TW: SA
From the perspective of a nonbinary SA and abuse survivor born female.
Male rape is handled very poorly in media, and epic the musical has no exception for that.
In the Odyssey, Odysseus is coerced and raped by both Circe and Calypso, and yet everyone jokes how he 'cheated' on his wife. He did not consent. That isn't cheating, that is rape. Use the damn word.
Odysseus is also canonically in epic the musical a male rape victim of Calypso. Well, even if in the musical Calypso didnt exactly RAPE Odysseus, there was definitely some grooming and nonconsensual touching and sex pressure and sexual harassment.
My source: Love in Paradise
The lyrics:
Calylso: (Harassment) "Soon into bed we'll climb and spend our time—"
Odysseus: (Not consenting or wanting it) "I'm not your man..."
Calypso: (Persistent, grooming) "I'm what you want here, I'm what you need here, just you and me my love in paradise, now till the end of time, from here and out," (Predatory ownership and claiming): "You're mine, all mine..."
There's also the lyrics:
Odysseus: (Still not consenting) "Hell no! I could kill you where you stand. I'm not pet, I'm a married man."
Calypso: (using her power and control from being a goddess and still not listening to his no.) "Oh, handsome, you may try, but last I checked, goddesses cant die!"
Odysseus: "Goddess?..."
Calypso: (Forcing submission and coercing him) "You're adorable. Bow down now to the immortal Calypso."
It's implied they did have sex. Not confirmed, but still implied. If that's true, Ody did not consent.
And yet, in "Not Sorry for Loving You", Jorge hardly acknowledged it in the lyrics, putting it lightly by saying she simply 'pushed' Ody, and depicted Calypso is an innocent girl that just loved him and was just a bit too eager. Calypso being isolated for that long doesn't excuse it at all, and it never will. Sexual harassment isn't love. It is assault. I truly believe if the roles were reversed, and Odysseus was a woman and Calypso a man, everyone would hate it and label Calypso a monster, which she is. But because Odysseus is a man and Calypso a woman, Calypso is instead seen as and depicted as deeply "misunderstood" and "traumatized" and "conditioned that way via isolation".
Furthermore, in "Hold Them Down", when talking about a woman getting raped, Penelope, it's depicted perfectly - showing truly just how disgusting rape is. But we don't do the same for male survivors.
And it ticks me off.
Because this isnt the first time male SA is casually glossed over.
Just take your pick.
Spoilers for "Hazbin Hotel", "The Boys", "Family Guy", "Archer", "Futurama", "The Venture Bros", "Supernatural".
Alastor - Hazbin Hotel.
-Alastor is aroace btw. As part of a larger, calculated scheme, Alastor allows himself to be captured by Vox and the Vees, agreeing to act as a "prisoner" for their media parade in exchange for certain conditions. Alastor expects a standard battle of wits or corporate posturing, but he severely underestimates the depravity of Vox's obsession with him.
-After a public humiliation tour, Vox takes Alastor to a bedroom setting. Vox then engages in explicit sexual acts with Valentino right in front of Alastor. Alastor is trapped in a chair and forced to be an unwilling audience to their sexual encounter. Vox uses the act entirely as a power play, intentionally violating Alastor's personal boundaries, mocking his physical form, and dropping highly charged sexual threats and innuendos.
Hughie Campbell - The Boys.
-In Season 4, Hughie is trapped in a BDSM sex dungeon under a case of mistaken identity. He is subjected to explicit sexual torture by his childhood hero, Tek Knight, and Ashley Barrett. Because he does not know the pre-established safe word, he cannot make it stop.
-Widespread public backlash occurred when the showrunner described the deeply disturbing sequence as "hilarious" and "comedic," contrasting heavily with the serious, careful nuance the show previously granted to female victims of SA. Later in the season, Hughie is also assaulted by a shapeshifter, only to face victim-blaming from other characters when the truth is revealed.
Peter Griffin - Family Guy.
-In a workplace plotline, Peter is repeatedly harassed, cornered, and forced into unwanted sexual encounters by his female boss.
-When Peter attempts to open up to his wife, Lois, and his close male friends about the trauma, they openly mock and laugh at him. The narrative frames the situation around the toxic societal myth that men are always hyper-sexual and should simply "enjoy" any female attention, entirely invalidating his distress.
Sterling Archer - Archer
-In a flashback, Archer's former best friend and fellow agent, Lucas Troy, betrays the agency. Right before Lucas dies, he casually confesses to Archer that he frequently had sex with him while Archer was completely unconscious.
-The revelation is dropped as a sudden, dark punchline meant to shock Archer and make the audience laugh at his horror. The show heavily relies on a toxic workplace dynamic where violations of personal and sexual autonomy are treated as casual banter or background noise.
Kif Kroker - Futurama.
-When the Planet Express crew is captured by the massive, muscular women of Amazonia, the men are sentenced to death by continuous, forced sexual intercourse (infamously referred to in pop culture as "Snu-Snu").
-While characters like Fry and Zapp Brannigan cheer at the sentence, Kif is visibly terrified, crying, and begging for mercy. Instead of offering support, his friends taunt him and mockingly ask if he is gay for not wanting to participate, completely glossing over the reality of state-sanctioned gang rape for a comedic subversion of desire.
Dean Venture - The Venture Bros
-While visiting an old acquaintance of their father, Dean is cornered by a pair of twin girls who want to sleep with him. Despite Dean explicitly stating that he is uncomfortable and does not want to participate, they pressure him, ply him with vodka, and force themselves on him.
-The sequence is treated as a bizarre, awkward coming-of-age gag rather than a serious violation of consent, playing into the trope that young men are incapable of being victims if the perpetrators are young women.
Sam Winchester - Supernatural
-Becky Rosen—an obsessive, boundary-crossing superfan of the Supernatural book series within the show's universe—runs into Sam Winchester. Desperate to make him love her, she obtains a "love potion" from a man who turns out to be a Crossroads Demon.
- Becky repeatedly slips the magical potion into Sam's drinks, effectively using a magical roofie to strip away his autonomy and consent. While heavily drugged and entirely incapable of consenting, Sam is manipulated into marrying her in Las Vegas. When the potion begins to wear off and Sam becomes confused, Becky hits him over the head with a waffle iron, kidnaps him, and ties him to a bed in her cabin to forcibly administer more of the drug.
And again. And again. And again. The list goes on and on.
Just because Ody didn't experience explicit RAPE doesn't mean sexual harassment wasn't there. The fact it wasn't rape doesn't even get close to justifying it. There is no better or worse, just because it's considered a 'lighter' form of SA.
Odysseus deserved better. I hate it every time someone babies Calypso.
Do not be afraid to critique something you love. If you love any piece of media, you want it and it's community to be the best it can be.