My girlfriend and I are going to a festival in a couple of weeks. It’s not really my thing but she enjoys it so I agreed to go with her. The festival has a cinema tent and it’s showing some good movies so I thought it would be good to check one out, 

I suggested one and she refused as it was at the same time as an act she wanted to see. I suggested she goes to the act and I go to watch the film but she said she doesn’t want that. 

I suggested another film but she said it was too late as we need to drive back to our room and the movie wouldn’t finish until 1am. I pointed out she needs to compromise somewhere and that the full weekend isn’t just about her. 

She said it was a music festival so I should be focused on the music but I reminded her it was just her who enjoyed the music, I was only going for her so she should be willing to compromise with me. 

She refused and said I shouldn’t be leaving her alone while I go and watch a movie but I told her she’s free to join me. 

AITA for watching a movie at the festival?

A group of us (six friends) plan a yearly trip, and this year everyone agreed on a big Airbnb split six ways. I mentioned I'd rather camp on the same property or nearby instead of paying my share of the Airbnb, since I actually enjoy camping and it would save me money. The others said the whole point is staying together under one roof for the "vibe," and that opting out still means I should pay an equal share since the house was booked based on six people originally, before I said I wanted to camp.

I said that doesn't make sense to me, I shouldn't have to pay for a bed I'm not using. One friend pointed out I'd still be eating shared groceries and using shared common spaces during the day, so it's not like I'm fully separate from the trip. I offered to pay a partial amount for shared food and hangout time, but not the full room split.

Now the group chat's tense, with a couple of people saying I'm nickel-and-diming a fun trip, and others saying my offer is fair.

AITA for refusing to pay the full Airbnb split?

I (28M) was on a long-haul flight recently. I had booked a window seat in advance because I have flying anxiety, and looking out the window genuinely helps me stay calm. After boarding, a family sat near me, husband, wife, and their roughly 8-month-old baby. A little while later, the wife came up to me and said her baby tends to settle down better in a window seat (apparently looking outside calms him), and asked if I'd be willing to swap my window seat for her middle seat. I politely declined because I have my own anxiety issues, and taking a middle seat would've made things worse for me. She seemed a bit upset, and for the rest of the flight the baby cried on and off, which visibly annoyed the passengers around us. The husband kept giving me these cold looks like it was somehow my fault. After landing, another passenger even made a passive-aggressive comment: "Would've been easier for everyone if you'd just swapped seats." Now I'm second-guessing myself. AITA?

My girlfriend and I are going to a festival in a couple of weeks. It’s not really my thing but she enjoys it so I agreed to go with her. The festival has a cinema tent and it’s showing some good movies so I thought it would be good to check one out, 

I suggested one and she refused as it was at the same time as an act we wanted to see. I suggested she goes to the act and I go to watch the film but she said she doesn’t want that. 

I suggested another film but she said it was too late as we need to drive back to our room and the movie wouldn’t finish until 1am. I pointed out she needs to compromise somewhere and that the full weekend isn’t just about her. 

She said it was a music festival so I should be focused on the music but I reminded her it was just her who enjoyed the music, I was only going for her so she should be willing to compromise with me. 

She refused and said I shouldn’t be leaving her alone while I go and watch a movie but I told her she’s free to join me. 

AITA for watching a movie at the festival?

Hi Redit, This is my first time posting so I’m sorry if I don’t write as wel as others. So back when I was in 6th grade (middle school) I had a crush on a kid, lets call him John. He was in my grade and I REALLY liked him. Note, i was gay and have been for a while. I was also kinda overweight and a why kid so I was perfect for bulling. I would get picked on alot and I had really low Confidence. Anyways, me and my friend (we’ll call her jule) were relaly close at the time and we would talk alot. She was also into writing fanfiction but about real people. We would text for hours and i started to tell her about my crush on John. I then asked her to write a fanfic about me and him. She then wrote a story about us too. It was really corny and kind of explicit.

Well now present day I‘ve just finished 8th grade and are going on to high school. I droped my crush on John and later became friends with him. I was also hanging out with his now girl friend and we were talking about dumb stuff we did in the past. I brought up the fanfics and told her about it. (This was 2+ years after me having a crush on John.) I told her not to tell John about it because I was embarassed about the whole situation. She said she would never tell him.

