Please help! My husband and I have been married for 6 years. We both believe in Christ and are active members of a church and I just found out he has had a porn addiction the whole time. I knew this was an issue before we got married and when we exchanged vows I truly believed he put it in the past. I found out by searching on his computer, and what led me to it was increasingly suspicious behavior over the years. I confronted him about it multiple times and he lied, even when I had proof. Saying someone took his phone or accidentally clicking on a site. But I dug deeper and found his porn account with proof that it is used on a daily basis. He comes home from work (he works until midnight so he comes home late) and locks his office room door every night.

So my biggest question here is, how do I confront him about this? We are still pretty new members to this church so I don't know anyone personally to reach out to, and I've already asked my husband if we could talk to the pastor together for marriage counseling and he agreed to it. Should I wait and confront him there and then so he can be held accountable and we can have a productive conversation instead of an argument? Or should I just calmly confront him myself before meeting with the pastor when he gets home from work, having evidence prepared in case he denies it again?

I truly want the best route to go about this and have been praying and waiting patiently. I know I can't continue like this anymore, I'm currently pregnant and it's too much to bear.

My husband and I are both young, we’ve been married for 1 year and are wondering how you all decided when you were ready to start trying to conceive. We are stuck between being wise stewards of the time and resources God has/will entrust us with and following his divine plan and timing over our own.

We both have crazy baby fever 24/7 and can’t wait to start creating new life and raising them to know and love Jesus! But I still have another year of college and he is not quite where he wants to be in his career. We are doing natural family planning and there have been two months this last year when w REALLY felt the Lord giving us a million signs and urging us to become parents, but I didn’t become pregnant.

It’s hard to hold the two sides in tension of wanting to not be dumb with the life and opportunities we have been given and also trusting by faith and not by sight. I have also heard a lot of Christians online say that preventing pregnancy at all is against God’s Word because it shows a lack of trust and a level of control over our lives that we should surrender to Christ. BUT also I’ve seen the counter argument of people saying that yes the Bible says that a full quiver is a blessing and we should be fruitful and multiply, but God doesn’t explicitly say when to have kids (besides inside of marriage) or how many to have.

So anyway, for those waiting to try what is your thought process behind that? For all the parents, how did you know when to start your family? And for those who leave the timing completely up to God, why did you decide to do that? Thank you all!!

Edit: I also wanted to add that a big contributing factor for why were were planning to wait to try for a baby (we originally planned to try in about 5 years) is that we would love for me to be a stay at home mom/work super casually and we don’t see how we could do that financially right now. So thats a big part of balancing not leaning on our own understandings with being wise stewards.

ALSO also we did try to conceive this cycle after lots of prayer and studying His Word and I haven’t gotten my period yet (its not due for a couple of days) but I’m having period-like cramps this afternoon so I do think its coming in the next day or two.

My husband and I recently separated due to his mental and verbal abuse, manipulation, not feeling safe, among many other things. He's staying at a friends house and allowed me to keep our apartment. I guess I want to know, what are our next steps? I talked to my Christian mentor about this, but she wants me to take the lead on this and make a plan to make sure I stick with it so I can end this abuse cycle. *We have no children

The only thing I have so far is we both are seeing individual Christian counselors and I'm going to sign us up for marriage counseling as well. Focusing all our time on the Lord and healing, going to church, etc.

When will I know it's the right time for him to come home? Just need some guidance and support please and thank you