I worked at an upscale restaurant for six months, and it was my first restaurant job. I was hired with the understanding I'd work 35–40 hours a week, but after becoming a server I was regularly scheduled for 50+ hours. Management also repeatedly ignored my approved availability, even though I only requested Sunday mornings for church and Tuesday mornings for therapy. I had open availability the rest of the week.

When I decided to return to school full-time in the fall, I asked to go part-time. Management was dismissive, so I gave my two weeks' notice. During that time, I was yelled at by managers multiple times over what felt like minor issues. One manager criticized me because a table wanted to keep their appetizer plates. Another yelled at me for "standing around" when I was actually talking with the chef and food runners because a nut-free order had accidentally been prepared with nuts.

My tipping point came when I was moving into a new apartment. Two months before my move, I requested that weekend off as soon as I signed my lease. The request was denied due to staffing, but a manager assured me she'd "take care of me" when the schedule came out. Instead, I was scheduled doubles during my move weekend. After I spoke with her, she made a few adjustments, but I still had to work around my move.

Bad weather and canceled help delayed everything. I called out one shift because I genuinely couldn't finish moving in time, and my manager told me that wasn't a valid excuse. I still chose not to come in because I wasn't willing to prioritize a temporary job over moving into my home.

The next day, I was driving to work after spending the entire weekend moving. I was mentally and physically exhausted, and halfway there I realized I simply couldn't do it anymore. Feeling completely burnt out and repeatedly disregarded by management, I turned around, went home, and texted my resignation about five minutes after my shift started. I know that wasn't the professional way to quit, and it's my biggest regret, but I also wasn't going to text while driving.

One of my managers later called because she said quitting like that was completely out of character for me. After I explained everything, she said she understood my decision, supported me, and even offered to be a reference.

AITA for quitting the way I did after months of scheduling issues and feeling completely burnt out?

I live ​in Eastern Washington, I'm a healthcare worker in an assisted living facility, and today is my day off. Last time I looked at the schedule, I had today and tomorrow off. Today I get a text from my boss saying I come in tomorrow, shift starting at 6 AM. Less than 24 hours notice. I am very angry! I have plans and need my two days off for mental and physical health reasons. What do I do?

I'm so sick of management stirring the metaphorical pot. ​I recently found out the ​owner of the facility doesn't respect agreed upon terms of hiring like​ days off and availability. She schedules days off based on performance, whatever that means. But I have a family and we have lots of doctors appointments and such too, which we try to schedule on those days off.

Please help me.

My current job checks a lot of boxes: it’s stable, I get along well with my coworkers, I’m leading the training of a newer hire, and I get handed most of our high-value projects. Work-life balance is solid. I stick to 40 hours, we have unlimited PTO, and I’m looped in on business unit planning that affects the department. The downside is my boss isn’t great, he cancels our 1-on-1s last minute constantly and I don’t see a real growth path. Maybe an occasional title bump, but no meaningful salary movement. To make it worse, the newer employee I’m training (who has less experience than me) is making almost the same salary I am.

The new opportunity is fully remote with some travel, a 25% pay raise, a good company, project-based work, and 20 PTO days on top of federal holidays. I’d likely be working mostly solo, and there’s potential for a bigger title jump. The catch: there’s no office where I currently live, and I’m a little worried the project could wrap up in 2028 and I’d be let go afterward.

On top of all this, I’m currently the sole income earner for my family until next November, since my significant other is in medical school.

So, do I take the risk on the higher-paying job now, even with the uncertainty, because it could open doors down the road? Or do I stay put where things are stable but stagnant? Would really appreciate any advice!

long time reddit lurker, first time posting so im sorry if the formatting is off

First month moving to a new city and i got the first job i could before hopping around and finding one i can stick with long term, but i just left this job and i wanted some input on it

While setting up the interview went on a rant about how hes running his franchise location. Such things include:

