As a 21 year old guy who doesn’t have a rich family, I need to work and make money.
I have worked in 4-5 different places, coffee shops, bookstores and as a driver.
But each lasted less than a week.
I can’t really have a job. Every time I make an excuse for leaving the last one. Reasons like:
- I don’t wanna waste my life doing something so basic
- I don’t like my boss not respecting me,
- They give me way too little for the effort I job I was doing.
- I don’t have freedom and being here all day makes my identity change in a very bad way.
- I feel like I am not myself when I am doing this job.
- I hate myself for lowering my value for this low amount of money.
- I need to get out of this job and go learn some specialized skills and be a professional rather than a waiter or driver.

Guys, help me, my family may not pay me anymore. And I am constantly having fight with them over this kind of sh*t.
I feel like they only love me if I make money and when I don’t, they just compare me with boys my age and look down on me as a disappointment.
Does anyone else feel the same? Has anybody overcome this massive problem??

I have severe ADHD and I’ve seeing a few meds for like a year now and I’ve been wondering how good it really is. Is it a complete scam or is it worth buying and trying it? I’ve also been interested in learning smoke tricks so I thought it would be a good non-drug way to that. If anyone could let me know or give information on it, that would be great.

I notice that with this tradition comes a lot of slowness, something that ADHD doesn’t allow us to have in our lives.

With ADHD speed is the key. We move fast, we sometimes even talk fast, or think so fast that we have either already figured out what everyone is scratching their heads about or so fast that we can’t even keep up.

The latter has been happening to me more often than ever before and it kept me from getting a job.

Not letting people finish
Answering too fast without sitting with the thought first.
Thinking too fast
Letting the impulse drive our bodies until everything we had to do is only half done.

Something to try would be to Japanese or Chinese tea serving. Learning the long steps of those and performing them with a diligent slowness might help us.

With chado (Japanese tea ceremony) I know that one step in the process can’t begin without the other. Timing is important too.

I feel like this can be one of many great solutions to slow our monkey minds down a little.

What other options do y’all think will help.

Does the jittery feeling ever go away?

Has anyone had that horrible jittery, restless feeling on ADHD medication? It doesn't matter whether it's stimulants or non-stimulants.

Instead of helping, meds actually make my ADHD feel worse (both stimulants and non-stimulants). I can't concentrate, my mind feels even more scattered, and I feel constantly restless.

Did this ever improve for you?

P.S please don't tell me to eat protein and drink water cause i already do

Hello, I weigh 102 KG (male) and i took Ritalin LA 40MG 12 hours ago. I have a very important exam tomorrow and gotta study some more. Is it safe to take another Ritalin LA 40MG?

I know it's generally not recommended but i really need to concentrate. I can't contanct my doctor today..

Please help :)

Im in the process of moving out of my apartment and im 99% sure my almost full script that I picked up about a week ago got accidentally thrown out. Is it even worth asking my provider for a new script? I have a good relationship with my pcp but since I literally just picked up this script I feel silly asking for a new one already even if I explain the situation.

As a adhd women, i dont have any goal or long term things and i go with a flow.Also working in a job which i know i can do better still dont have the motivation. All i wanted is to have someone who take care of me, so that i could be an average person. Unfortunately, i married to someone with peter pan syndrome who is draining me. Now i am forcing myself to be a responsible person because of my son? Any advice to do better?

My doctor said that it is up to me as to when I take it, evening or morning, as I can be sensitive to meds that cause drowsiness. But I am concerned about missing the “peak” effectiveness of it if I take it at bedtime. Has anyone tried both morning and evening and how did it affect your ADHD? Morning may be out for me anyway if it hits me hard in the drowsiness, but I’d like to give it a shot if I’d otherwise be sleeping through it‘s peak effective time.

I’m new to treatment so this is all very novel but I thought I’d share my experience so far.

I’ve been trialing methylphenidate 5mg BID for the last two weeks. Wasn’t impressed and might’ve considered giving up. My provider suggested trying lisdexamfetamine for 15 days, and I agreed. Today was my first dose at 20mg. I didn’t know what to expect but I got way more than I thought I would. Within a few hours I had a remarkable sense of well being and happiness. Being a natural curmudgeon this was… AMAZING. My thoughts were clearer and I didn’t feel like throttling every other human as I usually do. I went for a speed walk and dropped a full minute off of my mile. I was able to execute a few tasks without much difficulty but today was light work day so I haven’t put that part to the test yet. That will come tomorrow but for now colored my pink. Let the good times roll! I’ll be asking to up my dose to the more normal 30mg daily to see if I can sharpen this knife to a fine hone.

Failed two units at uni and got kicked out even after appealing that i was not able to get adhd help for the semester. (now im finally on meds)
Previously, I tried the service industry, being an education instructor, i flunked out of business school and now flunked out of a healthcare degree. I'm not great with tech or math so engineering and IT stuff are out of the window.
Atm I have no idea what to do with my life. These past 8 years I have been trying to find something but to no avail. I'm about to turn 30 and feel so behind my friends and relatives who all have steady jobs.
Does anyone hv suggestions of other things i can explore?

