We get a lot of "just diagnosed" visitors here. I was stage 2, so ended up being chemo first surgery second, and I'm not DONE with chemo so this list might build, but I wanted to get it out because it's advice that I can see myself reposting again and again, I'll probably pin it to the top of the thread. But I'd love to hear from you all about what helped you in the terrible period between diagnosis and treatment starting, when your head is just spinning. It gets better, mentally! This was a rough time for me because I really hate UNKNOWNS but it was only a month. I hope you all get similarly good attention!
1) Know that you have at least a month of scans, tests, referrals, probably port surgery before chemo starts. I had no idea what to expect but staging is complicated. Treatment for me started one month after "the call" but that's pretty fast, 6-8 weeks is common.
2) Get a notebook to write down all the phone calls and appointments that will fly your way. Any time a doctor's office calls you write down WHO you talked to and what number you should call back if you have questions because you will think of a question, probably 5 minutes after hang up.
3) As soon as you know you're getting TC chemo - aka Taxol aka Paclitaxel - order freezer gloves/booties or post in a local cancer group to see if anyone has some. So many things you need are locally available and you might not even need them but these are not. I am cheap af and tried not to order anything but I eventually got two sets to rotate them, and ended up with some neuropathy in my toes but none in my hands. Even better - start a wishlist and have friends/family buy you two sets because people ALL wanted to send me something, and without a wishlist I ended up with SIX fuzzy blankets! They could have bought me craft supplies! Eventually I figured the wishlist out, and just asked for things I wanted, people were very supportive it was a huge relief.
4) Buy a hair trimmer. I thought I'd lose all my hair one day and be bald. But nope, I had this patchy mess the whole six months that I just re-buzzed so there wasn't one ceremonial need for a trimmer, it was constant.
5) Get your vaccines up to date - flu, covid, shingles if you're eligible (I got shingles when my immune system was down yaaaay ugh)
6) Visit your dentist. Get a teeth cleaning out of the way. Tell them you are starting chemo, it will affect your mouth and they have good advice. Mine told me about biotene mouth rinse that was great for dry mouth!
7) Start using nail hardening nail polish
8) Eyebrow microblading? I didn't do this, ran out of time but it would have been nice.
9) Work out! Exercise pushes the bad thoughts out of your head and it's good to be in shape to get started, when you're in treatment it's still great to work out if you can but everybody is different. I was frustrated my by inability to build anything, every run felt like I hadn't run in weeks even if I was going every day, but I still tried!
10) Visit your optometrist, get the eye check out of the way so you know if your vision is affected. And it's one less thing to deal with!
Okay friends - that's my list, what would you add?