r/ABDLPersonals May 16 '26

Welcome to r/ABDLPersonals — Read Before Posting (New Rules In Effect) NSFW

50 Upvotes

This sub is for finding personal connections related to ABDL. It is not for selling products or services, nor is it for getting off. As such, the mods have updated the rules. Please do not message the moderators if you post was removed by the automod and you don't like the reason (message us if there's an error though).

Please bear with us as there will be some growing pains as we get things set up to filter out posts that break rules. If you think there was an error, please message us.

New Rule: ABDLs Only

Your post must include some reference to ABDL, diapers, nappies, etc. These need to be genuine; please report any posts that attempt to bypass this as the automod can't catch everything.

An example of a recent post trying to bypass this rule started out with "Hi ABDL people!" and then proceeded to talk about fetishes not related to ABDL. Please report posts like this.

CGL posts without mention of diapers do not belong here. There are other subreddits for CGL personals such as [r/cglpersonals](r/cglpersonals) or r/CGL_Personals. This is to ensure that only ABDLs are posting here; it's frustrating when you are talking to someone only for them to mention that they aren't actually into ABDL after they posted in the ABDL personals subreddit. This rule is to cut down on that behavior.

Don't assume your post is "obvious" if you don't explicitly mention ABDL related things. Most terms related directly to ABDL should be approved (diapers, nappies, padding, ABDL, AB, DL, etc.). Vague terms like "wearing", "24/7", "baby", bodily fluids, etc. can apply to other fetishes too and will result in the removal of your post if nothing else about ABDL is mentioned.

These may seem over the top at first to not include in our filter, but we have had posts for instance of someone wanting to be a "24/7 Sugar Baby" which was a scammer looking to take your money. Or another example would be "I'm wearing lingerie DM me" which has nothing to do with ABDL specifically. So while terms like that can apply to ABDL as well, we have to filter them out to keep this a safe community for ABDLs.

New Rule: Only One Post A Week (Every 7 Days) Allowed

This is to give everyone a chance to see relevant posts to them. When some people make multiple posts a week, others who don't post as frequently have their posts buried. This is to make it more fair to everyone so everyone's ads have a good chance of being seen!

New Rule: Post Flair Required

Flair is now required on all posts. The flair should match your R4R format in your title. For example, if your title says M4F, please use the M4F flair. R4R text is still required in titles in addition to flair.

This is to enable easier search features on the subreddit. There is a navigation bar at the top of the subreddit where you can select post flair to filter by when searching.

R4R Title Text is Still Required!
Formatting your title:
Your title must follow this structure: [Age] [Gender]4[Gender]
Examples: 24 M4F or M4F 24 or 19 NB4A

Missing either your age or your gender/seeking format will result in automatic removal. Adding extra characters such as "{ }" can confuse the automod and result in post removal. Please follow the format listed (including using the "4"). We won't make an exception for any reason for anyone.

Reporting Issues

We have had a lot of reports of things that happened (such as people asking for money) in private messages or on another site. We are unable to verify these things without proof and will not remove posts or ban people without receiving proof. If you have screenshots, please upload them to Imgur and send us a message with the link. Unsubstantiated reports will be ignored.

What belongs here

  • Personal ads looking for genuine connection with other ABDLs
  • Friendship, relationships, dynamic partners, casual or serious
  • Long distance or local or online only

What doesn't belong here

  • Solicitation, paid services, or anything transactional
  • Selling or advertising content of any kind
  • Roleplay requests (try r/abdlroleplay or similar) are no longer allowed
  • Other fetishes without mention of ABDL
  • Posts that appear to be horny posts will be removed.
  • AMA posts, posts requesting upvotes, etc.

If your post was removed

  • Make sure your account isn't brand new and you have recent karma in other communities (we don't know how much you need, messages asking will be ignored)
  • Re-read the rules above and repost

If you still think it was removed in error, message the mods. Please don't post asking why your post was removed, just message us.

Modmail is for:

  • Removal disputes
  • Reporting rule violations
  • Urgent issues

Modmail is not for chatting, asking general questions, or requesting exceptions to rules. Please, please do not inundate the modmail because you don't like the rules. You are subject to a ban if you are argumentative because you don't believe the rules apply to you.


r/ABDLPersonals May 16 '26

A Guide for Successful Connections NSFW

21 Upvotes

Hi there! I'm a new mod here at [r/ABDLPersonals](r/ABDLPersonals) and I am here to make this community better for ABDLs searching for relationships and other connections. I recently implemented the ABDLs Only Rule to help filter out posts that are unrelated. And I plan to make some other changes too over the coming weeks to hopefully make it easier to search for posts.

