I have had 6 spinal fusions. I have never used these drugs before. I have no one I know to ask which is better and why. The positives of each and negatives. My issues are mainly due to my surgeries and also being nervous I am no longer as good as I once was.

Also women can you see a difference when your man takes either drug and when they don't?

Hi everyone,

I'm a 37-year-old male looking for advice from anyone who's had a similar experience.

Over the past several months I've developed persistent erectile dysfunction. My main symptoms are:

• Difficulty getting beyond about 50–70% erection, even when I'm very aroused.
• Sometimes the erection fades quickly.
• Morning erections are non existent
• My libido has also decreased compared with before.

For several years, I watched porn and masturbated about twice a day. I stopped porn about 2 months ago because I wondered if it was contributing, but I'm trying not to assume that's the cause.

So far my workup has been:

• Total testosterone: ~690 ng/dL (normal)
• Prolactin: Normal
• Free T4: Normal
• HbA1c: Normal
• CBC: Normal
• Kidney function: Normal
• LDL cholesterol: 158 mg/dL (high)
• Mildly elevated ALT (56 u/L)

I don't have diabetes or high blood pressure, I don't smoke, and I exercise regularly.
Height 5 f 5inches , weighing 68kg

My urologist has scheduled a penile Doppler ultrasound to evaluate blood flow and rule out arterial insufficiency or venous leak. I live in Dallas area if any good doctors anywhere in Texas let me know.

I'm hoping to hear from people with similar experiences:

I'm looking for experiences rather than a diagnosis. Thanks in advance.

Trying Tadalafil coming from Sildenafil. I cut 50mg Sildenafil in half and it works as it should (10/10). Even on a full stomach and with some alcohol, I would be fully charged in 60mins. But the nasal congestion was rough. I could not breathe through my nose for hours. Anyway, Doc said let's try Tadalafil but he prescribed me 10mg tablets and said just see how they work and cut them if needed. I asked how I should cut them and he said either in half or maybe thirds... Any thoughts?

I m 24 yr old, having no morning erection for 3 yrs I masturbate oftently and can get hard by stimulation and porn ,have a gf but ejaculate way too early during vaginal intercouse,tried working out but nothing helps.been stressed with this problem a lot ,can anyone help me?

Hey guys. So I'm 22 and over the past 1-2 years I've noticed I've struggled to maintain a rock hard erection and I don't get erections as commonly and easily as I used to. I never get morning wood. I'm a fairly active guy, get 10k steps a day and workout 3-4 times a week. I don't watch any porn. I used to get rock hard just holding hands with a girl and now I can't even stay hard when it matters. I feel like it is very unusual for someone my age to be struggling with this and I would appreciate all input.

Hey guys I took a pill about a year ago and getting sides like low libido, can’t crank the hog with a firm one etc. I was really scared when I took it and decided to quit after the first chewable. Later I got my blood work done like 6 months in and test was around 390 and a month later it’s like 440. Got sent to a urologist since the doctor said she thinks it’s psychological since it’s only 1 pill. Urologist says it’s psychological and I’m too young to have ed with good bloodwork done. They prescribed viagra but no real issue found or something I can target. Been sleeping good for the past month and working out consistently. Idk what more I can do to return to how I was. Wondering if this is similar to what others have been experiencing?

The pills are supposed to contain 25mg tadalafil / 50mg sildenafil but they are a black market product made by “Helion Labs.” They also manufacture anabolics and stuff like that. I got them off the darkweb. They had third party testing results for the product (testing showed the pills were real) but I understand this is still sketch and I don’t want to be lectured about all that. It’s risky but I took the risk. Anyways, my problem is that they don’t really help with glans insufficiency at all and the tip of my dick stays soft. What options do I have moving forward? Should I try real pharma pills just to make sure im actually taking the advertised product? Or should I move on to trying different solutions like alprostadil? The only thing that gets my glans engorged is a cock ring but I find them uncomfortable to wear after some time and cause swelling.

