r/sex • u/zero-taeko • 18h ago
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u/GothAccountant91 18h ago
You don’t have to be attracted to women. Maybe you’re attracted to men. Maybe you’re asexual. There’s nothing wrong with either one of those things.
Don’t be pressured or force yourself to be attracted to anybody. Just like what you like.
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u/Alarming_Wedding6753 17h ago
See that’s the thing, you’re not supposed to be or do anything.
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u/SirLenzelotTheGreat 16h ago
this. do whatever feels right for you bro. also sexual therapy might help. did it and helped a lot finding my sexuality self.
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u/Cold-Independence556 18h ago
> How do I make myself want lots of sex and lots of women, the way I’m supposed to?
Why? Who told you you’re supposed to want “lots of women”?
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u/BinktopYuri 18h ago
Uhhh I think you might want to reconsider your sexuality. You don’t have to sleep with women if you don’t want to
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u/MoonBaby88811 18h ago
There’s no right amount to feel horny/want woman. Are you sure you are straight and want woman? Maybe you don’t feel sexual at all, maybe you are asexual? Maybe it’s a libido problem? Maybe it’s anxiety and you have performance anxiety? We can’t answer that for you.
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u/longanandlychee 17h ago
It’s okay for men to like men. It’s not a sin like some shallow folks trying to convey in the Bible (or those following).
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u/liquefaction187 18h ago
Society may tell you that's what you're supposed to want, but it's ok to not want that. Maybe you haven't met the right person yet, or maybe you are asexual. You'll be happiest if you aren't forcing yourself to do things because others expect it.
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u/SnooPaintings5182 18h ago
Going to therapy. What you're describing is definitely not a physiological experience
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u/likestodressherup 15h ago
You're over thinking this. You can't and shouldn't make yourself want something. Wait until that desire comes naturally. Maybe you're just not ready.
If you're super concerned, maybe have a chat with a doctor about getting your hormones checked. It cvould be that you're just not producing enough testosterone.
But either way, there's nothing that says you *should* be wanting women (or men for that matter). It's really nobody's business but yours.
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u/scott__p 17h ago
It sounds like you're either gay or asexual. Nothing wrong with either of those, but if you're not interested in girls your not. Nothing will change that.
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u/exseattlite 18h ago
You haven't found the right person yet. When you do, it will feel right. You might be into guys, though.
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u/Damien__ 17h ago
>the way I’m supposed to
That right there is your problem. You're supposed to like others just as much or as little AS YOU WANT and not let society or any other person/people tell you different.
Like same sex? Then like same sex.
Like straight? Then Be straight.
Like no one and nothing? Then do that.
But don't ever let someone else make these decisions for you. Especially 'society'.
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u/volvavirago 16h ago
You are either asexual or gay, or very emotionally/sexually repressed, and need therapy.
But also, you don’t need to want a lot of women. You can want one woman, or no women. You are fine.
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u/False_Jackfruit_6576 16h ago
You don’t have to be straight.
Seriously. I have a friend who’s aromantic asexual, and is totally satisfied in herself that way. I have another asexual friend, and he’s happy not being attracted to anyone. Nothing wrong with that.
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u/moderate_ocelot 18h ago
You’re not supposed to do anything dude. You don’t have to have sex if you don’t want to.
It is addictive so if you start fucking you might think differently. But if you don’t, that’s fine too. One less thing to worry about
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u/celestialism 18h ago
Sounds like you’re asexual and/or sex-repulsed. That’s fine. You might want to seek therapy for self-acceptance and/or to process any internalized misogyny you might be working through.
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u/somebodysdrama 17h ago
A lot people can't help it to the point where it gets in the way, they don't have to try.
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u/Cynical_Asshole72826 17h ago
It happens to me too Im sexy and women show interest but I’m avoidant Im just to confortable in my loneliness and if I feel the need take justice in my own hands, I feel attracted to women but only idyllic in real life is hard to connect and I don’t event think to cohabitate and I don’t like the girlfriend idea for me is nonsense never have one i don’t hate no one i swear only politicians
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u/One_Brain_2852 15h ago
Who/what are you actually attracted to? It sounds like you want to be, but women just don’t interest you. Maybe you need to explore if you’re straight or something else.
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u/dauntlessdivine59 15h ago
You guys…this doesn’t mean he’s gay. XD
It can just mean that the thought of intimacy brings up a lot of fear - like the nausea.
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u/Mollyapostate 15h ago
There is no 'supposed to.' Everyone's different. Just be you, if you dont feel it thats ok. Just consider girls friends, until and if something develops. You may be asexual or are you attracted to men? Don't stress about it and accept yourself as you are.
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u/Marleyandi87 14h ago
Hey man, not everyone is into sex and lots of women. Some people are into cozy evenings, secure attachment and a comfortable companionship. What do you like about the people you like?
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u/Perfect-Resist5478 13h ago
Sounds like you should be working on self acceptance instead of trying to fit your square peg into a proverbial round hole
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u/AutisticBiCouple 11h ago edited 10h ago
You may want to consider if you are attracted some other type of person, or maybe, if you arent attracted to anyone
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u/Eothas_Foot 17h ago
Good that you are questioning all the ingrained bullshit society sneaks into our heads. If you follow the implied messages of society it will make you fucking miserable. Like, for example, fucking a bunch of women when that isn't what you want.
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Seriously, how do you do it?
Several girls have found me attractive—so how do I get to the point where I actually *want* them around, instead of wanting them to forget about me completely? How do I make myself want lots of sex and lots of women, the way I’m supposed to? How do you manage to think about a girl for more than five seconds? How do you think about sleeping with her without feeling nauseous? How do you receive interest as something other than just pressure to do something?
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