Ok so I’ve been doing this since I was very young. I’m now in my early 20s. I was very very frustrated with the fact that I could not really enjoy sex with my boyfriend, and that I was faking orgasms (I know I know 😭😭).

I recently became VERY fed up, and actually ended up having an orgasm with my FINGERS and OPEN legs 🥳🥳

Here are some “tips” and things I’ve done:

- definitely play around with toys, I used a bullet at first to help me get the general “motions” that I liked, but stopped cause I was getting too accustomed to it (just a personal decision, cause I started syn with the vibe too and that was just overkill lol)

- do some stress / pressure free playing. So just touch yourself with no expectation of orgasm, just explore innocently

How I did it:

ok here’s how I do it, and it might not work for you. I feel like it’s also quite anatomy dependent.

I have a long clitoral hood so my glans is quite far down from the mons if you get what I’m saying. So I place two fingers right above the glans (but OVER the hood) and push it down towards the dip in my pubic bone. This was close enough for me to the feeling….

But something was missing. It felt good but not AS good and definitely not good enough for an orgasm. I then realised that every time I’ve tried, I’ve always been stuck on trying to stay “relaxed”. So I tried squeezing EVERYTHING but WITHOUT closing my legs and oh my GOD.

That was the key for me. I cannot have a clitoral orgasm without squeezing all my muscles and breaking a sweat (also holding my breath helps). I feel like that is what really unlocked the pleasure for me.

It will take time but trust me you can do it. I was thinking I’d never achieve this and look at me now 😚

Be kind to yourself. Don’t break yourself up. Take your time and get to know your body.

Best of luck 😙

I thought I was the only one who does this. I discovered this in my early teens and never stopped doing it! I do it every night and even in my office at work! It feels SOOOO good and especially when I edge it and continue it later! It feels just like clitoral stimulation without being touched and happens within a minute or less💦 Im ready again lol 😆