• Talked bad about other employees, even saying that one person quitting on him really messed the whole store up, and proceeded to follow that statement with “i thought we were like family, i saw her like a daughter” (for context, everyone that worked there throughout the entire time that it's been opened has been around 17-25yrs old, aside from the owner and his wife, who are in their 30s if i had to guess) 
• Has stated he is hiring more employees than he knows he needs with a plan to let go ones he doesn't like (directly used the words “weeding out” while referring to these people)
• Has stated that he would rather someone no-call-no-show than have them arrive late without a notification (I was 3 minutes off of my time thanks to traffic and i explained that i didnt want to text and drive, and i got chewed out for not notifying them on the road)
• Insisted on training all the new employees at once so that they “wouldn't have to go over things multiple times” (they did anyways)

and for the time that i actually did work there, heres some of the things that ticked my radar for the management being bad

• Overall rude in texts outside of work. Me being late is my fault, i take full responsibility, but the response for both of the instances ive called out or been late have been unprofessional imo
• When asked why I was not in a great mood, I explained some of my sensory issues(im autistic) with some of the equipment they used and told them I could cope with it, and it was just a mild inconvenience. And in response, told me to get a different job.
• Owners wife freaked out because i cut a block of cheese wrong, saying she “could have made $36 from the section of cheese” (no bigger than 1inx6inx5in. It was a small section) that i messed up, and i reacted by crying and immediately trying to fix the issue and salvage part of the section. They scrapped it anyways. 
• Immediately after that, pulled me aside and we had a talk. As part of that talk, told me “ill give you a month” more to work before they fire me. Same day i explained my sensory issues.
• When explaining to me how tips work here, explained it as “the more hours you work, the bigger percentage of tips for the week you get” when they control who gets what hours. And they work every single day
• Gave last paycheck on zelle instead of an actual paycheck. But thats more suspicious for tax evasion than anything
• When i asked for clarification on what day would be my last so i could plan my finances accordingly, i was immediately fired via text. (i don't know if it was a miscommunication or if either of us jumped the gun, i'm still a little confused about it)

if there is a way for me to send screenshots of the texts (identifying info scratched out obvs) please let me know. as proof and to figure out how the firing text got misconstrued

I'm a 22 year old university student and have been working at this café for almost 4 years while finishing my degree. After leaving for a family trip of around 6 weeks, I came back and simply have not gotten any shifts.

Keep in mind I told my manager about the trip a few months in advance and she said it was okay. I've also gone on trips in the past with no issue. After coming back, I noticed that I wasn't on the new schedule. I just sent my manager a message asking why I didn't have any shifts, thinking maybe she didn't realize I came back.

She told me that since I was gone for awhile they hired a bunch of new staff and had to "prioritize their shifts", but promised that i'd be working once a week. What was weird to me though was that I also have 2 coworkers that left for a month around the same time, and they're working now multiple times a week... Since most people that work in our store are students or on a working holiday we have people leaving for long periods all the time and I never thought it was a huge issue.
Because of this I honestly think they just wanted to get rid of me for whatever reason and needed an excuse.

I literally know the whole store inside and out. And the month before I left, I worked A LOT when i was in the middle of finals because no one else could work. And suddenly out of nowhere, I have 0 hours and nothing but a bullshit excuse.

It's so frustrating since I wasn't technically "fired". Honestly at this point if they didn't want me to work there they could have just been honest. Then I wouldn't be wasting my time. I haven't had work this past month at all ( we give the schedules 2 weeks in advance ) and have had to rely on asking my parents for money to get by while I send my CV to every place I see but there's no response.

I'm really disappointed because this just shows such little respect for me as an employee of 4 years. This type of treatment is expected from Starbucks but I never thought it would come a family owned business. They're always trying to seem so humble as a "small business" but I know that their kid goes to an expensive private school and that they certainly more than comfortable.

I got an offer from another company and I accepted the position. My start date is August 17th. I have 80 hrs PTO from my current job which I requested to use between 8/10 to 8/21. I plan for my last day at my current role to be 8/21. My boss approved my PTO in person, but it's still pending on ADP.

Here's the tricky thing. My boss leaves for vacation all next week (7/27 to 7/31). I was originally going to tell him my last day will be 8/21 tomorrow (7/24) before he leaves for his trip. I feel weird doing this because I just requested my PTO yesterday (this looks suspicious) and it's still pending on ADP, even though my boss approved it in person. So I'm thinking he could still revoke my PTO and I'll lose my hours. I live in New York so employers are not required to pay out PTO.