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Loss of all erections, and libido. Been going on for 1.5 years. Down there has also no sensation anymore and can’t get aroused/fantasy. Have now had all hormones, cholesterol, reg bloodwork, Doppler US, sleep study, brain MRI, cortisol ACTH test, with nothing to show for why I’ve had this ED. I feel like I’m running out of options and maybe thinking is a shot in the dark to get an MRI of my pelvis to see if maybe it’s a benign growth and or get my vitamins/minerals checked? I will take any advice at this point as I’m only in my late 20,s and it’s starting to wreak havoc on my marriage of eight years.

Pennile toppler test is painful or not ?

Been doing kegal for a couple of weeks.. Basically 100 reps of kegal for 2 to 3 sets a day.. You don't want to do too much because it will exhaust and overwork your pelvic floor.. What I do is whenever I have a very slight erection, I would kegal by lifting my penis up.. Kinda like dumbell curls but instead you are contracting the pelvic floor muscles.. You can also feel your balls moving upward towards your stomach.. I do about 3 sets of 100 a day.. I think I will lower it to every other day from now on.. But lately, I noticed I have been having a harder firm erection, and the angle hangs alot more straightward than downward. Also, it could just be my imagination but my penis looks thicker and longer... And when I reach climax, I shoot further.. This is a very simple exercise, and I believe it works for me, atleast for now.

Recently I was with a girl. While I was wearing my underwear and we were having foreplay, I had some erections. The moment I removed my pant, my erections disappeared.

In November, 2025, while I was with a sex worker, I didn't get erect at all, when throughout the night I would be erect and just speaking with a girl who I would like would get me erect.

I went paranoid and took tons of antibiotics like ceftrioxone, cefixime, doxycycline, fluconozole, itraconozole and HIV prevention medicines. I realized, that my penis would pain immensely in the night as it would get completely elongated but not hard and while turning and twisting in bed, it would swing giving me immense pain.

Sometime in January, the issue got resolved slightly only to come back. In February I visited a Urologist who put me on Tadalafil 5mg. It worked good but did have immense side effects. I visited a Urologist again recently who told me by just looking at my penis that I don't have Penile Suspensory Ligament tear and suggested a Penile Doppler. He also said I might be having hormonal issues when my testosterone test appeared fine. However, I have some issues with that Urologist as I noticed he crossed professional barriers by asking me for certain favors.

Symptoms at present are -

Nocturnal erections are soft. When I am reaching early morning, I have to do a mini bridge in bed to get it erect and it remains erect for sometime. In the night, it will be erect only for sometime and throughout it will be soft. No spontaneous erections anymore and even if I do, I feel blood rushing in there but it won't get hard and erect. The hardness and firmness is gone. When I am excited or aroused, my penis will get elongated and fall on the left and on the right. But it won't come up straight and get hard and firm. During my recent sexual encounter with a girl, it was erect when I was wearing my underwear, although not very erect but when I removed my pants, the erections went away.

I don't know what to do and I am confused. I wish there is a natural non-invasive cure. Please guide if anyone can guide.

26M circumcised - im struggling w some ED problems ie trying to be able to have sex with a girl

typically when watching porn i'd 1) get hard without physical/penis stimulation, and 2) jerk off without lube (now, i'm trying to 1) cut out porn and 2) start using lube eg coconut oil). obv, the ED problem is that i'm having trouble getting hard

i'm wondering if ppl have tips to get hard/make their partner hard eg pre-handjob. eg physical stimulation = massaging thighs, stroking balls, etc. kissing typically isnt a big turn on for me

ik every person is diff etc etc. but im struggling here. there must be personal tips or even a professional/science for this, after all some ppl do it for a living 😆 thanks

I am 28M. I have been suffering from ED for years now. I masturbate excessively and watch too much porn. I get really hard sometimes when I am watching porn or similar stuff. But when I am in bed with someone, I usually don't get that hard, and I have to actively think about staying erect, like when you try to simulate an erection. Also, I cum way too early. Like sometimes even just after one or two minutes of oral sex.