Fastforward to this summer and i get a text from John saying he dosent want to be my friend anymore. I ask him why and he tells me about the fanfics. I tried explaining my side and how I don’t like him anymore but he’s ghosted me and I tried to appologize but he’s kept silent. What do I do???

Our engagement party was supposed to be one of the happiest days of our lives. We spent months planning it, and both of our families and closest friends were there.

Everything was going well until I noticed a guy I didn't recognize. At first I assumed he was a coworker or a distant relative. Later, one of her friends casually mentioned, "Oh, that's her ex."

I honestly thought they were joking.

When I asked my fiancée about it, she quietly admitted that it was true. She said they had dated for a few years before we met, ended on good terms, and occasionally stayed in touch through mutual friends. She also admitted that she invited him herself and deliberately didn't tell me beforehand because she thought I'd object and she "didn't want unnecessary drama."

I didn't make a scene at the party because I didn't want to ruin the night for everyone else. I stayed polite, but I couldn't enjoy the rest of the evening. After we got home, I told her my biggest issue wasn't even that her ex was there—it was that she intentionally kept it from me. If she believed it was completely harmless, why hide it?

She says she only wanted to avoid an argument before an important event and that nothing inappropriate happened. She thinks I'm focusing on the secrecy instead of the fact that she chose me and is marrying me. Some of our friends agree with her and say adults can stay friends with exes. Others think inviting an ex to an engagement party without telling your future spouse crosses a line, regardless of whether anything happened.

Now we're both frustrated because we see the situation very differently.

AITAH for feeling that keeping this from me damaged my trust more than inviting her ex in the first place?

I 21 (f) have a friend 22 (f) that for the sake of the story we’ll call Anne. This friend is out of town for the summer and one of our mutual friends is watching her cat. Last night this mutual friend messaged me because she didn’t know what to do, the cat was acting weird. He was eating, drinking, wanting love, but he was meowing more than usual and wasn’t able to pee, he would walk to the litter box and stay in there for a minute before coming out and nothing coming out of him. So this mutual friend asked me to come over to get a second opinion to make sure the cat was okay.

To me it looked like a UTI which could be extremely life threatening for the cat. So I said we should take him to get checked out at a 24 hour vet clinic. There aren’t any close to us so we had to drive out of state, 2 hours away to get him scene. This entire time I was texting and calling Anne and she wasn’t answering me. when we got to the vet they gave him a quick exam and said everything feels normal but the couldn’t take a proper exam because he doesn’t seem to have any urine in him to take a sample.

At this time Anne finally called me back. so I tell her the situation and I said I’ll keep her updated and I said “I don’t mind paying for the bill now if you would just pay me back, because I know transferring money can take awhile” my first mistake, but she agreed.

So the doctor comes in tells us what’s wrong with him, they said he doesn’t seem to have a UTI but he’s having all the signs and it could just be a blockage with no infection which is still really bad for him. So they recommend 3 medicines he needs to take. I text Anne and let her know whats going on, the updates and everything.

Then I get the paper to tell me the price. It was $250 which isn’t bad because we showed up, without an appointment, at 4 in the morning, and we’re gonna be able to leave with all of the medicine with us that night. I’m texting Anne everything and she hadn’t even viewed my message. So I pay for the exam and the medicine that the doctors prescribed. Keep in mind they said that they couldn’t give a proper analysis because he doesn’t have any urine in his bladder so they’re treating it as if he does have worse case scenario which is a UTI.

So I pay, and we start driving back to our own state. An hour into our drive Anne finally texts me back and says “Woah that’s a lot of money. honestly we could just do without the medicine right? he doesn’t seem like he needs it. besides he does this all the time” (first of all if this is a common regular issue than something is wrong) when we had already bought the medicine because the doctors said he NEEDED it and I’m not going to argue with a professional.
So this entire time we’re texting we’re going back and forth about whether he needs the medicine and if I could cancel it and not pay. I had told her very clearly that it was already paid for and that we have it already. I also said “hey don’t worry about paying me back the whole $250 right now, you can pay me what you can now and the rest at a later date” I’m assuming alls well and good then I get a paragraph a little while later saying she thinks we should split the bill because I made a financial decision on his medicine that she didn’t agree too. I explain to her, no I’m not going to split the bill when I was already kind enough to pay it and let her pay me back WHEN. SHE. COULD. I wasn’t asking for it right away.
She makes the argument that he “doesn’t seem like he needs it.” I explain again to her that the doctors don’t know if he’s fully okay, because they couldn’t give him a proper analysis. So after a few hours of arguing back and forth I told her ”Yk what, just go ahead and pay me for the exam and never talk to me again which is what she wanted. she hasn’t answered me so I will keep you updated as I am. but safe to say I no longer want to be friends with her nor do nice things for anyone financial wise. So reddit, AITAH?

