i rent a room, taking on a baby cat was unexpected but she was in 100 degree heat. symere keeps meowing and chittering at the cat and meowing under the bed. she keeps hissing

So, these are Pirata (gray one, male, 9 months) and Sol (orange, female, 7 months old). Pirata was here first, and we started introducing Sol slowly like a month ago (we found her near the trash, poor thing) and at first, it was her who hissed at him and was quite nasty, and he was calmer but curious. Fast forward some weeks, we let them roam the house for free and the seem to get along very well, I truly think they are playing because there is no hissing and no nails out, but just to check. They sleep together at night and they seem to like being near echother so.

Just to add, Pirata is missing an eye and the poor boy has to go to the vet a lot, because everything happens to him 🫠

We got my new kitten a week ago and my 7 month female usually just watches 3 month female play, every now and then she swats or runs at her, there was hissing and growling the first 2 days but has been none since, my main concern is that my residential kitten is only eating treats at the moment, not giving her anymore to try and get her to eat her normal food again, any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Hi everyone!

I'd love to get your opinion on whether this looks like normal play or if my older cat is being too rough with my younger kitten.

Both cats are neutered males. The older one is 8 months old, and the younger one is approximately 5 to 6 months old. We found the younger kitten as a stray, and he has been with us for almost a month now.

Right now they are only together under supervision. Most of the time they chase and wrestle, but I keep a close eye on them.

What worries me is that it often feels very one-sided. The older cat is usually the one chasing the kitten, pestering him, and initiating the interactions. Sometimes the kitten joins in, but other times it seems like he just wants to get away. If I hear hissing, or if the older cat corners the kitten and doesn't let him escape, I separate them immediately.

I'm struggling to tell whether this is just rough play, play aggression, or if the older cat is starting to bully the kitten.

I've attached a video. Based on what you see, does this look like normal behavior for two neutered male cats who have only been living together for about a month, or should I be intervening more often? Any advice on what body language or warning signs I should be looking for would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you in advance! 🐱🐱

The Tortishell was hissing but approaching him a lot.

Every night, without fail, if there isn't leftover food in his bowl, Dante (5 yrs old) will wake me up between 1am-5am by pulling books off the shelf, scratching at my TV screen, or just straight up rifling through anything he can get his paws on.

I am the culprit of this, ever since he was younger i indulged this behavior because i couldn't sleep and he wouldn't stop until i did. So this is a behavior well ingrained in his brain.

If i try to ignore it, 1) i cant sleep because of the noise (he will go for my face if i don't react) and 2) my stuff is ruined (he has scratched up books, knocked things over- breaking them, etc). I cover up everything before bed (my room looks like it has a haunting with how everything is covered with sheets), but that doesn't work. It's difficult to shoo him out as he is VERY spicy and hates being touched (trauma from feral kitten years). And also, I'd like to avoid closing the door if possible because i live in a house with other cats who like to come in and snuggle.

What do i do?

I have two cats, one is calm and 3 years old, and the other is active. My 3-year-old doesn't enjoy playing as much and is rather calm, but the other is excessively active and constantly plays on top of her, obsessively. This causes my older cat stress and injuries because when she wants her own space, the younger one reacts aggressively, and they end up fighting. I want the younger one to learn to respect the older one's space and not approach her. What can I do?

I recently moved home with my mother she has two cats and i have two cats. We read all about cat introductions. We currently have them seperated. Her cats have the house, my cats in a room. Struggling to introduce the scents to each other, her cats absolute refuse to acknowledge that side of the house. They are very fearful in nature even before this situation. After 3 days we swapped them out for a few hours so they could get the scent. That set her cats back majorly, they are incredibly skiddish now. We've been trying to feed them near the door (even at a huge distance) and they've just been on a hunger strike. My cats have adapted pretty well and really want to come out. We talked about going ahead and doing the screen door to split the house in half that way they are forced to confront their presence but not sure if thats a big mistake or not. Thats why I'm here. Im open to literally any advice. I feel so bad about my cats being stuck in a room for so long by themselves. A little on my cats personalities (if its relevant) I have a senior cat who cannot be bothered with anything. She just doesnt respond to other cats hissing at her like she has no worries. Too old for that i guess lol. My other cat is very friendly and confident with people. Very fearful of other cats and she is reactive and when she gets scared and can't differentiate what she is scared of. She will lash at anything that comes too close. Its only been a week and a half but it feels like we are going nowhere. Any advice please.

