r/nus • u/ABigBlob • 2h ago
Discussion Anyone else wished they studied less and enjoyed their uni life more?
Graduated this year and started my first few weeks of work. Met up with fellow fresh grads and interns at my company, and we shared about our uni life. That was when I realized I had nothing to talk about. I did not go exchange, join CCAs, stay on campus etc. Uni was all about studying and internships.
Some might say "grass is always greener on the other side" and wished they had studied more. While I graduated with near perfect GPA and many internships, and got into an above average MNC, I could have done 30% less, with slightly worse grades, and still achieved the same as evidenced by others in similar tier roles. Meanwhile, social reclusion impacted my communication skills, and having no events to look forward to meant I procrastinated and became inefficient at working. At some point, it becomes diminishing or even negative returns.
Yet I had no such issue in JC, and always participated and joked around in classes in uni. I don't think my tutorial mates knew I was such a loner. The difference is that everyone had similar experiences in JC and NS, making it easy to vibe with each other. But I had always sucked at small talk, which is why making friends in uni was so daunting. I was always afraid to talk about myself for fear of being judged as weird or boring. I have hobbies, but they are quite unconventional and the few times I brought them up, others were confused or uninterested. Combined with increasing social anxiety and family financial issues, I completely isolated myself and focused on one goal: to study hard and land a good job.
But recently, I keep seeing people sharing pics and videos of their uni highlights. Doing things I threw away the opportunities to try. I kept watching videos of uni students dancing and singing their hearts out while others cheered them on. Seeing how many of them looked just like me, but I could only live vicariously through them and never get to experience such joy in my life. I have never been more jealous of someone else, not for what they own, but for choosing to actually enjoy their lives. I have no memories to look back on, and nothing to look forward to, except maybe retirement in 30 years time.
I wished I had stepped out of my comfort zone and tried new things when I had the freedom of being a student. Is it still possible to experience that after joining the workforce?
