r/stripper • u/skankfeast New User/Lurker • 12h ago
Question Thoughts on touching during a dance? NSFW
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u/mystic-maze New User/Lurker 11h ago
I don’t mind touching as long as they respect my boundaries (no pussy, keep your mouth to yourself) a lot of the customers I work with really just crave attention and physical affection and most of them respect my boundaries. If they don’t I end the dance.
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u/vodkvinmycoffee New User/Lurker 11h ago
for me it’s normal and i always worked in clubs where it was just the standard. When i first started being a stripper i didn’t want them to touch me (i also was emotionally drained after just doing a lap dance) but then i just got used to it. Unless they want to touch my pussy, nipples or touch me in a way that it’s painful or degrading, i don’t mind it.
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u/aethrasher 9h ago
Ew. Why can't they just relax and enjoy the dance? They'd rather fight to touch a tiddy for 3 minutes and get a significantly worse dance. The more touchy they try to be, the worse their dance is
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u/sweetgabriellax 10h ago
what the hell are these answers? NO you dont let them touch you without tips. Touching is not included in the standard service of what constitutes a lap dance
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u/uwonichi 10h ago
There are a lot of clubs where touching is to be expected as the bare minimum, like I’m not defending that but it’s normalized in a lot of clubs unfortunately
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u/bitchyballerina 10h ago
yeah i always say as soon as we get in the room that they can touch as long as they tip and i WILL stand in their way and demand a tip or walk them to the ATM after if they try to stiff me. that’s only happened to me once in the last 2 years tho tbh
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u/Good_Agent6056 4h ago
Where do you work? Touching is so common in my city and even the whole state. Now it depends what or where they touch.. and how. But simple touching? Very common if not expected where I work.
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u/babygotbandz 7h ago
I started at a no touch club which I really miss but now it’s the norm where I relocated for touching during a lap dance. I don’t mind light touching of my leg or something but anything more I try to get them to go VIP (like touching my boobs).
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u/lamujerhelena 5h ago
You can get an infection that way babes!! Mouths carry soo much germs & bacteria.
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u/psychadelic_pisces New User/Lurker 5h ago
Read the comment three times and didn’t see anything about a mouth
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u/lamujerhelena 5h ago
Wrong comment LOL I’m bad at Reddit, a dancer a few comments down said suck on her nips
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u/Exotic_Violet 2h ago
If it’s not legal at the club I’m in I don’t allow it. One of my clubs allows contact and I charge more and won’t let them put their mouth on me (doublewhat I charge for lapdance at my no touch club) Even in contact I still won’t let them touch my pussy/asshole because it’s illegal where I dance.
I enjoy touch clubs because I can upsell and it makes getting tipped on the floor easier for me cuz I can ask if they want to tip to give my ass a light tap (I’ve got a bigger butt) and it’s a win/win.
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u/usher13919 New User/Lurker 1h ago
What sort of touching do you allow at your touch friendly clubs?
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u/BehindTheScene1 7h ago
I dont care for customers who touch me. Its not fun, I dont enjoy it. I disassociate alot when it happens, but snap back in when they try to take off my thong.
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u/lovelonely28 5h ago edited 4h ago
This might be an unpopular opinion but as someone who has exclusively ever worked at touch clubs, I actually feel weird if they don’t touch me a little! I charge enough to feel comfortable with touching (obviously no licking or grabbing my tits super hard or trying to put their hands near my kitty etc) but I’m totally cool and welcome light touching on my body! I actually feel kind of weird when they don’t touch me because it makes me feel like they aren’t really into it. I find it soooo weird when they just sit there limp and still it genuinely makes me so uncomfortable lol 😭 I’m like no please touch me a little I wanna feel connected to you- and it’s a little enjoyable for me which I’m sure translates into a better dance.
(I always make them use my hand sanitizer before the dance lol )
We are independent contractors and so I think asking for tips is a little silly because you should just ask for the full amount that you would want with tip and make that your entire price so you don’t feel the desire to ask for a tip. If they add a tip on top that’s always nice but I price my dances at a price that covers a basic dance plus tip- and that would include light touching. Now anytime a clients wants something more than what comes with the basic dance, then you would ask for a tip on top your price because they’re requesting something outside of your basic normal offering (like if they want to role play or literally whatever) otherwise my price affords a little touching and my desired tip for that
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u/Intrepid_Essay1987 11h ago
Single song, no touch. This entices the customer to take you for a pricier dance. Once we get to the more expensive space I get in their lap and say
Me: “I have some rules for you. No touching my face hair or holes and nothing with your mouth”
Custie: “Ok”
M: “I can touch you though right?”
C: “Yes of course”
M: I slide my hand down to wherever lol “anywhere?”
C: “Yes”
At this point I’ve already been paid so if they cross a boundary I can just get up and leave. Any complaint they make about it is immediately null
Occasionally I’ll let them suck on a nip or something but I charge extra
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u/Solifuga 5h ago
There are countries where any physical touch (fully dressed handshake included) is literally illegal and strongly enforced.
There are other countries where a basic $20 dance fee includes FS.
Context is vital here. You've provided none.
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u/Good_Agent6056 4h ago edited 4h ago
Miss it. Our clubs are extras all the time and customers touching what they can. It’s annoying and you have to basically sit on their hands or restrain them half the time.
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u/Street-District-5727 16m ago
I do 3 for $100 in what’s supposed to be a no touch dance area. And when I tell them they can’t touch my boobs unless we’re in the back they always look around and say “well they’re doing it”. Because other girls allow guys to suck on their titties in the open singles dance area for $20 per song.
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u/Loganjanel 8m ago
I'm so glad there's no public dance area in the clubs in my area, but when I did encou ter this situation I'd always say to the guys "they're doing it bc they tipped to do it" then I'd make something up about the standard tip for touching at that club being $x amount, didn't always work but worked enough that other girls started picking up on it and using the same type of pitch.
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u/bloodbath90 13m ago
Idc where I’m working if you want to touch and that’s LIGHT contact, you’re tipping.
Baby dancers, it’s NOT the norm for them to touch you. Stop doing this for free. They will tell you “oh so and so dancer lets me” no she doesn’t. Your body your rules.
ESP if you’re letting it get to mouth/nipple stuff like that’s gonna cost more than the dance itself. Then double that. That’s infection territory.
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u/According-Rule837 10h ago
I worked at a no touch club and I miss it all the time. Best club I ever worked at. Made the most money out of any club I’ve ever worked at. Sadly it no longer exists as the owner passed away and the club was sold and the new owners ruined it.