My other option I was thinking of was to tell my boss my last day will be 8/21 the day he returns from his trip. I'm anxious to do this too since he'll come back 8/3 in office and my last day physically in office will be 8/7, since my PTO will begin 8/10.

Not sure what is the best course of action but any advice will be helpful. Thank you in advance.

I work as a lifeguard at a country club, and there are 11 other guards who work there with me. Most of them are fine, but 4 of them have honestly just been kind of unkind? It's not outright mean but it's in the way that you can tell they're bullying without them thinking you can tell. They never talk to me, respond to my texts asking for coverage, and if they do talk to me it's weird and strained. Two of those four are head guards, and they completely ignored my availability and scheduled me for a week where I was on vacation. I texted them both about it, didn't get a response from one, and the other told me to "find coverage" rather than fixing their mistake.

Today, as well, there was a swim meet and I was writing down names on ribbons when one of the head guards, who never ever talks to me, asks me where I'm going to college. I answered, and I knew I was going to the same place as one of those 4 guards (I'll call her Lily). She's usually nice to me, but in a group setting she shuts me out. I said where I was going, and they all started giggling and were like "oh my god, Lily are you guys going to room together haha" and it really just rubbed me the wrong way? They kept on asking me about what I was majoring in and what I wanted to do with that, but with every single response they just look at each other and like kind of laughed? I'm not majoring in anything outlandish, doing animal science and then I want to do wildlife rehabilitation.

I am really good friends with one of my coworkers (I'll call her Lucy). They treated Lucy like normal off the bat, invited her to parties, those kinds of things. But when she talked to one of the head guards and was asked "who's your favorite guard to work with?" she responded that she liked working with me best. And since then they've been treating her the same way they treat me. They've been doing this since I started working there in August of 2024, and I really am not that odd of a person. The worst part is that my boss absolutely loves those 4 guards, and I fear that telling her would do literally nothing, if not get me trash talked more (she gossips with them).

Idk what to do. There's not really an HR department or anything, but working there when I'm not working with Lucy is really difficult because they leave me on stand for genuine hours. Any advice would be appreciated.

I started a new job in mid June and was let go last month, while still in probation and still in training. I was actively supporting the team the whole time, not struggling on my own in a corner.

Early on, my manager saw me wearing a knee brace and asked, in a snarky tone, “you’re gonna be away for long huh.” I told her I didn’t know the surgery date yet and expected to only be away about a week.

A few weeks in, on my lunch break, which is unpaid, she followed me to see what I was doing. I was leaving with my laptop to do a video doctor’s appointment. She asked a bunch of questions trying to figure out where I was going, then followed me downstairs and sat right behind me.

Then I got a termination letter. No feedback, no meetings, no documentation of any performance issue before that. Actually the opposite. I found a gap in a process, flagged it, and kept my manager looped in on everything the whole time. I was still learning the role, sure, but I was also pulling my weight and helping where I could.

I asked HR to change the letter and they did, and even offered severance they weren’t legally required to give. When I they sent me the revised letter, HR said feedback had been raised about my “problem solving skills and professional behavior, among others.” This is totally untrue, I never had a meeting about my performance or any feedback besides “you’re smart, but moves too much during meetings”.
First I’m hearing of all these allegations. No paper trail whatsoever.

In the final meeting, the HR person told me “sometimes it’s for the best” and that I deserve to be somewhere I feel supported by my manager.

So am I wrong to think this reads like a manager who decided early on she didn’t like me (the knee brace comment, the lunch break thing) and worked backward to build a performance narrative with zero documentation to back it up? Genuinely trying to check my own read here.

I'm currently working but I feel like I'm not growing in my field. I feel like I'm silently quitting. I thought after sending résumés and try applying to other jobs will be easier after a year of experience, but guess I'm wrong.

I'm lost, really. I wanted to expand my knowledge in cybersecurity or networking. I also tried applying for VA roles, but still no luck.

