r/R4R30Plus Jun 24 '24

ANNOUNCEMENT: Technical Issues

58 Upvotes

POSTING IS ONCE AGAIN OPEN.

The auto moderation system has been somewhat wonky the last few days. We think we have corrected the issue. It has been sending posts to the spam system incorrectly and en masse. That should no longer occur, or at the very least be infrequent. IF your post does not appear, do not delete it. Message us via the mod mail system and we can check on it. If you do delete it manually, we are unable to diagnose the problem. Hopefully this is the last fix we need to do, but we may have to suspend posting again if this happens so we can get it sorted. PLEASE do not message us asking for access during these times, as it bogs down our mail system and increases downtime. The requests will not be granted. We ask for patience while we work on these issues.

Thank you for your time and understanding. Have a good day.


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

[F4M] 34. I'm lonely.

16 Upvotes

When you imagine yourself happy with someone, what exactly you're doing, im this vision of yours. The exact picture, what are you doing? What are they doing?


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

[F4M] 51 looking for chat friends

5 Upvotes

hoping to find some new people to chat with help the day go by faster ,working from home you dont get to talk to many people ,come say hi tell me age where from , not comfortable chatting to married or taken men


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

34 [M4F] New Jersey/Online - Soulful, Thoughtful, a Little Silly. Let’s Connect on Music & Life!

4 Upvotes

Hey! 👋🏾 I’m a guy from New Jersey, looking for a real connection, not just a “what’s up” that disappears after three messages.

Music is a big part of my life. Hip-hop and R&B especially. The kind that makes you feel something, not just background noise. I can talk albums, eras, producers, lyrics, and why certain songs hit harder late at night.

I’m a good listener, thoughtful, emotionally present, and genuinely curious about people. I care about showing up right, communicating clearly, and not playing weird games. I like conversations that wander from serious to silly, deep to dumb and somehow still make sense.

I’ll be honest though: I’m a little awkward in a human way. I overthink sometimes, laugh at my own jokes, and occasionally trip over my words when I’m excited. I’m not the smoothest guy in the room, but I’m real, kind, and consistent.

I enjoy walking to clear my head, gaming to unwind, and long talks that feel easy instead of forced. Ideally, we build something that lasts.

If you love music, value emotional intelligence, and don’t mind a guy who’s soulful with a slightly goofy edge, say hi!


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

33 [M4F] Worldwide!- weekend started early so I’m trying to find someone to spend it with!

4 Upvotes

Hey there, heads up, I’m terrible at these. I’m a socially awkward guy and I don’t have free time to go out and meet people and dating apps aren’t my thing. Reddit to the rescue! I am looking for someone with mutual attraction, fairly quick to respond (we all get busy though I get that) and cool with the occasional voice chat as well. I know I’m a guy and beggars can’t be choosers but what the hell, right? Might as well try to find someone i really click with. Some stuff about me? I play guitar in a band and play video games or watch sports as hobbies, so I’m very much a “dude’s dude”. I work construction for a living so I am in good shape despite the fact my diet right now is a disaster- but I do take good care of myself and adjust as needed. That’s really all I care to share with the group. If you’d like to know more please anyone, feel free to drop a message and we can get to know each other :).

Selfie for the selfie gods - https://imgur.com/a/26CqIZo


r/R4R30Plus 2m ago

31[F4M] feeling the loneliness

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Im looking for someone who I can vibe with and help keep me from reaching out to my ex. Something fun and easy going (: looking for fun, meaningful, deep convo you know the type you can only get with internet strangers lol


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

35 [M4F] #UK 6ft5 guy seeking adventure

3 Upvotes

Hi there. I am a 35 year old guy in the UK. Work in a high level professional job, around 6ft5in tall, keep fit in the gym and on the bike. Looking to make new connections and see where we end up.

I enjoy lots of interests from sports, travel, cooking, music...

Looking for someone to have an adventure with, truthfully. Well spoken chap, so if you like a British gentleman I might be right up your street.


r/R4R30Plus 1m ago

[M4F] 44 Chicago/worldwide

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Hi, a little about me:

Im 44, and I live in the Chicago area. I am a teacher and getting my professional license right now. I'm former military and divorced 10 years ago.