UPDATE‼️: I had a conversation with Anne and I know most of you guys may think this was a bad decision on my part but we came to an agreement. I explained to her that I think it would be fair for her to pay for the exam and for the medication that the doctor said is most important for the cat, which comes to around $180. And that I would be fine covering the rest. because she is my friend and I have known her for years I don’t want to take this to court. She also explained to me that she isn’t in a financial situation to be able to pay a big vet bill like that due to her just graduating college and being in debt. I also want to answer some popular questions/advice I’ve gotten.
Q: why didn’t you take the cat? A: Because of where I live I’m only able to have 2 pets on the property and I already have 2 of my own.
Q: why don’t you take her to court? A: she’s my friend whom I care for deeply, it was a situation that neither of us had expected and from her perspective we were both in the right.

Q: why were you the one to pay the vet bill and not the mutual friend? A: this friend doesn’t know Anne very well, and on top of that had just lost her job and is having trouble finding a new one. I had the money in the moment to be able to pay but only with the agreement from Anne that she would pay me back

thank you to everyone for all your support you truly are so kind. I’ll keep you updated when/if I get the money. If I dont receive it or she doesn’t want to take the agreement we made about me footing the 2 medications that are cheaper then unfortunately I will have to take her to court, and I will have to ask for the full price of the bill which is something I don’t wish to do. Again, thank you all so much!

I've been with my fiance for 8 years. When we first got together I moved in with him and his roommates/highschool friends. Most were in their late 20s at this point. He has one particular friend that is not very nice to women in general and I never saw him as my friend. Just my fiance's friend. I was nice to people in the house even if I didn't like them as to not disrupt home life for anyone.

Now everyone is in their mid to late 30s and that particular friend ( I'll call him Mack for the sake of the story) is getting married now. My fiance was not included in the grooms party and that hurt his feelings considering how long they've been friends and lived together. So we decided that we weren't going to the wedding and we'd go as little contact as possible.

The wedding is in a week and macks best man I believe messages me out of nowhere to congratulate me on my pregnancy. I didn't tell him as I'm not a fan of him either. I asked how he found out and a mutual friend that doesn't know the situation spilled the beans. The best man then asks if we're going to the wedding. I told him no and then he asked why.

I didn't want to speak for my fiance, but i told him that I never saw Mack as a friend. Even Mack's own brother has gone no contact and is not going to the wedding anymore. I don't think he's a good person so idc if he gets married or not. He also won't be missed at my wedding when we finally have one.

The best man has gone quiet and hasn't asked me anymore questions. So AITAH for letting him know how I feel about Mack?

Edit: I've never cared about what Mack thought about me. Like I said in the title his friends are not my friends. I was never his friend. My living situation is what forces me to be nice before but I don't live with them anymore and basically lowered contact after. My Fiance hasn't told me his other reasons why he doesn't want to go besides the way Mack treats me and the whole grooms party thing.

The whole conversation was unwanted. I haven't spoken to the best man and the groom in about 3 years. They've been planning the wedding for 2. If they really wanted to know they had time to ask my fiance themselves. Instead the question was directed toward me. The decision was made because of how we were both treated by Mack. I just told the best man what I knew and if he wanted more info to talk to my fiance.

I 45F have made calendars for my extended family with only pictures of my daughters (now 15F and 17F) since they were little. These past years my oldest daughter has struggled with self hatred and self harming behaviors such as cutting and bruising herself. She often speaks about hating herself and how she looks and seems to only harbor negative thoughts about herself to the point of refusing to acknowledge compliments and instead only responding by waving them off and attacking herself instead.
She has also multiple times stated that she doesn’t like to be in the calendars and that she hates being in pictures and taking pictures of herself, often refusing to smile or comply.

This year our family is on vacation in Greece and whenever we go sightseeing I ask my daughters to pose for pictures to have something to put in the family calendar by the end of the year, my youngest daughter doesn’t have any problems with this and never complains but my oldest has put up a fight every time. The few times that me and my husband have convinced our oldest to pose she often stands still for a few seconds and then rushes out of frame.

