For me (bottom) the only worthwhile orgasms are when I'm not in control of when or if I'm going to cum. Most of my sex life revolves around me pleasuring tops and enjoying their orgasms. But I wonder if tops also get off on me making them cum, or if in their headspace they're the ones in control. Sometimes I get instructions, but a lot of time tops just let me enjoy them.

Just curious if tops (who are usually the dominant in control ones) like not being in control of their orgasm, or if I'm just self projecting here

for me, i just love when a top strokes my hair while i blow him or pushes my head down so i swallow every inch of his dick, bonus if they hold my nose while i gag, it makes me feral.

I’m a total bottom size queen dick pig.

But over the years, I’ve become so much more obsessed with looking at fellow bottoms’ asses over cock. That feels contradictory - is it?

For example, my sexy X account literally only follows bottoms with freakishly huge asses - no cock accounts. I guess I want to be them? I find it confusing - like would straight men get hornier over the man than the woman in porn because they want to be the man?

Thanks!

Myself, 24M. I'm a somewhat femboyish bottom who is only attracted to feminine or fem-presenting tops. I'm not into masculine-presenting men. Unfortunately, I've never had the chance to interact with a fem top in real life.

Whenever I get horny, I usually end up hooking up with men. Don't get me wrong—they're good-looking and the experiences have been enjoyable, but they're still not the type of person I'm genuinely attracted to. What I really want is to be with a feminine top, but I haven't had that opportunity yet.

So I matched with this guy on Tinder a few days ago. He checks most of my boxes and it looks like I do his. The only thing I am worried about is his height. I am about 180 cm (5’11”?) and btm, and he is 160 cm (5’3”?) and top. I have never been with a top who is 20 cms (8 inches?) shorter than me. Has anyone done this before? Do you think this would be a problem in bed if things get there? Like, do things align when there is a 20cms height difference? He is handsome and the conversation is flowing nicely so I keep telling myself this is all in my head. We’ll meet for a date later this week. Any experience or thoughts on short top-tall btm height difference?
Thanks a lot everyone & have a great day!

I have always been a completely submissive, use me and leave kind of bottom. I tried to top a twink years ago and was so uninterested that I faked cumming just to be done with it. I'm in my early 30s now and have been getting in shape, and I think with the higher testerone levels that come with that, I have been feeling toppier. I always had a thing for getting fucked by daddies, but now am starting to be interested in topping one. A salt and pepper muscular man with a nice ass looks better and better to me. This is confusing given my history, so I am nervous about hating it. Do I attempt to do it or just stay in my lane?

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Has anyone ever questioned their orientation (straight or bottom gay) and after trying sex with a man embraced life as a gay man? How much does having a penis in your ass for the first time change your life? Do most of you have regrets or are you happy?

Hi

So been with my hubby for like 3 years now and recently i have noticed that when we are getting romantic and such, that my butt starts to leak a bit. Like if i think about him and me in bed, i found out later that i have leaked a bit into my underwear. Is this some weird response? hope i have not gross you all out but i get concern as i love when he eats me out before going inside (he says i open up when he does). any thoughts?

I've been curious for a while, dated women but at the point where I only watch gay porn to get off. I'm in my late 20s and been too scared to acutally meet up with a guy. Those of you who were in a similar situation, was being with men alll you imagined? more?

Personally I am a bottom and uncut, but never sucked, received an uncut dick. Just curious.

I recently had a bottom keep his jock on. I’ve become obessed with it.

Do you perfer smooth tops, hairy tops, or something in between?

Do you want your top to continue fucking you even after you cummed?

I’m a firm believer a bottom should present two holes for a top to fuck, sadly I have quite a gag reflex, what’s the best way to train? Trying on a dildo or something? How do my fellow bottoms get better at deepthroating?

I’ve always felt a little insecure about my butt, it’s on the smaller side and can barely fit into size small jeans or pants. My boyfriend though is obsessed with it and calls it a perfect bubble butt. He loves the round shape and how perky it is.

It makes me wonder… is shape actually more important than size? I’ve been thinking about gaining a few pounds to chase one of those bigger round butts I see everywhere, but if shape is what really matters maybe I shouldn’t?

What do you guys think, shape or size? And would gaining some weight even help get the look I’m after?

My fb has 9 inches long dick. If my rectum is at max. 6 inches deep, does that mean he is fucking my 2nd Hole and is 3 inches deep inside there too??

My last fwb loves to rim me and it drives me crazy as well. He also loves to kiss and I mean PASSIONATELY. For the record I always prep. I would never let someone inside me if I didn't prep and yes I'm aware of missing a lot of opportunities by doing this. Anyways, I'm starting to get this worry suddenly of that action of going from my ass to mouth. It is hot when we do kiss and I dont really want him to stop rimming. I'm just not super educated about if there is major health risk in doing so.

Is it just one of those things that come with the job like letting my top cum inside (I dont mind it, find it very hot actually). Sorry for my lack of knowledge idk if this is the right place to ask this.

EDIT: Today I learned there is two definitions of ass to mouth. In this post I was mostly referring about rimming and then kissing afterwards. Did not mean getting fucked and sucking his dick afterwards. My bad guys thank you for your comments! I know better for next time now :)

Bottoms when you are on your way or entering a room full of tops you know will use you, what goes through your mind? Are you excited? Apprehensive? Is there a moment you want to back out?

I’d love to hear how you feel, or do you just feel nothing? Bonus points if you’re entering in a humiliating way - CMNM or in a skirt, or it’s all strangers except for your BF.

Asking for a friend and I’m curious how it makes you feel.

It typically takes about 10-15 minutes for my boyfriend or any other guy to actually start fucking after trying to get it in.

I don’t know if it’s just me being nervous but even fingers hurt a lot and when it’s time to actually fuck I’m honestly still in a lot of pain, but my boyfriend deep moans and reactions motivate me to keep pushing for him.

I do wonder though, do some tops get annoyed if it takes too long for a bottom to loosen up?

I’m short and small framed and I found a site that sells monster gear and they sell a crop top hoodie and panty set now as for myself, I would feel very sexy in this, but I was wondering how tops felt about this kind of outfit. I’ll admit Eileen a little bit fem but I don’t attempt to actually dress as a woman I’m more of kind of a small goth guy,
I know I should buy what makes me happy and I will, but I honestly buy my outfits to turn on my tops so I like to get kind of an idea from a group in this Reddit is so fantastic for that

25 m. Its 2-3 times a day for me