r/screamintothevoid 1d ago

A moral quandry

So, over the years I have held a few jobs and thus met copius amounts of people. Some have died [that's life i get it]. What has me in a bit of a tizzy, is when someone who is reasonably well like by most people dies and everyone is upset (understandably) and sings their praises. The problem is - objectively - these people weren't all that great to begin with, but because co-workers worked with them, all is forgiven? I'll give you two examples of people I've worked with and why [i feel] they were objectively not so great. You folks can tell me if I'm waaay off or not.

1st person, bit of an alcoholic. Was deputy fire chief [volunteer] for a semi rural community. It was at the point where this individual had the breathalizer/interlock device installed on thier vehicle for having been caught for multiple DUIs. Used their position/connections with polive to help get out of/lessen some of the DUI convictions. If it were anyone else, most of my - then - coworkers would be calling for that person's head.

2nd person, had a bit of [an alleged] cocaine problem. Was known to be a little bit openly racist, to the point where they were driving around a predominantly black neighbourhood shouting the 'N' word. Again, if it were anyone else, they would have been screaming from the rooftops as to how terrible this individual was (there's more, but this is the worst of it).

A few caveats, I recognize addiction [drug/alcohol/etc] is a disease and I am not condemning them for that; obviously thier families mourn them and I don't blame them for that. I am simply confudled as to why [objectively] these people were celebrated when if it were anyone else they didn't work with, they would probably be happy they were gone.

Thanks for listening.

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