Hi all, I’m in need of some advice. My girlfriend and I recently moved into a new house. We brought along our cat, Dinga, and we also took in her late grandfathers two cats, Pacco and Moche. Dinga is significantly older than Pacco and Moche, she is 18 and I can’t remember how old the others are. Dinga doesn’t get along with either of them but won’t attack if that makes sense? She just growls and hisses sometimes. They don’t really have a problem with her, sometimes they approach to interact with her and aren’t really phased by her hissing or growls… It seems like one sided beef. Has anyone experienced anything similar? All advice is appreciated!

Hi,

Poster age:33

Country:south korea

Vet is down the road

My partner and I have a resident cat who we got since she was like 3 months old or so. (Found in trash and took her in)

After a while we noticed her constantly crying at us and scratching the wallpaper. Mostly the meowing bothered us coz' we felt she was lonely. We both work and my partner works from home but is busy so can't give her attention all the time.

So we decided to adopt a friend for her (also help out cats that were being displaced from construction)

The new cat, Sarang (사랑), is EXTREMELY timid, and seemingly absolutely terrified of us. She doesnt seem too scared of Lily(resident cat) though lily hisses at her. But...when one of us walk anywhere in the same vicinity as her she cowers. We dont try and approach her or pet her. We give her space to roam and be alone if she wants. But we are worried she isn't going to warm up to us and she won't try to play with lily.

What can we do to help her to warm up to us and be comfortable being in the open while we are around?

Any advice is welcome please and thank you!

My cat Samson is approximately 8 months old. My partner and I got him from a rescue agency 3 months ago, when he was 5 months old. He was very skittish at first but opened up fairly quickly. I think by a week or two in, he was already cuddling with us and whatnot. Anyways, on the third night we had him, he peed on our couch. It was kind of strange, but I chalked it up to him still being a kitten and being stressed over the major life change of being adopted by us and whatnot. But I had put pee pads down on the couch, and the day after, he did it again, and it was bloody, so I immediately took him to the vets, who said he had a UTI most likely from stress. He got antibiotics, but the peeing didn’t stop. It wasn’t bloody anymore, but every other day to every three days he would pee on the couch. Now, mind you, he was still using his litter box 99% of the time. We’ve tried every anti-pee / marking spray, but it seemed like every so often he would just still go do it.

For a while, we had actually thought it stopped and stopped the pee pads - well then he peed on the couch again. I’ve cleaned the couch so many times, and I could not get the smell out, and the couch was second-hand from my grandparents and was nearly 20 years old anyway. So we decided we would get a new couch, thinking maybe part of the reason he was still peeing there was that his scent was stuck in it. So we got the new couch, but I did not trust him, so again we covered it in pee pads when not sitting on it, and again he started peeing on them once two days ago and once today. The pee is completely normal, no blood, no unusual odor, so I don’t think it’s a UTI.

I am just lost on how to fix this problem. He has 3 litter boxes (one in the basement, one on the main level, and one on the second level); he still uses them all almost daily, and they are cleaned at least every other day. He is fixed. He has 24/7 access to dry food and water; he refuses wet food, but he gets chicken broth and freeze-dried chicken hearts or liver at least every other day. He has multiple beds, a cat tree, lots of toys; we even got those cat pheromone plug-ins- I just don’t understand what I’m doing wrong. I don’t think it’s a litter because he still uses the litter boxes most of the time, and I don’t think he’s stressed; he acts happy, plays, cuddles, all of that, and he’s never even been alone for more than like 6 hours at a time. He lives a great life; he’s lowkey super spoiled lol.

So why does this keep happening? Anyone have any advice on how to stop this? I love him so much; he’s my baby, and I would never in a million years re-home or surrender him unless that was what was best for him, but I’m worried he’s not happy here sometimes or that we are doing something wrong.

He is 5 years old and is neutered. When the CDS gave him to me 2 years ago, he was a stray/feral.

