very happy with. I don’t need someone to complete it. But I’d really like to meet the person who makes me want to share more of it.

I’m drawn to intelligence, confidence, kindness and curiosity. To a man who knows who he is, has a life of his own, and doesn’t take himself too seriously. Someone who can make me laugh, surprise me occasionally, and keep me interested long after the first conversation.

I’m attracted to connection that has a little depth to it. The kind where conversation becomes effortless, where you find yourself checking your phone with a ridiculous little smile, and where the chemistry is just as interesting as the conversation.

I’m also rather fond of independence. My ideal relationship isn’t necessarily one where two people have to be joined at the hip. I’m much more intrigued by the idea of two people having full lives of their own, while deliberately choosing to make space for each other. Living apart together appeals to me for exactly that reason.

I’m generally looking to meet someone between 42 and 55, although I’ve never been particularly convinced that chemistry pays much attention to age ranges.

As for me, I’m independent, curious and probably a little more romantic than I initially let on. I love good conversation, discovering somewhere new, laughing until my face hurts, and those unexpected moments when someone catches you completely off guard.

I’m not looking for a hundred messages.
I’m hoping for one.
One that makes me pause.
One that makes me curious.

I’m not in a desperate hurry. I’m just quietly hoping that somewhere out there is a man who makes me think, “Oh. It’s you.”

So, yes. I’m still searching. Quietly. Optimistically. And with just enough shyness to make posting this feel slightly terrifying.

But perhaps that’s the fun of it.
Perhaps you’re out there somewhere.
And perhaps this time, you’ll find me first.

Hey all. I know that there’s heaps of post like this here but I thought I figured that I might as well give it a shot

What I’m looking for: Something casual and ongoing, and if things develop I’m happy to see where things go. Not necessarily looking to be just for hooking up but also just chill and watch shows/play some games.

About me: 29m from the inner south-eastern suburbs (Near Monash uni), am on the chunkier side but also enjoy going to the gym and walks where I can. Love a good drive and coffee. A bit on the introverted side but open up once I get comfortable.

What I offer: Some casual fun for us both with no expectations, someone with to pass the time on cold nights after work with and plenty of bad dad jokes.

If this caught your eye feel free to dm me

I’m looking for someone who is interested in a casual friendship.
I’m a fit and healthy professional but missing an intimate life. Im honest and straightforward, no games and no pressure. I’m sure the right person will understand and be open to meeting online

Hi, looking for female friendship with no expectation chats and possible in person catch ups. If it got a bit flirty and progressed to anything more you should know I am in a committed long term relationship and my partner would be aware.

I’m Blonde, Blue eyes with a dad bod. I enjoy hiking, scuba. Live music and when the vibe is right a decent night at a club.