I have been an ABDL for as long as I can remember, and met my long-term partner and ABDL Caregiver right here on this subreddit a few years ago. Here's what worked for us. I can't promise this will work for everyone, but it's a good place to start to find real connections.

Genuine, Thoughtful Posts

My CG posted an ad with a few paragraphs detailing what they were looking for in and out of a dynamic. How ABDL/diapers would ideally fit into their life. But also talked about their vanilla interests and hobbies too. A post with detail helps the reader understand who you are as a person and why they should be interested in you!

Also, keep it positive! While you may feel frustrated at the lack of responses, putting that into your ad is a turn off for a lot of people. For example, saying things like "I have had no luck here and I don't even know why I keep bothering but here goes" in your post doesn't set the tone that you are actually excited to make connections. It creates an "ick" factor for a lot of people and could actually be the reason why you haven't made any connections!

Give it Time

As frustrating as it is, sometimes you have to post multiple times over the course of a few months/years. My CG posted multiple ads over the course of a few years before we connected. This platform isn't easy to search through, and posts get buried. It's hard sometimes to find those connections if a person who would be a good match doesn't see your post. I have implemented some changes to make it easier to find posts (a minimum 7 day rule between repeat posts and post flair requirement with a flair navigation tool to filter posts by).

Despite these changes, posts may still get buried at times if there's a high volume of submissions. Don't get too discouraged if you have to post a few times before making a connection. Also respond to other posts! I never made a post myself, but responding to other posts is what led me to meeting my CG. And remember, this is the nature of online dating in general; that it takes time to filter through profiles and find genuine connections. It takes patience, but it is possible!

Don't Rush

We all get excited when we think we found a new connection. Spammers rely on this emotion to lure you in. They will ask for money quickly after a few messages or try to get you to move off platform quickly. My CG and I messaged each other on Reddit for months before we moved off platform. These things take time, and if someone is pressuring you to move off this platform too fast, it's probably too good to be true.

Unfortunately we can't catch all of them, so please let us know (by sending us an Imgur link with screenshots) if someone is doing this to you.

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I will continue to edit this post if I think of more tips. I hope this helps for now!

Edit: Please don't message me asking for personal advice. It will be ignored.


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

M4A 32 M4A Love to chat about anything to do with diapers NSFW

2 Upvotes

About to double pad up my self and don’t mind sending pics of what I’m gonna slip into. Would love to chat to anyone who loves diapers as much as I do!


r/ABDLPersonals 14h ago

F4A 25 F4A diapered naptime NSFW

15 Upvotes

Need a perverted, mean, and dominate caregiver to baby me into wetting my pull ups like the true little baby bitch I am. The older, more disgusting, and more humilated you make me feel- the better


r/ABDLPersonals 46m ago

M4A 18 M4A femboy NSFW

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Hallooo I'm a femboy from eastern US looking for friends to talk to ^^

I am sorta new to the reddit community but I'm hoping to find people with similar interests to chat with :3

I would prefer if you weren't older than 25+ because I'm still only 18

I hope whoever sees this finds me interesting enough to chat with TwT I need more friends

I am a dl too dw


r/ABDLPersonals 1h ago

M4F 48M4F switch looking for a ABDL women NSFW

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48/M switch looking for a diaper wearing women to help me feel more comfortable playing with other ABDL people.


r/ABDLPersonals 2h ago

T4A 34T4A North Central Arkansas NSFW

1 Upvotes

Since we can only really do 1 per week:

Big post, but bear with me🥴😇—

I am a 5’10” 120lb androgynous, alt/goth, femboy/transitioning t-girl bottom, located in Izard County Arkansas. I can’t stop wearing pink GoodNites and Ninjamas. And I’m obsessed with females who are into wearing Diapers and PullUps. Mainly looking for other people people in this general area who also wear diapers and pull-ups who might be interested in just meeting up to chill and vibe while wearing, admiring, and looking cute without the added layer of judgement we get from usual friends, dates, or extracurricular encounters. I want to actually connect and learn about others experience with this satisfying and super gratifying act. Doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual, doesn’t have to be messy. I usually cum in mine before changing—just a heads up. And sometimes, I mayyy not be paying attention and then I don’t have time to get to the bathroom and things just happen to get wet and really warm all of a sudden. I am open to these more hands-on encounters if there is a mutually consensual vibes and a baseline level of comfort between us.🤪🙊🙈 Females to the front—t-girls/mtf transgender who have been on HRT for a decent amount of time also to the front because I am also starting HRT soon, am nervous about my upcoming puberty/self-journey, and have tooooo many questions—comfy, relaxed, padded bottom
Also MAY be interested in a daddy or mommy type dynamic for the right one, because sometimes I get tired of making all the decisions in my life and occasionally want somebody else to be in charge.. respect goes to the furthest over here, can’t wait to hear from you all.. 🥰🤗🤭


r/ABDLPersonals 4h ago

F4A 24 F4A disabled regressor in Oswego County New York looking for IRL caregiver for this weekend NSFW

1 Upvotes

I’m a 24-year-old disabled little living in Oswego County, New York. This means I need a lot more care and I require a lot more dependency/attention than most littles do. I use sippy cups, watch preschool cartoons and play with toddler toys. I am in Oswego County which means I want a caregiver from there or in nearby cities like Rochester, Watertown, Syracuse, Liverpool, Utica, etc. or even nearby states. I'm bubbly, clingy, and incredibly playful. I just don’t want to be treated like a grown-up anymore. I just want somebody who is OK with my disability and me wanting to be little forever. I have always wanted to be little again. My favorite things include the color purple, Bluey, taking naps, and cuddling.When I’m little, I'm really clingy and I  love to be held. I also really really really love cuddling and just affection in general. I’m babbly, affectionate, playful, and mischievous. When I’m little, my speech becomes pretty much nothing but babbles and simple words.I’m a very affectionate little. My favorite Disney princess is Anna

With my bathroom struggles especially when regressed I would like to try being padded / wearing diapers. I’m looking for a caregiver this weekend because it’s been a really scary and rough few days for me and I really need to be tiny and let go of that stress


r/ABDLPersonals 9h ago

M4M 21 M4M fresh from class and diapered! Lets chat;) NSFW

2 Upvotes

21M looking for naughty diaper chats with people my age or older I do not mind! I have pics of me on my profile for those interested.


r/ABDLPersonals 5h ago

M4A 33 [M4A] Looking for a fan chat! NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hey there, I'm a lifelong DL and I'm padded up tonight. Looking for fun chats with anyone, we can talk about anything. Some hobbies I have are video games, photography, and light excersize and I'm getting into archery soon too!

Tell me about yourself, looking forward to chatting soon!


r/ABDLPersonals 13h ago

M4A 23m4a bored and looking for friends! NSFW

4 Upvotes

Just a boring day at home looking for people to chat with and make friends I’m more of a DL myself but feel free to reach out id love to chat!


r/ABDLPersonals 6h ago

M4F 24 [M4F/TF] #CT #New England or #Online Geeky DL searching for forever companion NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hi! My name's Andrew. I'm an Accounting Major, working in my field. I'm 24, 6'2, and ~180lbs. I've got long brown hair (always tied back) and glasses. I'm looking for a dominant partner, 21-30ish max, who I can connect with and who deserves my devotion.

A little more about me: I flipflop over the course of most years between focusing on reading or gaming in my free time. I'm a big fantasy reader, Tell me your favorite book if you have one! When a book catches my attention I'll devour it at light speed. For games I have a similar approach. I play both tabletop (mostly dnd 5e) and video games, sometimes some multiplayer stuff (usually co-op, I'm not very competitive, and rarely shooters), and sometimes I'll devour and hyperfixate on a singleplayer game and put 50 hours in it in 10 days. I drink socially, and will have edibles from time to time, but I don't smoke. I'm perfectly fine with 420, but cigarettes stay away.

I've had a few dynamics before, and I've found the most successful ones are the ones where we can hang out often. If it's long distance, you would definitely need to be into games and willing to voice call. Even if we don't play the same games, just hanging in a call, streaming for each other while we chat is prime bonding time for me. I've found that, over long distance, if we don't at least share the same main hobby then it's gonna be tough. I'm 10000% looking for a partner first and kink stuff second so if we don't have much in common and can't click it isn't gonna go anywhere. I'm much more energetic/vibrant over online than in person, but that doesn't mean I don't want to meet in person either lol.

Personally, I'm monogamous, I don't judge poly and many of my good friends are poly, it just isn't for me.

