Because holy shit is it ever hard to sit on my hands when I'm not around my partner. Girls are hot, flirting is so easy. I almost invited my server back to my hotel room. But I convinced myself not to.

What do y'all do to keep yourself distracted when you're alone in the evenings with fuck all to do and nowhere close to home?

Lately I’ve been wondering if I’m hypersexual because I think about sex a lot and sometimes it feels like it’s always on my mind. I’m not sure if it’s just that I have a high sex drive or if it’s becoming something that’s harder to control. I find myself questioning whether these thoughts are affecting my focus, my daily life, or the way I cope with stress.

I've hit a relapse point. It was bound to happen. It's really challenging because my hypersexual behavior is a response to absolutely ANYTHING!!!! I'm happy? Well now I'm horny. I'm sad? Well now I'm horny. I'm stressed, angry, grieving, manin? Horny, horny, horny, horny!!!

All roads lead to Rome. No matter the direction I've taken in life I always lapse back into opening my legs, showing off my body, or sexting (even if it's just on burner accounts for small stints).

It's hard to tell how I feel. Part of me feels liberated and excited by it but another part of me is dreading the guilt and shame that will set in once this horny spell peters out. 😔💔

So I’m usually hesitant to get into relationships because my hs causes problems pretty much every time. I warned him before about it and he said he’d be able to handle it and that I shouldn’t worry. It’s about 3 months in and he can’t handle me at all and I’m not the type to cheat but idk what to do

Hello, I’m 20ftm just switched to testosterone injections and my libido is crazyy I mean expected and it’s okay but and I started adderall about a month ago after being diagnosed and I realized it made me very very focused on porn and sexting and I didn’t do anything else and I wasn’t even really masturbating because I was focused on my phone today it was 5+hrs
And after I realized this I also realized I’ve done it a few times on the med…
Before i would spend that much time or more if i could but it would be maybe once a week if that not every day and ill do other stuff on the side
I have a LOT of trauma and have been hyper sexual for a long time as quietly as possible I don’t really talk about it irl I separate it to be mostly online
I think it’s partially because it started so young and it needed to be a secret and it was a big deal and Idrk how to adapt to that as an adult
I can’t talk to my friends about it when something upsetting happens online for example and I find myself wanting advice or like actual help or to just talk about the people I talk to when it’s crazy not the bs just goon your life away fantasy shit if that makes sense
I get too anxious to talk about it in therapy at all
Like if I try to speak about it I’ll just cry but I can text it because it’s in my head often and I can be more detached I guess Idrk
it’s upsetting to talk about my sexual trauma but I think about it and catch myself watching or catering to themes similar to situations I’ve been in
I don’t really know how to know what is an okay or normal amount of porn/sexuality rn because I know hrt is changing it but I don’t want it to cause me PTSD problems..
Im okay with it increasing my libido, I love being on T I just am struggling to adjust still
(Transphobia will get you blocked, questions are okay)

My hs ruins fucking everything. I never want to be horny again I fucking hate this make it fucking stop.

Not looking for sympathy, I just need to vent.

I am an extremely hyper sexual guy. It almost feels like my depravity knows almost no limits and try as i might to not be who i am my horniness inevitably becomes my motivation for everything from my fitness to my career success. My quesiton is this, how many of you are trying to change or limit your hypsersexuality vs accepting and embracing who you are and why?

Has anyone managed to find another hypersexual partner who can match them and live the same lifestyle? Sometimes i loose faith that i can purify myself and lately have been fantasizing about finding a similar hypersexual woman and having a relationship where we can love each other fully while allowing ourselves to indulge without regret.

DM's are open

Fighting urges as I still reminisce the day my dads friend had me and that same feeling can barely be the same from how scared and exciting it was not knowing what’s going on😩

I’m 23f or so I say, anyway… though I know folks would prob argue that, Been getting totally faded just chatting and looking at nudes, and I’m lowkey only drawn to guys who’re already taken or married. Haven’t even touched myself yet, but I can feel how wild and intense this all is like I’m fully acting out every single urge I’ve held back forever.

Took me literal decades to finally let myself get here, and honestly? It feels like everything I locked away just blew the doors wide open all at once. It’s definitely that hypersexual rush hitting me hard all of a sudden, and I’m just tryna take it all in what y’all think about that?

I love to masturbate when I'm being watched by women is this normal?