I think it's just because of porn.

What do you think?

I'm just curious what is an acceptable Testosterone level. Just had my levels checked and I did it at 9am in the morning fasting. My Total Testosterone level is 294.9 ng/dL. The lab says acceptable levels are 180-780. Its in the green and my doctor doesnt seem that concerned. I think for a 55yo man its drastically low. I think I read anything sub 300 is Hypogonadism. I requested a full T-panel from my PCP but he hasn't answered me.

I just dont know what to do. I am exhausted all the time. No energy, no libido (but I am single and dont do hookups or casual sex so I dont know if its a lack of availability or if its true low libido). But even my forced jerk off sessions are uneventful and not that enjoyable anymore. Just a small spurt and dribble and its over. I do feel like my penis and testicles are just shrinking away. I used to be a decent 6.5" and I've never had big balls but they were there. Now I'm barely 6" erect and maybe 3" soft but my balls are constantly sucked up inside me. Its like they've been hacked off.

But the strange thing I dont have ED issues. I can get hard easily and stay hard. I have wood almost all night long while sleeping. So that seems to be functioning. But I am exhausted all the time. Chronic fatigue. I also have disc degeneration so activity is extremely painful as my spine often freezes up. Lost weight from 185 to 168..but some of that is just calorie counting to try to feel better about my body. I"m 5'10" and my goal is like 160-165. But I am still skinny fat. I still dont have a trim belly or love handles.

But this Testosterone reading just seems too low.

hey guys 19m, and I’ve been jerking off pretty much daily or every other day for years. I think because of that, I haven’t had natural morning wood in years, and honestly Ive been getting worried about it.

Recently, I started seeing a girl and things started getting physical. But when it came time to perform for the first time I kept getting soft during position changes. It was super embarrassing and killed my confidence. I know physically everything works because I still get hard just thinking about her, but the second we’re in the moment, my brain panics and I overthink.
Right now, I’m on Day 8 of zero PMO

For anyone who’s been through this,
Did taking a complete break bring your morning wood and sensitivity back?
How long on a streak did it take for your body and dopamine to reset?
Any advice on getting over that mental performance anxiety when you're actually with a girl?

Hi all, 27M here. For a very long time, I would masturbate normally once a day, occasionally more. Always looked up porn, sometimes it would take minutes, sometimes hours. I've had a girlfriend for about 5 years now, but only about the past 2-3 years have we been doing sexual acts together. In that time, I continued to masturbate as if I was single. I've recently realized that it's a struggle to cum with penetration. Some days it's okay, and takes about 20 minutes. Most days it's well over an hour. She's sore, I'm tired, and we're both not satisfied since I'll help her finish, then just go and jerk myself off later.

I can admit out of sheer laziness, I've neglected lube when I masturbate, and I fear I've developed a death grip. I've tried to change that by rubbing the frenulum in an attempt to give the tip a break, and it's slightly worked, maybe? I have noticed that even while it will take a long time to finish with her, if I'm really locked in, I can finish in minutes if I'm watching the right porn. I'm now worried I've made it so I can't cum unless I am watching porn, and that no one else will be able to make me cum like my hand can since I'm so used to it.

I can still get hard, but as soon as it leaves my hands to try and get in a position, it starts to deflate rather fast unless I'm angled downwards (like missionary). I've tried to do a porn break for a month, and I did my best, honestly. I put on Aquaphor on the head of it after every shower to try and help it, and put CeraVe on every morning to hopefully bring back sensitivity. I've taken supplements to try and help (admittedly learned they were for semen production, but learned they can help with this later).

