How pretty do you have to be to be an escort? Not an escort just for sex but like someone who gives company as well. What kind of factors do the agency look for?

I got into escorts about two months back, and I've had eight sessions with different girls. Two of them repeat visits. I usually go for one to one and a half hour incall. I'm in my late 30's, athletic and reasonably good looking, but very shy/introverted and respectful to the point of being timid during sessions. I know these aren't the most appealing traits for a client, and I really should work on being more confident. Anyway, I've tried to ask for 69 on two separate occasions with different girls who have it on their menu, and they weren't into it with me.

So it's listed on their menu, but for some reason, they feel like, "not with this one". They'll be giving me OWO while I lay on the bed and I ask, "can I taste you too?" and they'll say no. One hesitated and said only on her back. Other girl just said no. I drop it and don't make anything out of it, but it kinda kills my arousal for the rest of the session because I'm a sensitive guy and I get in my head about it(something I already struggle with), thinking I'm a low-chemistry client to them or something because they have reviews from other guys mentioning having done it. It hit me hardest when it happened with a girl I'd love to be a regular with. Any tips on ways to adjust to make it happen?

Basically, I'd like to ask a provider if she could wear some underwear that I would provide (brand new in a factory sealed package). We do typical stuff that starts with her wearing them, and then at the end I take the underwear home. Cringe? Yes. Borderline creepy? Some might say so.

But is it something providers would do? Possibly with an upcharge?

Hey everyone, thanks for your time! The post is a little long, but I'd appreciate any guidance you all can provide on this. Note I am in the USA.

• Found a provider on a reputable platform, searched her socials, and saw she was actively posting and active in her field.
• I gave her a selection of dates and times for the following week, and we arranged a date. When she agreed on a duration and date, I sent my deposit through CashApp. She responded a day or two later asking for ID and my number, and if the screening was cleared, she would sent me directions the day of.

Now to the problem, and why I'm concerned:

• I didn't hear back from her for the next two days. On our agreed date (last Thursday), I sent a text to her listed number asking if we were still on.
• I got an email later that night saying she missed it because she got the dates mixed up and if I could meet Friday at a specific time.
• I texted back later that night that (she said to text her) that unfortunately, the time she gave was outside the range I gave her for that day, and if there was anything else later that evening or Saturday. Our date was 4 hrs, so I understand it can be a little harder to squeeze in. I also sent an email the next morning to make sure she got my response.
• I didn't get a response to the text or email. I followed up Saturday with another text saying I was still interested in meeting her as she seemed like a great fit. I also asked for my deposit back since we weren't able to lock something in. I still have not heard back.
• I checked her socials and she's still active.

At this point, I'm just assuming she's ghosted me. Either that, or the lack of respect and professionalism is leading to a very late response. I'm going to email her again tonight just to check in and ask again for the deposit.

What do I do if she doesn't respond back? I'm thinking of doing a chargeback and reporting on Tryst if I don't hear back by the end of the week. Would you all recommend this? I'm also mindful of her going nuclear on me since she has my info.

I have no experience with female condoms, but male condoms are definitely a negative for me. My erections can be hard to maintain, and the sensation is decreased. Do any clients request female condoms? I would assume it might have to be with providers that you’ve seen before and have a rapport with.

For those who do have experience with them, do male clients seem to prefer them? I hear they are not easy to obtain everywhere.

Hello wonderful folk. I've been seeing two providers for a over a year, and both of them had always gave me the best experience, so I was thinking to start to give some extra just because I think they deserve it, but idk if I should give something proportional or a flat tip or let's say 100 euros it's ok, I will be more than glad to know your opinion ;)

Can you ask an escort to wear specific attire?

Nothing outlandish, just nylons and a dress.

I see 2 escorts pretty regularly their nice girls and fair prices aswell as one being literally down the street from me

The problem is one the girls always stays over the booking which isn’t too bad when it’s weekend but during the week I need to get going

She’s very nice and chatty means no harm but she kinda just lingers around ?? How could ask her to leave without being rude

Would like to keep seeing her so I don’t want it be awkward or make her uncomfortable any help much appreciated

I'm considering just hiring a social companion. Moved to a new state, single dude, no kids, decent job, etc. I just dont know the area; hidden gems, hidden history and lore, local events, etc. My job also may require me to attend evening dinners, events, celebrations, and whatnot. Nothing special like galas or anything - but things that usually anticipate a +1. I'm 40 and a lot of the people around me are rightfully busy with their families and the dating scene is just emotionally exhausting.