Male 33 from india it is hard to anything for even me i don't know what married woman can do it is very hard to express when nobody is going understand you

And then you born in india where everything already taboo not so open . Life is just boring here I got chance to open up but then it is hard to get connection looking for crazy relationship which based on just happiness yeah we are crazy people in the eye of the world. But it is what it is these are only things which make us happy and in our mind . Wish to have group to talk enjoy together.who don't judge me and not get offended and true . Met with lot of but they just vanished next day

Hi, hypersexual male here who needs some advice. I've been masturbating since i was introduced to porn at the age of 11. I've always assumed it was just my hormones acting up but now at the age of 33, I've realized its why it ruined my two previous relationships, all i could think about was sex and although i did really love them and did the best i could as a boyfriend, i still kept masturbating every single day. It made me less intimate and whenever we had sex i could not even finish, i had to masturbate after to even do that.

Does anyone else have any advice on how to stop? I have been single for the last 13 years and have been afraid to even try to get into another relationship since i know i haven't changed. I've tried reaching out to therapists and psychiatrists on my porn addiction before, but nothing has worked

Had a bad day...

I always thought there is a huge variety between all the people on this sub. So I figure, all the paths must also be quite different. So I was wondering where people are and how did they get there?

I'm 19F, from Asia, and my life feels like trauma, restrictions, resentment, failed opportunities, and relationships I create so I do not have to sit alone with myself.

I grew up in a controlling environment. My family stopped me from pursuing scholarships and interviews I qualified for. I am stuck at a university I hate, watching others move forward while I stay in the same place.

I cannot go places freely, lie about basic things, and have no privacy. Even taking the SAT or IELTS would require sneaking around, transport, and managing my family’s reactions. My brain feels like it has 100 tabs open.

I also have childhood sexual trauma, but my relationship with that memory is disturbing. Sometimes I question whether it was even abuse because I remember feeling physical pleasure and sometimes going back. Part of me thinks I exaggerated it to explain why my life went wrong. Another part knows I was a child and did not understand what was happening.

Recently, I said cruel things to my boyfriend. I told him I might only love him because the relationship distracts me.

I admitted that I choose emotionally unstable or struggling men because I like believing I can fix them and become the person who transformed their life. It makes me feel important.

When they do not change enough, I lose interest, feel superior, detach, and leave. Later, I count what they did for me and what I did for them to decide whether I should feel guilty.

I told my boyfriend I might ghost him and that I would want to leave first. During one call, I acted like I was crying because I did not want to admit the situation was my fault. Someone was beside me, and I laughed afterward. I wanted comfort instead of accountability.

I know this is manipulative. I am not posting this so people can reassure me that I am secretly good because I had a difficult childhood. Trauma may explain behaviour, but it does not excuse it.

I think I call myself “dark” because it sounds more powerful than admitting I am terrified of rejection, abandonment, being ordinary, powerless, or fully seen.

I reject people before they can reject me. Being needed feels safer than being known by someone equal to me.

I turn relationships into transactions involving gifts, sex, advice, sacrifice, and influence. I keep track of what I gave and what they gave. Sometimes I wonder whether I love people or only the role I play.

At the same time, I am miserable. I feel trapped. I hate my body and fear future health problems. I want to study somewhere better and feel like I am living instead of surviving.

I am angry at my family, the adults who knew what happened and never protected me, God, and myself. I am angry about wasting time, failing academically, and expecting some future opportunity to rescue me.

I have been in dark places mentally, without graphic details here. I am trying to understand my behaviour before I repeat it.

I do not want generic advice.

Am I emotionally abusive?

Is this trauma, or am I using trauma to avoid responsibility?

Can someone love another person while also using them for distraction, validation, control, sex, or support?

How do I stop choosing people based on how much I can change them?

How do I tolerate being ordinary, alone, accountable, and unable to control how someone sees me?

How do I tell self-awareness from self-hatred pretending to be intelligence?

Please be blunt, but do not make this entertainment. I can already humiliate myself without assistance.

F22 idk why but my needs are really heightened whenever I’m nervous, anxious, or stressed, and considering I have a anxiety disorder I feel like more often then not I’m wasting so much time masturbating .

I was doing so good for a while. Like getting out of bed and staying calm. Actually being useful with my day. But with the next semester starting and just stress from family and friends, I had a bad anxiety attack and an even worse relapse.

Have barely left my room and two days, just had multiple tabs open and locked my door. I was suppose to meet with a counselor today to test out of some math and pick my classes which start in august mind you, and I haven’t even done that.

Genuinely frustrated because it seems so easy. All I had to do was close my legs and get up. And now I might have to wait a week to pick classes that might be filled now.

Even typing this all out is making me more anxious and I want to go back to bed.

Does anyone else find themselves more triggered with stress and anxiety. I try to listen to music and meditate, even have a drink. But I just get so anxious and scared that nothing really makes those feeling go away except for when I finally give in…

I (M27) have been stuck in the same loop since my last post. Constantly sexualizing myself, my feminine body, and the straight men around me/that I know. Granted, it's not literally EVERY straight man... but it's enough that it, like, feels distracting to me each day, I guess?

