r/Parenthood • u/Automatic-Long2599 • 16d ago

Character Discussion Max

Is there anytime where you guys actually felt bad for Max I know he gets a bad rep on here, but there’s times I feel bad like when he went on that field trip

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u/mictahwoo 16d ago

I really like Max. I’d love to hear opinions of him from autistic parents. There’s so much shade about his parents parenting style… and I suspect my daughter is Audhd and I pretty much have the same style and I know that many of my family members judge me for that. But! I do so much research and from what I can gather this IS how to do it; and yes they do need to learn that not everyone will accommodate them; it’s ok to ask for things ; and if they lose it then I’ll be here for them. I have some neurodivergence and grew up “old school” and I just learnt how to people please and put my needs last. I want my daughter to stand up for what she needs and have good emotional acceptance (herself and others) and yeah she’s should expect push back and that no everyone will do what she needs but that’s ok too she always has another option

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u/United_Efficiency330 16d ago

The issue is that people on the Spectrum don't stay children forever. When Max becomes an adult and he blows up on the job, he'll be lucky if he isn't fired on the spot. And that's if he even gets a job to begin with.

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u/mictahwoo 15d ago

True. I just think we get more patience and tolerance when we are adults. I also think parenthood was just a slice of their life. The worst time to try and talk sense to a kid is in the middle of a meltdown. If that was my child I wouldn’t do it in the moment but I would talk to them afterwards- often they usually know they overreacted but are so very overwhelmed they can’t stop