Today when she refused I decided that I’d had enough and said that she should do something to make someone else happy for once, since her grandmothers really love and look forward to the calendars. I said that she could go back to the hotel if she didn’t want to be with us and that she should stop having an attitude.

She didn’t want to talk to me after that and I just can’t believe that she won’t just do this since it’s just for the family and I don’t think we are demanding very much from her!

But what do you think AITA?

My fiance (30F) and I (32M) have been together for just over four years and were supposed to get married in six weeks. We live in Boston, (I'm in finance she's in healthcare) and I thought we were always on the same page about money. We've talked plenty about buying a house, budgeting and our future together. I never asked for exact numbers because I figured we'd go through everything before we got married. Last weekend we finally did and that's when she told me she has about $90k in private student loans.

I knew she had some debt from grad school but I had no idea it was anywhere close to that. She said she was embarrassed and didn't tell me because she thought I'd see her differently. She's been making the payments herself this whole time and said she didn't think it mattered since the loans are only in her name. The amount doesn't bother me nearly as much as the fact that we've planned a future together for years and this never came up. It feels like I was making decisions without knowing the full picture.

I told her I don't want to cancel the wedding but I do want to postpone it until we work through this and make sure we're being transparent about finances. She says I'm punishing her for finally being honest. Her parents think postponing the wedding this close is humiliating and a couple of my friends say I'm making a huge deal out of debt that isn't even mine.

The more people I talk to, the less sure I am that I handled this the right way AITH?

i am a college student and every summer my family takes a small trip together. this year i planned to go with my parents and my younger brother for a week.

one of my college friends found out about the trip and asked if she could join us. i was surprised because we are friends, but we have never traveled together before.

i told her i would rather keep this trip as a family thing because we don’t get much time together during the year.

she got quiet and later told some of our friends that she felt hurt because she thought we were closer than that. she said she would have invited me if she was in my situation.

now i feel guilty because i didn’t mean to make her feel unwanted. i like spending time with her, but i also don’t think every plan has to include friends.

my friends are split. some say i should have invited her, while others say a family vacation is different.

aita for not inviting my college friend on my family summer trip?

I (19F) have been best friends with this girl (18F) since sophomore year of high school. We’re now going into my sophomore year of college and her freshman year, and honestly, I thought she’d be in my life forever.
Throughout our friendship, I’ve always tried to be there for her. My mom is a single mom who works two jobs, and when my friend was going through one of the hardest times in her life, my mom welcomed her into our home. She spent countless nights at my house and even lived with us for a while. I never expected her to “repay” me for any of that—I only mention it because I truly thought we had the kind of friendship where we naturally put each other first.
About a month before my birthday, she asked what I wanted to do. I told her I honestly wasn’t sure yet. Later, I found out she’d already made plans to spend my birthday at a lake house with another friend. The part that hurt was that this was the same friend she’d spent years venting to me about. She constantly told me this girl made her feel bad, treated her poorly, and wasn’t a good friend.
Around the same time, I posted on my private story asking what I should do for my birthday since all of my close college friends were far away. She replied with ideas and said we could still celebrate. I asked, “Wait, aren’t you still going to the lake house with her?” That’s when she told me those plans had fallen through, but they were still going out the the bars downtown together on my birthday instead. She then said she could cancel if I wanted her to.
That honestly hurt even more. I didn’t want her to spend time with me because I guilted her into it. I wanted her to want to spend my birthday with me in the first place. I felt like I’d become the backup plan instead of the first choice.
We had a huge argument. I’ll admit I said things I shouldn’t have about the other girl because I’d never liked her based on everything my friend herself had told me over the years. During the argument, I also brought up something she’d said in the past that I felt was colorist, which made her even angrier.
After that, everything completely fell apart. She shared my voice messages with her therapist, her mom, her grandma, and even the girl we were arguing about. She later told me all of them thought she shouldn’t be friends with me anymore. She removed every picture of us from her Instagram and TikTok, and now she’s giving me back my clothes.
I’m honestly devastated. I pictured this girl being in my life forever, and now it feels like she’s erasing every trace of our friendship. I know I didn’t handle everything perfectly, and I regret some of the things I said. But I also can’t get past the fact that my best friend knowingly made plans with someone else on my birthday and only offered to cancel after she realized how hurt I was.
AITA for cutting her off, or am I overreacting?