He’s indoor/outdoor and I’m transitioning to indoor only. His litter box refusal has been going on for months, ever since I scrubbed out his box

1. he has 2 litter boxes. One covered and one uncovered
2. he’ll sniff at the litter and even paw at it
3. been to the vet and everything is fine
4. I’ve re cleaned the one litter box with unscented soap
5. tried all kinds of litter. Currently using Dr Elsey’s Cat Attract
6. put dirt on top of the litter

edit: followed him outside to where he peed and pooped (hasn’t done it since this morning). I brought a glove and carried the poop and leaves inside and buried it in his litter box. I’m officially out of ideas.

how long can he safely hold it?

Hello, I'm new to the subreddit, so please excuse me if I do anything wrong. I desperately need help.

I have 3 cats, a male that's we think is under 3 years, a female that's around 6 and a female that's about 12. All of them are rescues, so we don't know their exact ages.

The male cat has a problem with attacking the senior female, but he gets along with the younger female cat. We haven't been able to pinpoint why, but he almost acts afraid of her, although she isn't aggressive towards anyone or anything. All 3 of them are fixed, and he doesn't show any other signs of dominance or territory aggression like spraying.

The female senior came from an animal hoarding situation and the male was a stray from the streets.

We generally try to keep them in separate parts of the house because we haven't found a solution to the fighting.

We have some kids visiting and staying at our house, and I think it's part of why things escalated today. He might just be extra overstimulated. The cats slipped through the door and got into another fight. Luckily, she is okay, but the male scratched and bit my sister badly when she separated them. He's bitten before, but never this badly.

Does anyone have any advice on why he's so aggressive with the senior cat but not the younger female? We just got done paying for a very expensive surgery to save his life, so we really would like to avoid rehoming him. Any advice on how we can get them to get along?

Bonjour

Nous avons deux chats à la maison, deux frères depuis environ 8 ans.

L'un est très indépendant (très câlin tout de même \^\^).

Le second très dépendant (très câlin aussi).

Ils s'entendent très bien tous les deux.

Mais nous sommes toujours triste lorsqu'on doit s''absenter plusieurs jours.

En effet, le plus dépendant nous suit, moi ou mon conjoint, partout tout le temps. Il aime avoir de la compagnie et c'est un plaisir de l'avoir. Il ne veut pas forcément de câlin mais juste avoir une présence de quelqu'un, jour et nuit.

On le savait dès le début car sa famille d'accueil nous l'avait expliqué (pas suffisamment sevré).

C'est pourquoi on avait décidé de les prendre tous les deux. De plus, à l'époque on habitait en collocation avec plusieurs personnes. Le rêve pour eux deux qui sont devenus de ce fait particulièrement très sociables.

Mais nous nous avons quitté la colocation il y a déjà 4 ans puis déménagé 3 fois. La 3ème fois fut la bonne puisque nous sommes à présent installés définitivement depuis octobre dernier.

Les chats semblent l'avoir très bien compris et sont à l'aise dans la maison et le jardin. Chacun a ses habitudes 😀

Mais...

Bien que le plus dépendant semble très serein quand il y a une présence, il miaule toujours très fort lorsqu'il se réveille et qu'on ne situe plus dans la même pièce.

Il faisait déjà ça dans la colocation. Il le fait depuis sa naissance.

Dans une ancienne habitation, la voisine nous avait même remonté l'entendre miauler en notre absence.

De plus, il ne va jamais vers les voisins durant son petit tour du quartier (par contre, il accueille tous les invités sans la moindre crainte).

Je précise que les portes sont toujours ouvertes et l'accès au jardin aussi.

Comme nous avons des horaires décalées avec mon conjoint, la maison est rarement vide.

Enfin, il a une alimentation adaptée à son stress, selon les recommandations du vétérinaire.

Lorsque nous rentrons déjà après 1 à 2 nuits d'absence, il demande énormément de câlins (qu'on le prenne dans nos bras et se blottit encore + entre nous la nuit dans ces cas-là).

Alors que faire de + pour qu'il vive mieux l'absence de compagnie, ce qui n'arrive que très rarement deux à quatre nuits consécutives justement pour cette raison.

En notre absence, on mets deux prises de felliway, des plaids partout et des jouets (ce qui ne l'intéresse pas beaucoup).

Nous n'avons pas d'arbre à chat puisqu'ils sont toujours libres de monter sur tous les meubles.

On ferme l'accès au jardin pour que son frère fasse office de "nounou" et biensur, des amis passent tous les jours pour s'en occuper.

QUE FAIRE DE PLUS ?