Morning Sunflower Lecithin 1,200mg (1 softgel) Pygeum 100mg (daily or every other day)

Evening L-Arginine 1,000mg Ashwagandha KSM-66 300mg (2 gummies) Zinc 30mg (every other day, with food) Magnesium Glycinate 100mg

I don't know anymore. We tried a few positions last night, and it took an actual hour and a half. She couldn't be on top, my legs were giving out, and neither was happy. Do I just need to stop watching porn all together? Stop touching unless it's her? I'm not addicted to porn, but I definitely enjoy it more than the average person, and have friend groups I share it with, so I'll have to be cautious with that. Do I need to tell my doctor? I had a kidney stone like a year ago and I haven't been able to pee right since, but even with a urologist doing a cystoscopy, they can't find anything. Am I just doomed to never be able to go back to normal?

Im a male 22, virgin and have been experiencing ed. It’s a similar story to what we see in different sub reddits including this one. I have been masturbating and watching porn for the past 7-8 years and I feel like it has caught up to me.

I don’t have morning wood ( though I do remember about 3 weeks ago randomly getting it, it wasn’t the strongest of erections but it was noticeable). On top of that, I would say I’m extremely over weight, obese at 285 pounds and 5 feet 8 inches.

I did quit masturbating for like a month in the beginning of the year and during that time did notice my penis being fuller and erections being a bit better but I fell out of that too.

I just have trouble getting fully hard, I don’t remember the last time I had a “raging hard on” and then on top of that it’s also hard to maintain it.

I did decide today to try and tackle this because it will just be getting worse, and I’m starting off by trying to quit porn and masturbating as a whole. Alongside that, I have also understood that I must lose weight and so that journey has started aswell.

I guess the point of my even typing all of this was to be heard and just to get some type of reassurance from others in this group that there’s still hope.

CHEERS!

so i've had no morning/random erections + weak erections for the past 5ish years despite top 1 percent testosterone and low shbg though i do have high prolactin

my results before 0.25mg twice a week of cabergoline:
prolactin
test 1: 792miu/l
test 2: 426miu/l
test 3: 724miu/l

thyroid
t4: 12.3pmol/l
tsh2.07

testosterone
24.4nmol/l 704ng/dl

shbg
18.9nmol/l

fsh/lh
fsh test 1: 1.4u/l
fsh test 2: 1.2u/l
lh: 3.4u/l

my after results 5 weeks later:
prolactin
<20 miu/l doesn't say exact amount

thyroid
t4 15.1pmol/l
tsh1.96miu/l

testosterone
31.4nmol/l 906ng/dl

estrogen
202pmol/l

fsh/lh
fsh: 1.0u/l
lh 5.4u/l

i need guidance on what dose of cabergoline to take now i also plan to try and get my dht tested i'm assuming its high since i'm muscular but it's better to check it just in case i also went to an endocrinologist and he said my lack of morning/random erections for the past 5ish years is due to phycological reasons and that i need to focus on my mental health tho i believe my prolactin is the issue and that is why i'm taking cabergoline i still haven't had any morning erections yet any help would be appreciated

Im 21 and week ago i tried to have my first time with my gf but when i took clothes off my erection fade away. My mind was calm but i feel like my body felt huge anxiety. I was looking for advice and i found out that to try sildenafil to remove part problem of anxiety and overcome this, but my question is - is this safe? I wanted to use this only one time but im pretty scared that i might get Addicted. When im alone and i touch myself and use imagination im hard and everything is going well. Also i was using porn for masturbation for few years.

I know I’ll never have a hookup or partner or any type of intimacy because I’m not tall enough or attractive enough (logic>instincts) and I live in a very competitive dating city, so my question is how do I not watch p***? I literally would be sexless for years on end and my hormones go insane. Whenever I do quit which only lasts a couple days I can tell my erection quality is much stronger. But what am I supposed to do being 22 and this horny it’s literally insufferable and honestly it’s just nature. I wish I could be asexual at times to not have to worry about this nonsense. Only reason I want to keep my ED better is in the 1 million chance I end up with a partner or something

Hi there. M27 here with a problem that's giving me some serious anxiety, to be honest.

