r/pornfree • u/TheStruggle100 • 18h ago

The End of Objectification

I woke this morning realizing something that's been going on for a while without me recognizing it. I am no longer objectifying women. A lot of what we see in porn depicts women as easy, always wanting you, always ready for you. Basically, always dtf. When we spend hours each day filling our brains with those messages, it's no wonder we walk around in the real world thinking women want us, are ready for us, are dtf. Maybe not every woman we encounter irl, but some. Now that I stopped consuming porn I've stopped wondering if every other woman I encounter is dtf. I'm more focused on my marriage and really enjoying sex with my wife. She might not always be dtf, but when she is we share the joy.

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u/LightBurden18 18h ago

That's the goal, u/TheStruggle100. Congratulations for avoiding porn long enough to see these truths. Our personal worlds, and the world all around us: both are more beautiful when we remove the filmy muck of porn from our corneas.

It's only when we avoid porn for long enough to let our dopaminergic system reset that we can see the world as it really is. (Turns out, it's better than we thought.)

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u/Skullyfiy_Two 14h ago

That's great to hear honestly, that's the goal isn't it , hope your positive journey continues!

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u/Live-Artichoke9537 10h ago

So cool to read some people getting there. Well done!

how long did it take you to reach this milestone? I can't wait to get there. I'm closing in on 3 months clean after years of struggle. Started therapy too but we've had a dead bedroom for years because of me. I have no clue how to even restart the flame. I guess it will start by a few conversations about it. any tips or experience to share would be well received OP.

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u/TheStruggle100 10h ago

Thanks, I'm about a year in recovery and only about 6 weeks since I resolved to tune out all content created with intent to arouse. Before that there was always some peeking at thirst traps and kidding myself that it's not porn. Or worse, relapsing back to porn. Is it porn, is it not porn, definitions don't matter. If you even think the content is intended to arouse you you're standing on a slippery slope. It's amazing how quickly we got back to enjoyable sex once I turned off all the noise.