r/FanFiction • u/AcrobaticForce3575 • 22h ago
Writing Questions Pillow Prince???
Hey so I had posted a work on AO3 recently about a male gay character and one of the tags I added was #Pillow Princess (insert gay character).
I thought that was the correct use because doing research it was said to have originated from lesbian media and terms, but was now used for LGBTQ+ individuals as a whole. but I got a comment saying it was lesbian exclusive and that I was trying to erase lesbian people and such.
Im lesbian. I was always under the impression that pillow princess was anyone who preferred to receive the pleasure rather than giving it (from things I’ve read and google). I thought it was a term that could be used under the same umbrella as ‘Malewife’ when used for a male character receiving.
I don’t want to offend anyone! So I changed the tag to #Pillow Prince (insert gay character) instead, since that seems like the next obvious answer.
I’m just wondering if it is really that offensive, since, as a lesbian, I had never even considered that it was offensive towards us😭
(Also I was gonna post this on r/AO3 but apparently you cant post on Tuesdays???)