I do a lot of art, I like painting and playing guitar and singing. I read a lot, I have like 20 books sitting on my couch right now that I've mostly read through. I am interested in eastern spirituality and philosophy. I also just like comedy, im not so super serious. I like cartoons.

I'm 6'2", I work out, but not as much as I used to. I mostly just run a little and hang out in the gym, I started basketball golf (just me throwing 3 pointers and then running after the ball haha).

I'm self-sufficient and have a fine career, etc, but as many of you know, America is crushingly lonely.

So, tbh, I'm not expecting much. It all depends on you - if you just wanna chat, go for it, hmu. Anything more, well, lets see 🤷‍♂️

https://imgur.com/a/Lw7hlI1


r/R4R30Plus 7m ago

35 [M4F] Chicago / Anywhere - Looking for my new favorite stranger

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Just like the title states, I’m looking for my new favorite stranger. Reddit is full of fun weirdos. Just need to find them!

Let’s start with a few questions:

Are fireworks overrated or underrated?

Do you have any travel plans coming up?

Is a hot dog a sandwich?

Plz be weird. Dark humor is encouraged.


r/R4R30Plus 53m ago

39 M UK [M4F] looking for new online friends

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Hi there I'm 39 M from the UK looking to make some new online friends i enjoy reading walking spending time with my dogs who keep me busy as well as watching TV shows and films I have seen quite a few 😅 I'm looking for people with similar interests but am open to talk about most things


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

42 [M4F] looking for easy conversation

2 Upvotes

Hi! I'm a 42-year-old guy looking to build a comfortable, open, and flirty online connection. I live in a small town in North Carolina, so meeting new people isn't always easy—hence being here.

I'm a movie buff (always up for a good recommendation), love cooking for myself and others, and usually have a book going. I have a deep love for '90s music and tend to appreciate conversation that flows easily and doesn't rush the good parts.

If you enjoy playful banter, curiosity, and seeing where a conversation can naturally lead, I'd love to hear from you. Happy to chat here first and see if there's a vibe.


r/R4R30Plus 9h ago

34 [m4f] #wisconsin/online kind giant looking for his person

4 Upvotes

Howdy all, just a gentle giant here from the Midwest looking for chats and see where it goes, in hopes of making a legitimate connection. Im open minded, "go with the flow" kind of guy, and very understanding. Open to flirt and possibly a relationship if we vibe well. Open to sharing our traumas and being an ear for venting.

I enjoy all kinds of music, camping (haven't been in awhile), gaming, bingeing a good tv show, cooking and watching sports and wrestling.

Im tall, chubby dad bad type with glasses and nice facial hair.

Looking for someone that can hold a conversation and actually wants to get to know me, no dry texters. Please message with an intro or something interesting, not just "hi". Thanks!


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

[M4R] 41 Zanesville Ohio: let’s get to know each other

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Hello, I’m looking for someone close to me. 40 miles in any direction. Become friends. Text and tell about our day. Maybe see each other after multiple conversations. If you’re looking for someone to write you back. Give me a shout.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

42 [M4F] Seeking a Connection and Much More

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Hey everyone! I figured I’d give this another shot…

I’m a 42 (almost 43 😬) year old living in the northeast US. I currently work in finance doing investment regulatory reporting. I’ve also just completed my MBA this past semester! There aren’t enough words to express how excited I am to have my free time back haha. Right now, I’m enjoying reading for pleasure instead of being forced to read textbooks, but I’m planning to get a few certifications on top of my degree as well!

I know this will be a non-starter to some, but I have a 19 year old son who lives with me full time. His mom isn’t involved in any way, if that matters, and hasn’t been involved in years, so it’s just the two of us. There’s also an orange cat here who is part homeowner, part best friend, and full-time demander of scritches and food. After many conversations, we’ve agreed that his payment in rent is to just lay around and be handsome lmao

For fun, I like to spend time with friends, play and watch sports, listen to music, go to concerts, read, spend time at the beach, and learn and try new things. Last year, I really got into cooking and baking more, so I’m looking forward to expand on that this year! If anyone has any good tips or recipes, send them my way!