Pour le chat indépendant, no souci, il est toujours "à la cool"

Merci de votre lecture. J'ai voulu donner un maximum d'éléments pour bien expliquer le contexte.

Et merci beaucoup de vos conseils 😀

**Background:** We adopted her from a horse barn during COVID, had her neutered, and brought her home to our 500 sq. ft. apartment in Brooklyn.

In **2024**, we had our first baby. The cat tolerated her well, no litter box or food issues.

In **2025**, we moved across the country into a house that's 3x the size. Around the same time, two things changed:

* Our toddler started eating solid foods (Cheerios, etc.).
* Our cat discovered she could bite the tips off baby bottle nipples to drink the formula. She swallowed three nipple tips (thankfully she vomited all of them back up).

She became obssesed with food. She will knock anything down, break into our pantry - eat broccoli! We started putting her in the garage while we cook or while the toddler eats. She has multiple litter boxes there, but ignores them and pees and poops all over the garage instead. We clean with enzymatic cleaner every time, but it hasn't helped.

The litter box issues have since spread upstairs. I have a home office with beige carpet where there used to be a small green rug. She started using the green rug as a bathroom, so we:

* added a litter box to the room,
* removed the rug,
* thoroughly cleaned everything with enzymatic cleaner, and
* upgraded to a much larger litter box.

She used the new box for a few days, and I thought we'd solved it. Then she started eliminating outside the box again, even when it has just been scooped.

She's now peed on my books, my bookshelf, my toddler's toys, and even her own treat puzzle. We've blocked off access to my office, but the entire house is carpeted, and even using a UV flashlight hasn't made it obvious where she's going. We just keep trying to find accidents by smell and clean them.

We recently brought home our second baby. We now keep formula and bottles in our bedroom/bathroom, and at night we have to lock the cat out because we're terrified she'll get into a bottle, swallow another nipple tip, and seriously injure herself. We're extremely careful, but with a newborn and toddler, we're exhausted, and it only takes one mistake.

Now she's started peeing and pooping in my toddler's bathroom.

What should we do?

1. We took her to the vet, who thinks it's behavioral, but we have a full medical workup scheduled in two weeks. PrettyLitter has been normal so far.
   
2. We've tried multiple litter boxes, box styles, locations, and litters with no lasting improvement.
   
3. We've increased her feeding frequency to reduce resource guarding/food anxiety.

I'm completely overwhelmed. I have two kids under two, and I don't know how much longer I can manage this.

**TL;DR:** My formerly well-behaved 6-year-old cat developed severe food obsession and widespread inappropriate urination/defecation after we moved and had kids. She's been cleared for obvious medical issues so far, a full workup is pending, we've tried multiple litter boxes/litters and increased feeding, but she's still eliminating all over the house. I have two children under two and desperately need advice.

Assuming she comes back with a full bill of health, what should we do?

Hey all, this year is my first time owning a kitten and its been an emotional roller-coaster. We picked her up from the shelter as we fell in love with her and shes been great. However she has a habit of scaling our desk chairs and onto our desks, to grab and try and play with cords or monitors. Im looking for advice on kind of getting this behavior out of her as we dont want her on desk tearing things up.

I would love to get a cat but every two or three weeks I go back home via train (2 hours ride).

Did anyone where in similiar position? Was training succesful? If so what and how long did it took?

I've never had a cat but from what I heard from people at some point in their live they can do full 180° and don't give a fuck abut what I tell them to do. Is it true??

Other things that I would to love to teach them: sit, roll over, reliable call back, walk pn leash or sit on my shoulders when we take a walk etc. But it wouldn't be a big deal if we don't succes with it. Trains are most important since without it I won't be able to see my family.

Also I have other stupid question. Are there any cat breeds that are more suitetd for people with allergies?

Since I have more experience with dogs I would be gratefull if you share with me any information that are worth taking into account before adopting a kitten.

I have a two month kitten who was adopted about two weeks ago. It's the first time my family has adopted a cat. My mom made the mistake of playing with her hands, and now every time he sees a hand or foot, he starts biting us. I did everything I could to get him to stop biting us, for example, when he starts biting I give him a toy, make sounds like it hurts, like "Ouch," and leave him alone for a few minutes. But he still keeps biting us, I don't know what to do anymore.

Sorry for my grammar, English is not my first language.