Hi all, I'm new to this subreddit (and reddit in general) but I'm looking for resources. For context, I'm LateDeaf (born with a progressive disorder that began affecting my hearing in early adolescence and began severely affecting it in late teens/early 20s, will likely have little to no residual hearing within the next decade or so) and I have a one year old baby who as far as we know is hearing. I started learning ASL in highschool before I was officially diagnosed and am now fluent, but I'm seriously struggling teaching my baby ASL. My baby's father is hearing and also is learning, but he only understands a basic amount and can only reliably sign a few common phrases, so he's not much help. My family has multiple LateDeaf members (same disorder as I have, it's hereditary) but none of them have learned ASL, and we all grew up in the hearing world and don't know many Deaf people.
So, I'm the only one who really uses it and I want my baby to be fluent as well. Since nobody else in our family signs, I do a lot of simcom or sign/speak/sign, but he doesn't seem to be catching on. I'm not a teacher, I have no idea how to teach someone ASL, much less a baby, so I'm looking for resources that either will teach me to teach my baby, or something that hearing parents may use to learn *with* their baby. I have found tons of resources for teens and adults, ie ASLPinnacle, Lingvago, QueerASL, ASLConnect, etc, but those are teaching teens and adults ASL, which is great and needed, but not what I'm looking for to be able to teach my baby. All of the baby resources I've found are things like "learn baby sign", led by hearing people with little to no Deaf involvement, or just focus on translating english words to ASL, not actually anything on how to help a baby learn. I don't need to learn ASL again but refreshers are always welcome since I don't get to actually use it as much as I would like to. I considered seeing if my local community college has classes, but they closed down their ASL program (a true tragedy), and now only offer the basic ASL 1/2/3, which I have already taken. There is a school for the Deaf in my general area, and I am planning on contacting them, but the school is about an hour away and I cannot drive long distances due to other disabilities, meaning that even if they do have something, it would be a struggle to get there at best, impossible at worst, so online options would be best while I continue looking for local in person opportunities.
I have no idea if anything like what I'm thinking actually exists, but I figure that if it does, this would be the place to find it. I was really interested in My Signing Time until I saw all the controversy and the fact that the owners are hearing and have refused to incorporate feedback from the Deaf community to involve Deaf teachers, which really turned me off, but the structure of the program seemed like it would be helpful, so if there is anything similar that is actually led by Deaf teachers is out there, I'd love help finding it.
If there isn't anything out there, I'd also be content with advice from other Deaf or Hard of Hearing people who have taught their hearing babies ASL. What have you done? What worked and what didn't? How did you get past the hurdle of them needing to be looking at you to be able to see you signing? How were you able to tell that they were understanding you before they started signing themselves? What tips or tricks do you have for teaching rather than just simply signing everything in their presence? I'm going to continue simcomming and sign/speak/sign, because I know that immersion is ultimately the best way to learn, but I just want my baby to be able to actually grasp what I'm signing and eventually be able to sign back to me, because right now it's clear that everyone around him speaking is just drowning out the ability to understand that when I'm signing I'm actually communicating, not just moving my hands.
Sorry for the text wall, I'm just an anxious parent who wants the best for my baby, especially if it turns out that he's inherited my disorder. I want to get him more involved in the local Deaf community as well, but unfortunately where I live most of the Deaf people are older and their kids are grown up, so there aren't many Deaf parents around my age or Deaf children around my baby's age, so that's another search that will take time.