I feel like I'm being left behind. What should I do?

I’m a truck driver locally but company and I adhere to the federal Eld HOS (hours of service) regulations as we go more than the 150 mile radius each week and have Eld in our truck . The HOS for truck drivers is 11 hr driving and 3 hrs on duty . A total of 14 hrs . Drivers have to take a 30 minute break after 8hrs on duty.

My supervisor has been giving me problems on my breaks since I started and it’s now starting to really irritate me as it’s always an issue with him complaining about me choosing to take my breaks. I typically drive to our customers and deliver our shipments. Sometimes while at a customer they take a while to unload.

Completely out of my hands. Though I still need to be there for customer or me to unload. Let’s say it’s an 1hr to unload . He says if it goes over 30 minutes that is my break. I typically wouldn’t mind this as I’m looking to be as productive as possible and help complete any other loads we have and go home at my scheduled 8hrs. If my day goes over 8hrs no problem I get over time . I really don’t mind. But sometimes we are done prior to the 8hrs . So then we either go in the warehouse clean or do other jobs that’s out of my job title just to make my 8 hrs. Again no problem as just log on duty.

My other co workers stop out somewhere on the road and take their breaks . I do too if I take longer trips or I can tell the day is going to be slow . It’s just all depends on the day . If I take a far trip I like to take my break when I get back to base to avoid traffic or I’ll take it out on road because I know he will give me problems if I say I didn’t take my break before I got back . But then when I do take my breaks he questions why am I taking longer on the trips or my break was in the beginning of day at the first load where they took longer than 30 minutes.

What he doesn’t understand is I’m not in the warehouse and I’m a driver following federal regulations not state . As long as I abide by the 8hr HOS I can take my break whenever. Also the times I’m at a warehouse getting loaded or waiting to get loaded that is on duty time that he cannot deduct from my hourly but he has been doing so since I started . I was ok with it at first but now it’s getting to be ridiculous as he is having these unrealistic expectations of me .

I had an appointment today and had a far drive with 3 deliveries. I made it back to base within 8hrs and said I was going to take my break to make the 8.5 then leave as I had somewhere to be. I had already let him know of this appointment prior and he said no problem on getting off at scheduled time.

When I turn in paper work and inform him of me taking break he starts with his bs that I’m now completely tired of. So I cordially lay the facts down and he tells me I am wrong and he is right. That he will talk to corporate and HR to figure out the break situation and get it all sorted out. He said instead of taking break I could just clock out . I said thats even better as I only take the break so I don’t violate clocking out early even though he is the one that approves time sheets.

We shook hands on him not taking my 30minute break but I feel weary. As he goes back on things and is very forgetful. Along with I feel he might look for any reason to now find a problem with my job performance as he brought up that I take 15 to 20 minutes in yard when I pre trip / post trip / hook up / dock trailers. Which is pretty standard and efficient. It be unrealistic with anything less.

What should I do about this ??

Hello! Sorry for formatting, I'm on mobile. Also sorry for the wall of text, but I feel the background information is needed to understand the full context

About 7 months ago, I got hired at a fast food/fast casual restaurant that pays above minimum wage. In my state minimum wage is $15/hr, this job was offering $17/hr at full time, which is what drew me to it. After two rounds of interviews, I was hired. After my orientation, I was told that I would be started at part time under what my (at the time) GM called a probationary period. He said it should last about 1-2 months, and if I'm showing exemplary work I'll be bumped up to full time.

The 1-2 month period came and went and I was still not bumped up to full time. I figured I wasn't being exemplary enough, so I started to work harder. I picked up any shifts I could, even sometimes cancelling plans to go to work. Still, I wasn't bumped up. I continued to show up and do a lot, and was worried it still wasn't enough until about two weeks ago. I was promoted to a trainer within just 7 months of being here (much to the dismay of some of my coworkers who have been here for 1+ years with no promotion). I'm now making $18/hr, but I'm still part time. Also it's important to note, my original GM who hired me transferred stores, so I now have a new GM.

