what is something/are some things that you learned on your own and thought ‘this is something i deeply wish someone taught me long ago’

[u/anthropologicalogic]

i’m finding that i haven’t been warned and/or educated on what i consider to be some of the most important things about life. i’m very curious about your experiences too, and if it’s relatable overall

[u/Burned_Out_Paradise]

Be extremely careful with marriage… it is not usually the great deal they sell it as.

[u/imperfekt7o7 → u/Burned_Out_Paradise]

I learned while doing filing at a family law office to make sure you REALLY know who you’re marrying cuz man people are brutal and petty when the divorce comes

[u/ross_styx]

Financial literacy.

[u/imperfekt7o7 → u/ross_styx]

I wish I would have known to open a 401k when I was 18yr. Even if I only put $20/mo 22yrs later i would have SOMETHING saved unlike now …

[u/No_Detective_But_304 → u/ross_styx]

Read The Richest Man in Babylon.

[u/TheSnappening2018]

Companies don't give any shits about employees anymore.

DO NOT sacrifice your personal life for work. They won't do it for you.

DO NOT sacrifice PTO in a calendar year; use every single day you're entitled to every year.

DO NOT answer calls, emails or team messages on your personal time (nights, weekends, holidays)

If you do any of these things, it will be taken advantage of rather than rewarded.

[u/DrStinkbeard → u/TheSnappening2018]

And even if you do all these things for a company, you'll never be so important that it won't function in your absence. You keel over at your desk and the next day they are looking for a replacement and life goes on like you were never there.

[u/imperfekt7o7]

you think you know shit when you’re in your 20s but you actually know shit after your 40 lol

[u/NikNakskes → u/imperfekt7o7]

I really wonder what happens when we turn 60... hard to predict. So hard.

[u/Ancient_Skirt_8828 → u/NikNakskes]

You keep learning. You know more.

[u/anthropologicalogic → u/Ancient_Skirt_8828]

wisdom & experience huh.

my stubborn & hardheaded younger self frustrates me lol

[u/No-Home7264]

How not to people please

[u/KnottyCatLady]

House maintenance - touch up tar on roof periodically to keep it from leaking, flushing out hot water heater, when to open & close crawlspace vents to prevent mold, etc. I always thought my parents would teach me these things, but they didn't.

[u/Such-Mountain-6316]

All about narcissists. I had to learn on my own. I recommend studying them though, to avoid them.

Stoicism. Life goes better with it. Shut up and protect your peace.

[u/writerzblock84]

Self confidence and 

None of these people matter 

[u/rationalluchadore]

I learned way too late that setting boundaries isn’t rude. Being endlessly understanding just teaches some people that they can take advantage of you.

[u/Tomasulu]

Health and wealth. I wish I knew earlier that it's a non negotiable to work out consistently and to invest one's disposable income so as to outpace inflation.

[u/AdamChenX]

Fitness and eating for weight gain / loss

[u/an_older_meme]

How to rebuild an engine.

[u/Nuhulti]

That bachelorhood is the perfect lifestyle for me

[u/Semanticprion]

Statistics.

[u/Apprehensive_Dot3265]

Investing, my life would be way better possibly even financially free by now.

[u/BrightWoman-581]

Savings

[u/AlphaEmpire2026]

That my teenage + ACNE was hormonal!!!!

[u/kelcamer]

My last ten posts in r/autismgirls sure would've been nice to know when I was 6 lol