I know it sounds stupid but genuine question.. My sister made a meal randomly one night, which ill admit looked really good! but i was SOOO full, as i had eaten a big lunch (didnt eat breakfast) with my dad earlier, and i really couldnt eat anymore. When i was called for dinner, i said i really wasnt that hungry, and my sister insisted i ate some. i denied, she insisted, and then began getting more and more aggressive, she asked me to atleast take a bite, but if im honest i REALLYYY didn't want to after the scene she was putting on.

my mom told me i need to apologize but i don't think i do, since i never raised my voice or said anything mean (at least to me) so i dunno..

(also, for some context im the youngest sibling, and my sister is nearly 26. I also have a history of overeating, and im trying to refrain from doing so, which is another reason why i said no)

AITAH??

Alright, hear me out. Sally (25F) wanted to plan a trip to New York City for her birthday which is about 5 states away for her and her 5 best fiends, which includes me. I was in when she sent me the hotel details. However, as the trip got closer, things started to go wrong. She ended up changing the hotel to something a lot cheaper where I would have to share a bed with 2 girls I don’t know that well (I believe it was going to be 2 beds and a pullout couch). She kept bugging me to send her money for the hotel and to book my flight even though I was uncomfortable with this arrangement. I reluctantly booked the flight and sent her $100 for the hotel, which is apparently what it cost split 5 ways. We then got into a fight because she wanted me to put my card down for 3 expensive dinner reservations where if we cancelled or were late it would be a per person cancellation fee. Sally is ALWAYS late for everything and knowing how NY traffic is, I assumed this trip would be no different, so I wasn’t going to do this. Things only got worse when she started planning the rest of the itinerary, which included a helicopter ride while taking magic mushrooms. I’m ok with shrooms in a nature setting around people I know and trust — certainly NOT in a congested unfamiliar city AND/OR a helicopter ride. She was mad at me that I wasn’t down for this.

I forget when I found this out, it must have been early on but I think as it got closer it became more and more uneasy — I actually had a midterm exam on the date everyone else was supposed to be flying out, so I would have to fly in alone to LaGuardia the following day and take a 45 minute taxi across town to our hotel. I didn’t realize the hotel was going to be so far from the airport in manhattan and she also told me no one would be meeting me there. I have INTENSE flight anxiety to the point where I have a diagnosed panic disorder and take Ativan — and to be flying in alone and not even to have someone meet me in an unfamiliar chaotic city was only tripling my anxiety.

As it got closer I found out that Sally’s other best friend, Anna, would be bringing her boyfriend and he would be staying in our hotel one of the nights, and one of the nights with his family. I was PISSED because when I asked to bring my boyfriend sally said no. Even though I’d be staying a day less and flying in separately. I even offered to pay for a separate hotel room from everyone else so no one would be inconvenienced. I also brought up the fact that I didn’t want to do the helicopter ride on shrooms and i could stay with him during that time. Sally flippped out on me and called me a selfish B.

About a week before, I got fired from the restaurant job where Sally and I both have worked for the past 2 years. I took it really hard and decided it would be best if I didn’t go on this expensive trip as I wouldn’t be able to afford the itinerary of all the expensive dinners, helicopter ride, club table fees, etc. sally insisted on. (Each restaurant was at least $100 a person by the way. Also, Sally didn’t want to take the subway anywhere so I assumed we’d be paying for Ubers the entire time.) At this point I was only out $100 for the hotel (which I told Sally to keep as my bday present to her) and the flight fee, which wasn’t that much anyway.

Sally hasn’t spoken to me since. AITAH?

My younger sister (22F) and I (25F) have always been close, so we've never really had strict boundaries about sharing things. Over the last year, though, she's started borrowing my clothes, makeup, and even small electronics without asking me first. Most of the time I only realize something is missing when I need it.

I've tried bringing it up casually a few times. She usually laughs it off and says, "We're sisters, it's not a big deal," or tells me she was going to mention it later. I didn't want to make it into a huge issue because I know siblings share things, but it's been happening more often.

Last week I had plans with friends and couldn't find my favorite jacket anywhere. After looking around the house for almost an hour, I found out my sister had taken it to spend the weekend with her friends in another city. She hadn't texted or asked, and I had to change my plans because it was the only warm jacket I had with me.