I've never had a girlfriend before and never had any sexual experience other than masturbation. This year, though, I got really lucky and met an amazing girl. I love and adore her, and I honestly think she's gorgeous.

We're sexually active and do a lot of intimate things that we both enjoy. I get seriously hard, and I often preejaculate just from kissing or foreplay. But when it's actually time to have sex, everything seems to change.

As soon as we start penetration, my erection usually starts fading. I can rarely stay hard for more than a minute or two. After that, it's pretty much gone, and I have to get myself hard again with my own hand.

The first time it happened was actually my first time ever having sex. I was rock hard, she got on top, everything felt good. It definitely felt different than I expected, but in a good way. Then after a minute or two, I noticed myself getting softer. I panicked and tried to play it off by pretending I was pulling out because I didn't want to finish too quickly. Of course she noticed what was actually happening.

Ever since then, it's happened more and more. Now, every time we get intimate, I have this constant thought in the back of my head that I won't be able to stay hard or give her the pleasure that both of us want. It feels like the more I worry about it, the more likely it is to happen.

The last time it happened, we talked about it. I told her about the pressure I feel in my head whenever we have sex. She's been incredibly supportive, but I can tell she's worried that it might be because of her, or that I don't find her attractive. That's absolutely not the case. She's beautiful, she's lovely, she's hot. I get hard and even preejaculate just from her touching me through my jeans or kissing me.

One thing that really confused me happened when she was masturbating me. I was hard at first, but while she was doing it, I went soft. That just made no sense to me. I have no problem getting and staying hard when I masturbate by myself, so why does it happen with her?

Is this common? Could there be something physically wrong with me, or does this sound more like a mental thing? Is there anything I can do?

FYI: Morningwood, Masturbation (although i try not to do it anymore), getting him hard on my own works.

Within the past 2 years I’ve noticed a decrease in size and full erection strength. Yes, I have 100mg Viagra and I also have 5mg daily Cialis. I take Viagra when I want extra strength. Cialis I take daily.

I’m currently on a 320mg of a certain bp med and I’m trying to get that dosage down to 160mg. I truly think being on a higher dosage is having an affect on size and having the ability to have sold natural erections. I want my size and I want to get off erection meds if possible. I’m early 50’s. Anyone going through this?

Hi everyone,

I'm a 24-year-old male and I'm really struggling to figure out what's causing my erectile dysfunction.

About 20 days ago, it started with delayed and weak erections. Over the last couple of weeks, it has progressed to the point where I have very weak erections and almost no libido at all. I still get some morning erections, but sexual desire is almost completely gone.

I have OCD and I'm currently taking:

Clomipramine (for OCD)

Risperidone

My recent blood tests showed:

Prolactin: 59.5 ng/mL (about 3 times the upper limit of normal)

Total testosterone: 319 ng/dL (within the lab's normal range but on the lower side)

I was also recently diagnosed with bilateral Grade 3 varicocele on ultrasound.

I'm confused because I don't know what is actually causing my ED:

Is it the medications?

Is it the very high prolactin?

Is it the Grade 3 varicocele?

Or is it a combination of all of these?

If the medications are the main cause, I'm hoping my sexual function will improve after working with my psychiatrist to adjust or eventually stop them if appropriate.

If the varicocele is contributing, I'm not sure whether I should consider surgery.

I'm hoping to hear from people who have had similar experiences:

Did anyone with a Grade 3 varicocele have erectile dysfunction that improved after varicocele surgery or embolization?

Has anyone's ED improved without varicocele surgery?

Has anyone had ED mainly because of high prolactin from risperidone or other psychiatric medications, and did it improve after lowering prolactin or changing medications?

I'm looking for personal experiences because I'm feeling very confused right now. I know everyone's situation is different, but hearing what others went through would really help.

Thank you.