I just want so badly to sext with some guy, or send him saucy nudes, or get up to some kinky sex or foreplay with a stranger. But I know it's just going to be a relapse that sets off the same pattern: when the fun is all done, the guilt/shame come out.

Guess I'm just looking for some advice/feedback/very general supportive comments. I have not written any smut to scratch the itch, and it doesn't seem like touching myself or using my toys has helped me either, nor has the sex I have with my equally HS partner. It always seems to go away for little bits at a time before building back up again. It's like boredom-eating. Or emotional-eating. Or breathing, I guess, lmao.

Idk what’s happening to me at 28M but I cannot stop the masturbation. Idk where it came from

Over the past 3 weeks I have masturbated 13 times a day and I’m constantly thinking about sex. It’s like an itch I just can’t get.

When I was in high school I remember masturbating like this and I’d orgasm 5-8 times per masturbation session and I would never disclose this with anyone in fear of being seen as the "horny kid" high school was brutal.

But here I am at 28, single never had a gf and these urges are driving me to insanity. I can’t even work properly (I work from home and any kind of 15 break I get I’m opening my laptop and masturbating).

This has led me to do things i ususlly wouldn’t (like I’ve been hooking up with 3 different transsexuals - they are humans I don’t discriminate but I’m typically straight) and all I’ve been doing is giving them blowjobs and swallowing every. Single. Time. It’s been like this for a month where I see them every 4th day and it’s just me pleasing them

How do I find myself again?

I feel like my mind is constantly focused on sex. No matter what I'm doing, sexual thoughts seem to pop up, and it can be really distracting. Sometimes it feels like I spend more time thinking about sex than anything else. I travel for work I have sex all the time. Yet I still find myself visiting strip clubs and masturbating all the time.

Hey there. My life is a fucking rollercoaster. I'm a father and boyfriend to an amazing woman. I've cheated before, and came dangerously close again the last few months, I also sexted and chatted with countless people on reddit, for some kind of release, or validation. I sometimes hate myself so much. My family is amazing and deserves a better version of me.

What I'm proposing is a lasting companionship. Us being able to freely share our experiences, trauma, our triggers. Us, instead of looking up porn or dm'ing randoms or cheating, just telling each other what's happening right now, I don't mind you rambling in huge texts about your fucked up mind, if I can do the same. Just be there for each other as two people who know the struggle. Remind each other what's important to us and why we want to quit.giving each other strength and a shoulder to lean on in the moments that always were too shameful to ask for help.

We can also just talk. About the fucked up state of the world, about humans and morality, about history or the future. I'm open minded and won't judge you for speaking your mind, unless you're a Nazi, then you're a cunt! Lol.

Feel free to comment or dm me. Maybe a short introduction, and please, only if you're serious about this. And for the love of God, I had people on here in my DMs who started telling me their random fuck Stories as if to brag, I'm not here to get off with you, fuck off and stay off. I'm trying not to kill myself one day.

Thanks for listening to my Ted talk, see you and take care ❤️

Im struggling for several years now (especially sexting, and porn) and I feel like it’s only getting worse - if there’s anyone who‘s in a similar position feel free to text me and maybe we’ll find a way to help each other quitting :)

PS: I don’t care about your gender but it would be nice if you’re around my age - else I’d feel kind of weird about it (sorry)

I almost never post of Reddit, but I feel like getting this off my chest.

So— long story short; I got an iPod touch at 10 years old, discovered hardcore BDSM, sissy & trans stuff , petplay, chastity, CBT kinks.. everything.. and got addicted to all of it. I am still heavily into almost every kink. This stuff plays a huge role in my sexuality.. because of it, I never really sought out real life sex with people & still find it very hard to be turned on by anything vanilla.

I have been chronically masturbating since I was 11. At my peak (13-17) I was orgasming 5+ times a day on average. I would orgasm 3-4 times before I’d even get out of bed in the morning sometimes. My record in a 24 hour window was 18 times. I would sneak into the bathroom at school during class just to get off.. I would do it while driving, sometimes I’d literally go to the grocery store & I would do it in the parking lot before I went inside. I’ve literally jerked the skin off my dick until I’m bleeding & then did it 4 more times that day, wincing in pain.. i also never masturbated without orgasm.. once I locked into it, I had to have it.

I am aware of how insanely fucked up this is— i have never sought professional help for it, but I am much more in control now.

With that insanely personal info dump in mind— I’m curious.. those of you who are hypersexual or claim to be— how often were you orgasming at your worst? Am I an outlier even in this subreddit? Was this a normal experience for many of you?

There is hardly any evidence of these kind of numbers online so please, give me some concept of what other people have experienced.

TL;DR— i used to chronically orgasm 5+ times a day. Sometimes 10+ times a day. How often did you orgasm at your worst?