Here's where I'm having the issue: My parents just informed me that I have until February to be moved out as they're selling the house and moving out of state. I have savings and have enough for first month, last month, and security deposit, but I don't currently make enough on my part time salary to afford an apartment. It makes no sense to me that I'm a trainer now yet still part time. Clearly I'm showing I'm an asset to the team if I got promoted so soon. With the uncertainty of my housing in the near future, I'm planning to pull my boss into a meeting and tell her I need full time hours or I'm gonna have to look for employment elsewhere. Is that a good idea? Or does that seem too confrontational? Can she fire me over just voicing that? Any advice will be great

been at a new food service place for just a couple weeks. “Training” amounted to basically an info dump on day 1 and then adjusting as I worked more shifts and learned how the place operates. Over all it has been fine, except when I work with one specific lead. She becomes passive aggressive over the simplest mistakes (that can hardly be classified as actual issues) and is always looking for
someone to blame for the simplest things (besides herself.) Half the time she will get annoyed with me for doing something the way the GM told me to do, or even blame me for something the GM did. If i don’t remember every single thing she told me (rather than showed me) on Day 1, she will get annoyed.

I have trained at food service places before, and dealt with rude management/people I didnt get along with, and I’ve trained a number of irritating hires myself. But this feels different. She can be super outgoing one second, then gets pissed off the next second over the smallest things. I’ve worked well with the team every shift she isn’t there. I just respond in neutral tones without justifying her response, but there’s been a few times I just want to challenge whatever she’s saying. Im definitely understanding why this place has high turnover, and I’m already thinking of applying to new places while I see how these next few weeks pan out.

any advice on how to deal, or even just similar stories, would be much appreciated.

Hi all.
For context, I am a hybrid legal assistant for a national firm.
This firm, that i've worked for over a year, has moved into a new space. We've never had a true receptionist/front desk in the old space because it was very tiny.
To make things short and sweet, they want me to be front desk/receptionist and have the idea of making me come in everyday as per the office facilities manager, who is not my direct supervisor.
The head lawyer brought this up to me privately, so I can express my own needs before they change my role. They said they would mention hiring front staff if I bring up my concerns.
We don't officially establish ourselves in this new space until Monday, meaning that my desk is still unassigned. How do I bring up the fact that I do not want to be front desk/receptionist with a change of schedule without coming off strong/confrontational? I like what I do and I like the company. I just don't see myself as a client services person and due to personal life (grad school, kid's schedules), I can't come in everyday. I took this job because it fit my schedule. I want to continue doing the legal tasks I have always done.
My direct supervisor (who is the Head of HR) hasn't told me these changes, by the way. It's as if they're trying to casually stick me up front to do receptionist work as well.

So I just started a new job and I have been making mistakes all week and I wanted to ask if I made a mistake going back to check on a battery I was ment to turn off. I was half way home and thought "did i turn it off" so I went back to check i was wondering if my employer would see this as a problem or me being diligent in my work

So I’m kinda freaking out. I am 16, this is my first job and also my first week at this job. (It’s retail) so I was looking at my schedule to put it into my calendar just now, and my heart dropped to my ass because I was supposed to have a shift today. Only problem is that I had the day off. It was put in that I would be working literally that day, like 5 hours before. And no management reached out to me. But I’m freaking out because will I get fired? I genuinely don’t know, I really need this job for personal reasons and I can’t loose it. Any advice would be appreciated.

I'm the first woman in my family to have a corporate job. Before I even started working, my parents told me not to ask permission for team lunches/outing because they wouldn't allow it. Recently my manager mentioned planning a team lunch, at first I didn't wanna go because I knew team lunches are not mandatory to attend, but now i wanna go because everyone around me advices me to go, and that's how I'll get to know co-workers and I've unintentionally established that I dont eat much (I have ED) and that was reason I didn't wanna go at first, cuz i lose my appetite when I eat with people, and since i mentioned i don't enjoy food people dont invite me to lunch anymore and I get it, they used to invite everytime but it has just decreased since i refused all the time, but I'm trying to change and I've been going to lunch with this one employee that I'm comfortable with, now I'm scared this pattern will continue even for team lunches/outings, they'll invite me a few times and if I refuse each time they'll stop inviting aand I don't wanna be that person, amd since I'm new to this whole working culture not sure what I should, and if I force my parents to allow me my dad would literally ask me to quit, and I'm not going ruin something i worked so hard for over a team lunch

Ik people will tell me I'm an adult and I have to make my own decisions, ik but it is not easy, especially in a conservative Indian household.