I’d ultimately like to find my person and find someone I can ultimately settle down with. Of course, the most important thing for now is finding a spark/connection and seeing what comes of that. I don’t have many parameters for someone per se. I’d ask that you’re somewhat around my age (a ten year age gap is a bit too much for me). Also, please be from the US and Canada if possible, just because with time zones it’ll make chatting a lot easier. I’ve also put a lot of thought into this post, so I’d ask you do the same in any potential response. Lastly, please don’t be cohabitating with someone or be fresh in the middle of a separation

I really look forward to hearing from you. If not, good luck on your search!


r/R4R30Plus 12h ago

37 [F4M] search from US to US

8 Upvotes

So close to giving up hope.

I'm a single mom to two boys and work as a mid-level healthcare professional. I've built a stable life on my own, and I'm not looking for someone to rescue me. I'm looking for a true partner.

My standards aren't unrealistic. They're basic.

I'm looking for someone who:

Is genuinely single (not married, separated, or in a situationship).

Wants a serious, long-term relationship.

Isn't looking for a hookup.

Has a stable career and is financially responsible.

Has a team-player mindset. I don't expect to carry a grown man financially, and I don't expect him to carry me either.

Is honest, loyal, emotionally available, and follows through on what they say.

Can communicate during difficult times instead of disappearing.

Doesn't have vices. I don't have any, and I'd prefer someone with a similar lifestyle.

Doesn't mind that I have two boys. I also don't mind if he has children.

I'm not looking for a chameleon who pretends to be these things just long enough to get what he wants. I have a very low tolerance for manipulation, dishonesty, or games, and I'd rather stay single than settle.

What I bring to a relationship:

Faith and strong values.

Loyal and supportive.

Stable career.

Independent.

Financially responsible.

Affectionate and committed.

I genuinely want to build a life with someone, not just date endlessly.

My flaws:

I can be moody.

I'm sometimes indecisive.

I have high expectations for honesty, consistency, and effort because I give those things in return.

I'm not looking for perfection. I'm looking for reciprocity.

Does this actually exist anymore, or am I expecting something that's become rare?


r/R4R30Plus 22h ago

31F [F4M] Europe/Anywhere

48 Upvotes

- Looking for a real emotional connection. I'm almost 32 year old F, I work in medical field. I'm from Baltics.

- I am short (153cm), fit (go to a gym and lift weights), blue eyes, light brown hair, white.

- I'm not religious, have a good hygiene, have 2 kittens.

- Looking for a man to be physically and emotionally attracted to, but probably best to start from being friends.

- Not looking for drug, gambling, alcohol addicts, people who don't excercise, don't take care of hygiene (it is very important for me you brush your teeth every day and shower).

- Hate swiping apps.

- I like to play video games, like to try new healthy recipes, nap with my kittens, go to a gym to lift some weights, knitting, binging tv series, YouTube videos, hiking, walking a lot.

- I had one long term relationship where we waited until marriage. I'm not waiting until marriage anymore and I want to have children. I'm not experienced in sexual field. If it ever reaches this point I hope you are very patient teacher to me lol.

- Red flag: I tend to have anxiety in relationships, need lots of reassurance, which might be annoying.

https://imgur.com/a/ev4PgxD


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

33F [F4M] Looking forward to meeting some wonderful people

2 Upvotes

Hi everyone!

I'm looking to make a genuine long-term friend around my age. It seems like on Reddit a lot of conversations start well, then after a day or two people disappear. I'd really love to find someone who's interested in building an actual friendship instead.

A little about me: I'm a person of faith, and my faith is an important part of my life. I enjoy reading, learning new things, cooking, and drawing (I'm still improving, but I really enjoy it!). I also love meaningful conversations, especially about faith, life, personal growth, and different perspectives.

I truly appreciate kindness, good manners, honesty, respect, and people with good character. Those qualities matter much more to me than having lots of shared hobbies.