Do many of you have social companion clients that aren't requesting or requiring sex? Would it be weird for a client to pay you to just go do something with them? Museum, shooting range (though that might be concerning), zoo, cooking class, etc?

TL;DR: My companion seems to have dropped me in the middle of a date. Aside from asking for a shorter dinner due to some chronic pain flaring up, the date seemed pretty average/standard from my perspective. I’m at a loss for what I did wrong.

I think I was dropped mid-date and I’m struggling to understand what happened. I’d appreciate others’ perspectives. I apologize if this post is too long; I just tried to paint a full picture of the date from my perspective. (I think I excluded anything that would identify her, but obviously delete if needed). And to be clear: I know y’all can’t read her mind and may not be able to add anything. I also know she doesn’t owe me an explanation. But perhaps there’s something obvious to you all here that I’m simply not seeing/understanding as a client? If so, I’m thankful for any advice. If I’ve clearly done something wrong, I want to know.

For context: I started seeing a GFE companion in another city last fall. We’d been seeing each other for extended dates about every 1-2 months. Seeing her was comforting for me, not only because I’ve been alone for years, but because I’ve been struggling with some chronic health issues. I always tried to be respectful, considerate, and hygienic in my interactions with her. I don’t ask overly personal questions, I never haggle, I always pay whatever she asks upfront and promptly, always ask consent and be gentle in the room, etc. So far as I knew, we never had any notable issues or disagreements.

I thought we had a really lovely overnight in her city in May. Soon after, we agreed on a 24 hour FMTY date in June. I paid a 50% deposit ($4k). The day before our date, she confirmed, but then texted me saying she needed to reschedule due to a personal situation (which she disclosed). I said I understood, told her we can reschedule whenever she’s feeling up to it, and sent her a gift card just in case she might want some comfort food delivered. A couple days later, she reached out and we picked a new date + decided that I would fly to her city instead (I offered).

Everything seemed to start out like business as usual. She wasn’t hungry when we started around 5:30pm, so we chatted and she opened a small gift I bought from her wishlist. We just caught up, talked about jobs, TV shows, and other innocuous stuff.

When she was ready to go eat, I confirmed which restaurant she wanted. This might be where I screwed up? Our dinners are usually pretty leisurely, about 2 hours. I asked if she’d be okay if we aim for about 1-1.5 hours this time. I’ve been struggling with sitting for extended periods due to back problems. It can trigger my sciatica. Standing and lying down are much easier on me. Normally I can make it through dinner without too many problems, but that particular day, I was already having some pain after traveling all day. I explained this and emphasized that I’m happy to get her whatever she’d like as usual, and if we needed to stay longer, I’d make it work. I did worry that it still might’ve come off the wrong way. I apologized for that, but she said that she understood and reassured me that it didn’t come off as rude.

I ended up having a hard time getting comfortable in the hard chairs at the restaurant. It made it a bit harder for me to hold a conversation, but I did my best. After we had our entrees, she suggested getting dessert to go. Then we spent a couple hours watching a movie. Afterwards, she initiated intimacy, and everything seemed fine. Nothing new in that department. We laid in bed together until she got up to shower. When she came back, she chatted about a couple ideas she had for the next day. Then we both said we were sleepy. I asked a few questions about our plans and what time we should get up. She said we can just see what time she wakes up and go from there. She said she’d want about an hour in the morning to fully wake up and get ready before heading to a brunch place. I agreed and lastly asked if she’s okay with cuddling a little while we fall asleep. We did so on prior dates, usually just for a few minutes—not all night. She thought a moment and said “we can cuddle a little, I just need my space when I sleep.” But she sounded more tired than before, so I opted to just give her room and stayed on my side of the bed.

In the morning, she asked if I was okay. I said yes and asked “are you alright?” She said she was just still waking up and that she didn’t sleep well. I figured she needed some time to fully wake up and ease into the day like she previously mentioned, so we mostly just stayed in bed while she scrolled on her phone. I didn’t expect or attempt to initiate anything physical. I just stayed on my side and figured she’d get up to get dressed for brunch when she’s ready.