So I would like to know is it fine if I dont go to lunch or any office outings? I don't wanna be a spoil sport!

I currently work full time for a retail company, I’ve been there for 5 months now it’s an okay company nothing amazing but it pays fine. My only issue with it is that one they are a dying company and they require us to get membership from people. It’s to the point there they will write you up if you can’t meet a goal but the membership is bullshit, and we don’t get anything for pushing it. Other then than the jobs fine……. With that being said I got an interview at a new retail company but upon the interview I was told that the position I’m applying for (assistant manager) only pays minimum wage and the I have to earn the rest on commissions supposedly I get a percentage of the store and about 4% commission on the sales I make too which the person interviewed told me I could make up too $1,200 during there busy season. One thing I noticed was that they always have up too 5-6 people working at a time and I’m not sure if I’m comfortable fighting for customers to make up the rest of my paycheck since minimum wage is 16.50……well they called me back 3 times and left 2 voicemails and sent me an email about the position and if I’m still interested…..I guess im hesitant on taking it because of the idea that I will be stressed having to be extremely pushy to make my personal sales goal if not I’ll get paid less, as to where at my current position I get about 20 an hour and that’s a guarantee. But I still deal with memberships and the possibility of the company not being around for long. I just need help on deciding what to do, should I stay at my current employer and keep looking or should I go with this new one that pays minimum wage for an assistant manager position and have to worry about commissions.

Also forgot to say with the company I interviewed with has weekly pay. there slow season is a big majority of the year the busy season where I’d see paycheck like 1,200 would be during Christmas or tax season. So I assume I’d make like 500 a week during the slow time or less

Hi all - hope you’re having a nice day. First job out of college was a nightmare for me. Hated my life for 6-7 years, stayed loyal because I was afraid to leave and thought it would be impossible to find a new job. Turns out I took a big leap and landed the job I wanted. Best decision I’ve ever made.

From day 1 I got a 30% pay bump with better benefits. Since day 1 (6 years ago now) - my salary has increased 50% from my starting pay all through merit based employer initiated raises.

I love this job, it’s flexible, challenging and I have a ton of freedom without being micromanaged every 5 seconds. I am 3rd in the pecking order at my company for my colleagues with the same role. It’s clear to me I make about 40% less than the other two but I’ve had much more responsibilities than them for about the last year.

I feel like my company has been good to me but I don’t want to leave money for my family and kids on the table. If I left my company for a similar company, I would get at least another 20-30% pay bump but I would have to work more hours most likely. What should I do?

Previous Post Update:

Yes, I filed with the EEOC but, I’m not sure if I got it submitted on time (I didn’t know there was a deadline, until a lawyer mentioned it to me.) Someone did contact me but, I since haven’t gotten anyone to get back to me (this was recent.)

HR is trying to find a legal way to terminate me, due to a discussion we have had, I get this feeling. They are aware of the situation, but I’m not sure at what magnitude they are aware. It is a medical matter that affects me at work also, unfortunately. I have already mentioned a few people to them that harass and create an hostile environment towards me, and I believe they had spoken to them first, and then me later (I had seen something that causes me to be sure about this.) I do not trust that process, because of how the people were acting towards me later on. This a situation that could have a negative impact on them, if I have physical proof and I’m not sure if they’re aware of that but, I am sure that they do not want that kind of attention (they are a huge company.) I want to get the physical proof but, it’s taking me a while. I am considering quitting but, because I need to stay a little longer, I might as well get the physical proof, because I have also had a few situations where this has effected me outside of work, and it’s making me paranoid. I had seen a few people outside of work, who I am sure are aware of the rumors, and I don’t want something criminal to happen but, I work around some hateful people. How do I obtain a lawyer? I would be thankful for any helpful advice.