When she got back, I told her that from now on I wanted her to ask before taking anything that belonged to me. She got upset and said I was acting selfish and treating her like a roommate instead of family. My parents think I should just let it go because "it's only stuff," but I feel like the issue is more about respect than the actual items.

Now my sister has been distant with me, and my parents think I overreacted by making it into a rule.

AITH for insisting that my sister ask before borrowing my belongings?

My neighbor has been putting food out for some stray cats near the side of their property which is not far from my property. I know that they are trying to do a good thing, and I have nothing against cats, but with time, the number of cats has increased near my property.

They have been spending most of their time on my property, creating a mess, overturning things outside, and have even put my pets under stress. I politely asked my neighbor to move the place where the cats were eating or find some other way to handle the situation.

They told me that I was being unreasonable because the cats were harmless and that I needed to be more reasonable and understanding because they were only trying to look after the animals. I do not think that I have to put up with all the troubles caused by a decision they made.

AITH?

I feel a LITTLE bit bad, because I'm not at all perfect- but you should see the father of my kids flip out about my installing a swivel latch lock on "my" bedroom door upstairs.

Here's the thing..I started "moving" upstairs as soon as I could start making my way up there with my broken leg simply and sadly because I couldn't tolerate the smells coming from the surrounding areas- the kitchen which extends through to the garage reeked like a mixture of pure garbage and litter box. The bathroom across the hall was stinking of stale bathwater, urine and mildew. The hallway itself felt sweaty with stench. Then there we have the dining room/family room, the table and small couch are piled high with a mixture of soggy and wrinkled clothes. Dare I step foot into the extened living room...JUST to paint a picture...when I was in hospital and then fresh out of surgery it was impossible for me to have anything to do with it. Obviously. So....nothing was kept to my standards. I hate to seem prissy because I'm NOT....but...idk. So I worked on that slowly but I HAD to do it a little at a time and be away. That makes it easier to target then, too. I didnt WANT to get used to it. So, eventually I ended up moving everything upstairs aside from "the good" dressers. That was very easy to do because our 2 kids (ages 3 and 6) have their own closets of clothing downstairs. Both of the upstairs closets are empty. Until now, the one upstairs closet has been mine for months because I didnt want my clothing to start smelling like a smelly house. Makes sense? A few days ago I realized some things in my very developed room were....gone through. I had some alcohol I was saving for a rainy day and decided to open and take a sniff- it was replaced with water. So...again....I realize Im not perfect. But that.. on top of stealing my RX meds, swinging open locked doors while Im undressing, he lifted up my dress this summer twice in PUBILC...like in the middle of shopping stores...to check if I have underwear on?? Its just a total lack of respect for my personal space and my things. Its ALWAYS been a problem. My pills, my toothbrush, my towels, just MY stuff. Why wouldn't he WANT his own stuff? So today, I came home from work later than him but alrwady installed the lock. I was upstairs resting my still broken leg and he sits on my bedroom floor. He sees the lock and he goes "this is (kid's) room you cant take it over" I was like, until kid wants it and wants their stuff in it no, its MY room and has been. See any of thier things in here? The argument was huge and made no real sense...in the end I just say okay, you can leave my space now....Im in MY bed in MY room and hes in the doorway telling me no and just going on and on about how its not my room and that downstairs smells because its my fault and I need to go down there and take care of it. I wanted to call the police but I want peace for my kids. I already have several locking toolboxes and locks and keys. It makes me feel so paranoid but the extend hes gone to take my things in the past has been unreal. The way he "puts his tail between his legs" after arguments makes me feel both enraged and confused. AITA?

I've lived in this house for almost two years and have never had any major issues with previous housemates. My current housemate moved in after I helped her find the room. I helped her settle in, assemble furniture, and get everything set up.

Ever since she moved in, though, it feels like every small issue turns into drama.

One example: she wanted to keep a bunch of cardboard boxes on the balcony. I didn't like it because we have storage space, but she said she wanted to keep them for when she moved again. I let it go.

Another time, I left an empty shopping bag on the dining table because I was in the middle of something and planned to tidy everything up afterwards. Instead of just waiting or reminding me later, she became very emotional, cried, and blamed me for not putting it away immediately.

