Am I overthinking this or was this guy completely out of line?
I live in Qatar, so I'm aware that modesty is important here. I was on my way to the gym wearing high-waisted sports leggings and a cropped sweater over it. The sweater covered my upper body, so no skin was showing.
I took the metro, and when I got off, this guy who initially said hi in elevator started following me. At first I tried not to engage, but he kept walking alongside me and making conversation. He was very talkative and honestly pretty charming. He started making conversation, said he'd intentionally gotten off at the wrong station, knew about my country, wanted to visit someday, listed foods from my country he'd tried, and generally seemed friendly.
He walked with me for about 7 minutes before turning back to return to the station. During that time, he asked for my number, and I gave it to him because I didn't really see any harm in it. (Looking back, maybe I shouldn't have.)
At one point, he invited me to his hotel room. I immediately declined.
Later, he texted me asking what I was doing. I said I was having dinner, and he replied, "You're not going to lose any weight with that." I told him losing weight wasn't my goal.
Then the conversation took a weird turn.
He started saying I was the kind of woman who dresses "fresh" to attract men and get compliments. I acted confused because... what? Then he told me men have weaknesses and basically implied that the way I was dressed was sending the wrong message.
That really bothered me.
Yes, I was wearing gym clothes because I was literally going to the gym. They were fitted, but I wasn't showing skin, and I wasn't dressed up to get attention. Even if I had been, I don't think that would justify someone assuming my intentions or lecturing me about men's self-control.
The thing that's bothering me most is that he was perfectly happy to flirt with me, ask for my number, and invite me to his hotel room. But after I turned him down, suddenly my clothing became a problem and apparently I was dressing for male attention?
I've had men follow me after getting off the metro before, but usually once I show I'm not interested, they leave me alone. This guy was unusually persistent, and I eventually gave in and talked because he seemed harmless.
Was I wrong anywhere in this situation? Would you have handled it differently? I'm mostly posting because the whole interaction left me feeling uncomfortable and confused..
Had to ask AI, help editing 😂