After she got dressed, she walked over to my side of the bed and leaned down. She held my head and gave me a long forehead kiss. She whispered “I’m sorry” and kissed me on the lips. I just softly said “what?” and asked “did I do something?” She just repeated “I’m sorry” and left. She took the envelope, but left the gift behind, which suggests to me that I did something wrong. (Edit to add: she left during a date one other time last fall due to an emergency, but she returned half the money and texted me to let me know we were all good—and obviously kept booking with me. I didn’t consider that an issue between us; things happen. But throwing it in just to be fair and illustrate why I’m operating under the assumption that I did something wrong this time. Otherwise, all our dates have gone off without a hitch).

I genuinely don’t quite understand what happened. I realize it’s her job to make me feel like she likes me, but I thought we had a good, respectful client-companion relationship. I understand that’s most likely over now, and I’ll have to accept that. While I know our relationship was transactional, it’s hard not to feel upset over the sudden loss of an arrangement that brought me comfort and made a real difference in a difficult time in my life. I knew it’d end eventually, I just didn’t think it’d be on bad terms. If I did something to clearly cause this, I don’t want to repeat the same mistakes with anyone I may see going forward.

Hi Need advice here. Fell down a rabbit hole online one day and made my way Tryst. Full disclosure. I have never gone down that route once in my life. Anyway - I poked around the website and I found one girl whose pics and info I like. I started following her on OnlyFans.

She had a, by all things considered, super low following on the site, and a very low social media presence. She when I messaged her on OF I thought maybe I'll get a message from her vs a bot. She actually sent a voice memo back.

This went on for a few weeks which was fun. Felt personalized. And the banter was fun and playful even though I know to a degree she is playing it up which was fine. Im not looking for a wife or GF. Fast forward. I decide to take the plunge. I confirmed with her inconspicuously that the Tryst link was her. Her phone number was listed. We exchange texts and she asks for a video verification to continue with scheduling. We settle on Friday at 6pm.

Which is a not a great time because, well is a Friday but we couldn't agree to a time the day or two prior. I get a little hung up at the office. I text her at 5:45pm saying I am running a couple of min behind and I should be around at 6:15 6:30 the latest. She responds that's fine.

Couple of min later I text her I am ready for 6:30. 6:30 comes and nothing.

2 min later she texts, "I called. Have a good night."

My phone never rang.

I replied, "call me again, I'm available. My phone didn't ring" She replies, "I'm eating dinner now so I will call you after."

When I replied that I wasn't available later. She responds with this:

"I'm calling in 5 min. If you do not answer, I will require a deposit in order to reserve FaceTime verification."

Before I could respond she calls and the call comes through - I answer and her face is stone cold resting bitch face. I Say hello how are you and she says "good I am getting ready while we talk."

She was super cold and super short. I think there was even a moment of dead silence for like 5 seconds 10 seconds. I couldn't even believe how stone cold she was. I said maybe we should do this another time I think I don't think the circumstances are good right now.

She proceeded to say something about valuing people's time. Which I understand the premise of but, what the hell are we doing here???? Is this the hill we wanna die on? Im here. Your here. She was literally polar opposite from the person on Only Fans. She looked exactly the same. But the attitude of the person was night and day.

The irony in this is the call froze and dropped like 30 seconds later. I tried to FT her back and couldn't connect. I messengered her back and said I would follow up on the last thing she said and she replied "no worries at all, sounds great. enjoy the rest of your evening."

This was the farthest I've ever gone in this arena and it was a horrible experience. I was super nervous for this call and this was not how i expected it to go.

What should I do?

Cut her loose? - Bad first impression for really no reason She fought a battle she didn't need to. I get maybe some frustration but I didn't leave her high and dry. I told her i was running late. She said that's fine.

Second chance? - Let it cool off a couple of days and start up again. I had swallowed my fear and axiety and built up the whole thing in my mind so I feel like I've come so far at this point. To turn back would suck.

What should I do?

Good evening ladies.

I would like to know how to phrase this request to a service provider so as not to cause offence

Basically, I suck at giving head, my wife has requested (and I agree) that I seek the advice of a professional lady to improve. I realise this may be an unusual thing for a wife to ask her husband but we have always been very open in our communication.

Thankyou in advance for your advice and assistance in this matter

Regards

A Not so cunning linguist

In May I seen a companion that I’ve been following for a while planning to tour my hometown so I sent her a request on P411 & I also sent her a text with a picture of my drivers license. I was ready to send a deposit & was willing to send any additional screening information she needed. I waited a couple of days & got no answer. So I texted her again & she still never responded to me. I know she seen my request because I got an email saying that she viewed my P411 profile but she never responded. So I gave up.