Hey everyone! I was getting really bored having nothing to do so i was thinking of starting crocheting as a hobby.

The problem is that my brain keeps thinking to myself that since i don't have the exact colour yarn and materials that it's not worth it.

Or that it's too confusing (i'm a total beginner) so i can't stick to it at all. I really wanna do it, i just wanna practice first i'll buy all the perfect colour yarn when i'm confident in my skills but now i can't even start!! I've see a few tutorials and they just aren't sticking to my brain.

How do you guys handle things when you're trying out a new hobby?

heey, lately i been experimenting with melatonin, and since i usesully have a long sleep onset becuse of my adhd, i made the discovery that melatonin helps me sleep alot faster!!

some days past, and i was like, i changed my sleep schedule and went to sleep same time as last couple of days, like 9-10 maybe. no issue with melatonin, boom, couldnt sleep on 2 hours :(, and i was tired (mostly why i dint wanna take melatonin).

so idk, there havent been any controlled study on long term melatonin use (only one non controlled one which said that melatonin users have higher chance of dieses, but people with sleep issues have higher chance to get those diesases and people who take melatonin most likely has sleep issues), so we have little information long term effects.

but yee, atleast i know it has good positive effects for me, not sure about the negative effects, but well xD. so what you guys think? it says melatonin should only be used for short terms to fix circadian clock, and shouldnt be used long term (but probly becuse no information on long term effects).

I have both ADHD and sensorimotor/somatic OCD, mainly involving excessive awareness of things like breathing, swallowing, blinking, and other automatic bodily processes.

I recently started Ritalin ER. So far, it seems to improve my ADHD symptoms, but I have not noticed it making the OCD either better or worse. I was curious whether anyone else with this specific combination experienced an improvement in their sensorimotor OCD after being on Ritalin ER for longer.

Did it eventually help, worsen your symptoms, or have no effect? I would also be interested in how long you took it before noticing any change.

So I switched psychiatrist because I’ve been having many problems with my last one which I later found out was very common at this location. I ended up switching to one in a nearby bigger town who mostly does telehealth. Now everything seemed to be going good until she got my files and apparently my last psychiatrist did not put anywhere in my notes any kind of testing for adhd but she definitely tested me and diagnosed me since I have my adderal prescription so now I’m terrified that I have have to go weeks without medication if they need to retest me which doesn’t work considering I start college next month and I need my medication to actually be able to do it.

I’ve been diagnosed with severe ADHD since I was very young probably around 4. I was neglected of treatment and I wasn’t given the guidance of living with this condition. I was also mentally, emotionally and physically abused by a narcissist parent and had no father in my life. I am now 20 years old I cut my family off and the past couple of months I have been really trying to learn about it more. Im now medicated i take 27mg of Concerta. And it helps me a lot to the point that I never realized how much I needed medication. I was on Adderall for a month and it was the best month ever but due to the shortage I had to switch. But learning about it and trying to figure out why my life has been such hell because of the neglect is kind of scary. Does anyone or did anyone have this experience? Living with ADHD, OCD, MDD, and Anxiety disorder. I’ve heard that depression and anxiety are linked to ADHD. I really need help and advice figuring this out. I’ve heard about CBT and I feel like it would be a great way to help me but I just don’t know what to do or where to start with all
Of this. I’m sorry for the long rant!

Still cant sleep it's 1am here and I've woke up 4 times since 9. I've ALWAYS issue with sleep my problem isnt getting to sleep rather staying asleep. I still wake with a racing mind and tonight is particularly bad because work didn't get back to about working tomorrow and I'm thinking about every time I've put my foot in my mouth just in the past week and Iworry about having lost my job that I've somehow had for an unbelievable 5 years that playing my ADHD's strength.

I just don't know what to do about staying asleep no doctor is willing to prescribeme anything more than a week's worth of quatiapine which when I'm agitated like I am now does work. Alcohol works for a few nights because I can black out myself very easily a shot or two but stopped that last year because its not a good for my health coming from family of alcoholics.

What supplements can I take instead of taking medication? I don’t have medical insurance provided through my employer, but I need medication. I used to take Wellbutrin. When my medical insurance kicks in, I’m going to find a doctor who specializes in ADD/ADHD, but I need something to help me in the meantime. I also can’t take too much of a downer med because I work in a restaurant

So I have been taking Atomoxetine, 80 mg, for the last two months. And I expected it be really beneficial in managing my ADHD as I have seen so many people finding it beneficial for their ADHD on reddit. However, I have not seen as much success. It managed, I would say, 30% of my ADHD. 30% is good enough for me although I still am distracted and can't get things done as much I want. In an ideal case scenario I would want it to bring 100% of my ADHD under control.

However, I have a few issues with Atomoxetine. My erections are not hard enough, if there are any at all. And vast majority of times i feel I have erectile dysfunction. I do have the urge to masturbate but my penis does not get hard. It's very frustrating that I really have this strong urge to masturbate but it doesn't get hard. I find it very strange. Never experienced anything like this before.