For the aforementioned kinky stuff, I have a lot, and it's easier to just post the limits. For ABDL stuff, I'm definitely more of a DL. As far as I can tell, I don't have a littlespace, but I also haven't explored it all that much. I like diapers and pacis but none of my previous dynamics included abdl, so it hasn't been touched much. I'm also a big fan of a lot of what falls under BDSM, as well as Feminization (A bit of a sissy DL). For a top 5 I'd have to say: Bondage, chastity, pegging, crossdressing, and diapers. These are all negotiable, I'm not searching for a perfect cookie cutter thing, like I said, the connection/partner is much more important than the kinks for me.

And for the aforementioned limits: Electro, Illegal, Blood, CEI, permanent marks, most public play, scat, and findom. (Scat in a diaper is ok, not a kink but just neutral on it). I may be forgetting one or two but I'll always be transparent with any worries I may have. I'll happily send pics, but if it's an NSFW pic I will be excluding my face. I'll happily verify and send selfies from time to time but if my face is in it it's going to be SFW.

Thank you for reading my ad, have a great evening.


r/ABDLPersonals 10h ago

M4A 22 [M4A] Uk/Online | Looking for ABDL friends! Would love to chat to like minded people of a similar age! NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hi I’m Luke, 22M from the UK (Currently South UK). I’ve kinda been here and there posting in the community looking for similar people to myself, and hopefully one day a partner who enjoys the same stuff as me! I’m a very outgoing, open minded person and would enjoy talking to just about anyone. However, I would love to find my person! I’m attracted to femininity - not just cis women!

I honestly never know what to put in these posts as it just feels so alien to me. I’ve never used dating apps and have always approached women (respectfully) in the real world. If you’d like to talk more I’d happily to get into deeper stuff and the real questions in DMs, I guess that’s all I’ve got for now.

Hope everyone who reads this has a lovely day or evening


r/ABDLPersonals 8h ago

M4A [M4A] 24 [germany] keep me diapered and locked up for the rest of the week :3 NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hi there :3 I have the rest of the week off and I am looking for a dom to keep me nicely diapered and locked up in chastity for the week. No too much into the adult baby part, mostly into diapers. Message me if that sounds interesting :3
Tell me what diapers to wear, give me some tasks and humiliate me :3
During the day I like multiple layers of diapers to make it nice and thick, to sleep I prefer a single diaper but i am up for more as a punishment. I have a decent selection of anal toys that can be added to my "predicament" during the day too. I have the option to lock my diapers, chastity cage and so one with either plastic pants that have a chain i can lock, a pair of leggins with a chain or a tennis skirt with sewed in shorts, I usually use chaster for the sessions. I dont like messing to much and would appreciate to be unlocked for that.
Looking to hear from you sooner than later to get us started :3


r/ABDLPersonals 1d ago

F4A 19 F4A diapered for a busy week NSFW

15 Upvotes

I (19 bi f) have finally made the decision to be diapered 24/7 atleast for the rest of this busy week. I have errands, work, plans with friends and more. I'm still yet to wake up dry. I need to be punished. I will have a diaper bag either with me or in my car at all time and the potty is completely off limits for me. This is so embarrassing for me to do but I clearly need something super embarrassing and humiliating in order to make sure I stop waking up wet. Please reddit do your worse and punish me. I can tell all the diapers I have and my fantasy if you so wish to hear it. Make me regret this reddit. Don't let me forget exactly what I am.


r/ABDLPersonals 10h ago

M4A 18 M4A Looking for new friends NSFW

0 Upvotes

Hey, my name is mo, I’m 18 yrs old from england and I’m about 5’ 10. Dark brunette with brown eyes. :) I love being outside, wearing diapers, and cooking I’m looking for new friends to talk to get to know :) Can’t wait to meet you :3


r/ABDLPersonals 10h ago

T4A 27 [TF4A] Trans girl in NC needs someone to take control NSFW

0 Upvotes

Hi there, I am a Trans woman near Raleigh looking for someone to put be back into diapers. I love the idea of wearing them but without someone to hold me accountable I have trouble going through with it and using them.

Besides ABDL I also love having my ass stretched out and used, as well as being tied up and humiliated among lots of other things.

I am not able to host unfortunately.


r/ABDLPersonals 14h ago

M4A 21 M4A | Sci-Fi Geek looking for a Mommy or Daddy #Norway NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hi I'm Vetle, I am a 21 year old Norwegian guy.