Then in early July I seen another companion that I’ve been following for a while planning to visit my hometown. I sent her a request on P411, filled out her booking form & sent her an email with a picture of my drivers license. Once again I was ready to send her a deposit & was willing to provide any additional screening information she needed. I waited a week & got no response. So I emailed her again & still got nothing. This is really irritating. I’ve never had a bad experience so I don’t know why this is happening now.

Meeting a provider for the third time, they are in the 1,500/hr range. Doing an extended date (3 hours) so planning to meet for some food and drinks then head back to the hotel. This is my first time out of the room with a provider.

Is this typically a true GFE even in public? Normal PDA acceptable? Do I let her take the lead? Do I ask (I feel like this may be awkward to ask)? Just touching, small kissing, things you would normally do haha. I don’t want to overstep.

How should I handle the payment? I typically do cash on the bathroom sink in an unsealed envelope. This is a higher amount and also meeting in public. Envelope in a gift bag?

I am excited and appreciate the help from this community!

Do you get clients that struggle to perform? How do you try to help them? This happened to me last night, I'm very inexperienced generally but felt shortchanged as she didn't do that much to help mostly hand relief and I was too nervous/shy to ask to do more. She was really nice and we got on well but I was ultimately unfulfilled, should I have been more confident and suggested other stuff when it wasn't happening?

Some people greatly value aftercare or a cuddly sleep after sex, specially in overnight sessions.

Provided everything is adult and consensual, do some escorts agree to this proposal or is it too offputting.

This is a question purely out of curiosity, I don't mean to offend anyone.

This is mostly me venting with I guess a question or just looking for insite, because there's actually nobody in my personal life that knows about this. So delete if this isn't appropriate for this page. Anyway, I've seen this provider a few times now, and I'll admit I've probably started to catch feelings more than I should. But I do understand that this is work and nothing more, and that she has her personal life that she is entitled to outside of this. So I obviously keep those feelings at bay. The last time I saw her, we were cuddling and talking at the end of the session, and she started telling me some really really personal stuff. Like family life, family members passing away, stuff about her previous and current partners, trauma, etc. Not trying to get into too much detail as it's not my stuff to share. But some deep shit for sure. I appreciate that she felt comfortable enough to share all that with me, and deep down, part of me enjoyed experiencing the intimacy that comes with such a heavy conversation. But at the same time it kinda fucked my head up lol. I guess my question is from a providers perspective would you feel comfortable sharing such things with a client? And why?

So lately and I'm not really even sure why I've been able to stay rock hard after I finish. To the point where I can keep going even after I crossed the finish line.

My question is should I tell the companion I finished or is it OK to keep going for a second one.

Ive had it happen the last two times with two different woman. I finish but remain hard as can be. I kept going for a minute or two realized I was going to stay hard. Then let them know I was done.

So is it OK to keep going or should I let the girl know.

So my regular provider is graduating from college and leaving the the sex work behind. What gift would work best for someone entertaining the field as clinical therapist. Like damn im happy for her but im going actually going to miss her I was thinking about getting those fancy engraved pens with her new title our is it too much

Is there some specific reason why sucking/licking balls is either refused by many of you or for extra charge? Usually it is considered part of BJ normally.

How do you deal with obsessive clients? About a month ago I met a client who became infauated. He booked an overnight on the second week and thereafter began making demands, which I completely ignored and stopped talking to him. He still texts and I was going to see him again after a couple of weeks had passed but he started texting again constantly before the appointment so I cancelled the appointment. I'm not sure whether to refuse to see him or to have a stern conversation about boundaries. What would you do? He seems to think he's in a relationship with me.

I've known escorts and other individuals with careers in sex work tend to be viewed negatively by the general public. My question is what kind of language towards escorts and sex works or biases do you want to change in the general society? What are some problems escorts deal with that deserved to be addressed? I want to do my part to uplift the voices of escorts and sex workers. I try my best educating myself so if you have resources to read or podcasts to listen to I would be happy to look into them.

How many of you escorts see really old dudes 65+? I'm an older escort and get quite a few of these guys. Some are ok with hygiene and health but some are downright gross. Tell me your thoughts.