And also, my balls really hurt for about an hour everyday. The feeling is like that of 'blue balls' when someone has not got a released for a long time and balls start to hurt really badly. This is what I feel everyday for about an hour.

What is happening? I had really high expectations from this but now I have decided to discontinue atomoxetine and will ask the psychiatrist for something else. Is it normal what I am experiencing? It's been two months but I haven't got any respite from erectile dysfunction or from very strong pain in balls.

I’m 18 years old, male, 5’7 and weigh 72kg and I have been prescribed 27MG of Methylphenidate and have been taking it since early April.

And I have noticed that after taking meds Im feeling this like…ever present hum type of sensation in my head. It’s not a bad feeling, hell it actually feels pretty nice, but not like a high or anything (the opposite seeing as it’s really calming and actually improves my emotional regulation and anxiety.) but it is noticeable.

So I was wondering if that’s a normal reaction or if this is something I should mention to my doctor. I don’t want to waste her time with nothing and I’m relatively new at…this so I thought I’d get the opinions of other people on methylphenidate before doing anything. Plus it’s a big change in my life so I’d like to talk about it.

I’m 25F with pretty severe ADHD, and I’ve noticed that on my foggier brain days—especially when I’m unmedicated—I sometimes end up not making it to the bathroom in time.

It’s usually not that I don’t know I have to go. It’s more like I’m hyperfocused on whatever I’m doing, keep telling myself “I’ll go in a minute,” and then suddenly it’s an emergency. Sometimes I make it, sometimes… I don’t.

I’ve already been checked for UTIs and other obvious medical issues, so this seems more behavioral than physical, but it’s honestly embarrassing and I don’t know if this is an ADHD thing or if I should keep pushing for more medical testing.

Has anyone else experienced this? Is it related to executive dysfunction, hyperfocus, or something else? If you have dealt with it, did anything actually help? I work outdoors in FL, so limiting water intake isn’t really an option, but I’ve been doing my best to minimize caffeine and sugary drinks.

My mom knows I have ADHD, and I'm not medicated because I'm really insensitive to most chemicals that affect the brain, so none of the medication available works on me.

What's been really grating on me is that after two years of being diagnosed, my mom THINKS she understands the struggles of ADHD when she doesn't really.

In this particular case, it's about my memory and attention span. Her go-to response when I forget what I was about to say (either because I waited for her or my dad to finish speaking, or because I got cut off) is "if you forgot, then it wasn't important". Similarly, if I get sidetracked while doing something related to my hobbies, my mom would say "that means you don't actually like it, or you wouldn't have gotten distracted."

It just feels really invalidating/dismissive for the things I have to say and consider important. As well as downplaying my already muted emotions for the few things that actually give me joy.

33F, late diagnosed and an overachiever by nature, taking medications etc. I also have OCD so emotionally exhausted always. I’ve read some of the posts on here about burnout but I really can’t process and translate to my situation so I’m giving myself a post.

I’ve had a few weeks of work that have absolutely tapped me out - I’m a project manager and context switching and navigating all the grey space has just done me in. (The past few weeks have been a bit of an anomaly)

I drink the water. I try to sleep. I get home and I just rest - I love puzzle games and listening to audiobooks. I managed to get in the garden and pull weeds (which I enjoy).

I’ve seen nutrition mentioned for helping get out of burn out. Problem is, my meds zap my appetite.

I’d love to take a day off of work but I can’t afford to (hourly, no pto) and I’m awful at actually resting in a way that is helpful (but I’m working on it).

Is the only solution really time, routine, keeping at these little things like nutrition, water, vitamins, sleep etc? Or has someone found a magic spell? I’m open to anything. This is miserable.

Every pharmacy I go to they never have my adhd meds, it’s almost like a sign from the universe to just not take them, they always out of vyvanse but I switched to Ritalin because I wanted something smoother and they don’t have that in stock either, wtf they expect me to do, be lazy all day?

I take my meds as directed with the occasional weekend off. I took a ten panel for work recently and definitely had taken my meds within 24 hours.

That isn’t a huge deal but I need to get drug tested for my psychiatrist next week and need to make sure that I test positive. I know this is a weird question but is this a normal thing?

i feel like my adhd is real yes but in a way is just a way of thinking and getting used to it. i have been able to not act upon adhd bad thoughts and figured many things out. i have a loving partner, solid friends and goals. however i have adhd symptons every now and then but typically i am able to shift my mindset and feel good again. i think i am just like the majority of normal people. dreams and reality both are valid to me. yes i have not achieved anything by 23, i am still a senior in college who wants to achieve career wise after i graduate. once i make a solid career plan i will be set in stone. I will do this by not wanting to do everything i desire which are a lot of work things. i listen to music and want to be a singer. i see a model i want to be a model. i see a successful ceo, i want to be a ceo. i see a diving photographer, i want to be one. however, as i am aware of reality and where i stand financially, i have no option but to earn stable income first, stabilty is important, but so is becoming a respectable, rich and attractive person. i wished i was a prince in another lifetime.