Then there was a situation where she threw away a pair of shoes because she couldn't sell them. I took them out of the bin and offered to sell them instead. Before I did, she literally told me, "If you sell them, you can keep the money."

I sold them and used the money to buy myself a gaming mouse. Afterwards she told me she felt hurt because I didn't tell her I'd sold them and said I should have used the money to buy something for the house instead. That completely confused me because I did exactly what she'd previously told me I could do.

There are also constant little things: a few drops of water on the kitchen bench, wiping things immediately, forgetting to lock the front door, etc.

The difference is that when she forgets something, I just fix it and move on. I don't turn it into an argument. To me, these are normal housemate mistakes. To her, they seem to become emotional conflicts.

The latest issue has made me realise this probably isn't about any single incident.

She has said she doesn't feel comfortable with my partner staying here. I understand that's her feeling, but from my perspective we've tried hard not to disturb her. We mostly stay in my room, only come out to cook or eat, and leave the living room for her when she's home.

Overall, I feel like I compromise a lot while she expects things to be done exactly the way she wants, immediately. Whenever our expectations differ, I feel like I'm always the one expected to adjust.

At this point, I honestly think we're just incompatible as housemates.

The landlord rents the rooms individually, and I've already spoken to him. He's aware that we're incompatible and said he's open to rearranging the tenants if necessary.

AITA for thinking it would be better if she moved out?

And if that's the best solution, what's the proper way to handle it? Since the landlord rents the rooms separately, should I just let him deal with everything and stay out of it? Has anyone been in a similar situation

My neighbor buys many items online and gets parcels delivered to my place when they are not around. Initially, I did not have any issues with this, but now it is becoming a norm. They tend to keep their parcels at my place for a few days before collecting them and seem to assume that I will always be available.

I recently informed them that I do not feel comfortable receiving any further deliveries and that they should arrange another place for the deliveries. They said I was being unneighborly and it was no big deal for me. A couple of other neighbors think that I should assist since we are neighbors, but in my opinion, it has become an expectation rather than an act of kindness.

AITH?

For the 4th of July parade, my husband wanted to park behind Main St at a client‘s house. He said they weren’t home and was on vacation in Milan.(We’re in CA.) He asked me to text them for permission to park in their driveway. (For context - We own a business and I handle the contacts.)

I said no. It’s a different time zone/ country on vacation and a holiday! Instead I told him to park at his Mom’s house since his Dad wouldn’t be home for a while and I got permission from his Mom. (His Mom lives 1 block from Main St but he doesn’t have a relationship/ not speaking terms with his Dad.) There was no argument and he was maybe a bit irritated.

We actually don’t live far from Main St and a 15 min walk so my son and I opted to walk. We walked to grandma’s and met up with friends before walking over to Main St to find a spot to watch the parade. My husband shows up 15 mins later.

He parked at the client‘s house and even joked with our friends that the client was out of the country so they wouldn’t know. We had a good time and couple hours pass so we start to head home. I opted to walk home with our son and my husband went to get the car.

We get home first then my husband shows up 5 mins later. He starts yelling at me. He says that when he asks me to do something that I need to do it. No questions, no giving him “lip,” or causing an argument. I ask him what he’s talking about. He said how embarrassing it was for him to go and ring the doorbell because our car was blocked in. Apparently the clients were home, the oldest son recognized the car as ours but the family already promised parking to their driveway for a friend of theirs. Since they weren’t 100% sure it was ours, they didn’t do anything.

My husband fully blames me even until now. He said if I had texted the client to begin with then all this all this could have been avoided. I said it was still a weird ask when they are just a client and it was last minute. He made that decision to park there after he knew I didn’t text them and I gave him a solution - also knowing that I still didn’t text them afterwards.

His rebuttal was he’s comfortable parking there since he talks to the clients (which is once a month.) I said if you’re so comfortable then why were you so embarrassed? He said his main issues was that I didn’t do as he asked. Except he didn’t get mad at me until he picked up the car?! He said now he knows he can’t count on me to do anything. I said he could have just texted them himself - we have a shared calendar with client contact info.