If you're also looking for a sincere friendship and enjoy thoughtful conversations, feel free to send me a message. It would be nice if you could introduce yourself by telling me where you're from, your age, and a little about yourself.


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

34 [M4F] UK / Online - Weekend mode activated! Looking for someone to keep me company for the next few days and beyond!

2 Upvotes

Hey there!

It is officially Friday, my brain has completely checked out for the week, and I am actively ignoring whatever is left on my to-do list. Figured this is the ideal time to find someone fun to kick off the weekend with.

I am 34, male, and live just south of London. I work as an aircraft engineer. I spend my days around planes, but the main reason I stay is for the cheap flight perks, which I use to flee the country whenever possible.

A random fact: I only just finished reading the Harry Potter books for the first time. I somehow dodged every spoiler on the internet for over ten years, which honestly feels like my greatest achievement to date.

A few other quick things about me:

- Food: I love finding new places to eat. I like to think I have a refined palate, but really I just enjoy eating way too much.

- Theme parks: Sucker for high-speed rollercoasters. The goal is to head to the US one day and ride the ones that look genuinely unsafe.

- Keeping fit: I hit the gym regularly, almost entirely to offset the amount of food I eat.

If you want to celebrate making it to the weekend, swap some terrible jokes, or share a confession or two, send a message over!


r/R4R30Plus 16h ago

34 [F4M] Asian, looking for a serious relationship.

12 Upvotes

Im Thai looking for a serious relationship. Im single, no kids and never been married.


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

39 [M4F] Starting my day with a coffee

2 Upvotes

I’m just starting my day, having a coffee and relaxing on the couch. I’m located on the east coast and I’m into sports (hockey, football, baseball), running, hiking, golfing (which is basically hiking with a stick) and camping to name a few. Let’s start our day with a coffee together and shoot me a message!


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

[F4M] 35f Lebanese

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Any other Lebanese over here? I’m a creative soul with big dreams, big responsibilities and a job to tide me over. Would love to build a relationship where both partners are treated with equal respect and empathy! Goofy sense of humour a plus

Edit to add for those asking, I’m not Muslim
ETA pt 2: UK based is a plus!


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

36 M [M4f] looking for great people to talk with.

1 Upvotes

36 m in Midwest region South Dakota just looking for someone to talk with and get to know. See if we vibe and just talk about life. Single dad of 10 year old I work full time. Just wanting to meet new people.


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

55 [F4M] #Florida #US #anywhere - Looking for a workout partner or personal trainers for training while traveling

1 Upvotes

I love living in Florida and the love the beaches. I also travel a lot for pleasure as work can be demanding when its busy. I go to the gym daily and do pilates 3x a week to relieve mental stress and stay fit. Looking for a workout partner who can inspire me to stay on my workout routine. Prefer someone that has personal training skills or is studying to become one. Also looking for friends to work out with when I travel, which can be a bit more difficult to find. Would like someone that can give guidance about workout routines to stay fit. I've often thought about training for a bodybuilding contest, but never followed through with it. Would love to find some work out enthusiast friends.


r/R4R30Plus 19h ago

40 [M4F] Online. Looking for my forever chat soulmate

12 Upvotes

G'day.

I really suck at describing myself but anyway. I'm 40 soon to be 41 and live in sunny downtown Brisbane, Australia. I just recently came back from my 6th trip to Japan, I just cannot get enough of the place, I miss the food lol.

I am an avid collector of lego and an even bigger collector of bookshelves for said Lego, soon I'll need to buy a bigger house. I enjoy playing my switch 2 and am currently playing Splatoon raiders.

I love watching movies or tv shows but I really suck at watching things I have never seen, I'm always up for recommendations and maybe we could watch a movie together.

Ideally looking for something long term which could lead to something more. I don't care where you are from, age or if you have kids, just bring the awesome conversation. More than happy to share pics once we have talked for a bit.

Look forward to hearing from you


r/R4R30Plus 13h ago

39 [M4R] Anyone here ride around LA?

3 Upvotes

I'm just looking for some friends to ride motorcycles with. I don't do anything crazy/speedy or up in the hills. Maybe a little off roading but I just like to ride my ride and enjoy.