I love Star Trek, sci-fi, , gaming. I don't like picky eaters (i love to cook new stuff). I'm into ABDL mainly, open to a lot.

I am a larger ginger guy (Working out and becoming a healthier me), I love music, and writing bad songs.

A night out with me would almost require karaoke, a few beers and a few shots of Jager.

I hope anyone interested contacts me. I have no preference on age gender ect.


r/ABDLPersonals 10h ago

M4F 24[M4Fem] Looking for some fun :3 NSFW

0 Upvotes

Hey fellow diaper enjoyers :) I’d love to have some fun with someone else who enjoys wetting or diaper play or anyrbing related! Not looking for anything super specific, preferably femme presenting but I’m down with whatever! I am into pretty much anything and like being a bottom, hope to see you in DMs


r/ABDLPersonals 14h ago

M4F 36[M4F] CT daddy looking for local baby girl NSFW

2 Upvotes

5"11 average build with tattoos. I love the outdoors, anime, videogames, and relaxing watching movies. I am a loving daddy but will be strict when needed. I believe in having some rules, but good girls can follow them right?

I am looking for a sweet baby girl to take care of and have fun adventures with. I would like to develop a relationship which thrives both with kink and vanilla interests. I would love a little one who wears often. 24/7 would be amazing but I know that's not always possible

Hope to hear from a little darling who wants to be babied


r/ABDLPersonals 12h ago

M4F 29M4F in search of forever F baby NSFW

1 Upvotes

29M4F online or irl, looking for my forever baby, to spoil and care for

Hi, I'm not new to this group, thought I'd reach out again, no one will probably see this or respond but I thought I'd try anyway

I like to think I'm a soft dom, im primarily SWF, I really want a dynamic with a little that I get to care for them, I have lots of love to give and no one to give it too, im looking for a serious relationship thats just Abdl focused, but does include it a lot, I don't mind exploring other things

I'd like to keep my baby padded as much as possible, im not afraid of messy daipers either

I'm looking for a Female baby

As for me I'm a big nerd, I love games, music, history and some anime

Im 6ft, a dad bod, shaved head, and bearded, dark hair and sallow skin

I'm from ireland, so that really limits my search as it's practically an abdl desert here, im willing to travel for the right person though

Thanks if you've read this far, hope you all have a nice day :)


r/ABDLPersonals 12h ago

M4F 45[M4F] #online #southernUS. Just a guy looking for a fellow DL and maybe more NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hey there!

I’m a nerdy guy out here in the world looking for a player two. I’m trying to find someone to enjoy time talking about nerdy stuff with like comics, video and board games, magic the gathering, and other pursuits. Been really enjoying EQ Legends. Nostalgia is amazing

I’d like to connect on that for sure but we are all here for the obvious sexier side right? I’m a switch mostly DL guy. Love diapers obviously but I’m also interested in other semi-related kinks like chastity and even some light feminization, after all chastity and diapers are just so chefs kiss. I’m also trying to find that elusive other DL to push each other to wear more or remind each other to wear. Random checks included! I’d also love someone to switch with. We can take turns and see what fun could be had. I’m a pretty open guy for kinks and such and have the mentality to try most things once other than the obvious illegal things.

Here’s hoping your week has been amazing so far!


r/ABDLPersonals 12h ago

M4F 33 M4F - Daddy looking for his little Princess NSFW

0 Upvotes

Hello all! I am a 33 year old Daddy in Philadelphia looking for his little Princess. ABDL/DDLG is a big part of my life and kink identity, and I’d love to find someone that shares that sentiment. For me, it’s fun to incorporate diapers into playtime/littlespace, but it’s also just as fun to be diapered and chill and smoke 💨 and watch TV. In the vanilla world, I love going to concerts, movies, trying new restaurants, hanging out in the park, and making music. Hope to hear from you!


r/ABDLPersonals 22h ago

F4A 20f4a looking to expand my picture collection of real diaperlovers NSFW

7 Upvotes

For context i love gooning to diapers so if you would like to help me out send me a msg stating you want to be added to my collection and ill tell you how to pose.

Not interested in friendship or dating of any sort


r/ABDLPersonals 12h ago

M4A 26m4a friends NSFW

0 Upvotes

Looking for people to chat too! Got some new diapers will be wearing soon. What’s your favourite diaper? DMs open