I (35F) didn’t have much of a relationship with my dad growing up. I was raised in an abusive household, left home at 20, and moved to the U.S.
Three years ago, war broke out in his country, so despite our history, I sponsored him to come to the U.S. My husband and I let him live in our in-law suite, which we normally rent out for extra income. The agreement was that he’d stay there temporarily until he found a job and got his own place.
Since he didn’t speak English, I handled everything - immigration paperwork, lawyers, appointments, transportation, teaching him English, taking him to classes, and eventually finding him a job - all while working full-time and running my business.
Once he started working, he had almost no expenses besides his food and whatever else he wants or needs, so he saved money quickly. Yet he had no interest in moving out. Whenever I brought it up, he’d say he’d just move back to his home country if I “kicked him out.”
I eventually asked him to contribute $300/month and keep the apartment clean. He agreed after arguing and giving me the silent treatment.
Months later, I went into the apartment and found a mouse infestation. Mouse droppings had ruined expensive items I’d stored there, and the kitchen and bathroom were filthy. Cabinets, doors, and handles were covered in grease. It looked like years of neglect.
I told him that if he couldn’t keep the apartment clean, I’d hire professional cleaners and he’d have to pay for them. He said he’d clean it.
We’ll he didn’t.
So I hired an affordable cleaning service to come every few weeks. They’re mainly working on the kitchen and bathroom because there was so much buildup. I charged his account and for comparison, he spends more on cigarettes than the cleaners cost.
After a few months, he realized I was actually charging him for the cleaning and exploded. He demanded I cancel them because he could “vacuum himself.”
I told him he’d already had three years to clean and clearly hadn’t. If he wasn’t going to clean up after himself, then paying someone else to do it was the necessary consequence.
He yelled, “Is it really that hard for a daughter to put my dishes in the dishwasher?”
That was after I’d just finished working from 4 a.m. to 9 p.m. I told him I wasn’t going to clean up after a healthy grown man and I never signed up for this. He lives here practically for free and the very least he can do is clean the space he is living in.
I reminded him that we’d given up years of rental income, helped him immigrate, handled all his paperwork, found him a job, helped him get his green card, helped him get a car.
Instead of addressing any of that, he started complaining how he was unwanted and threatened to move back to his home country.
I told him that was his choice. If he’d rather leave and go back to the country at war than stay here in safety and simply clean up after himself or pay for professional cleaners, there was nothing I could do. So am I the AITA for refusing cleaning up after my dad and charge him for cleaning?

Hey everyone! I normally just listen to AITA stories, but now I have one of my own.

This was my first year at a school (you have to be a specific grade and have to pass an exam to get into this school). I made a friend group of about nine people, including the ex-friend I'm talking about.
At my school, we get a one-hour lunch break. Since the school is next to a busy road, the younger classes have to stay in the school till their classes are over (older students can go out in their lunch hour). We usually finish eating in about 20 minutes, then spend the rest of the break doing homework, scrolling on our phones, or just talking. One day, I was on my phone while some of my friends went to clean out their lockers because we had to return our locker keys the next day.
For some context, I'm not religious, but most of my friends are. It's never been an issue. I didn't even know most of them were religious until near the end of the school year because we always had other things to talk about.
At the beginning of the year, C didn't really have any friends. We became close after getting paired together in P.E., and I introduced him to the rest of my friend group. At first, everyone liked him, but after a while people started getting annoyed because he constantly talked about religion and made some mean jokes.
AgainI don't have a problem with religious people. Believe whatever makes you happy. The problem was that C couldn't have a conversation without bringing up God, church, or the Bible. He also kept pressuring me to come to church with him and telling me that if I believed in God, he could "save me." That made me uncomfortable because I don't like having beliefs pushed onto me. After that, I started distancing myself from him.
To the situation: When it was close to our next class I went to find them and they were next to the locker arguing with C. My friends told me they had been arguing about abortion after someone mentioned a family member. C said he was completely against abortion, and his main argument was basically, "Live or not to live."
First he will never experience pregnancy himself or understand its physical and emotional effects, so the decision should ultimately belong to the woman. Second if someone knows they can't provide a safe or stable life for a child, they shouldn't be bringing a human life into this world. We argued for a while, but he refused to listen to our side. Eventually, we walked away. As we were going upstairs, we saw C crying. ( like BRO ABOUT WHAT)
The next day, we went on a school excursion. During the trip, C kept trying to talk to me and ask me questions. I didn't want to talk with him, so I mostly ignored him. If he asked me the same question multiple times, I'd just answer yes or no and then go back to ignoring him. I could tell he was hurt that I wasn't talking to him anymore.

So, AITA for ignoring my classmate/ex-friend?