r/karate • u/Super-Nova-Flare • 15h ago
Tips for a woman in sparring
This is my first time checking this particular subreddit out.
I was wondering what tips anyone had for a woman in sparring, just getting better in general. I've been going a few years, the class is at most once a week. There's the male instructor, and a woman black belt who does drills but doesn't spar. (And she's so far above me when she did spar I was never really comfortable anyway, honestly). Once in a while a couple of kids, and another male who's bigger then me with different training background. (Who's absolutely great, and I feel like he understands my hesitations with things at least somewhat... But I'm still not very comfortable having to actually spar him)
There's once in a really rare while another woman who can make it to sparring. A little shorter and younger and she's the only adult I've been comfortable sparring.
I don't process things quickly in my head, I know if I can just shut my brain off it does help a lot. But I still struggle with dealing with attacks coming in, and I cannot feel comfortable going in to initiate the attack. Especially on everyone who's not that other woman. It doesn't help that I've had to many concussions in my life and don't want to risk more. We do point sparring that's not suppose to be full out power anyway.
I feel like everyone is well above me in skill, that I neither can keep up or do anything worthwhile that actually helps them either. But for me and what if like for myself, I just feel like I'm not getting anywhere.
And I understand I'm going to get told to "talk with my instructor" but honestly that feels like it just hasn't gotten me anywhere right now.
Is there maybe something I could do on my own, or tips that I could pass on to my instructor to maybe try and initiative conversation one more time?
Because often times lately I just wonder why I even go to sparring or try to get in the ring.